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How can I get over wanting to see his phone?? I wanna see it every time we're together.. Trust issues /: we been together 10 months.. I'm 16 he's 17 (link)
Well sometime we have a feeling wanting to do thing that raent right and if he hant seem suspicious towards you. Tgen I don't see why you violate his privacy, I'm pretty you would trust him not to go through your phone without permission wouldn't you want the same for you as for him. I hope you gain trust and thongs gt better; )


Me in this guy are both teenagers and we dated for a few days and them we had to break up because something SERIOUS happened then we got back together for about 3 weeks. we broke up. he was the sweetiest guy ever to me I really loved him and I could tell that he loved me. There is something that you can describe what you see in someone but the places they take you when you are with them are just magical. It's been a week now and I'm not really with another guy but he is comforting me with him. I've cried everyday for him. i'll right an I Miss You message but I get to nervous to send it. why am I hurting so bad over him. im a teen I should move on but I cant im hurting (link)
Ohh trust me I've been down tbat road and yes its normal to have this affection towards a person its just our heart showing that we care its ok to cry and miss them hut one of these days or soon you should tell him that you miss him and see if you can work think out.

Hope all the best and I hope you get emotionally better! ;)


I started having my period about two days ago n it was ok. After about 5 hours i started to feel like i was going to throw up but then it passed after i took in some water. The next day, around 4am i threw up abt 2 times and started having runny tummy later in the day. I visited the washroom several times. I wanted to know if its normal to have this during a girls normal period? (link)
Yes it is normal us girls reactions while on our period varies. So there's differnt side effects for each body. If this pain seems to get seriou you may want to ask a doctor. Hope you feel better! ;)


I'm 16, female. I need help with learning how to stop disrespectful people from being unnecessarily disrespectful. I need something that will teach me how to make them respect me. People pull/touch my hair, call me things that I'm clearly not, and are just plain rude to me when I even just talk to them. I don't know what to do, do I respond at all or not? It's not exactly bullying, but my blood boils every time this happens, which is more often as the days go on and I have no idea why. I can't afford to let this go on, because one day I'll get too angry and get myself in trouble. If I left out an important piece of information, please let me know. I thank everyone in advance for taking the time to read/answer me. Have a wonderful day :) (link)
Well you should talk about it cause we as humans sometimes let our feelings get boiled inside and never speak out that one all these emotions regurgitate out of our moutg and that leads to an outburst that you kay regret later. The people who do tgis to you just let them know in a kind way that you feel disrespected and don't appreciate the names there calling. Hope it works out! ;)


There's an acquaintance of mine who has a fucking obsession with taking people's crushes/boyfriends/any boy that another girl is even just talking to away from them. For example, she would notice that I'm talking to a guy that I have even a casual crush on and then pounce on him right when she has the chance! And I'm getting sick of it! It's like an obsession with proving to the whole world that she could get any and every guy she wants. I think I should confront her with this for the 20th time, but I know this hasn't been effective, so I would like some ideas please? I just want her to stop. (link)
Well some people are like that unfornuately and it may seem like the end of the world but some people just don't like to listen and its ok let karma do its thing one day shell get the same treatment she's been giving you. If she keeps doing tgis just stop talking to her cause I thibk a real friend would try to compromise.


My friend from dance class introduced me to her stepbrother who I really got along with. We ended up going on a few dates together and then became a couple a few weeks after. All of his ex's have either been emotionally unstable or over weight or just horrible people so I feel like because i'm average weight and relatively normal im a bit of a novelty to him and thats why he's fallen so fast. I'm unsure of how to feel about everything! He has already started saying he loves me and I feel alot of pressure to say it back even though I dont feel the same. When we first got together I was attracted to him and we got on really well and I really cared about him, those feelings just having developed into love. If this was the only thing it'd be a bit easier but i'm the first girl he's ever introduced to certain members of his family and its a really big deal for him. I dont know what to do, please help. (link)
First of all you have to know if you love him becaud you don't want gove up false hopes and its ok if you think your a novelty towards we all try and see new things atleast once in our lifes. Those girls aren't with him now because that is gis past and who knows maybe your the right erson he wants to be with give it a shot, cause maybe your one of the best girls he dating and feels something speacial cause sometime guys don't like their emotions in depth. Best of luck! :)


I'm 16 and obese. I've been trying but the pounds just won't drop. (link)
First of all, the step to loosing weight is beloevong you cn hvong a positive attitude os the key, eat healtgy excercise daily and slowly but surely you should see a difference.


My guy friend from school invited me over to his birthday party. I had a great time and he was being very social to everyone, asking if 'we' (me and my 3 friends) were ok and having a good time.
Then it was time for me to leave. I told him I had a very good time and said thanks for inviting me! Then he said 'that's good' then out of the blue said, i'll give you a hug and well, we hugged. I was shocked and just said 'ok'.
I cant remember how the hug was because I was in total shock! And this was the first time he hugged me and his parents were there watching and they looked surprised too!
After the hug I looked at the ground and said 'That was a little awkward...' and he said 'Yeah it was, wasn't it?' ONLY BECAUSE HE HUGGED ME FOR THE FIRST TIME! I said ok cya at school and he said the same and we went our separate ways.
What just happened? Can someone tell me? Was it a 'ok thanks for coming hug'? or something else...
Tomorrow I will ask my friend if she got a hug too. If she did I will know it was a 'thanks for coming hug', but what if she didn't get one?
What the heck does this mean? >_ (link)
MAYBE IT meant something maybe it didn't sometimes guys can't be read just ask what was the hug for to clarify.


So there's this guy I like and he sits next to me and my best friend in almost every lesson. Sometimes we don't talk but sometimes we act really friendly. We don't flirt or anything because I'm too shy and sometimes it would be awkward if we did because he's one of my best friends in class. But last week I started to like him a lot. But I don't really know what I want. Sometimes I feel like I'm too close to like him in the way I do and sometimes I think he likes my best friend. I haven't told anyone about this because I'm too shy and I know that my friends would make fun of me and tell him. I really don't know what to do so please help. He's not too good looking but I don't like him for his looks because he's really lovely. Please help xx (link)
We'll, first you said your not sure so maybe you should sit down by your self in a place where no one can bother and think about what you want. If you do like him then you should do stuff to show you do or you can try and rell him how you feel because sometimes we feel its the scariest thing to do but it really isn't give it a try! ;) hope things go well.


Well I'm 13 and I'm craving sex like real dick I'm tied of using my pointing fingurs I want to feel my body Aginst a males body some times I even want to do a female these feelings are going on lately what should I do? (link)
Well I've stumbled along that path before its our hormones that makes us act and think in different ways. Its ok to question and wonder and be suspended to this desire but think of the future consequences. The sex might be delightful but what if your protection breaks, what if you got fertilized and is able to have a child (if you have your period). Think about others who care about you how would tgey feel if these outcomes resulted to a castraphe. Think ahead and know what you may be getting your self into!


i'm a 16 year old teenage girl. I have been in a lot of relationships but idk what happens. they either always cheat on me, dup me in a very bad way, always ask me for sex, or end up ignoring me. i'm very insecure about my self. people tell me all the time they wish that they looked like me. I have brown long hair with highlights bright green eyes C cup bra skinny and I have a black girls butt. I guess I'm a lil pretty but with guy's always doing this it hurts:""""( I have never lied to a guy cheated on him or ignored him. I've always been honest and even one time when I was grounded I would sneak my phone just to be able to talk to them. what am I doing wrong?????? please tell me so that I can stiop! (link)
First of all, it seems pretty obvious your not doing anything wrong I think its the wrong people your choosing to date. Set your standards let people get to know you first before you begin a relationship. Talk about what you look for in a guy and what they look for in a guy. The expectations that you desire look for somone who matches up to your standards. Sometimes things like this happen to help us learn from our mistakes and expand our knowledge. GOOD LUCK!!! :)


Hello I am a female . I am 28 years old. I go to adult college, where I met this shy guy who I fell in love with. I tried to become his friend but the guy was shy. And he did not say much. But I had a deep connection with him. Then I found out he was leaving. I felt him looking at me. And thought he had feelings for me. But then when I knew he was leaving college I got upset and angry with him. I just wanted him to be open with his feelings and he just broke my heart. I looked at him thinking he would say something and I was angry I could have cried and all I wanted was for him to hold me. And tell me he feels something for me. And he did not say anything. Now he has left and I am heart broken. I keep thinking about him and I feel so sad. I like him so much. I wish he would fight for me. And I want to reconnect with him. I miss him. And it hurts.

Thanks for listening and for your advice. (link)
I know how it feels, but sometimes things exit out of our lifes for better things to replace. Just look at the road ahead of you and I asure you will find someone who loves you as much as you love them.




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