My name is Ashley I am 22 years old. I love giving advice to anyone about anything so ask away. I live in california I am a receptionist.
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I seem to have the most acne for my age. The thing is I eat healthy compared to other kids ( not too many processed foods) and I exercise and wash my face and use organic facial scrubs with nytric ( idk how to spell it) acid. I guess I am sorta stressed but not put under the pressure that other kids are. WHAT IS GOING ON I had a clear zit free face last year and now, well now there's acne on my forehead and both cheekbones. I have tried using salt it doesn't work and the the acid stuff just prevents . My parents won't let me get prescription because my moms against drugs( she thinks everything can be solved by eating vegies) WHY ARE ZITS POPPIN UP AND HOW DO I GET RID OF THEM thx 😘 (link)
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Dear Writer,
I understand how frustrating acne can be I myself had a clear face for a while when I was younger. I started getting acne the older I got, and still have trouble getting it to go away. I use Dermalogica products. I would also recommend not to touch your face what so ever it doesn't help. I also know that they recommend to not pop your zits if possible, but if you must wash your hands and face before and after. The most important thing to remember is to stick with your face washing routine morning and night and make sure to use moisturizer if you don't your face can get to dry and start to produce excess oil which you don't want. Also make sure to use an exfoliator once a month which will help to remove any dry skin dirt and oil. You can also use a face mask I loooove those so much. I hope I helped.
Sincerely, ~MESACHICK51~
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So me boyfriend and i of almost 2 years are nottogethher anymore. He broke up with me for the second timebecause he said he felt like we were friends with benefits because when we see each oter once a week we usually do somewhat sexual stuff that isnt sex. And his friends told him they didnt think we would work out cause his reason for getting back with me tthe first time wasnt strong rnough and the reason was that he thought we could work out. I called him right after the break up and he actually sat there listening to me. Then i texted him after the call asking him why he would do this. And then left it at no contact for two weeks then texted him saying i want to see him once more to see if those were his true feelings in person. He said no saying that hes clearing the bs off his life like i cleared the bs off my walls refering to a snapchat story inpostedd of my wall being free from his posters. Which is weird that hed be mad about me taking down his posters when he roke up with me!! Ad then he ignored my last text that day and so i waited a week more only to text him saying that i want to find closure and see him once more. And he ifnoreds me for two days so i wait and text him while he was online on facebook and simply said hi. And he still ifnoress me. My friend told me that hes not worth my time since he even broke up with me two times already!! But idk i still mosss him... Im like halfway out the door to moving on bht im just hesitating. What should i do to get him back permanantly or at the very least and most important get him to just let me see him in person one last time?! I aldo noticed that he always checks my snapchat story alll the time! But refuses to text me back (link)
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Dear Writer,
Your question caught my attention because I have gone through something similar to this. My advice
to you is to tell him once more that you would like to speak to him face to face one more time to get things clear so you can move on. Most likely he will say ok if not than I would suggest to just move on because if he can't give you a valid explanation than he isn't worth your time. Ok so if you do get him face to face you need to tell him to give you an actual reason other than his friends giving him crap for being with you, and if he truly cares about you than what his friends are saying should not matter it is you and him in the relationship not you and him and his friends. I am not sure how old you are but this sort of happened with me and my now husband he let his friends opinions of me get in the way of our relationship. He even broke up with me because of it to and started seeing some other girl, but I honestly just acted like I didn't care anymore and we talked and we got back together after being broken up for a month. Now everything is great. So you have to decide if this guy is worth your time if you truly want him back if not than move on girlie you sound like a good person who deserves to be treated right hope I helped and not rambled too much lol
sincerely ~~Measachick51~~
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I'm of shy nature, but I love making videos. I personally think I've got good ideas to entertain people with bad movie reviews, sketches, top 10, etc. The only thing is... I'm scared that people end up mocking me and/or dislike me.
I know you cannot be loved by everyone, but I'm scared I get more hate than appreciation. I really want to do this though, should I take a risk or being a liked youtuber is excessively hard? (link)
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Dear writer,
I think you should totally go for it!! I have been having this same idea to start a youtube series only I don't have ideas. I know its scary but if this is truly something you want to do this by all means go for it, and don't let people get you down people are going to say stupid things period its just how they are and if you don't try you will never know you only get one life why not do the things that make you happy regardless of what people say you go girl and comment me what your youtube video channel is I would love to watch =)
sincerely ~Mesachick51~~
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I met this guy about a month ago, we went out once, and I keep casually asking him if he wants to hang out again but he is often busy, so I figured I should let him initiate from now on. I can't figure him out, though. If I don't text him all day, he will say, "I don't like that we didn't talk much today!" but HE is the one that stops answering me! One night he told me that he feels like "I don't like him sometimes," since I've started to back off. I told him that I want to hang out with him, and he responded that he is nervous to hang out with me again, so I think he is just shy, but he also makes me feel like I'm bugging him, because he stops answering me. What should I do? (link)
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Dear writer,
The best answer I can think of is to tell him whats on your mind. I can tell you like him and it seems he likes you guys are just so confusing lol so I am thinking to just be honest with him and let him know what your thinking saves the hassle of worrying about it and if hes saying I feel like we didn't talk to much today tell him why. ~mesachick51~
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I've liked this guy for a few months and I've finally gotten up the courage to get his number. When I asked him for it (on Wednesday) he blushed and while telling me he forgot it for a second then remembered. I texted him on Thursday (today is Saturday) and I still haven't gotten a response. He talked to me in the hallways on Friday and walked me to my next class which is weird since we haven't talked much since school started. So anyways, since he hasn't responded, I don't know what to do because it doesn't seem like he's ignoring me purposely and I don't think he'd purposely give me a fake number. He either: 1. Got his phone taken away (I asked him for his number while he was on his way to detention so that's a possibility) 2. Accidentally gave me the wrong number 3. Is doing some psychological thing and waiting awhile to text me back.
I don't know if I should ask him if he have me the wrong number (I'd wait until maybe next Wednesday) or if I should wait it out. If I do ask him how would I do it?
Sorry if this is confusing!
I'm a female, junior in highschool if that's any help! He's the same age as me. (link)
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Dear writer,
My advice would be to wait a couple more days and if you still haven't received a text from him I would ask him about it your probably right he may have gotten his phone taken away so when you see him just tell him I sent you a text and wasn't sure if you had gotten it. Than you'll get your answer I hope I helped :) ~mesachick51~
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My boyfriend and I were fooling around, which I haven't done for awhile and I'm a bit worried. We did not have sex, however he did finger me but he did rub his penis on my vagina, and I know it sounds a bit dimwitted to be worried when obviously nothing occurred, but I just need some reassurance! My period is due around this week, and I'm just worried, would that affect it to come late? (link)
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Dear writer,
you need to have had him ejaculate inside you for there to be any chance of you being pregnant. You need to relax yourself because stress can delay your period. I am sure you are fine so just don't worry. I know it's hard us females like to worry too much lol. I hope I helped. ~mesachick51~
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14F... My grandfather died today. It was verry sad because we where close, its hard for me because my dad died just a few years ago...* and my grandfather was all "dad" i had left. I don't know what to do. I keep freaking out! PlzZ help me (link)
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Dear writer,
First I would like to start by saying I am sorry for your loss. I do know what your going through I lost my grandma about a year ago and she was very close to me because my mom wasnt around a whole lot. I cant say that it will get easier because it won't it still hurts everyday but what has gotten me through is knowing that she is still watching over me just like your grandfather and dad are they are so proud of you. I also find that listening to songs though they make me cry help soothe me a little. I also like to go on her facebook and write how im feeling if you cant go to a facebook maybe just writing a letter to them can really help get your feelings out . I also made her a dedication video on youtube. I know its hard and it will be for a while but it gets easier I promise and they are always there in your heart. =) I hoped I helped ~mesachick51~
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i've been a binge eater and bulimic for years, but i never recognized it. My best friend did and she tricked me and made me go to a shrink... it was confirmed there. After a long time, the shrink finally told me, that subconsciously i had started when i started realizing i was a lesbian. Around the time the shrink told me, i started falling in love with another best friend... a guy. Is this just a reaction where i don't accept the truth, and why am i so afraid to follow this when the guy had asked me out before? is it because i dated his sister?
i've been his best friend since i was two... i really do feel like i love him, because throughout the process finding the issues i was hiding, the best friend who found them for me left, but he stayed. i have confirmed over and over that i am a lesbian, but i feel like i only need his love to survive now.
I'm not that good girl, i have an attempted suicide on my list of things done, and am trying to play my problems down for everyone... but my friend is just confusing the process of finding myself.
Why and what is happening, and what do i do? (link)
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I feel like you should maybe give this a try you never know where it could lead, but I really think you should let him know how you are feeling and see if maybe you guys could give it a try I mean it might not work out but you never know and if it doesn't may you just need some time away to think about what you want because that is what matters most YOU :) hope I helped ~mesachick51~
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I'm going to say that I'm 16/f and I'm very ashamed never to have had a boyfriend or ...never to even have been on a date =( V_V. I just do not understand. It drives me CRAZY. And the thing is. On places like myspace and facebook...guys joke around and flirt with me! While chatting, they flirt with me as well! They just never seem to make an attempt to want to have a relationship with me :| And I cannot believe that I'm saying this, but I'm desperate for a relationship x_x The worst part is...that guys tell my FRIENDS that they like me! But they never tell me! =( I'm quite an intelligent person ( I think so, anyways )) and I'm thinking that could be a turn off? Help, please ;_; The worst part..heh...is that my friends...who I think aren't THAT attractive..they almost ALL have been asked out! I don't understand! I'm nice, and I have a nice personality...but whyyyyy??????? ;_;
Thanks. ;_; (link)
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Dear are guys avoiding me,
I don't think guys are avoiding you. Everyone is different. I know this is dumb to say but its true your time will come don't worry. There is nothing wrong with being intelligent. Guys are weird around that age dont worry everything will turn out fine. I hope I helped
~MESACHICK51~
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I really like this guy. But i dont know if i can trust him. we've been going out for a year, and whenever we hang out he shows me pictures of his other girlfriend naked. We do threesomes sometimes, and dont get me wrong, she's really nice, i just dont know... is it normal for me to be jealous? im crying because i feel like im not as special as she is. I admit she looks better naked and has a vagina that tastes really good, but i feel really left out. what can i do to win him over? i really love him and he's really good at doing stuff to me. and i really dont want to let him go.. advice?
(13/f) (link)
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Dear 3 some,
my advice that I could best give to this would be to leave him alone. He seems like the type that is only intrested in one thing and that would be to get into your pants,and yes it is ok for you to be jealous I would be to. I would never share my bf with someone else but if you want to continue on like this than go for it, but if not dump him and find someone who wants you and only you.
~MESACHICK51~
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Ok so i have known this guy all my life! well a few years ago he moved ..but we still kept in touch occasionally. and also we have always considered each other bro and sis, well he moved back this past summer and everything was ok and all but now he calls me at a minimum of 8 times a day! and every weekend he is with me. now dont get me wrong i love the boy to death but he comes with me and my frieds on our "girls night outs" and then staurday nights he comes to my house then sunday he is hear to! and i dont want to be mean and i have even tried saying things in the past liek well why dont u go do this or that...and even trying to be mean dont work because he doesnt take me serious! please HELP ME i dotn no what i am going to do. and the other problem with him he tells me who i can and cant date..he doesnt liek me are anything he is just..i dont even no how to explain it. and GUys want talk to me alot becaus ethey think im dating him or there afraid he want liek him. (link)
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Dear Frienship/guys,
Sit him down and explain how you are feeling to him let him know that girls night out is just for girls and that he can't come. Let him know though that you like him around but that he is around way to much. You have to have a voice to him or else he won't take you seriously. If he starts to think you are kidding with him tell him that it's not a joke and that you are being serious. I hope I helped. ~MESACHICK51~
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my name is mark im 19 and im a male ... im dating a girl we dated for 2 years on and off we broke up over this past summer and over the summer she did stuff thats bothering me now in our relationship she had sex w. a total of 3 guys multiable times and messed around w/ 3 other guys she told me everything b4 we got back together and it botheres me alot i dont know whwat to do i talked to her about it and shes there for me and all but i dont know what to do i need some advice the only reason im w/ her is because i really love her anyother girl i would tell leave me alone but i need something that will help over that break up i only messed around w/ 2 girls but we didnt have sex or ne thing like that i dont know what to do help me out please (link)
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Dear mark,
If it is really bugging you there is two things you can do one ask yourself if you really really love this girl and can go on knowing this. Or two you can tell her that this is really bothering you and that you don't know if you can still be together with her after knowing this. Another thing you could do is the two of you sit down and try and work this out try and find a way the two of you can feel comfortable around one another. I hoped I helped. ~MESACHICK51~
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I'm so pissed! I take this lyrical class for beginners because its my first year. I've been taking dance for 5 years though, so I'm pretty good. All the other kids in my class SUCK! They're horrible and look so awkward. Even though I'm one of the best in my class I feel like the worst.
My teacher corrects every LITTLE thing I do wrong. I'm the only one she's ever correcting! Everyone else sucks, but they still don't get anything negative on their dancing!! She claims that she's doing me a "favor" my correcting me, but why doesn't she do all THEM a favor and help them cuz they need it more than I do?? My friend tells me that this teacher pushes the people who are good. i don't know if this applies to me though. As you can see i'm REALLY pissed about this because I'm used to being the best at everything... school, sports, you name it! (link)
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Dear dance student,
Your dance teacher is just giving you help and correcting you because your teacher thinks you have more potential than the others and that you are going to succeed in dancing so she wants to help you be the best you can. If you think your teacher is still doing to much wait one day after everyone leaves and ask your dance teacher about it ask her why she doesn't correct anyone else. See what she says you might be surprised. I hope I helped. ~MESACHICK51~
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ok so here's the deal. . . i really like this one girl (not so sure about vice versa) and we talk every day. . i mean all the time. . . and i wanted to ask her out this weekend. . it's just that i don't know what to say. . . i'm not good at that kind of stuff. . . advice on what to do with her would also be of great help. . . .i am in great need of help over this. . . i've known her for years and just started having feelings for her. . .i just need some help. . .
by the way, i'm 13, she's 14 (link)
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Dear writer,
The first thing you have to do is find out if she likes you. Which she probably does cause you sound like a cool guy. You can find out if she likes you by asking her yourself and telling her how you feel about her or you can ask a friend to ask her and have your friend tell her how you feel about her. Treat her really speacial. About asking her out you just have to go with your gut and be brave and just ask her. Ask her if she would like to go and do something sometime she will get the hint. I hope this helped let me know how things work out. ~MESACHICK51~
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Alright, I met this guy named Peter almost 9 months ago and i was dating his best friend at the time. But yeah after me and his friend broke up we started dating. And we dated for about 7 months and then his mom died and everything changed. We had a terrible break up. He started dating one of my friends and he even carved her name in his arm... I dont understand. It makes me feel like i didnt exsist...What do i do?!
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dear writer,
You should sit your ex boyfriend down and talk to him ask him what happended to you guys and how come you broke up. Tell him how you feel. Don't worry this is really common people who lose someone so close to them tend to not want to have things around that were around when his mom was alive. It's not you it's just he probably thinks about his mom when he is with you so don't be sad. There will be others girl. I hope I helped let me know if you need anymore advice. ~MESACHICK51~
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okay well.. i was gonna tell this guy how i feel about him, but i got nervous. could you help me think of a way to tell him?
~ASHLEY~ (link)
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Dear Ashley,
You could start out by saying hello to him and ask him how is he. remember smile. Than just be brave and tell him how you feel about him the worst that could happen is he laughs or something but if he does than he doessn't deserve you. Be brave and tell him you never know you could be his next girlfriend. So I say to you go for it. I hope I helped. ~MESACHICK51~
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im the shortest kid in my class and i like the tallest boy. Everybody know i like him and are always saying stuff like "yeah _ go get your girl" but im always like "shut up" and he acts like he doesnt here. The other day i was asleep in class and when i got up to do my work i looked up to glanced at him and he was looking right at me smilling and well im very say and turnd around really quick and it looked like he got mad or somthing cause he moved his seet and like facing his back at me and now hes wird all my friends say i should talk to him about that but i dont want to look silly talking about that and asking him if hes mad at me how can i talk to him about that with out starting with what happend so i wont look silly or what can i do?????????? (link)
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hey,
ok well you should talk to him but it doesn't have to start out by you asking him that question yet. Start the conversation by saying hi. Than ask him how he is doing than say can you a question. If he says yes go for it ask him the question and tell him that when he looked at you that you were just surprised that he was looking at you and that you liked him looking at you. Also remember to smile and be brave you can do it. You never know you two may end up hooking up. I hope this helped let me know how it went. ~MESACHICK51~
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hm ok,im gonna change the names around for reasons.
so there this kid named... *dj for instance and he likes me. but he also has a girlfriend named *lisa. we were at the library and *dj had me sit on his lap and he put his hands down this hole near the top of my jeans cuz they were hollister ones and then me and *dj talk online and he mails me on myspace calling me sexy well his girlfrined *lisa found out and i guess she really likes him and doesnt want him to break up with her.. and i was like do you like me? and hes like ya but i dont no what do to about *lisa. and i was like well its your choice, and *dj wants me to call him tonight.. so we can "talk" should i like him and wait for him to dump brittany or move on? he always tells me he loves me, and when i call hes on the phone with *lisa but he hangs up with her and talks to me........ i need help. i rate gooddd! (link)
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Dear complicated,
If this guy really likes you and you really like him I say go for it. He seems like a really nice guy. It's not your fault if he likes you and is over his girlfriend people do move on. So call him and tell him you like him to. Just remember if he dumps his girlfriend for you that it's not your fault you can't help that he likes you and you can't help that you like him. I hope this helped let me know how things go. ~MESACHICK51~
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There is a guy that I was friends with 8 years ago when i was little and i moved and since then i hadnt talked to him or seen him... up until a week and a half ago. i dont know why but i seem to have feelings for him already even though its been so long. We've talked every day in the past week and a half and hes a really nice and sweet guy and he told me he sorta likes me too... hes supposed to come to visit so i can see him again soon. i dont know how to act and even if we did really hit it off he doesnt think it would work since hes lives 5 hours away by car.. it really sucks and im supposed to be going down to my grammas(that lives 2 minutes away form him) this summer for 3 weeks and were planning on spending time together and other times between now and then but i have no idea what to say or how to act when i see him again for the first time and im really nervous. help please (link)
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hey,
you should get to know him again because since it was 8 years ago he probably has changed and has new interest's find out what they are. You two could have a long distance relantionship but it would be hard because I know that when you are with someone you wanna really be with them and be able to kiss them and stuff like that. That would be the hard part about it. One thing you could do is call each other a lot so you two could talk that would give you a sense of closeness. When you go to your grandma's just act normal you know the way you act around him. Just be yourself don't try and be anything you aren't because guys like when you be who u are and not something different I hope this helped let me know how it goes. ~MESACHICK51~
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My friend is a crybaby. I'm sorry if I'm being harsh, or freakishly blunt, but come on. The girl is thirteen years old, and she burst into tears when these two kids in my class wanted to see her yearbook. ALSO, she takes everything WAY too seriously. Every time anyone tries to offer helpful criticism, she gets all mad and starts talking shit about you to other people.
My question to you is...What do I do about this? Should I be friends with someone who is so...out of control? And what can I possibly say to her? (link)
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Dear writer,
Your friend probably just doesn't want to be told helpful criticism. It probably hurts her feelings because she feels like you are suppose to be her friend yet you are saying mean things to her. The reason she starts to cry is maybe because she is sensitive and fragile. Things you say to people like that can really be tooken the wrong way even if you mean it in a good way. Try telling your friend some of the good things she is compliment her instead of critizing her. She might be easier to get a long with that way. ~MESACHICK51~
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