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I really need help with my crush
So there's this guy I like and he sits next to me and my best friend in almost every lesson. Sometimes we don't talk but sometimes we act really friendly. We don't flirt or anything because I'm too shy and sometimes it would be awkward if we did because he's one of my best friends in class. But last week I started to like him a lot. But I don't really know what I want. Sometimes I feel like I'm too close to like him in the way I do and sometimes I think he likes my best friend. I haven't told anyone about this because I'm too shy and I know that my friends would make fun of me and tell him. I really don't know what to do so please help. He's not too good looking but I don't like him for his looks because he's really lovely. Please help xx
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We'll, first you said your not sure so maybe you should sit down by your self in a place where no one can bother and think about what you want. If you do like him then you should do stuff to show you do or you can try and rell him how you feel because sometimes we feel its the scariest thing to do but it really isn't give it a try! ;) hope things go well.
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You said you didn't know what you want, so figure that out first.
If you decide you might want to take it to the next level, then flirt. It can be small like complimenting him, smiling, touching his hand, ect.
You can invite him to hang out and see how it is when you guys hang out.
If you decide you'd rather just have him as a friend and you're not looking to date, then just leave it at that.
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First of all, I think it's great you don't like him for his looks! It's very healthy, and mature to look past someone's looks to who they are on the inside. Another note is, if you can't tell your friend a secret that puts you into a vulnerable position, then you have to accept that there are gonna be a lot of things you won't be able to share with your best friend, if she's not willing to take it seriously. How we share things, is how we bond. So make sure your aware of where you stand on sharing things with her.
The next solution is don't make any decisions until you know what you want. You wrote you really like him. Enough to date him? If so then you have to be honest with him. Find a moment to tell him how you feel.
The worst he can do is say he doesn't feel the same way, which is okay, because that means there's something better out there, and you have to let it go with kindness and understanding. No matter which way you look at this it's a growing experience.
If you're not ready for dating anyone, and you just want to express your feelings then that totally okay too!
There are tons of ways of expressing how you feel without everyone having to know your business. One of the ways is write then down on a piece of paper at home, and rip it up. Write a letter you'll never send, or draw, paint, sing, even put a song that reminds you of him and dance to it. Put a song that helps you let go, and move on and dance to that. Know that you're the most important person in you're life right now, because you are.
You're entitled to your feelings, especially when you have some privacy. But don't do anything until your absolutely ready! I think above all you need to figure out what you want.
Can you see yourself dating him? Do you want to date at all? Do you like being single, and just being with yourself for now? Do you like him enough to be honest about your feeling and overcome your shyness for him?
It's all up to you. You're in control of what you choose to do, so take your time. No matter what happens it's all gonna work out!
Best Wishes & Good Luck!!!
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