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Brother's best friend
My bro's best friend has liked me since I was in 7 grade. Right now he's a junior and im a freshman. He started noticing me first and I instantly fell for him. My bro knows I like him but he doesn't believe his friend likes me. We havent exactly told each other we like each other but we can kind of tell. But sometimes he ignores me and talks about other girls and I do the same to make him jealous. He stares at me a LOTTT. Also he has a lot of anxiety and he claims he has a cold heart and a lot of people find it hard to read him because he's always blank. Also, Im Muslim and can't date so my parents dont know. But anyway sometimes there's days where he talks to me a lot and he occasionally hugs me a lot and then there's days he ignores me and I feel like he's completely over me. Then every time I think he doesn't like me anymore, he starts showing signs and it seems he does. This guy also isn't flirty and isn't touchy but he touches me more than other girls however when he's with me he'll bring up girls and idk if its to make me mad or what. Anyway he told my brother I'm obsessed with him and its weird the other day which is completely untrue because most of the times he talks to me! And even other people have told my brother that its weird how he's always touching me. But when my brother told me his friend said this about me I was pissed off and decided to ignore him for a whole week straight and I could tell he was waiting for me to talk to him and he stared at me a lot but we started casually talking again. But I'm still confused on why he did this and does he actually like me? Did he make that up to cover up that he likes me? I really don't know and I'm sorry this is confusing.
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I'm not going to lie, this guy sounds extremely immature.
If he does like you, he's going the completely wrong way about it. And if he does like you, he obviously doesn't want people to know.
So these would be the possibilities that I could see going on right now..
He likes you, he doesn't want to admit it to anybody for some reason.
He just likes attention and is the type of guy to always talk about girls.
Either way, neither one of these scenarios are good. I mean the first one..great he likes you but he doesn't think anybody should know and he decides to just talk trash on you. One bad quality you don't want in a guy right there.
Second scenario..well it's obvious, he wants attention, he wants girls and he wants to look cool.
If you want to sort things out. Be up front and honest. Ask him how he feels. Tell him your brother told you about what he's been saying.
If a guy was doing this stuff to me, he wouldn't even be worth my time.
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It seems there's a lot going on. This guy is definitely sending you mixed messages! He could like you, and not want to admit it, maybe because he doesn't want it to be awkward between your brother and him? Or he could (and I hope this isn't the case) just like the attention, and be leading you on. Why? Some people feel better about themselves when they have tons of girls, or guys vying for their attention. He's certainly not being mature about it, and he's not coming out and saying anything positive about you to his brother. So why not ask him how he feels?
Scary and a presumptuous thing to do, but you have to ask him, or be honest about your feelings towards him. Only then will you really know what's going on. This is probably really hard to do, and no one at any age wants to be the one to do it. But you have to be mature. Relationships take honesty and maturity, so ask him how he feels. If you happen to have his number, avoid texting, if you want the truth, a lot of stuff gets distorted through text, because we can't see people's actual expressions.
Find a moment where you can speak with him in private, and ask him yourself, face to face. Just go up to him and say, "Hey! Are you free? I have a question I need you to answer." If he asks you then and there what it's about, and it's not the best time say, "It's not that serious, it's just been on my mind. Let's talk alone later?" Then suggest a time you both can talk in private.
It seems really forward, but being honest and maturity will stop this confusion. And remember no matter what comes of this, know that you can and will move on. Move on with grace, maturity, honesty and kindness. No matter what happens. In the end, you have to remember you're absolutely worth being honest and mature for, and if he can't do that, he's not worth it. No more games :) !!
Sending Best Wishes & Good Luck!
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