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I think i'm gay
I really, really need help here-serious help only, please. i've never really said this to anyone before, let alone a bunch of strangers over the internet, but here it goes. I think i'm gay and to make it worse, i'm madly OBSESSED with this kid in my class. Now, I go to an all boys high school, but i've had these feelings since before i went there. I first met him when we were both taking the entrance exam to get into the high school. now we're really close friends and i am just crazy about him. i mean, to the point where i have pictures of him on my computer. But i don't know if he feels the same way though. I highly doubt he does. what i want to know is should i come out and tell him(and the wolrd) that i have feelings for him, or should i just keep it all inside? i am seriously asking for your help on this one because i really need it.
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if you guys are realy close friends you should come out to him and tell him not to tell any one and then slowly drop the i like you bomb. but be fore you tell him your gay mention something about gay people and if they dont mind them or they love them or what ever then tell him. otherwise if he dosent like them or is homophobic DONOT tell him . so good luck
hope i helped i wish u luck
mizike
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OK you should totally not keep this inside it will drive you crazii and although im a gurl and im straight i have a gay friend and i think you should just sit your friend down and tell him your gay dont tell him you like him just yet because you dont know how he will handle it and you dont wanna put to0o much and his shoulders right now see how he acts when you tell him your gay and then when you think hes ready let him know you like him thia question made me think so0o i hope i helped you later..
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Ive never had a friend that had to come out before, but from what I've read and heard, its better to come out and admit these things, instead of living a lie, but also I've heard that its very crucial in high school and sometimes if you admit it during high school you could get made fun of for it. So if your insecure with yourself, or not comfortable with your sexuality quite yet, I would maybe wait till after high school is over, because people tend to be more accepting outside of the high school scene. but if you are comfortable with who you are or might be, and dont care what people think about you, then come out if it will make you feel better about yourself.
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well, I'm straight, but I dated a bi girl, who is now (well, we really think she is) a lesbian, & so I know a little about this
you should find out if hes like that too, but if hes not, then you need to becarefull cos if he dosen't want to be around gays or bis, then I don't think you should say anything
but I don't think you sould worry to much, most people go through this in there life (I think its 97%), so its not uncommon, but you might be gay or bi, you wont know untill later on probolly
& I think you should get a friend, who is a girl, & is close to you, & you can trust her, & tell her about your feelings, cos guys might take it the wrong way, but if hes truly a good friend, he wont care, & he'll stay your friend, & maybe it wont bother him, but that dosen't mean that hes that way to
I really hope I helped & hope things work out
-Cameron
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First of all, if you think you might be gay but you aren't sure, I would try hanging out with some girls and see if you are attracted to any of them. Could you see yourself doing anything with a guy? Or could you see yourself doing stuff with a girl? If the answer is both, then you are bisexual - not gay.
I think you should find out if your friend is gay or straight first. I know its hard to keep your feelings bottled in, but if hes straight...he might take it the wrong way if you tell him that you have feelings for him.
Eventually, if you're positive that you're gay, you could try going to a support group to meet other gays and get the support that you need. You can't keep it a secret forever.
Just remember -- there is nothing wrong with being gay. Its not something that you have any control over. The people that truly love and care about you will accept it. It might be hard at first, but eventually - they'll get used to it and accept it.
If you need anything else, don't hesitate to leave it in my inbox. Or if you want to talk to me personally, just leave your e-mail or your AIM screen name in my inbox and I will contact you. I'm trying to stay anonymous on here...which is why I don't give mine out. Good luck with everything and I hope I helped.
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ADViCEx4xY0U
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Its hard to know what to do without knowing how old you are and where your from. If you are say 16/17 or something then you are probably at an age where you are able to work out if you're gay or not.
If I were you, I would not admit your feelings for this other boy without any evidence that he also might be gay - for example do you get any vibes that he could be? Cos the chances are he is straight, and that could be embarrasing.
My advice is, if you are in your early teens doing say anything yet and learn more about whether your gay or not, that can only come through experience.
If you establish that you are, then you should come out as soon as possible. Life in the closet is not fun, trust me - i've been there!!
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Dude ,, keep it to yourself because if someone finds out it is gonne be all over the school and people will start to think your gross or wierd or something like that.So just keep it to your self.
~Kristy~
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At this point the question is not am I gay or not? It is a question on what you should do. First, find out if you are, read all about it, see if any of what is written applies fully and completely with you. You have never been with anyone like this before and it seems odd to many that you would say yupp. I am Gay and want to be with X. It really does work that way as you usually have to be damn sure because of all the stuff involved you are.
Secondly, it would be total and complete disater to tell him you are Gay bla, blah and oh by the way I wanted to be with you. That right there if he is not gay will wind up in a slug fest and him walking off and telling his friends to bash you. Not a good scenario. If you are Gay--fine but at school in our society staying closed lipped about it is the best thing. Do you need people trying to beat you up over it? Nope.
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my advise (my not be the best because i have ZERO experience with this so this is my opinion) i think you should first tell him that you're gay becasue you said you were good friends so it would make sence. see what he says. does he reply by saying he is also gay? or something to imply it? or not? If not than maybe i would back off for a while. If he also says he's gay than wait for a while than tell him a few days later... or hours... or minutes... as long as you can wait and tell him you like him.
I HIGHLY advise you not to keep things (expecaily very emotional things) bottled up inside.
i hope this helps!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Katie**
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a prime example to what happens becouse of all boy and all girl schools.
personaly i dont think that you are gay.
this kid might be your best friend and you kind of developed a bond ina way.
love can exist beetween 2 man in many ways (botherly love etc.)
you wont really know that your gay unless you get arroused by gay pron/naked man and such.
many solutions and explanations to your problem, i suggest u talk to some 1 that you know and think can help you with your dilema.
hope i hlped
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