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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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I didn't know which catagory to put this in so I just placed it here...I'm 14/f and i feel everyday like i'm making everyone's life miserable. Everyone says I'm a crybaby and too dramatic and that no one wants to hang around with someone like me. I feel useless and I'm wondering if I should just quit...leave...whatever way you wanna put it. I just dont want to bug anyone anymore...that's my question. Should I quit?...plz and thnx
There's no need to quit. You're 14 and female, your hormones are all over the place, you're becoming aware of yourself and your place in the world and it can be a scary place. You also sound as though you are a sensitive soul, and that is no bad thing, there are not enough people like you.
Try to keep a diary and write all your feelings down, it sounds as though you don't have a big enough outlet for all your emotions at the moment. Within the next couple of years you should find that everything starts to stablise and you will be feeling much better about yourself. If you are dramatic, how about turning it to your advantage and join a drama group? You could be the next big star. Even if you're not, it's another outlet.
If you can channel these energies you are experiencing, you will probably find that you have more control over them, people won't be so wary of hanging around you and you, in turn, will start to feel better about yourself.
Hope that helps and the best of luck to you.
This friend I used to be really close with all of a sudden treats me like I'm a stranger. When I talk to them, they respond briefly then turn away. It's worse than being a stranger, cuz my friend's can be pretty friendly with strangers, not cold and distant like lately. I try talking to them about this recent change but they get all defensive, so what am I supposed to do? I don't want to lose a friend =\
Has your friend heard something that is not necessarily true that could have brought about this change of attitude?
It really depends on how much you want to resolve this. If you want to try again, you could try asking if this is the case.
If you don't want to keep trying, maybe you should put it down to experience and move on to a better friend. After all, do you really want to be friends with someone who can behave in this way and not give an explanation?
People do drift apart as they get older and do different things, so perhaps you should think about letting this one go and moving on. You sound like a sensitive person who would be a good friend, so give someone else the chance to enjou that.
Hope that helps and good luck.
ok sorry if this may seem gross but this is it:
when ever my frinds make me laugh they make me laugh hard. i laugh so hard...... i pee in my pants,what should i do is this normal?do not ask me to talk to a doctor or my mom either (personal reason).
It happens unfortunately and the older you get (especially after childbirth, the worse the problem can be. So you need to do pelvic floor exercises. The one given below is an excellent one, probably the best you can do. It does take time though to notice the effects. The other thing you can do to help is to consciously pull in your lower abdomen muscles every time you think about it. This can be done discreetly so you can do it anywhere. Concentrate on the abdomen just above the pubic bone and pull inwards and upwards at the same time, keeping your shoulders down. Hold for a count of 10 then repeat 5 times. When this bcomes easy, up it to a count of 20 repeating 10 times etc. This will help to strengthen the muscles around the pelvic area, giving support to the other exercise.
Doing this now will save all sorts of embarrassing problems later on.
Good luck.
hey my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and iam going to be babysitting an autistic child for a whole month in june what kind of activities should I plan.I know autistic kids don't like change so what should I do if i make a mistake and he pitches a fit?
Talk to his parents and get as much information as you can about him, about his likes and dislikes, his routines and what upsets him. You will also need to check on what they do when he does get upset, to calm him down. Make lots of notes and follow all the advice they give you. Always stay calm even if he does kick off and don't try any new activities unless the parents say it's ok to. They will know best as to what he is likely to react against.
As all autistic people are different it would be difficult to suggest any activities without knowing him.
However, they can be wonderful, intelligent people so enjoy your time with him and good luck.
i was wondering if sally hanson lip inflation worked good & if i should get it.
thanks
I've never tried it but if you can get it, Du Wop's Lip Venom is highly rated.
Hope that helps.
Could someone please tell me how I can get rid of blanket weed in a large fish pond. It grows at a phenominal rate.
You should be able to buy a meshed bundle of straw from a fish stockists or large pet shop. You may even be able to make one yourself. Float this on the water and it's supposed to keep the weed at bay. I've tried it in the past and it does work.
Hope that helps, good luck.
today i let the dog out to chain it up and it ran out of my yard and down the street and i tried to catch it but before i could it ran out in the street and it got hit, and hes hurt and i don't think hes going to make it. And i feel like its all my fault! i don't know what to do i feel so bad. and now i feel bad that i didn't go to the vet with my mom and my brother, but i just couldn't go cause i feel so bad. what do i do?
It's quite natural for us to blame ourselves if something bad happens but it really doesn't sound as though you did anything wrong. Dogs like to run, and their evolutionary awareness hasn't caught up with cars yet so they don't tend to consider them.
If you were letting him out to put him on a chain for safety, you were looking after his wellbeing, no one could blame you for that. Accidents happen unfortunately and it's awful for you and your family. It's understandable you feel bad about it.
Don't stress about not going to the vet with him, after what happened it would have been too much for you to cope with. That's normal too.
All you can do at this stage, regardless of the outcome, (and I hope it's a good one), is to be there to offer support and hopefully receive it as well.
If he recovers, is there some way of preventing this from happening again? Maybe keep him on a leash until you have him chained or close a gate?
That would also show your family that you are concerned and would like to make sure he or another dog in the future would be safer.
Hope that helps and the best of luck to you.
what are some good vampire videos
Van Helsing is a good one, the classic Dracula, The Lost Boys, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Queen of the Damned to mention just a few.
Hope that helps.
I know this will be gross but anyways.. after I poop my but hole hurts like it aches..Do you think I got Hemorrhoid problems?
If you have hemorrhoids you would usually notice some bright red blood loss. If there is non present, it could be that you are slightly constipated and your motions are a little too large and impacted to pass smoothly.
If this is the case, try to include more fibre in your diet, eat less fat and starch and drink lots more water.
Try this for a couple of weeks, if it doesn't improve, you should get checked out by the doctor.
Hope that helps, good luck.
i think i may have OCD. i've read up on it and i have all the symptoms. i especially struggle with "obsessions" as in i get one little thought stuck in my head and i think about it over and over for months.
i've tried doing everything i can about it, but to no avail. i spoke to my mum about it but she thinks its just worry and stress. she won't take it at all that i may have a mental illness. i really want to see a therapist or a doctor, but i'm only 17. my question is, could i see someone without my mum finding out? like i said, i can't talk to her about it. if not, what's something i can do to help myself until i turn 18 and can see a doctor myself? it's really starting to affect and has been persisting for over a year now. please help me. thank you
If it's distressing you, you should see a doctor. Yes you can see one without your mum finding out. They are not allowed to say anything. If the doctor agrees with you, they will refer you to a therapist who deals with this type of problem.
Try not to think of it as a mental illness, lots of people have OCD and continue to lead relatively normal lives. You learn how to deal with it.
Your mum probably is in a bit of denial, no parent wants to think there may be a problem with their child, even if it's one that can be treated. Try to talk to her again, quietly tell her how you feel, and that it's treatable.
If you really feel you can't approach your mother, see the doctor anyway. The sooner you start to deal with this, the sooner you will be able to move on with your life.
Best of luck.
alright well eversince i was very young,
i've always had this fear of small circles in a
cluster. they just freak me out. whenever i see
a cluster of things [ie:airbubbles in water,the teeth of a comb,polka dots, bard codes] anything related to that, i FREAK OUT. i almost want to cry, and i dont know what to do. whenever i tell my parents, they laugh at me, and say i have an OCD.
but wont take me to the doctors to see what it really is. they make me sick to my stomach.
someone please help me. has anybody
ever heard of a phibia like this?
I've never heard of this phobia but there are so many. I'm sure there are people you know who have phobias, they may just not say anything about it.
It doesn't sound like OCD as you don't seem to have a compulsion to do things. Phobias are very real, very frightening and very hard to deal with. It is very sad that your parents are not taking you seriously, unfortunately, in most phobia cases, unless someone has personal experience of one, it seems very hard for them to be sympathetic.
It sounds as though, when you were too young to remember, something happened to alarm you, probably something so slight that to an adult, there was nothing to be scared of and it was forgotten. However, with your limited knowledge at that point, of what was safe and what was not, that fear turned inwards and grew, leaving you with a distressing fear.
You don't say how old you are, but is there a teacher or a school councillor you could ask for help? Tell them you have tried to talk to your parents with no success but you really want help to overcome this before it starts to rule your life. Perhaps you could go to the doctors on your own?
The problem with phobias is that if they are not tackled early on, they do grow and they become so much harder to get rid of.
Hope that helps and the best of luck to you.
hi, i am in 8th grade math and I need a little help. We are learning to solve equations algebraically as well as graphically. I understand how to solve an equation algebraically but not graphically. Can someone please list the steps of solving an equation graphically?
the was the problem that was given to solve the problem graphically.
y= x^2 + 2x - 8
y= -2x-11
thank's a lot! you dont know how much you will be helping me =)
1. Draw a table for each equation listing values for x and the resulting values for y. The usual thing would be to have a simple table with two rows (x on the top row and y on the bottom row). Sometimes you are given the highest and lowest values to use for x. If not start at 0 and go up to say 10/15/20. BUT looking at your second equation you should probably have some negative values for x. Perhaps you could try -10 to +10.
2. Draw the axes for a graph with the values from your tables.
3. Plot the points for each equation to draw a line for each.
4. Note the point or points where the two graphs cross. This will give you your solution(s).
I'm in no way a maths genius, but I think that's right.
Hope it helps, good luck.
I have a twin sister, and I am always helping her with school. I like helping her because she tries really hard. But I get very impatient when I am waiting for her to answer a certain question for a long time and I yell at her. I feel bad and I always tell myself I wont do it again but I do. What can I do ??
p.s. sometimes she gets an attitude when I explain something wrong and that gets me angry too because she acts like she is always right and I dont know how to handle this
-thanx
I have twins and I know it's very difficult for one twin to help the other, especially if one has to point out the other has made a mistake. You're too close in age to get away with this and could come across as trying to be superior. You need to try to think of how you would feel if the tables were turned, and treat her as you would want to be treated. If you get angry it will make her worse and in turn you will become more frustrated. Also, her acting as though she is always right can be defence mechanism as she doesn't like to admit she could be wrong, as this could show weakness.
If you like to help her, bear all this in mind, and if she is really struggling for an answer, try to put the question another way.
You need to talk to each other and say how the other's reactions affect each one and find ways to get around this.
Best of luck.
i just asked a question about the guy i like but know that i think about it i feel its weird for a mixed girl (black and white) to go out with a white guy. is it weird? im afraid what people would say or how they would look at me. it worries me. im afraid people would talk about me and him. im getting very uncomfortable. is this weird?
There's nothing weird about it, you're both human beings so if you want to go out with him, do so. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says, if you're happy it's fine.
You will always get some people that will make adverse comments, but they are not worth the time spent in listening to them.
Best of luck to you.
Ok when we hired our babysitter we agreed for 7:30am to about 3:30 from Monday to Friday and it's a well paid job. In the last 2 mnths we increased by 50% and since like the 5 mnths she's been working she comes anywhere from 8-9. My mum wants to g back too work but she says she can't come for 7:30...so should we give her the boot?
And I was wondering what age limit should we have for the next babysitter? Like is under 45 too old still?
If she was employed to do certain hours and she is consistantly not doing them, she's hardly living up to the contract is she? Also, hard as it may sound, she may need the money to take care of her mother-in-law but she is being paid to look after your family through the week, which she is not doing as asked.
Your mother needs to talk to her, it may that with her commitments and time management issues, she would be better off looking for a job that is more in keeping with what she can cope with, leaving your mother free to find someone who can work the hours she needs.
Good luck.
hey, this is kind of a gross question, but does anyone know how to treat a blister? Mine is from a burn. Its all filled with liquid. It doesn't hurt, I was just wondering. Some people have told me to pop it and bandage it, some people have told me to just leave it. I need to know how to treat it properly. Thanks. I will rate high for helpful answers.
NEVER pop a blister, it's there for a reason. It's your body's way of trying to heal itself, the serum inside is protecting and healing the injured part.
If you pop it you are more than likely to get an infection in it and it will take a lot longer to heal and possibly scar.
The best thing is to leave it alone, if it is in a place where it is likely to get damaged, cover it lightly with a plaster or gauze and tape. leave it uncovered at night so it can heal quicker.
Hope that helps.
for the past 2 days i have constantly felt like i have had to go pee once i go pee i still have this feeling and when i pee its not alot just like a drip this is a very uncomfortable feeling what do you think might be the problem?
It does sound as though you have a urinary tract infection. You need to get this treated as soon as you can as these can sometimes get worse, travel up to the kidneys and cause an infection there. That is very painful and will make you feel very ill.
In the meantime drink plenty of water as the bacteria doubles every twenty minutes and the water flushes a lot of them away. Cranberry juice also has a natural antibacterial element to it, so try to drink that as well. However, it sounds as though you need antibiotics too.
Good luck.
OK, I don't know if anyone knows anything about dream meanings, but, I really need help with this one. It's disturbing to me. I had a nightmare that my 2 year old daughter was getting mauled & eaten by a tiger and the worst is nobody was doing anything about it. Any ideas?
Your daughter is getting to the stage where she is more mobile and more likely to have little accidents through curiosity. This plays on your sub conscious, which transfers it during sleep into a manageable dream of her being in an extreme situation, you feeling helpless and no one coming to her aid.
As our children get older, it is natural for us to become increasingly concerned about the world they are about to enter and the dangers they may face. We also know we cannot protect them forever.
All we can do is give them the grounding to identify and protect them from the 'tigers' and hope that they will stay safe.
You are having a perfectly normal, caring parental reaction to your daughter growing up.
Hope that helps, good luck.
I have been dating a guy for the past 1.6 years.We are pretty serious and we love each other a lot. But we keep quarelling every time over relly small matters. We are just not able to cope with our differences. Is it because we are of different sun signs? Cuz he is a sagittarius and im a cancerian. But both of us can't even think about breakin up. But all this quarelling gives me second thoughts about him.Advice needed urgently.
Sagitarians can be a little tactless but don't mean to hurt feelings, they also find it difficult to cope with negativity.Cancerians tend to be very sensitive and emotional.
That being said, it sounds as though you both need to learn to tolerate each others differences, it's what makes life interesting after all. It would be very boring to have someone who agrees with you all the time.
If you both really care about each other, you need to talk and work out ways of dealing with your differences.
If you are unable to find a middle ground maybe you would be better off with other people.
Good luck.
Hello..
My husband and I have been married for 6 months. We both are vigins and we are in our early 20's.
We have tried to have sex but everytime we try I experience severe pain and we stop. We tried lubricant but that didn't help either.
Please help! Is there any methods?
It sounds as though you may have something called dyspareunia. It can be caused by tension and emotional stress amongst other things such as a yeast infection. The sheer pressure of your situation could have been enough to trigger it. If it is this, the longer it goes on the more difficult it is to deal with.
I would suggest you seek help from your doctor or gynecologist to rule out any medical reasons. After that you could try sex therapy or working out the problem yourselves.
You could try agreeing to not even try to have sex for a month, just cuddle and stroke each other. Eventually, you may find yourself getting to the point where you are happy to take it further, but it has to be your decision, as you are the one suffering the pain. If you both are making a conscious decision to avoid penetration, you could find that is the trigger that makes you relax enough to go for it. Don't wait any longer, get it sorted out as soon as you can.
Best of luck.