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Hi, im 15/f
I have never had a boyfriend, kissed anyone, or done anything. I'm a normal sophomore girl I just haven't wanted a boyfriend until now and it's getting crazy. I feel like it's my hormones because I get weird feelings.. But now most of the day I'm daydreaming of having a boyfriend and kissing, snuggling and all that. i also don't find blow jobs gross like I would give one to him after a while. But I do find sex terrifying and I wouldn't have that though. No guy has come into my life yet, and i just want him to already. (link)
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You're completely normal. It's ten times harder when you see couples your age snuggling and holding hands and you wish you had that.
But seriously, if you want a good relationships, get to know guys. Don't rush it like half the high school does. Become friends with a guy, get to know him, see if you're interested and go from there. It takes time to find a good guy and you don't want to get into a bad relationship.
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okay im 14 and I have a bf' he is my age. we dated for 4 days them broke up because he had something SERIOUS going on and he didn't want me involved. after it was solved we got back together and it will be 2 weeks in a couple of days. he cares about himself and hunting but he is the sweetest thing ever. I feel like I love him to death but over the phone he is ignoring my messages and calls. I never do that to him. why is he doing this to me??? thanks (link)
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Who knows why he's not answering your messages or calls. The most logical answer would be that he's not interested that much in the relationship.
You need to talk to him and set things straight. Tell him that this is bothering you and you'd like to know why he doesn't message or call you.
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i'm a teenage girl. I've been in quiet a few relationships, they always end bad. guys always want me for sex when all the guys in my school knows I'm not sexually active. they always try or try to force me. it always ends like "u won't do anything with me so were done" or "do this or I'm done with u" or "if u do this with me i'll be with u forever". I have a booty and I have boobs they aren't big but they are noticeable. why do guys want that? i'm not going to give it to them so why do they try (link)
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Most teenage guys simply want sex. It's their hormones, but it's no excuse to disrespect a girl.
Don't get into relationships with guys like that. Dump them if they ever say that to you. You're getting into relationships with bad guys, so you need to start looking a little deeper than how you have been now.
It's a learning process. So my advice would be to just get to know the guy way better before you get into a relationship with them.
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I'm in love with a girl who just told me she had a crush on a guy. She found out some people at my school were bullying me, but it wasn't for being a lesbian, she doesn't know i am, but their bullying did lead to some serious problems... self harm and starvation. I used to eat one bowl of veggies a week, just plain boiled, and overdose on coffee at all other times. I go to a boarding school, so no one cares, but now that i am back, my friend here is noticing, but i'm afraid if i admit it to her, i might let the fact that i like her slip. I've told her everything else, and she was there for me when my family wasn't when one of my friends killed himself. Should i open up to her, because that would really help me? or should i leave it, because she might find out the i like her? (link)
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I don't think you should be opening up to her, I think you should be opening up to an adult who can actually help you with your problems. The only thing she can do is be supportive but there are people out there who are trained to help you with these sort of problems.
So talk to an adult, talk to a counselor.
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So my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year it eould have been out 1 year and a half in 2 days. We broke up for about 2 months now and each months I've been trying to get him back. He says he still has feelings for me and missed me whiel we we not together. We even got to the point eventually that we did intimate things we did as a couple. It wa as if we never broke up. But lately its been going doenhill becase noe he thinks that it wont work if ee get back together. Im convincing him still. But the other day i asked him to go hang out eith me for my birthday and he told me he has no ride. But proceeded to ask me what did i want to accomplish by asking him to go wth me, why, saying that it wont work like that. But after an hour i gve him to cool off. I asked him again can we go hang out next time then? And he said whens next time? So doesnt it kinda sound like he is agreeing to go out with me? This is really confusing. Im not accepting a no from him unless its last resort. Everyone who was close to me left me and im determine not to let him leave me life likethe others. And also what do you suggest for me todo to get him to be with me? (link)
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If this guy doesn't want to be with you, nothing will change his mind. It seems like he already has it in his head that it's over and he's not looking for anything more with you by blowing you off.
People will always come and go in your life. Sometimes you just have to let them go. You can't make anybody be with you. They'd have to like you for you and just want to be with you for that reason.
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So there's this guy I like and he sits next to me and my best friend in almost every lesson. Sometimes we don't talk but sometimes we act really friendly. We don't flirt or anything because I'm too shy and sometimes it would be awkward if we did because he's one of my best friends in class. But last week I started to like him a lot. But I don't really know what I want. Sometimes I feel like I'm too close to like him in the way I do and sometimes I think he likes my best friend. I haven't told anyone about this because I'm too shy and I know that my friends would make fun of me and tell him. I really don't know what to do so please help. He's not too good looking but I don't like him for his looks because he's really lovely. Please help xx (link)
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You said you didn't know what you want, so figure that out first.
If you decide you might want to take it to the next level, then flirt. It can be small like complimenting him, smiling, touching his hand, ect.
You can invite him to hang out and see how it is when you guys hang out.
If you decide you'd rather just have him as a friend and you're not looking to date, then just leave it at that.
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i'm a 16 year old teenage girl. I have been in a lot of relationships but idk what happens. they either always cheat on me, dup me in a very bad way, always ask me for sex, or end up ignoring me. i'm very insecure about my self. people tell me all the time they wish that they looked like me. I have brown long hair with highlights bright green eyes C cup bra skinny and I have a black girls butt. I guess I'm a lil pretty but with guy's always doing this it hurts:""""( I have never lied to a guy cheated on him or ignored him. I've always been honest and even one time when I was grounded I would sneak my phone just to be able to talk to them. what am I doing wrong?????? please tell me so that I can stiop! (link)
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You're just not dating the right guys.
Dating is a learning experience. So you need to look at the qualities in all these guys and make sure you know what you like and what you don't like and look for them in other guys. I don't mean qualities like, "he's cute". I'm meaning more onto how did these guys treat you, treat their friends, treat their family, treat strangers. Do they work hard?
You're only 16, so you still have so much more time to date, so don't rush into serious relationships fast. Get to know the guy, if they start talking about sex or anything sexual at all, don't keep talking to them.
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My bro's best friend has liked me since I was in 7 grade. Right now he's a junior and im a freshman. He started noticing me first and I instantly fell for him. My bro knows I like him but he doesn't believe his friend likes me. We havent exactly told each other we like each other but we can kind of tell. But sometimes he ignores me and talks about other girls and I do the same to make him jealous. He stares at me a LOTTT. Also he has a lot of anxiety and he claims he has a cold heart and a lot of people find it hard to read him because he's always blank. Also, Im Muslim and can't date so my parents dont know. But anyway sometimes there's days where he talks to me a lot and he occasionally hugs me a lot and then there's days he ignores me and I feel like he's completely over me. Then every time I think he doesn't like me anymore, he starts showing signs and it seems he does. This guy also isn't flirty and isn't touchy but he touches me more than other girls however when he's with me he'll bring up girls and idk if its to make me mad or what. Anyway he told my brother I'm obsessed with him and its weird the other day which is completely untrue because most of the times he talks to me! And even other people have told my brother that its weird how he's always touching me. But when my brother told me his friend said this about me I was pissed off and decided to ignore him for a whole week straight and I could tell he was waiting for me to talk to him and he stared at me a lot but we started casually talking again. But I'm still confused on why he did this and does he actually like me? Did he make that up to cover up that he likes me? I really don't know and I'm sorry this is confusing. (link)
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I'm not going to lie, this guy sounds extremely immature.
If he does like you, he's going the completely wrong way about it. And if he does like you, he obviously doesn't want people to know.
So these would be the possibilities that I could see going on right now..
He likes you, he doesn't want to admit it to anybody for some reason.
He just likes attention and is the type of guy to always talk about girls.
Either way, neither one of these scenarios are good. I mean the first one..great he likes you but he doesn't think anybody should know and he decides to just talk trash on you. One bad quality you don't want in a guy right there.
Second scenario..well it's obvious, he wants attention, he wants girls and he wants to look cool.
If you want to sort things out. Be up front and honest. Ask him how he feels. Tell him your brother told you about what he's been saying.
If a guy was doing this stuff to me, he wouldn't even be worth my time.
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When he sees me he will either start talking to me or he will just wave. And when I'm outside on my break or something and he's going home he will get in his car and before he leaves he will smile and wave bye. I ask because if I was interested in someone I'd wave hi or bye to them but if it was just someone else I'd just leave. And he acts like hes flirting or playing hard to get but I'm not aure if I could be mixing signals because I am way into him. We dont know eachother but we text. But we only text if I text him first he doesnt ever text me first but he replies rather quickly. The other day I was going home and he said "ill miss you" in front of our manager and two other people. And I just said mhm I know you will and smiled and walked away. Hes always smiling. But if he does like me how can I get him to want me more to textme first or ask me out or something. I hope this makes sence. Thankyou in advance :) (link)
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This is really difficult to tell. Waving and saying hi is normal for friendly, outspoken people to do with people they recognize.
The only thing I would even try to read into was the "I'll miss you" but even that, he could just be teasing you and being funny.
So it could be an either or situation. If you want to find out, I'd suggest flirting with him a little bit more and see how he reacts to it and go from there.
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My boyfriend and I know that pre-married sex is wrong, but we can't help it. It's not on our minds all of the time, but we still do it. I've tried down dressing, where I don't look to sexy or not at all. He doesn't dress to impress either, but still..We tried to stop over and over, but can't. I don't know what to do.. (link)
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I have no idea how old you are so it makes it harder to answer this question.
Honestly, it just sounds like you have no self control, which is really, really bad.
If you view pre-marital sex wrong, then that's how you view it and then you shouldn't do what you think is wrong. If you think it's ok, then it's ok..as long as you take precautions like birth control, condoms, ect.
I think you guys should take a break from each other and try to figure out what your beliefs on this subject are and follow what you think is right. You shouldn't be with someone who you have no self control around, that can lead you into serious trouble.
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OK, so I have this boyfriend. Long distance relationship. I genuinely love him. He went to his job today for the first time since we got together. And I'm really worried. Because he works at Hot Topic, and you know how all the insanely flawless girls go there. Any girl can fall in love with him. So what if he leaves me for another girl? I mean, I don't think he'd do that since he keeps telling me to promise him that I'll never leave him and that he'll never leave me. But I'm still worried if he'll leave me for a much prettier girl though. I keep worrying about it because I know he can get absolutely any girl he wants, because he's just so perfect. If I ever lost him to another girl, I'd self-harm big time. (If you say I'm crazy, you obviously don't know how I feel about him.)
How can I stop feeling this way? (link)
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I'd have to agree with Snaushad about this is about you being insecure.
The only reason this relationship will end is that you don't feel like you're good enough and no matter what he tells you, you just won't believe it and he'll get tired of it. If he did find some other girl, he just simply wasn't the right guy for you and didn't really care in the first place. If you think he's that type of guy, then yeah you should be worried and even that will be the end of the relationship because the trust would be gone.
But I'm just going with he's a nice guy who actually likes you so if you want to stay with him, you have to stop hating on yourself.
Here's the thing, the relationship won't work with your paranoia. There are pretty girls everywhere. Whether he worked at Hot Topic or not, he'll be around pretty girls. How will you handle it in the future? He will obviously be working and I'm pretty sure there will be good looking girls there. You can't be a wife who's paranoid of him being at work because there are good looking women around.
You can't truly love someone until you love yourself. You don't feel good enough to be with him, you don't feel confident enough in your relationship that he might just up and leave you.
The way to stop feeling like all that is to build your self confidence. Remember that he chose you, if he wanted to be with another girl he'd be with her. If he left you for another girl, he's a jerk. Build up your self confidence, learn to love yourself.
There are girls who are considered unattractive by society but still have great self confidence and have gotten great guys. That's what keeps the guy with you.
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I wanna talk to my dad about dating but don't know how to and convince him in meeting my guy friend . What should I do ? I am a junior (link)
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I think I'd start off with asking him for advice about dating. Like tell him that you're interested in dating and you want him to be involved and want advice. Then you could eventually lead into this boy you are interested in, who I'm assuming is your guy friend, and see if your dad would be cool with meeting him and letting you know if he thinks he's a good guy, ect.
Dads just don't want you to get used and he absolutely doesn't want you to be having sex and there are lots of guys out there who will do that to girls and your dad just doesn't want that happening to you. So that's why it's good to keep him involved and make him feel like he still has some control in a crazy situation of his daughter dating.
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Would a true friend date your ex even as much as they desire and wish to, is that nice. (link)
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I think it's fine for a friend to date your ex, to an extent.
If the person you were dating was abusive or anything along those lines of harmful behavior, then of course you wouldn't want that friend dating your ex.
If you and your ex broke up because you two just didn't click, something personal going on between one of you, you guys fell out of love, argued too much, ect, then there is nothing wrong with a friend dating your ex because maybe they'll get along better and maybe they are the right match. You might be holding them back from something great and you wouldn't be a true friend if you did that.
Sure, it'll be awkward and slightly uncomfortable and maybe even some jealousy going on there but obviously you need to be the bigger person and be the good friend and be supportive. You shouldn't hold your friends back. Dating is a learning experience.
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I find this a very interesting topic, because most people willing to thrust their opinion down my through has never even tried it.
I'm a very level guy, totally willing and able to understand most of what people to to each other, but once in a while, and it take persistence and perseverance, someone gets just a little bit too close too... doing what ever they want and when ever they want it.
I do not intent to ruin their lives, but I intend to show them who precisely they are dealing with.
Why is everybody telling me NO.
They say it always backfires, it's wrong, the wheel is round...
The people saying that never seems like the type to stand up for themselves or try to get back, or even stand up for themselves.
When have you taken revenge, when has it not felt good, and when has it back fired? (link)
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I completely agree with Rahzie.
Standing up for yourself isn't about trying to get revenge on someone else. That's childish stuff.
There are other ways to stand up for yourself rather than trying to get revenge for something.
I've also had my share of times trying to get revenge on someone. I'd rather not share details but even though it hurt them, it ended up hurting me too. The fact is, you don't want to go around hurting people and getting revenge on people.
Even if you've never tried to get revenge. You'll see people in your life who has and you'll laugh at them about it. In my opinion, it looks childish. It looks like you don't know how to actually deal with problems.
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There is a house party at my crush's house. Since we started college I haven't seen him in a while now. This is my opportunity to make an impression on him. I need to look stunning! I have some outfits in mind but I need to know which one to wear! I would really appreciate it if someone could help me out! Thanks :) (link)
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It's best to wear something you feel confident in. If you where something uncomfortable, you won't feel very confident and that will show. So confidence always overpowers your clothes because there could be a gorgeous girl but if she looks insecure, she won't be as attractive.
So I don't know what clothes you have and I don't know what kind of house party it is but remember to wear something that makes you feel and look good.
Pick a good pair of shoes, paint your nails, and do your make up to look absolutely stunning.
Be comfortable and confident.
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13/f (Ik Im young, but I have been through a lot for a 13 year old. This is just a part)
So over the summer me and my crush had a summer romance, we dated for about 2 and a half months then since we didn't go to the same school he broke up with me just saying we should take a break and that it might be the biggest mistake he has ever made. So then about 2 weeks later one of my guy friends asked me out and I said yes but I couldn't help feeling like he deserved better because I was still heartbroken over my ex. So I told my bf about this and he understood where I was coming from so we broke up. And about a month after that I was doing pretty good. But one day I was helping my friend after a breakup and I was trying to help him get over his ex and I kept mentioning my lost love (ex 1) like I got over him u can get over her.. Well.. I realize Im not over him and I miss him a lot. My heart is still in ashes and I don't know how to fix it and I dont want to talk to him about it because Im afraid he doesn't feel the same way even though he told me it might be the biggest mistake ever. I want to be someone's special someone- some of my friends are in there first relationship and it is already like 7 months and I wish it worked out so well with me. I just want to be in his arms and be together with him. He was my first kiss and the first one I said I love you too so he is super special to me. What do I do? Could he still like me? Should I talk to him? Any advice in general about how to get my life together? (link)
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It was this summer you two were together?
You're not giving yourself any time to move on. Two weeks after he broke up with you, you jumped to another guy.
You shouldn't try to talk to this guy. Whether or not he regrets breaking up with you and sees it as a mistake, he did break up with you and if he missed you, he'd tell you.
Other than that, you need to be strong.
Each person you date and you love will always hurt once you guys break up. No matter what the situation is, if you loved them, it will hurt.
You have so many more years ahead of you to find the right guy. First loves aren't always true loves.
Right now, dating is a learning experience for you. You need to give yourself time to move on. Wait until you are over this guy to start dating again. I know you want someone special but you won't be happy until you're over him. Once you are over him, and feel ready to date, then go for it. But don't date anyone right now because you won't be happy and it won't be fair to the next guy.
Remember the qualities you loved about him, look for them in other guys. Don't be the girl that runs back to a guy who dumped her because she misses him and is lonely. Everybody gets lonely, but you need time.
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my bestfriend for years has been distancing herself from me and hanging out with other people. i have tried to join their group but they seem to have too many inside jokes, and don't really want to include me. i don't want to sound needy, but i have only had that one best friend for years and never had the intention of becoming close with anyone else. i don't have anyone to talk to now, or hang out with, i don't even know what to do with myself, now that i have all of this free time. what should i do? :( (link)
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I agree that you should talk to her. If she truly is a good friend, she'll understand and try to include you.
Other than that, go make new friends. It's hard when you're shy or more of an introvert and really don't care to meet new people but if you want people to hang out with, that's what you need to do.
I don't know how old you are, or if you're in school but if you are, join clubs. Join clubs that you have an interest in. Whether it's music, art, debate, anime, sports, languages, dance, ect. You'll have something to talk about with the people in there because you both are interested in the same thing. It creates an instant connection.
If you're not in school, you could still look around the community and find things that interest you and meet people there.
I think that's the best thing to do in your situation because you do have free time and could put that time to use with a hobby and you could also be making friends.
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I met this guy about a month ago, we went out once, and I keep casually asking him if he wants to hang out again but he is often busy, so I figured I should let him initiate from now on. I can't figure him out, though. If I don't text him all day, he will say, "I don't like that we didn't talk much today!" but HE is the one that stops answering me! One night he told me that he feels like "I don't like him sometimes," since I've started to back off. I told him that I want to hang out with him, and he responded that he is nervous to hang out with me again, so I think he is just shy, but he also makes me feel like I'm bugging him, because he stops answering me. What should I do? (link)
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I think you should have an actual plan of what to do. Instead of being like, "We should hang out soon." have an idea of something to do. You could ask him, "Do you want to hang out this Friday?" Have a set date. If he says he's busy, then pick another day. If he keeps making up excuses, you just got to let him go because he's not putting in the effort to get to know you.
If you guys find a free day, make sure you have an idea of what you want to do. He'll probably ask what you guys are going to do and if you say something like, "Idk, it's up to you" or something along those lines, it won't get anywhere. So just have a general idea of things you'd like to do.
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I've liked this guy for a few months and I've finally gotten up the courage to get his number. When I asked him for it (on Wednesday) he blushed and while telling me he forgot it for a second then remembered. I texted him on Thursday (today is Saturday) and I still haven't gotten a response. He talked to me in the hallways on Friday and walked me to my next class which is weird since we haven't talked much since school started. So anyways, since he hasn't responded, I don't know what to do because it doesn't seem like he's ignoring me purposely and I don't think he'd purposely give me a fake number. He either: 1. Got his phone taken away (I asked him for his number while he was on his way to detention so that's a possibility) 2. Accidentally gave me the wrong number 3. Is doing some psychological thing and waiting awhile to text me back.
I don't know if I should ask him if he have me the wrong number (I'd wait until maybe next Wednesday) or if I should wait it out. If I do ask him how would I do it?
Sorry if this is confusing!
I'm a female, junior in highschool if that's any help! He's the same age as me. (link)
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It's already been long enough. He has some problems if he's playing some psychological game with texting someone back lol. I'm pretty sure the first two possibilities are more accurate.
So the next time you're with him, just tell him you texted him last week and he never texted back. It's really that simple. If he said he didn't get it, then just check and see if it's the right one.
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14F... My grandfather died today. It was verry sad because we where close, its hard for me because my dad died just a few years ago...* and my grandfather was all "dad" i had left. I don't know what to do. I keep freaking out! PlzZ help me (link)
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It's completely normal to have a hard time dealing with your grandfathers death. Lots of people go through it every day.
I'm going to advise you to talk to someone about it, a counselor. They do have grief counselors and it sounds like something you need. They'll help you find ways to deal with his death rather than freaking out about it.
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