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Gender: Female
Location: Carmel, Indiana
Age: 15
Member Since: November 28, 2013
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I am a 15 year old female. I weigh 188.5 lbs. and am 5'7 tall. Lately, I am finding myself with a shorness of breath and irregular heartbeat. I can just get up from a chair and my heart will be racing and beating harder than usual. About a month ago, I would occasionaly have a strange feeling in my chest. I don't really know how to describe it, but it felt like my heart skipped a few beats. Am I showing signs of a heart attack? Please help me, I'm scared. (link)
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You really need to see a doctor about this. Most likely, I hate to say it, the reason you are feeling this way is because you could be overweight. What is your diet like? Do you exercise regularly? It's hard for your body to work out because you might not be in the best shape.
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Hello advicenators, I am a 15 year old male and have struggled with self harm for 4 years and various eating disorders and I think I may be gay. Yes that is quite a handful of things, but I am bulimia binge free for 3 months and haven't cut for 6 days ( after a 3 week clean). I'm frustrated about my sexuality in general and feel different in the backwards little town I live in. I honestly just want to cut and fall asleep for a while and wake up and know for sure if I will be accepted and if I am more than bisexual. I grow weary of all this uncertainty, but I understand how there is no 100% way to know at my age. My mother knows, and she has been making offensive jokes about it and sneers at the very fact of it all... I want this to stop more than anything.(I am on Zoloft by the way for
depression)I used to go to counseling. I want to be on for five fucking minutes for once. That is my plea for help, and I'm not sure if anyone will even read this let alone have any solutions for my questions.should I be in counseling again, and is there anyone out there I can trust enough to let them help me? (link)
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Before I say anything else, it's totally okay to feel the way you're feeling. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being the way you are. It's disrespectful of your mother to be making offensive jokes towards you. You need to sit her down and tell her your feelings and if she can't accept who you are, hate to say it but she's being a terrible mother and she needs to know that she's not helping in your situation. As for the other things, it's really good that you stopped harming yourself however I do recommend you see a councelor just in case because with all the stress you're going through, it could come in handy and the last thing I would want for you is to hurt yourself. Anyway, if you feel as if you are gay, then so be it. If you are comfortable and sure that you are, then that is who you are and no one can change that about you. There are people going through similar issues as you, remember that. I understand you're frustrated about your sexuality but this is just a phase where you are trying to discover who you are and I guarantee you everyone goes on this path once in their life and it's all a part of life. It's better to know who you are then to not. I hope this helped:) also I'm 15 and we're about the same age so I get a better understanding of where you're coming from.
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I have a talent show coming up and I don't know what to do have any ideas
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You obviously don't want to embarrass yourself. What are your hobbies or hidden talents? Can you sing or dance? Or maybe even a comedy show?
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Where can I find them? (link)
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You can try hot topic or Spencer's. Spencer's has a lot of tydi and bob marley clothes with a bunch of glasses and all that jazz that you're hoping to buy.
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Said just keep being friendly and stuff. Well ahould I continue to text him first or kind of drop off his planet for a little while.? And thankyou so much your advice has been helpful (link)
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Yes continue to be friendly but I wouldn't test him first because guys like to make the first move when it comes to texting. But f he texts you, you can obviously respond. But in reality, just don't be clingy. Like be calm and nice and friendly and playful here and there.
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Plz help me i think my girlfrnd is cheatng on me (link)
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Confront her about it! I mean your question doesn't give much information but you can't let her get away with this. You need to confront her.
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Hi; im Michelle.
I'm 18 years old and yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. But that's another story, these past few days i've been a dirty, awful liar. The yesterday , black friday i told my parents i was going to class (they didnt know it was cancelled) the plan was to go to Panera bread and chat to this other guy who I have gotten soft with. Unfortunately, as i left my parents drove by and saw me. I denied , denied, denied until i finally gave in. No punishment, just neglect. Today, I called out from work because of the break up (it wasnt bad. we stayed friends) I didnt tell my parents. I went to Panera (derp) again to try and get my mind off of things. I didnt tell my parents in the first place because they would have told me my reasoning was stupid.
I was caught, my dad ended going to my job due to a malfunction in the seafood depo. He didnt see me anywhere. In the end, he knows where I am right now.
My mother has a temper, and I dont want to go home. Everyone is going to hate me, ignore me, i'll be alone. I want to be hinest with them but I know they won't understand... I'm not sure what to do..
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Obviously it's not okay to lie but it's okay to make mistakes. I think you're going through a phase right now. And you should tell your parents that you broke up with your boyfriend so they understand. I think the main reason of your dishonestly is from your breakup with your boyfriend. You just might be sad or upset and it's causing you to act like this. Don't worry, everyone lies in their life and it's absolutely wrong but it's not like you do it a lot and now you've learned to not do it again. Also, your parents are not going to hate you. You need to go home and tell them everything that happened with your boyfriend, or at least tell them you broke up and if they ask why and you don't feel like explaining, then say you're not in the mood and I'm sure they'll understand.
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i dont really see him talk to many other girls and when he does its another kind of friendly. with me its more of a playful flirty kind but when he talks to other girls hes just nice friendly. when he walks past me he will wave and say hi or he will stop and find a reason to talk to me. and when im doing something and he walks past the area im at he will look around until he sees me then he continues to go where he was going. he is always stealing looks at me. i heard he was the shy kind of guy and he wont say anything directly to me ie. that im pretty. or that he likes me. i guess apparently he isnt a straight forward guy wich makes me more confused because of the fact that i kind of get the vibe he is some what interested but im not entirely sure and i dont know how to get him more interested. but he doesnt seem shy he seems outgoing but i guess towards girls or something he is. everyone that has seen him talk to me or read our texts think he likes me and is flirting with me. thats where i get confused because i just wish he would say something cause i dont want to look stupid being the one to do so. (link)
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Well this definitely helps a lot because it's much more detail and I'm basically going through the same thing as you. Well it definitely seems like he likes you more than a friend for sure. If it's noticeable to other people that he comes off as flirting then I think he does like you. Obviously he doesn't have feelings or anything huge but probably just a small crush and he thinks you're cute and it seems like he wants to get to know you better. You should definitely cotinue talking to him and be friendly because i think you do have a chance of getting with this guy. I completely get why you're confused, after all guys are extremely confusing and they send mixed signals to girls, most of the time on purpose to get her thinking about them, which makes sense in a way. But yeah, I think this guy really enjoys talking to you and he probably is attracted to you. Good luck!
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My ingrown toenail is what I wouls say badly infected..... Could my toe need to be cut off? Is there anything i can do to prevent this from happening?! (link)
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I don't think your toenail needs to be cut off honestly. If you are super concerned, the best option is to see a doctor and he/she will tell you what to do from there. You might end up putting cream on it or some sort of medicine to prevent further infection. Also, find out what the cause of the infection was, that might help.
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When he sees me he will either start talking to me or he will just wave. And when I'm outside on my break or something and he's going home he will get in his car and before he leaves he will smile and wave bye. I ask because if I was interested in someone I'd wave hi or bye to them but if it was just someone else I'd just leave. And he acts like hes flirting or playing hard to get but I'm not aure if I could be mixing signals because I am way into him. We dont know eachother but we text. But we only text if I text him first he doesnt ever text me first but he replies rather quickly. The other day I was going home and he said "ill miss you" in front of our manager and two other people. And I just said mhm I know you will and smiled and walked away. Hes always smiling. But if he does like me how can I get him to want me more to textme first or ask me out or something. I hope this makes sence. Thankyou in advance :) (link)
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Well it's hard to tell if he's interested in you because when guys are interested in girls, they sure do a lot more signs than he gives you. That's nice that he waves and talks to you but it honestly seems like he's just a really friendly guy. I'm sorry to break it to you but usually when a guy is interested in a girl, they do a lot more than those things. That's nice how he said ill miss you but it could just be a friendly thing. Does he act like this around other girls? Does he stare at you a lot? Maybe he thinks you're cute but you should flirt back. Also, don't text him first. Guys should be the one to text girls first.
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OK, so I have this boyfriend. Long distance relationship. I genuinely love him. He went to his job today for the first time since we got together. And I'm really worried. Because he works at Hot Topic, and you know how all the insanely flawless girls go there. Any girl can fall in love with him. So what if he leaves me for another girl? I mean, I don't think he'd do that since he keeps telling me to promise him that I'll never leave him and that he'll never leave me. But I'm still worried if he'll leave me for a much prettier girl though. I keep worrying about it because I know he can get absolutely any girl he wants, because he's just so perfect. If I ever lost him to another girl, I'd self-harm big time. (If you say I'm crazy, you obviously don't know how I feel about him.)
How can I stop feeling this way? (link)
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Okay so you obviously have many issues with yourself, I hate to say it. First off before anything, you're insecure and you need to realize why you guys are together. If he really is as perfect as you say he is, then there's a reason he's with you. He doesn't just get with a girl for her looks. So he obviously chose you for your personality, looks have a small amount to do with it when it comes down to it for guys. Also, there's a difference between pretty and attractive. All guys can't help but find girls pretty, even if they are in a relationship. However, they won't be attracted to them, they're attracted to their gf. If your worried that he'll leave you for a prettier girl, then think about if you guys have a strong relationship. If he really likes or loves you for you, then I highly doubt he'll leave you. And also... Keep in mind that all guys have different taste in girls. He obviously likes what he has right now which is you. I hope this helped a lot.
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im in 8th grade. im really tall and skinny. I believe I am 5 "7". both my parents are super tall. im flat chested. but all the females on my mom's side have large breast. including my sis. she is like a C or D. my dad has medium to big breasts. So... everyone in my grade has bigger breasts than me. and I haven't gotten my period yet. should I be worried? will my breasts grow? (link)
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This is totally normal and totally okay because this is something that you can't help. It's telling me a lot that you have not received your period because when you get your period, you'll find yourself to start maturing in specific body parts. You said this runs in your family so don't worry because you'll eventually get boobs one day. If they are not as big as the girls in your grade or in your family then it's okay, no one is perfect and I'm sure you are beautiful just the way you are.
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So my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year it eould have been out 1 year and a half in 2 days. We broke up for about 2 months now and each months I've been trying to get him back. He says he still has feelings for me and missed me whiel we we not together. We even got to the point eventually that we did intimate things we did as a couple. It wa as if we never broke up. But lately its been going doenhill becase noe he thinks that it wont work if ee get back together. Im convincing him still. But the other day i asked him to go hang out eith me for my birthday and he told me he has no ride. But proceeded to ask me what did i want to accomplish by asking him to go wth me, why, saying that it wont work like that. But after an hour i gve him to cool off. I asked him again can we go hang out next time then? And he said whens next time? So doesnt it kinda sound like he is agreeing to go out with me? This is really confusing. Im not accepting a no from him unless its last resort. Everyone who was close to me left me and im determine not to let him leave me life likethe others. And also what do you suggest for me todo to get him to be with me? (link)
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It really seems as if you have trust issues. I think you need to tell your boyfriend the truth of what you're thinking. You're not going to get anything accomplished if you waste your time and stay confused. You need to call him or somehow talk to him in person and ask him what is actually going on between you two. I understand that you don't want to end things completely and I'm totally with you on that. However, sometimes he feels as if he needs some space. Don't talk to him for a couple of days and then if calls or texts you, ask to meet up and tell him how important it is that you two talk. If he says no or makes an excuse to meet up, stay on the phone with him and ask him his feelings towards everything. He did say earlier that he's convinced you guys wouldn't make it as a couple again and so you need to give him some time and tell him that you're a better person and you've changed for the better. I hope this helped a lot.
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