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Breaking up with a new boyfriend because I think I am a novelty for him
My friend from dance class introduced me to her stepbrother who I really got along with. We ended up going on a few dates together and then became a couple a few weeks after. All of his ex's have either been emotionally unstable or over weight or just horrible people so I feel like because i'm average weight and relatively normal im a bit of a novelty to him and thats why he's fallen so fast. I'm unsure of how to feel about everything! He has already started saying he loves me and I feel alot of pressure to say it back even though I dont feel the same. When we first got together I was attracted to him and we got on really well and I really cared about him, those feelings just having developed into love. If this was the only thing it'd be a bit easier but i'm the first girl he's ever introduced to certain members of his family and its a really big deal for him. I dont know what to do, please help.
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Back to the beginning, when you first met you were attracted. The thing that messed this all up was his confessing he loves you. Thats a big dating no-no to say that too soon because it usually scares the other person away and they feel awkward for not feeling the same way.
He can't possibly know enough about you in depth to really be sure of his love. The love he has at this point is surface level stuff, sound of your voice, your laugh or smile, your looks, mannerisms, how you carry yourself, but thats not enough to ever base a real true love on that can stand the test of time.
So have a talk with him. Tell him what you told us. "When we first got together I was attracted to you and we got on really well and I really found I cared about you, but those feelings just have not developed into love yet." So lets take this slower and enjoy us being at the attraction level and give love a chance to develop so theres no pressure.
Communication is very important in any relationship. So learn how to communicate well your feelings to him.
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You just need to be honest with him. If you're not ready to tell him that you love him then tell him you feel like you guys are moving too fast. He thinks it's ok because you're not saying anything about it.
I don't understand the breaking up because you think that you're a novelty thing to him. I don't really get that just because his ex's aren't the same as you. Maybe he just got tired of those type of girls?
Either way, you should talk to him about that too if that's how you feel.
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First of all you have to know if you love him becaud you don't want gove up false hopes and its ok if you think your a novelty towards we all try and see new things atleast once in our lifes. Those girls aren't with him now because that is gis past and who knows maybe your the right erson he wants to be with give it a shot, cause maybe your one of the best girls he dating and feels something speacial cause sometime guys don't like their emotions in depth. Best of luck! :)
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