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Sudden Change
This friend I used to be really close with all of a sudden treats me like I'm a stranger. When I talk to them, they respond briefly then turn away. It's worse than being a stranger, cuz my friend's can be pretty friendly with strangers, not cold and distant like lately. I try talking to them about this recent change but they get all defensive, so what am I supposed to do? I don't want to lose a friend =\
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
staright forward answer:
-if you have a b/f they are jealous and they are tryin to give you a cold treatment
- if you have something they want, they are jealous
75% friends do that because they are jealous of something you have that they wish they could have.
it sounds like they are shuning you.. shunin which i just learned is where two or more freinds ignore and juve you the cold shoulder for no reason.. my freinds use to be into that. which i find veryy stupid and immature, but hey it happens..
just stay yourself.. dont stoop down to their level. if u show sadness then that would make them happy.. dont show any signs of them winning their little game. they will come around after tget grow up.
-Adrianna
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Has your friend heard something that is not necessarily true that could have brought about this change of attitude?
It really depends on how much you want to resolve this. If you want to try again, you could try asking if this is the case.
If you don't want to keep trying, maybe you should put it down to experience and move on to a better friend. After all, do you really want to be friends with someone who can behave in this way and not give an explanation?
People do drift apart as they get older and do different things, so perhaps you should think about letting this one go and moving on. You sound like a sensitive person who would be a good friend, so give someone else the chance to enjou that.
Hope that helps and good luck.
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People change, for better or worse. It seems to me that your friend is trying to change, and that their friendship with you isn't part of that package. I've had many friends who, whether dropping an old shared hobby or discovering pent-up emotions or whatever, decided that it is sometimes best to part ways.
If this person treats you like a stranger, chances are they want you to be a stranger. If they get defensive with you, then they're probably dealing with emotions they don't want to talk about for some reason.
All you can do is continue to respect and be friendly to him/her; if you are a good friend, then you'll keep the friends who matter. That's really all you can do.
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I know exactly what your going through. I used to be best friends with this one girl and then we got in a fight. Now, I just try to be civil with her, you know, have a somewhat normal question and she treats me like I'm not worth her words. I know it hurts, but you just got work through it. I'm not exactly sure why your friend is doing this, try talking to her and only her. When your talking one on one, it's a lot easier to get through. Also, don't stoop down to there level. Keep being friendly. Also, start talking to other people as well. Maybe you just need a break from your old friends. You never know. Don't ditch them, but just give them a little space. I'll assure you, it will all blow over, don't worry. If you have anymore questions, you know where to find me. Hope this helps and feel better.
-cindy <3
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