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why am i hurting so bad over him?
Me in this guy are both teenagers and we dated for a few days and them we had to break up because something SERIOUS happened then we got back together for about 3 weeks. we broke up. he was the sweetiest guy ever to me I really loved him and I could tell that he loved me. There is something that you can describe what you see in someone but the places they take you when you are with them are just magical. It's been a week now and I'm not really with another guy but he is comforting me with him. I've cried everyday for him. i'll right an I Miss You message but I get to nervous to send it. why am I hurting so bad over him. im a teen I should move on but I cant im hurting
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Ohh trust me I've been down tbat road and yes its normal to have this affection towards a person its just our heart showing that we care its ok to cry and miss them hut one of these days or soon you should tell him that you miss him and see if you can work think out.
Hope all the best and I hope you get emotionally better! ;)
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It's normal to be upset and hurt when you lose somebody you cared about.
How long have you guys been broken up? If it hasn't been very long, you just need to give it time.
I think for you, it's gonna take a few months to move on.
What you need to do is get your friends, go out and enjoy yourself. Don't mope around and complain about him. Don't text him, delete his number, don't contact him at all. Besides that, do things that you enjoy and do your best to keep your mind off him.
What you're feeling is normal. You're a teenager, feelings are real and you'll eventually move on.
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Lots of teens feel the pressure to be dating, to be part of a couple cus 'its the thing to do, everybodys doing it, and it makes them feel normal, it also feels good to have some positive attention focused on you by the opposite sex.
With all those reasons that most teens want to be in a relationship, when one does not work, the expectations that were dashed are what hurts. While feelings can develop and a few couples can say it was love at first sight, that is usually not common for most.
So most likely you are feeling a grieving a loss of something you thought you had. People don't just grieve the death loss of a loved family member, the loss can be that of a job, a friend, etc.
I am not sure what is preventing you two from dating. the mysterious "something SERIOUS", could be just about anything. If it was how the two of you treated each other in bad ways, then I can see breaking up necessary. If it was due to unforeseen earth shaking events in his familys life...then I can see him needing time to go through his mental and emotional processes, of worry and grieving and thats not a time when its easy to have anything to give a relationship. How long was the break up? You didn't say. So I assume it was long enough for things to be put right in his family if thats what it was. So then you get back together...only 3 weeks. Then you break up again. Was it mutual, you both decided to part? Why? Did you leave him? Did he leave you? I can't tell you what to do to 'move on' if perhaps this isn't a situation where you need to move on because the problems are misunderstandings between male and female, etc.
Or did he decide to start dating another girl instead? I don;t know what to advise you. Telling me how wonderful he is and that you both had feelings for each other doesnt explain why you are not together. You are at an age where both girls and guys are going to make lots of mistakes in dating and relationships cus you just don't know anything yet. It's possible that one or both of you did some things that contributed to the splitting up but if both of you learned ways to properly deal with and improve your relationship skills, then perhaps there is still hope for the two of you. I know it seems awful to write a long letter explaining and many apologize for doing so, but perhaps the extra info. may help us here at advicenators in being able to be more helpful dear.
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