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Hinting.
My friends and i are really close- at times ! i mean they seem to like me but we fight all the time and i dont feel like i fit in. AT ALL ! They seem to push me away alot like they dont talk to me or seem interested in what im saying. They do this alot and im not sure if its cause im me or cause there upset. I dont know if this is saying anything to me like a hint or what ?
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It's hard to answer your entire question without knowing all the details, but I will comment on one part of it. You said your friends sometimes don't talk to you or seem interested in what you're saying. Well, here's a tip: If you want someone to be interested in what you're saying, talk about their favorite subject... THEM! Sometimes we think that if we talk about ourselves, or things that interest us, it will make us seem interesting to others. But the fact is that everyone is more interested in themselves than in anyone else. That's just the way people are. So ask your friends questions that will get them talking to you about themselves... ask about their sports or hobbies or boyfriends or whatever. If you seem interested in them, that will make you more interesting to them!
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I don't really think that YOU'RE the problem. I think it is your friends. Many of my friends are like that too, and honestly, it could have nothing to do with you. Sometimes, people just have that type of personality. I'm not exactly sure why people sometimes push their friends away and other times seem very close to them, but it is something that probably comes from deep inside them. Are your friends having other problems in their lives? Such as family, school, or boyfriend problems? Other problems in their life could make them act this way.
I don't think they're hinting anything to you. But If they are, it might be that you and your friends need to spend a little time apart from each other. If you don't already, try giving your friends a little space. Don't ask them to hang out, don't talk too much to them. Wait for THEM to talk to you, or to ask you to hang out. If you give them a little space right now, they'll evntually realize that they miss you.
But like I said, you can't try to change your friends, just like how your friends can't try to change you either. I strongly believe that the way your friends act towards you is just part of their personality, because I know many people like that who can sometimes seem cold and distant, but are actually pretty nice people at times.
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