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Next step! What should i do to get him back permanantly?
So me boyfriend and i of almost 2 years are nottogethher anymore. He broke up with me for the second timebecause he said he felt like we were friends with benefits because when we see each oter once a week we usually do somewhat sexual stuff that isnt sex. And his friends told him they didnt think we would work out cause his reason for getting back with me tthe first time wasnt strong rnough and the reason was that he thought we could work out. I called him right after the break up and he actually sat there listening to me. Then i texted him after the call asking him why he would do this. And then left it at no contact for two weeks then texted him saying i want to see him once more to see if those were his true feelings in person. He said no saying that hes clearing the bs off his life like i cleared the bs off my walls refering to a snapchat story inpostedd of my wall being free from his posters. Which is weird that hed be mad about me taking down his posters when he roke up with me!! Ad then he ignored my last text that day and so i waited a week more only to text him saying that i want to find closure and see him once more. And he ifnoreds me for two days so i wait and text him while he was online on facebook and simply said hi. And he still ifnoress me. My friend told me that hes not worth my time since he even broke up with me two times already!! But idk i still mosss him... Im like halfway out the door to moving on bht im just hesitating. What should i do to get him back permanantly or at the very least and most important get him to just let me see him in person one last time?! I aldo noticed that he always checks my snapchat story alll the time! But refuses to text me back
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He's not coming back.
It's normal to still have curiosity about what an ex is doing after a break-up, including checking out their snapchats and FB. This doesn't mean he still wants to date you.
He's already made his feelings clear by breaking up with you... twice. The best thing you can do now is move on.
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Dear Writer,
Your question caught my attention because I have gone through something similar to this. My advice
to you is to tell him once more that you would like to speak to him face to face one more time to get things clear so you can move on. Most likely he will say ok if not than I would suggest to just move on because if he can't give you a valid explanation than he isn't worth your time. Ok so if you do get him face to face you need to tell him to give you an actual reason other than his friends giving him crap for being with you, and if he truly cares about you than what his friends are saying should not matter it is you and him in the relationship not you and him and his friends. I am not sure how old you are but this sort of happened with me and my now husband he let his friends opinions of me get in the way of our relationship. He even broke up with me because of it to and started seeing some other girl, but I honestly just acted like I didn't care anymore and we talked and we got back together after being broken up for a month. Now everything is great. So you have to decide if this guy is worth your time if you truly want him back if not than move on girlie you sound like a good person who deserves to be treated right hope I helped and not rambled too much lol
sincerely ~~Measachick51~~
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Okay first of all I want you to know I don’t want you to think I’m being hypocritical or what not. But listen, you sound like a faithful fun loving girlfriend. If he can’t see that and make the move himself to get you back then neither should you. I completely understand of you trying to get him back, but if you two were meant to be you guys would’ve worked out the other times...Don’t start back at square one girl. Listen to your friend he honestly isn’t worth your time. Guarantee you that you can and will do better. And the snapchat peaks he does, well he’s doing it so he can keep up with your life. NOT trying to insert himself in your life again. If he wanted the relationship as bad you do back then he would be replying and snapchatting you and planning time to see you, to try and figure things out. He’s not though now is he? He is trying to move on slow and steady, that's why he is ignoring you. He is trying to let go of the feelings you two shared. Missy you should do the same. I know you’re probably not going to be thrilled with my answer, but I’m trying to look out for what’s best for you. As an outsider I can tell a lot that you might be shoving to the side. And girl that feeling of missing him is gonna stay with you for awhile, if he was your "first love" Honestly my "first love" I’m still not even fully over yet and it’s been a year now! I have a boyfriend of my own now but those feeling and memories my ex and I shared will always be in my head. They are memories, you have to learn to let them stay that way, and not try to bring them back and relive them. Move on to YOUR future don’t dwell on the past. Plus if you still want to get back with him then try maybe being not so "needy" give him space to think things out. If you two are meant to be it will work out, don’t push things. I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope this helped some even if it just helped jog your own idea.
Good Luck ~ Angie
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