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My friend
My friend is a crybaby. I'm sorry if I'm being harsh, or freakishly blunt, but come on. The girl is thirteen years old, and she burst into tears when these two kids in my class wanted to see her yearbook. ALSO, she takes everything WAY too seriously. Every time anyone tries to offer helpful criticism, she gets all mad and starts talking shit about you to other people.
My question to you is...What do I do about this? Should I be friends with someone who is so...out of control? And what can I possibly say to her?
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Dear writer,
Your friend probably just doesn't want to be told helpful criticism. It probably hurts her feelings because she feels like you are suppose to be her friend yet you are saying mean things to her. The reason she starts to cry is maybe because she is sensitive and fragile. Things you say to people like that can really be tooken the wrong way even if you mean it in a good way. Try telling your friend some of the good things she is compliment her instead of critizing her. She might be easier to get a long with that way. ~MESACHICK51~
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Omg how weird, my friend Kristen is just exactly LIKE THAT! She cried when me & my friend Katie stole her pencil as a joke & she couldn't find it & ugh..it was just a mess ♥. I realize from being friends with her that she's just very sensitive. You should just really talk to her about why does she cry for the simpilest things. My friend has her parents divorced & she took it really hard & i don't think she's over it. She just doesn't seem confident since people always walked out of her life..alot. Be friends with her but confront her. Tell her that your here for her. When you confront her don't put your tone of voice into someone whos willing to argue. Just say "Hey, not to insult you or anything, but why did you cry when _____?, I mean, it wasn't a big deal.". And just talk to her. ♥
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Some people are just more sensitive than others. She probably has a very low self esteem, and giving her any kind of criticism isn't the right way to approach her. Obviously she needs friends, but without knowing--she will drive people away.
Perhaps the best way to deal with her is to give her compliments to help boost her confidence.
I had a friend like this in my early highschool years and I slowly moved away from the friendship. I really couldn't handle how she taxed my emotions. Even at our 5 year highschool reunion she had a crying spell over the fact that her husband didn't show up. We were all perplexed at the fact that she hadn't matured.
After discussing this with a friend, I found out that she had been abused by her father from childhood on....it certainly explained a lot of things. I wish now that I would have spent more time trying to help her. She is probably still leading a miserable life.
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i think maybe you should confront her about her issue..she might need professional help..lets hope not...my friend used to be like that...me and my other friends just lightened her up..now she can take jokes and joke back..its kind of a surprise to us but we did it..you can kind of joke around with her..and be like its ok im just joking and all..i think she might get the hang of it and catch on and start doing that..and also tell her to suck it in and not cry..once she reaches highschool..oo she will really regret it..she will be made fun of more then now
_aeropostale_
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Friends except friends for who they are.
I have a friend who is VERY sensative.
People may say something to her without having the intentions to hurt her feelings but she takes it the wrong way and gets all sad.
I except her for who she is because she is a wonderful person.
You on the other hand are questioning your friendship and it shows that you have a problem with the way your friend acts.
No one is the same.
No one can just sit there and deal with their problems and not cry.
If you really have a problem with your friend then you two should not be friends.
♥
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Hey
First of all no ones perfect and everybody has their own faults, weakness, and problems. Most of the time people tend to close their eyes on the faults in people and open up their eyes on the good qualities. If you wanted to be her friend, you would have never even questioned your friendship. Obviously you do not conceder this girl your "real friend"! Why continue this relationship if you are unhappy!? You don't have to come up to her face and tell her how horrible she is, especially since she's as sensitive as you say. Just slowly stop communicating with her. She'll get the picture.
♥ maria ♥
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