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I have a hard time dealing with his death
14F... My grandfather died today. It was verry sad because we where close, its hard for me because my dad died just a few years ago...* and my grandfather was all "dad" i had left. I don't know what to do. I keep freaking out! PlzZ help me
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I'm very sorry about that. :( Everyone has to deal with grief at some point in their lives, and it's never easy.
First off, remember to make time to grieve.
But instead of focusing on depressing thoughts, try to remember the good times you had with your grandfather. Think about the funny memories and things you liked to do together.
Another important thing I need to say is don't start withdrawing from your friends and family members too much -- it will most likely only make you feel more depressed. While having some alone time to grieve is perfectly fine, completely isolating yourself is different. Don't be afraid to cry or talk about your feelings to your friends and family.
Try to stay somewhat active. You don't have to go partying and forget all about your grandpa, but I think you should spend some time with your other family members and friends. Maybe you could go out to dinner with others who are grieving for him.
Having a memorial service is a good idea, or do something that will give you a chance to say goodbye.
You could also go to a grieving support group. But if you're having an exceptionally hard time coping with the grief, you should try seeing a therapist.
Just remember that things will get better. You will be able to get over the loss eventually, but that doesn't mean you'll forget about your grandfather.
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It's completely normal to have a hard time dealing with your grandfathers death. Lots of people go through it every day.
I'm going to advise you to talk to someone about it, a counselor. They do have grief counselors and it sounds like something you need. They'll help you find ways to deal with his death rather than freaking out about it.
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Dear writer,
First I would like to start by saying I am sorry for your loss. I do know what your going through I lost my grandma about a year ago and she was very close to me because my mom wasnt around a whole lot. I cant say that it will get easier because it won't it still hurts everyday but what has gotten me through is knowing that she is still watching over me just like your grandfather and dad are they are so proud of you. I also find that listening to songs though they make me cry help soothe me a little. I also like to go on her facebook and write how im feeling if you cant go to a facebook maybe just writing a letter to them can really help get your feelings out . I also made her a dedication video on youtube. I know its hard and it will be for a while but it gets easier I promise and they are always there in your heart. =) I hoped I helped ~mesachick51~
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