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how to ban criticism
i understand criticism now and i really cant stand it its very offensive i remember in 2003 when my stupid younger brother used to criticize my reading and call me stupid and boss me around like the little smartmouth he was but he has already passed away but saying things like puncutation is sort of calling someones grammer stupid which is really igroant to do some people do that becuase they wont expect that their grammer is great or becuase theyre stupid and wont admit it that makes me angry seriously you shouldnt do those things anyway how can you punish those who criticize you to make you feel bad so it might teach them a lesson .
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I know it feels right to want to punish people who criticize you, because criticism makes you feel bad. However, as the others have said, that's a response you have to squelch.
You are going to face criticism all the time, and you'll have to learn how to take it gracefully, even when it's not necessarily given in the nicest of ways. It's a big part of being an adult, and to get by in the working world it's an essential skill.
The best way to avoid criticism is by looking at what you need to improve and working on it. If someone corrects your spelling or grammar, work at not making that mistake. If you're still in school, have a smart friend or your English teacher check your written homework for spelling and grammar errors. Not only do you silence the haters, but you also learn a skill that's going to carry you far into the working world.
If a person of authority is giving you criticism, you need to be able to take it gracefully. If your boss tells you you're doing something wrong, you can't "punish" them for making you feel bad! Practice taking criticism of that sort with a smile and a "Thank you for bringing that to my attention. I'll try to work on that." It's difficult, but it shows a great attitude and a willingness to learn that will help you get ahead when you're working.
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Sorry to break it to you but you can't ban what people say to you. The only thing you can do is simply ignore them.
There is good criticism and there is bad criticism. Obviously you're talking about the bad criticism where someone will analyze whatever it is only to find faults and nothing else.
Criticism is not actually bad. It never really has been. It's just been this way because people are very pessimistic.
Constructive criticism would be the good criticism. It's offering valid and well reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving both positive and negative comments.
So I don't know exactly what people are saying to you to make you this upset over it besides years ago when your bother was teasing you.
If someone brings up punctuation, it's not calling someones grammar stupid unless they were doing it in a mean, malicious, teasing way.
Believe it or not, some people do want to help people will their grammar problems.
So you're just going to have to ignore it when people are mean to you. You can't ban it and you can't punish anyone.
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Sounds like you have some long term anger about comments directed at you and it sounds like it may be from more than just your brother.
There are many very intelligent people who can not write correct sentences or spell worth a darn.
I am married to such a man, My 2nd husband.
We met in on line dating so he had to write to me to get my interest. He had others spell check and fix what he had to say as it was a very long letter. When We met he explained his problem, He has a lighter case of Autism, where a person can not handle too much sensory input and that comes out for him as being writing challenged. He is always asking me to spell something, sometimes every 2 minutes, though i've just recently spelled it, asking me again, even though I am busy typing answers on advicenators and lose my train of thought. I get frustrated sometimes but never get angry at him. I understand it is a challenge to write but he is an intelligent man and thats one of the things I love about him, his wisdom and knowledge.
If there are people in your life that ignorant who would constantly criticize you, then you need another set of friends.
There is no way to ban anything negative in this world, be it criticism, bigotry, bullying, etc...
The reason it is there is because everyone has been given a free will. Without free will, we'd all be robots following the demands of God.
Free will is a good thing...I am glad i have been given the opportunity to make my own choices.
However the flip side is that many people make choices with their free will that hurt others as you have been hurt.
No one can force them to change their ways. As soon as punishing as a way of forcing someone to change comes into the picture, free will is no longer there for the individual because someone wants them to measure up to what they want that person to be like right at that moment.
ONe more thing to help you understand why theres such a wide range of humans from very mature to very immature and everything in between, as souls, we are all at different levels of learning. Some are brand new souls and thats like being a kindergartner who doesnt know anything yet. Plus there are the souls who have spent several times coming back to earth living anouther life to learn and grow more mature. So we have souls who are at a wide level of how they act. Some have learning to become very loving, gentle and forgiving, slow to anger, very understanding, while others choose to exercise their right to do as they wish with their will and choose to not change or grow and cause trouble instead, hurt others, rebel, retaliate, carry anger inside and dump it on others.
Sometimes these awful experience are there in our life for us to learn and grow from them as happened to me. First marriage was to a man who was verbally abusive and we were a family active in our church. Makes no difference where you find such people. I stayed with him 30 yrs before I got the courage to leave. I wanted something better for me. It was miserable and I was having physical illness and problems occuring because of the emotional strain. I had to decide to leave to keep myself healthy. That kind of abuse is not good to come across on a daily basis. I also had to learn to forgive and not carry any bitterness. If not for the ex who mistreated me, i would not have grown stronger as a person or had an opportunity to really forgive, not just say the words.
I hope that in time, you will also come to a place of being ready to learn what you can from your experience and actually grow from it instead of finding ways to retaliate and punish.
Peace be to your soul.
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