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Okay well. Every night my babe and I talk on the phone telling talking about how much we love each other. Then we mouth it to each other during class and stuff. But I want to say something different. Something more than "i love you." Something that would make smile and feel good. any ideas? ;] thanks.

How about...

I'm crazy about you.

I adore you.

You're the best thing that ever happened to me.

I'm the luckiest person alive to have you.

The day we met was the best day of my life.

i'm pretty stylish as it is. but i wanna be, really stylish, and im sick of wearing abercrombie,because im dressed just like everyone else. so whats some good stores, where i can really express how i wanna dress? but isnt like really expensive. idc how much it is, as long as its not much more then abercrombies stuff..

any ideas?!

My best friend in high school was voted "best dressed" every year... and believe it or not, she was from a very poor family! Her secret: she bought tons of fashion magazines and cut out pictures of the looks she liked. She kept those pictures in her purse and whenever she went shopping, she pulled them out and put together whole outfits using them as a guide. But she hardly ever bought the exact brands that the magazines showed (which were ridiculously expensive), she just found cheaper things that looked exactly the same. And no one ever knew the difference, because she looked like she stepped right out of the magazine!

I am 16 years old and I just got this new boyfriend. He is super nice and a really talented musician. I dont find him physically attractive at all actually. But his personality, humour, and talent make up for it. I like him, I really do. But I feel really akward being around him when it is just the two of us. I am trying to cope with it but it doesnt seem to be working. I dont want to break up with him because people are telling me that he really likes me. They tell me that me going out with him is the best thing ever for him because he is sobering up. He used to be into drugs and alcohol and smoking but now that he is going out with me...he has stopped doing all of that. I like how much he has changed but I still feel akward being with him. I dont want to break up with him! Is there anything else I can do? If so then please help me. I would really appriciate it. Thx in advance.

Hmmm... it sounds as though you really "like" this guy, but that maybe you aren't really attracted to him. Of course, there's a lot more to relationships than physical attraction, but that is a pretty important part. Maybe you're feeling awkward because you still don't know him that well, and once you get more comfortable being alone with him, things will get better. So maybe you just need to give it some more time. But if time goes on and you just aren't "feeling it", then it's probably best for both of you if you break up. It's wonderful that you have had such a positive influence on him, but you shouldn't base a relationship on being someone's saviour. It is his responsibility to keep his act clean, and you shouldn't feel guilty or responsible for what he does if you break up.

i have just discovered that i dont like my bf
but i like having Å bf
and i dont think thats fair for me to do to him
to keep going out with him
i want both of us to move on
but how do i brake up with him? 13/F btw
my first boyfriend so i havent done this before
by text? over the phone? in person?
im texting him now. how am i suposed 2 act?
like normal? like somthings wrong?
please help!!
thank you so much!!

You're absolutely right... it's not fair to either of you to keep going out if you don't really have feelings for him anymore. Breaking up is never easy, but it's best to get it over with and not drag things out. First of all, don't do it by texting him. Either call him on the phone or wait until you see him in person. (If you're texting him now, you could tell him that you want to call him because you need to talk to him about something). Be honest with him, but try not to hurt his feelings. You could say something like, "I've really had a good time going out with you, but I just don't feel the same way I did in the beginning, and I think we need to break up." If he still likes you, there's really no way to do it or nothing you can say that will prevent him from being hurt. So you just have to do it as nicely as possible so you can both move on.

that aberombie and hollister, is NOT fashionable AT ALL. i mean, when you think about it, all it is it says there name, and has a seagull on it. i mean if you love seagulls or mooses, then pshh its the store for you. but if not, then it freakin sucks. i mean, if you look at what they have, its like always the sameee. and i dont know, i just think its no longer nothing special. and im realizing that theres alot of other stuff out there. but ive shopped at abercrombie and hollister for so long, i dont know what are cute true fashion stores.

what are some?

You may not believe this, but I promise it's true... you don't have to shop at the "in" stores in order to be fashionable. As long as the clothes you buy fit you well and look good on your body type, you will look good. And that's what it's all about, isn't it? Looking good! Not looking like an advertisement for the trendy store of the moment. Add some cute accessories (earrings, bracelets, matching shoes & purse, etc) and it won't matter where you bought the stuff... you'll look like you stepped out of a fashion magazine.

why do people say to not use petroleum jelly on a tampon if you want to make insertion easier?

Coating the actual tampon with petroleum jelly will ruin its absorbancy (the jelly will block it from soaking up your flow). However, you CAN use it on the applicator to make insertion easier. Unless the petroleum jelly is dirty for some reason, it should't cause an infection or any other problem.

welll, i'm dating this guy who is 17& a junior& i'm 14& in the 8th grade, next year in novemeber he will be 18& a senior& I will be 15& a freshman.
Do you think this age difference is wrong?

& so i'm allowed to see him I told my mom he was 16 turning 17. I really like him alot, i'm just afriad of getting hurt.
like last night I was with him& we went to a playground& we layed in this tree house& looked at the stars then I fell asleep on his cheast and he didn't kiss me, he'd only kiss my forehead or my hand because he didn't want to rush anything, then he mentioned that his favorite movie was spiderman, so as I was leaving to go back home and he was laying down on the floor and I went over his head& kissed him like they do in the movie, the upside down kiss.
do you think I should have done that?
I really liked last night, alot.

It sounds like he's a decent guy to be taking things slow with you. Just remember that a guy of 17 is probably going to want more than you may feel ready for. Make a decision now about how far you are willing to go, and plan what you will say and how you will react if he wants to go further than your limits. And don't give up your plan for a guy who will be leaving for college in a year.

Okay hey im a 13/f and i have a problem , i ave this friend and he is black but i love him to death like he's my best guy friend and he is always there i just like him as a friend because i have a boyfriend but this guy likes me more then just a friend from what i have heard so can you help me ??
Love,
Bubble gum

If you only like him as a friend, then you need to let him know. And here's a tip I've been given by several guys: it's almost impossible to be "just close friends" with a guy. Most guys, if they like you enough to be good friends, are gonna eventually want it to go farther than friendship. There are exceptions, but from what guys have told me, it's pretty rare. So keep that in mind and be careful with your guy friends, that you aren't unintentionally leading them on by being too close of friends with them.

i was over my friend's house this weekend, & her cousin came over. i had a feeling he liked me, but i was never sure.(he has a girlfriend) he likes to play around alot, so when i was lying in front of the t.v. trying to go to sleep, he came up & layed beside me.(my friend was already alseep) i turn away from him, & he puts his arm around my waist. since he has a girlfriend, i take his arm off of me and push him away. then he puts his hand on my butt, and i move his hand again. since i was turned away from him, he gets on the other side of me & out of no where starts kissing me. at that moment, i'm in shock, but i still push him off of me. then i lay on my stomach to hide my face so he won't try it again. he gets up & leaves, so i think he's not coming back. but then he returns with a blanket & covers both of us up. i take the cover off of me, but then he stands up & gets on top of me & starts kissing me again. the next day, he & his girlfriend come over my friend's house & i'm upstairs with my friend, laying on the floor again. (i didn't know he was there) then he comes up beside me once again, but covers up my face so my friend won't see him kissing me. am i wrong for not telling anybody?

This guy is a real jerk to be doing this stuff when he has a girlfriend. Yes, you should probably tell your friend, so she can warn you when he's coming over and help you avoid being around him. I don't think it's necessary to tell his girlfriend (she might not believe you, anyway, if you're someone she doesn't really know). If he keeps it up with other girls (which he probably will), she'll eventually figure out what a dog he is and hopefully dump his butt.

my dad is the biggest jerk. technically he buys my affection with materialistic things but we don't spend time together because he's an a** hole. he always throws mine and my moms stuff around and thinks its "junk" but he thinks his stuff is so valuable. today he went through our shed outside and threw out all of my stuff. stuff from my childhood, stuff that i had emotional attachment to and all of my sleds for winter because i haven't used them...of course i haven't used them it summer!! he always says we have stuff we dont use and we should throw it out but we do use it he just doesn't believe us. my mom has been thinking about divorce because he's always been like this and he makes me and my mom wait on him hand and foot and whenever we ask what he did that day he says "i did the laundry" and thats it, meanwhile my mom and i vaccum every weekend, make him dinner, make him coffee no matter what hour of the night, get him dessert, clean every room of the house, take care of our five cats, although he does feed our one dog, once a day. its just rediculous and we cant take it anymore but my mom can't afford the legal fees for a divorce and my dad doesn't believe in divorce. and he complains every weekend when i leave the house to regain my sanity! i don't know what to say to him to make him realize what a jerk he is, he's extremely stubborn and thinks he's always right even if he knows he's wrong. please help me with this jerk

You mentioned that your dad buys your affection with materialistic things, but doesn't spend much time with you. My dad was the same way. He was always too busy to do anything with me, but he did buy me pretty much anything I wanted. It took me a while to realize it, but that was just his way of showing affection. People have different ways of showing love... some people are real huggy and like to be physically close; some show affection by helping and doing favors for people; and some people show it by giving gifts. Sometimes it's easier to just accept people for how they are and not fight it. If you want your dad to spend more time with you, you may have to join him in doing something he likes to do. It sounds like he's the type of person who doesn't like clutter, and likes things to be organized. Maybe you could ask him to help you organize your room by building some shelves in your closet or something like that... you could work on it together and maybe spend some time talking and getting closer. I know that's only one part of the problem, but it might help some.

This is has do vendors and massues. Why do they do the following: (1) tells a thin/skinny girl size 4 the following: You have to be a size 10 I am selling jeans that are a size 10.? (2) tells a girl with the most beautiful skin that they
need to use skin products in order to get good skin. (3) tells a thin/skinny girl with no celluite You should use a cellulite
cream?"

Their goal is to sell their product so they can make money and buy their own wives and daughters the jeans, skins products and cellulite creams they need. Always keep that in mind, and only purchase the products that YOU feel you need and will make you happy.

I told this girl a secret and she is going in the halls and screaming I know your secret. Help

Obviously, this girl wants attention... she wants everyone to come up and ask "What is the secret??" Then she can say "I won't tell", as a way of proving to you and others that she is a loyal friend. Kind of messed up, but apparently she needs that attention for some reason.

What you can do is tell her, "I'm so glad I can trust you with my secret. I know you would never tell anyone." If she hasn't told anyone, that will make her feel good and hopefully keep her from telling. If she HAS told your secret, that will make her feel really guilty... which is better revenge than just gettig mad at her!

13/f
hey i need help i have these to best friends ihave only known them for about two years and the first year my friends parents decieded to start hateing me so they made theyre kids hate me to they said i was a bad influence yeah right!so they made my friends come up to me on the last day of school to tell me. so i said ok and we stoped being friends for a while but my friends and i started being friends again and i told my friends parents that i would not do what ever the heck i did before i again. but now my friends parents hate me again. its pisses me off and scares me at the same time becasue she is trying to take my friend from me again. and i think that im going to be abanded again. and i dont know if i should even make a big deal of this but my friends seem like friends but im not sure if theyre just to afraid to tell me off themself and theyre just acting like my friends because it wouldnt be the first time

If you don't already know, try to find out what the parents don't like about you. Sadly, it may be too late to change their opinion of you. But you can use it as a lesson for the future, and try to avoid that behavior so your new friends' parents won't form the same opinion.

17/f. I love to read. I read almost anything really. But right now I'm in to reading the classics(my favorites: Saligner, Bradbury, Steinbeck, Orwell etc.) I just need more titles. Anything under the category 'classics' would be helpful. And also a quick summary-type on what the book is about would be very helpful. Thanks!!!

All of Jane Austen's books are AWESOME!!! Pride and Prejudice is her most famous and is one of the best-loved books of all time, but her other 5 books are wonderful, too. They are:

Pride and Prejudice
Sense and Sensibility
Mansfield Park
Northanger Abbey
Emma
Persuasion

All of her books include a love story, but they are actually very humorous, because they all poke fun of the 1800s British obsession with class and social standing. Her books were written in the early 1800s and at first it can be a little challenging to catch on to the language and writing style, but it is well worth the effort!

summers coming and i want to loose 25lbs over break for my junior year. i mainly want to loose weight in my gut and thighs, and perhaps back (weird, i know).
what i need is good diet tips.
motivational tips that will help me.
meals that will help fill me up so i don't overeat.
and a workout plan that is effective on the parts i want to tone/loose weight in.

any help is appreciated.
and thank you.

Find some type of aerobic activity that you enjoy and can do every day, or at least every other day; something that gets your heart pumping and gets you sweating for at least 30 minutes. A few ideas are:

1) treadmill/stairmaster/stationary bike
2) bike riding
3) aerobics class
4) jogging or walking
5) swimming laps

Planning out your excerise regime is the easy part, but staying motivated can be hard, especially since it takes a few months to start seeing the results. A few tips for staying motivated:

1) If you can, bring a magazine, an ipod, or a book on tape while you exercise, to make it more enjoyable.
2) Make short-term goals and reward yourself when you accomplish them. For instance, for every 5 days you exercise, get yourself a pedicure or a new pair of earrings.
3) Even if you don't feel like exercising, force yourself to do it. It's really easy to get out of the habit if you miss one or two times! But once you get into the habit, it really does make you feel good and you want to keep it up!

Good luck!!!

OKAY. well I like REALLY so badly want a trampoline and its like not even funnyy like i am obssesed over it SOO much but my parents never listen. I am only 13 and they say i cant get one because its dangerous..
i keep trying to convince them but i am running out of options.. I KNOWW I KNOWW its dangerous but still i know how to be careful :-)

alsoo... they think i will enjoy for a week and then forget about it like i did with my old tether-ball i had.. BUT i didnt even want the tether ball they just got it for my brithday. AND my cousin broke it. but this is totally different and they dont understand that i will be on it everyday.. they dont trust me.

SO I NEED ADVICE.. DOES ANYONE KNOW ANY OTHER WAY THAT I CAN CONCVINCE THEM? OR LET THEM TRUST ME ? I TYRED TALKING TO THEM 34958439075 TIMES BUT IT DOESNT WORK SOO HELPPPP

The truth is, trampolines ARE very dangerous. Yes, pads and nets can keep you from falling off, but the worst trampoline accidents (back and neck injuries) happen from falling ON the trampoline, if you hit it when the bed is popping back up. The force is a lot greater than people realize.

That said... millions of people have trampolines and use them safely. If you convince your parents to get you one, make some rules for it and stick to them. You should never double bounce someone... in fact, you should have a rule that only one person can bounce at a time. (Most backyard tramp accidents happen when someone gets double-bounced, either on purpose or by accident). If you can convince your parents that you're aware of the dangers, and that you'll stick to the safety rules, maybe they'll give in. Just be careful! :)

My friends and i are really close- at times ! i mean they seem to like me but we fight all the time and i dont feel like i fit in. AT ALL ! They seem to push me away alot like they dont talk to me or seem interested in what im saying. They do this alot and im not sure if its cause im me or cause there upset. I dont know if this is saying anything to me like a hint or what ?

It's hard to answer your entire question without knowing all the details, but I will comment on one part of it. You said your friends sometimes don't talk to you or seem interested in what you're saying. Well, here's a tip: If you want someone to be interested in what you're saying, talk about their favorite subject... THEM! Sometimes we think that if we talk about ourselves, or things that interest us, it will make us seem interesting to others. But the fact is that everyone is more interested in themselves than in anyone else. That's just the way people are. So ask your friends questions that will get them talking to you about themselves... ask about their sports or hobbies or boyfriends or whatever. If you seem interested in them, that will make you more interesting to them!

Ok in clas we had to excercise while following it on thsi video and the guy kept saying to make sure to tighten your butt and abs while excercising.

Does that mean that I'm supposed to suck in my tummy when I excersise? What about the butt thing?

The guy is probably wanting you to keep good posture while excerising. (Sometimes people tend to arch their lower back, sticking out their butt and stomach, which can cause lower back pain, plus it doesn't look that good!). Keeping your abs and butt tight helps keep your back nice and straight. People sometimes call it "suck and tuck"... suck in your lower tummy, as if you're trying to touch your belly button to your tailbone... and squeeze your buns together while tucking your hips forward.

what did YOU do when your dog/pet died?
my dog didnt die but when he does what do i do?

can you stuff him?

I know how you feel... when my dog started getting older, I kept wondering what it would be like and how I would react when he died. Some of our most special times together were going for walks at the forest preserve, and I always planned that I would have him cremated and scatter his ashes at the park, so he would always be "there" in the place he loved most. Well, when he actually died (I had to have him put to sleep cuz he was really sick - hardest thing I've ever done), I was too much a mess to think straight, and the vet said he would just "take care of things", which meant disposing of the body in some way I don't even know. I regret that a little bit, but on the other hand... I know that no matter what has happened to his body, his spirit is always with me. Anyway, ask your vet what the different options are and decide what you feel most comfortable with. But whatever you choose, just remember that your dog's love will never die and he will be with you forever.

i'm 13/f.
i never babysat before but i really want to.
my brothers on a soccer team and some of the kids have little brothers and sister, but like i'm kindof shy and i dont know what to say to the parents.

how do i get sarted with everything.
like i need all the information & everything about babysitting.

If you go to the bookstore or library, you'll find tons of books about babysitting. Also, many YMCAs and city park districts have babysitting classes where you also learn CPR and other helpful stuff. As for getting started... if you're too shy to approach the parents yourself, ask your parents to mention to the other parents that you're available for babysitting. You could also make a flyer to pass out at games and in your neighborhood. Good luck!

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