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truly, madly, deeply...frustrated
Hey,
I guess the thing is that I dont feel like my boyfriend of over a year is putting in as much effort into us as I am, and it is tiring. Sometimes I feel on the verge of just giving up but I love him to much to ever do that. The problem is our personalities, okay, Ill swallow my pride and admit that I can be overly emotional. But he can just be so darn insensative! I should probably let you know that he is a diabetic and often times cant control the way he acts or the moods he's in. I just need to know who needs to make the changes. Tonight I planned on taking him out for a suprize dinner. I went out and spent a fortune on a new outfit and jewelry and had everything (down to what I was going to say) planned out. I was growing more and more excited as the day went on and even called him to see when he was going to get off work and how long he was going to take on homework, well in that process my plans accidentaly slipped out and in return he made it very clear that he just wanted to stay home. Okay so I was a little disapointed, but I figures that we could just hang out, and then go out to dinner another time. On the phone later that night he was being so nice, telling me that he wanted me to come over whil he worked an homework just because he liked my company. I would have driven over there, but my car died that day and I couldnt. When I suggested that he come pick me up (our houses are a whole 6 minutes apart) it was out of the question and next thing I know, he just wants to do homework and go to bed. He wouldnt even come over afterwards. that crushed me because even though my original plans had flopped, I still wanted to hang out, which was what the original plan was. I admit he doesnt get enough sleep and I probably overreacted, but he just wouldnt understand my side and why I was hurt. Do you understand?? Or am I crazy. Do I love him more then he loves me, or am I blowing thing way out of porportion. I want things to work out between us but I want him to step up to the plate too, solve some problems, go out of his way to make me happy like I do for him. I feel like the romance is gone and no matter how much I hint or even beg, nothing changes. I dont know what to do but I do know that I dont want to give up. I lve him so much.
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Sounds like you need to both sit down and have a serious talk. It doesn't sound to me like you were asking to much. Diabetics do tend to be moody ( to say the least), but he does need to be made to realize that he isn't the only one in the relationship with needs and wants. He may have been tired but he could have let you know sooner and he could have compromised a little. Talk to him about it. Write it all out ahead of time if that makes it easier. Find out why he is being insensitive. Let him know he has hurt your feelings. Tell him how hard you worked on making plans. It can work out if you both try. He may be taking you for granted a little. Let him know what you want from the relationship and see what happens. Good luck. :)
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