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This is my second UTI in like a month. I always pee and shower after sex and we do use condoms. I know its a UTI because I went to the gyno. I'm just wondering why this keeps happening to me?
Some women are more prone to UTIs then others. I really can't say that UTIs are caused by sex. If they were they would be listed as an STD, which they are not.
I would suggest you speak to your Gyno as to what he or she thinks the cause may be. I would also suggest seeking out the advice of a Urologist as repeated UTIs my be systematic of something further up the in the Urinary track.
As I said I really do not believe sex has anything to do with UTIs. My belief is that UTIs has more to do with diet, or other internal infections that are not responding to the antibiotics your gyno is prescribing. Repeated infections tells me you need to look further up stream for the cause and that requires a consultation with a Urologist.
Your Gyno is only trained to go so far. Then onward and upward to the next specialist until the actual cause is found. Right now it appears you are treating the symptom and not the cause, so see a Urologist next.
Okay. How do i ask my boyfriend if he is circumcised. I don't mind if he's not. i just want know. So what is the best way to ask him??
Any advice would be appreciated!
Thanks
:)
I think that is a question you should reserve for when you are ready to take the step to where you are going to have some type of sex. Be it you a hand job or oral sex. Then the question would be appropriate if you are not aware of how to handle an uncircumcised penis.
The question would be then be: "We are going to take the next step and I don;t want to hurt you. I have never handled an uncircumcised penis. If you are not circumcised could you tell me the proper way to handle or move your foreskin without hurting you?
Until your ready to take that step the question would be rude and intrusive.
How do i shrink the outter lips of my vagina? I believe they are called "Labia". Is their any natural way to make them smaller or just surgery?
There is no natural way to shrink your labia it would have to be done surgically. To do so you would most likely have to convince a doctor as to why you want this done. For purely cosmetic reasons you would have to hunt for a surgeon who would do it and frankly I wouldn't let that surgeon operate on a potato. It would also be very painful. There is no reason to change the appearance of your vagina.
There was an HBO special sometime back where a group went of to explore greater sexuality. As part of this exploration the people hosting the event explained there are 5 types of human female vagina's. You have the most unique of the five. One I can tell you that when you find a skilled lover who has learned the ways of oral sex will give you thrills you have never dreamed of.
My wife has extended labia and I get as much enjoyment from nibbling, sucking and gently chewing on them as she receives from my playing there. I do not consider her vagina ugly either and why should I. Her vagina has been my exclusive playground for over 40 years and where our son came into the world through.
I can also tell you that as a teenage boy I and other teenage boys didn't really care what a girls vagina looked like, We were just happy to have one to put our penis in or fingers if we had the chance. Most of the time it was to dark to see anyway.
So my advice is to leave you vagina and your labia just as is. when you find a skilled lover you will be thankful you did.
So I'm looking to apply by Nov 1st to a college. I told one of my teachers who I really want a recommendation from about this 5 months ago and she said she would have it by August. Well, it's late October now, and I'm not really sure what to do. I have been bugging her about it because my deadline is approaching and I really need to get my things together! I'm trying not to be inconsiderate because she's a busy person... but she's been finding time to write other recommendations. She has written them for everyone who's asked except for me so far. And their deadlines were WAY after mine! I reminded her a couple times it has to be sent in early for my scholarship and such & that it's rolling admission but she keeps putting it off.
There is absolutely NO reason for her not to be writing this for me... I mean I've had 5 classes by her and got A's in all of them.
Can anyone shed some light on why she might not be writing them and how I can approach the situation?
Thank youu.
There are a number of reasons a teacher puts off writing a recommendation for one student over all others. For someone like you who has been an outstanding student it is actually harder to write a recommendation then for a student who is more average to above average.
The problem in writing an outstanding recommendation is how to do so in a manner that is not overly done; that does more harm then good. You want to praise this student for their abilities and hard work, yet you don't want to sound like a cheerleader for this person. To do so would possibly cause a reader to think this student is more teachers pet than academically qualified.
That is reason number one. The other reason goes to the opposite end of the scale. The teacher may feel, and I'm only guessing in your case, that a student took this course(s) for easy grades as these subjects came easy to him/her, When, to this teachers mind, they should have been in an advanced class. While the student did well in this class and other classes as well, his or her feelings could doom any chance to get in to a college of higher quality if written as felt.
I do not know which of these is your teachers problem if either of them is. What I do know is a teacher is not required to write a letter of recommendation. It is something they do as a courtesy for some students but not all.
My recommendation is to ask one of your parents to call either the teacher or the principal and ask if a recommendation is forthcoming.
okayy im 14 and i have been having real promblems everywhere i go i just feel like giving up. i mean i tried but nothing ever happens. i think its the fact that im a middle child the older sister is loud annyoing thinks shes thar queen of everything she gets in trouble and practily sells her self and my parents still adore her.
my lil sister is a bratt and super annyoing she claims she is so sweet and innocent and she is the world to my dad. and i know im not perfect ethier but i do so much for this family and yea they SOMETIMES say thx but i need more than that.my mom already knows i tryed killingmy self and she has been promising me she will change but hello its been 2 years already i just feel so unwanted and i just wanna go to sleep and NEVER wake up... and its not just me who thinks this my family even thinks so and when they confront my parents it only starts family probs. i really just wanna be let go x/
Whether your the youngest child, the oldest child or the middle child you have your own problems unique to being that child. Being a parent I have always found that the middle child is the one most troubled.
The oldest child is where we learn are parenting skills. When the second child comes around we are more confident in our skills and try not to make the mistakes we made with the first one. When and if a third child shows up we correct the mistakes we made in parenting the first two.
As I like to say; It would be nice if children came with handbooks like cars and appliances, but they don't so we do make mistakes. Hopefully we learn from are mistakes. Sometimes we don't and for that I apologize to you; for it appears that possibly your parents are not seeing what you are trying to tell them by your words and actions.
I understand what you are trying to say and there is help for you for the asking. Being 14 puts a lot of stress on a young girl, something that moms sometime forget they went through. When she was your age her parents called it a phase she would grow out of. Today we see this differently and we can help you.
What I would like you to do is call this number 1-800-273-8255(TALK). This is the National Suicide Hotline. This is a 24/7 hotline answered by a team of professionals who will talk with you in total confidence. They will help you find people in you home town to help you as well.
Being 14 you now also have total medical confidentiality. Meaning that you can talk to any medical provider in total confidence and they cannot tell your parents what you said, what they examined you for or what they are treating you for without you written permission. This is covered under a law called HIPPA.
Please call the hotline and let them help you. You can feel better about yourself. You are not the first 14 year old to feel as you do. This is not a reason to want to end your life, not when there is help to fix what is wrong in your life. All it takes is one phone call.
I few years ago my mom passed away leaving the house to my sister . My sister was very abuse to my mom and had my name taken off the house..she also told my mom that I would give away the house to stranger's. To make a long story short. My sister is a bum that works a few days a week. Her bum son who us in his thirties and two kids and wife have lived there for three years in my moms house. What really gets me if things go in natural sucession my sister will die the bum son gets the house and chances are his wife could end up sole owner either by divorce or even death . How do I get over the pain of knowing a stranger got my mothers house and not me her daughter. I would have never given that house away. But a stranger ends up getting it anyway....I wish I could open up a window to heaven and say look mom you didn't want me to gave. But someone who isn't blood gets it. Any advice
There are a number of factors that are in play here that need to be answered as to how and when your mom gave the house to your sister. It sounds as if you and your sister were on the deed as co-owners with your mother. Your name was removed, I assume without your permission. Transfer of ownership to sole ownership of your sister happened at the death of your mother.
The legal question at issue here is whether your name could be removed without your permission or compensation. This question must be answered by a lawyer and probably needs to be resolved in court. If the laws and your lawyer agree your sister wrongfully obtained ownership then I would suggest you ask your lawyer to do two things. First the matter has to go through the court system to resolve. While doing so your lawyer must or should ask the courts to bar your sister from selling the house and that she must continue to maintain the property in it's present condition or the condition it was in when your mother passed away. Which ever is of greater value.
can a 43 year old man turn into a woman?
Yes, it can be done. People who do so are referred to as trans-gender. This is not something that can be done on a whim but is a long process that can take as long as 5 or more years.
You have to first get a psychiatrists to certify that this is what you want and it is beneficial. During this process you must live and dress as a women. You can start the process with the hormone treatments but the final step, the sex change operation requires the certification of at least and maybe two psychiatrists.
If you are thinking there is away to short circuit this procedure don't bother. Even in third world countries where the procedure is cheaper the rules are just as stringent.
My aunt has cancer and I was wondering what's the latest in the regards towards 'the cure'? Or more advanced treatments? Or 'do this ahead of time, that causes cancer' releases? What's the latest knowledge? Anyone know?
You have asked a very good question. Unfortunately I would need more information as to what type of cancer your Aunt has if your question is specific to hers.
There is a lot of knowledge about Cancer and related treatments out there today. Most is geared to specifics types of Cancer rather than cancer as a whole. Breast and Uterine Cancer, thanks to foundations such as the Susan B Anthony Foundation is on the forefront of research for these two diseases. As result some great treatments and better understanding of the disease has come to pass.
I'm not sure if doctors or scientists truly understand the cause of cancer. I believe their is still a great deal of debate over whether some Cancers is caused by a genetic defect or a virus.
Until Scientists and Doctors resolve this debate the thought that certain foods,second hand smoke and other causes thought to cause cancer are suspect in my mind as well as the minds of many others. We need definitive answers and while some scientists say they have them others say they are wrong. There needs to be a consensus before an actual cure to defeat this disease can be found.
These are my thoughts and what I know about this dreadful disease. To learn more you need to do your ones research for which there is plentiful amounts of to look at. To find out what you need to do to protect yourself from cancer I would suggest if you are female you talk to both your family doctor and gynecologist.
Learn the proper way to do self-breast examination. Doing so allowed my wife to learn of a lump in her breast, which was malignant, before it metastasized. A self-breast examination saved her life and can save yours. So follow you doctors advice as to how to do so and do so often.
I've seen the government displeasing the population and many I know foresee protesting and it is totally understandable. In your opinion, do you see the government or the economy getting any better? I see so many shut up in their houses complaining, yet scared to do anything about it. I do not believe violence is answer but how in the world may there be a reformation? I don't have a reliable source for this but I quote "America is giving their country away..." I can see that, thinking it's time for me to get out. I don't want to be caught up in this mess, and as I see it, it'll only get worse. The media and the media junkies are becoming our population. If the people were cows, the government can easily tip them however they please. In my town, the people aren't getting learned in school. Not because the school isn't teaching them but because the children's attention is elsewhere.. speaking for the majority. What kind of soup bowl are we becoming? Whatsoever it is that is the mastermind behind this deficient system, in my eyes, is destroying the beauty that once was. It's turning and turning and it's becoming inexpressibly ugly.
If you ask this question of 10 different people you will get 10 different answers. Your question, as I see really has two parts. You ask about the government and the economy. While they are tied together they are also separate.
Looking at the economy I don't just see a problem for the United States alone. Economic problems are a global crisis at this time. Until world leaders get a handle on the total problem we at home will suffer more or less as the world suffers.
Many of us don't see this because of the way the media reports the news. For most of us it is encapsulated into a 30 or 60 minute segment each evening on a televised broadcast. Print media is going out style and few of us rely on the print media for our news. The print media also encapsulates as well as edits what we see. They like the electronic media need to grab our attention to sell their newspapers or their air time. They sensationalize and editorialize rather than report the facts as in the who, what, when and where.
To be as informed as we make out to be one needs to research a subject through a number of different sources. Most of us do not have the time to do so. We choose a source we believe most reliable and make that our gospel.
As for our government: At the moment my feeling is there is not much hope left for the two party system of government. As it stands to day what I have been saying is, "If one party sees something as green the other party sees it as blue and what you get is yellow." I consider the present Congress the "Gridlock Congress held hostage by tea party in the House and a Speaker that can't lead or doesn't know how to lead. This from someone who is a registered member of the speakers party.
Congress has the lowest approval rating ever in recorded history and still all we see is gridlock. The only way to fix this is to vote them out of office. This won't happen for the majority of voters feel better the devil you know that the one you don't know.
Since we are unwilling to fix the problems with the power we have then we deserve what we get and the suffering we have. It is unfortunate but those are the facts as I see them.
As I said in the beginning ask 9 other people an you will get nine other views.
Okaaay , so i am 15 years oldd. I live in Floridaa . I have been with my Boyfriendd for a year & i cant figure out the Law for thiss. If you are Dating & both parents knoe & agree is it still consdered Illegall ?!
Parental consent and the law are two different things. Parental consent may mediagate but will not overrule any laws in effect. The predominate factors are you are a minor and he is an adult in the eyes of the law.
Now some states, you will have to check Florida, do allow for a 3 to 4 year age difference between ages before the statutory rape charge can be used against the 18 year old.
If Florida has such a law then you are safe. If not and someone reports him to the police it is possible that charges of statutory rape, child molestation and other sex offenses could be made against the 18 year old. The fact that the 15 year old parents are approving could go either way. It could mitigate the charges or they too could face charges.
The law is the law but it is also interpretive. In this case knowing the law is important. The most important factor to know is if Florida allows for a 3 year difference in age between a minor and an adult.
I went to my first school dance tonight (I'm thirteen) and I HATED every minute. I felt ugly and worthless because I didn't dance for the entire time. If you didn't have a date, it was pointless being there. Everyone else was slow dancing with their girlfriend/boyfriend and I just watched. I was really mad because my crush was dancing with the most popular girl in school. I just called my mom to come pick me up. I just cried for an hour when I got home. I hate Valentine's Day too, because I've never gotten a valentine before. I was never invited to birthday parties either. Should I just give up on my social life?
Wow I just don't understand kids today but then I'm old. That's right I'm really old, old enough to be your grandfather and I just don't understand the rush you kids are in to grow up. Are you going to be an old maid if you are not married with kids by the time your 14? Okay that was a joke.
Fact your 13, you are just starting your teenage years. Teenage boys of your age are the most fickle animals on this planet. They have but one thing on their minds and they go after the girls they think will give them what they want. Whether they get what they are looking for is an entirely different story.
Puberty plays havoc with both sexes but more with the female than the male. For the most part the male only has hormones to contend with. The female has hormones, her period and the changes to her body. On top of all this are the things your parents pile on; such as doing good in school, possibly caring for younger siblings, chores around the house. Then come the things you want for yourself and some of them, like boys have to wait for some other things to catch up. Such as the physical changes to your body.
In a boy the only way to tell he is going through puberty is the changing in his voice and looking for hair growing on his body under his arms and in his groin. In a girl it is easier to tell when she is maturing as her body changes, but for many girls those changes don't come exactly at the beginning of her teenage years. For some girls those changes may come as late as 17 or 18 years of age.
Somehow this is what I feel is behind your statement; "I felt ugly and worthless." If this is true please don't feel this way. Your time will come. The fact that you may not yet look like the other girls do is only temporary. Besides exterior beauty is just that, exterior. Your really beauty is what lies within. Just who and what you are.
I know that doesn't make much sense to you now but it will soon. We are not just what we are on the outside. The outside will forever change. But our inside, that what makes us who we are rarely changes. This is what men fall in love with. The outside may be what attracts us at first, but exterior attractions are only temporary if the inside is hollow then a relationship cannot happen.
Talk to mom and dad about what I have written. They can probably explain this better conversationally that I can in this forum. One thing I can tell is that you are not ugly. Far from that. You are bright and articulate something that is very rare in someone your age. Hang in there you'll find someone and it will be sooner rather than later.
This girl in my high school (Who nobody likes because she's a complusive liar), had her pictures taken and somebody was pretending to be her on Tumblr.
Like they used pictures of her face, but with a completely different name, age, life story, etc.
Well she freaks out and she was telling everybody how she was on the phone with the police for 3 hours with the police until 2am the night before because of it.
And I was thinking, "Really?"
Like, can you even get in trouble for that? I can see somebody getting in trouble for using the same name and stuff, but really?
Seems a little over-the-top when you can easily report the account with a proof picture and get in deleted.
Btw, she's not lieing about the fake profile because a bunch of people saw it, including myself.
My advice to you is to listen to what DangerNerd has written. These types of things have become very serious matters which many states have passed laws to deal with.
If the police contact you, and you are above the age of consent in your state, I would suggest you cooperate with them. The age of consent in most states is 16 or 17. If you are younger than that ask for your parents to be present when talking with the police. In fact ask for your parents to be present regardless of your age.
If you know who the person is pretending to be her, identify that person. You need to do this so you are seen as a cooperating witness and not co-conspirator.
What this person has done, given all the news reports of recent months of things like this, was not only immature but stupid. Depending on how the police and District or States Attorney decide to handle this; they may have just ruined their life.
You need to separate yourself from him/her so as not to ruin your life. Just in case you're the culprit; you need to talk to your parent NOW before the cops come knocking on your door. You need legal advice from a lawyer NOW.
Been sexually active for over two years and have only been with my boyfriend and vice versa.
The last four months all of a sudden, I feel such a soreness as soon as he enters me.If we have sex I can't have it again for like two days straight! I used to be able to have sex seven times in a row before I felt any soreness Neither one us has any STI's, and I can't think what it could be.
I know I should go to the doctor, but the amount of times they just send me of with pain killers for other problems is ridiculous.
I am always wet too. So has anyone experienced this ?
I question if are you seeing a gynecologist or general practitioner. If you are seeing a GP you need to see a GYN. If you are seeing a GYN then you need to get a second opinion and be retested for STDs as well.
None of here are doctors so we can't make a diagnoses. We would also have to examine you which can't be done over the web.
You did not say what type of soreness you feel, is it a raw burning type, or a sharp penetrating pain. This is the type of descriptive information you need to tell the doctor. Different types of pain mean different things.
Also the depth of pain, meaning how bad is the pain. Pain is rated from 1 to 10 with 1 being low and 10 being the worst pain you have ever felt. You need to rate the pain in this manner which is also a diagnostic tool for the doctor.
If you have gone through this with your present doctor be the doctor a GP or GYN I suggest getting a second opinion from a GYN.
For a while now I have been selling pills to some of my friends but I have been the "middle man." If my friends ever need pills I normally charge them about $10 or so more because I have been getting them cheap from my big dealers.
Today one of my friends that I have bought pot from a few times asked me for $1,000 worth of pills and I said sure. When we went to my dealers house I went inside to get the pills but I noticed it was kind of sketchy because a lot of people were in their cars outside of my dealers house. I went through with the deal and gave the pills to the guy asking for it and went on my way.
After leaving that location, I was pulled over. The cops searched me, I had nothing. As well as searched the guys I was with, they had nothing. The cop took me in (because I was the guy who went inside and physically got the pills) and questioned me. He asked me about the dealer and all the pills and whatnot and suggested that I snitch on other dealers I know of.......this is where the big question lies so pay attention...... they then said that I had until next wednesday(it is now thursday) to come and snitch to them or else they would send me to jail. When I asked how they could send me to jail they said "they know who I am" and they "knew I was a middle man" and that they "had enough to put me away for 3 years."
Now, is it really true that they can put me into jail because they've "seen" or "heard" my name as a middle man? THey have no proof/evidence and when I was pulled over I had no drugs on me.
ANY HELP IS GREAT. THANKS GUYS.
You are either the most naive person that ever was or the most stupid. You need to find a good criminal defence lawyer because you can be charged with distribution.
By your own admission: "If my friends ever need pills I normally charge them about $10 or so more..." This sir/madam is the definition of distribution. You acquired and redistributed.
To the cops you are a small fish in a big pond. Putting you in jail does them really no good. Someone will take your place before the cell door closes on you. What they want is someone to lead them to a bigger fish. You are now that person.
Do not negotiate with the cops without talking to a lawyer first. Do what the lawyer tells you. Most likely the lawyer will want things in writing and will want some type of protection for you in return for your cooperation. This is for your own protection.
The short answer to your question is: yes you can go to jail if they have the proof that you are a dealer.
I was wondering if the following constitutes verbal/emotional abuse when committed by a parent.
- Name calling/yelling often
- Neglect/ Not being spoken to for a while
- Having standards that make the child feel bad
- Manipulation
- Talking badly about the other parent to get pity
- If the child lives in fear of being physically abused
- If the child feels unloved or like the parent simply cannot be pleased
Emotional/verbal abuse/neglect are hard to identify since you can't see the scars. And I was wondering if all of these must be present for it to be abuse.. or just some of them? Does anybody know? Thank you very much.
Looked at one at a time my answer would be no. Looked at together and my answer would be a qualified yes along with the fact that it appears you are in a dysfunctional family; which is in itself a form of abuse. Whether this rises to the legal definition in your state is a question you need to get answered.
Lets look at your list of questions to qualify them:
1. Name calling/yelling often: Would depend on what you are being called and how derogatory that may be.
2.- Neglect/ Not being spoken to for a while: A definite yes, this is mental abuse.
3.- Having standards that make the child feel bad: Again this would fall in the realm of mental abuse.
4.- Manipulation: Needs a better explanation to quantify.
5.- Talking badly about the other parent to get pity:Playing one parent against the other is not child abuse but is poor parenting.
6.- If the child lives in fear of being physically abused: This is a big one and yes this is abuse. No child needs to live in fear of physical abuse from a parent or anyone else for that matter.
7.- If the child feels unloved or like the parent simply cannot be pleased: As much as I would like to see this one meet the legal definition of child abuse, it does not. No child should be made to fell unloved. This to me is definitely poor parenting. I would like to believe that a parent, no matter how bad they parent still, loves their children.
The additional information you provided does not meet the legal definition of child abuse but adds to my feeling you are in a dysfunctional family.
The things that you wrote about that bother me the most are,by the number assigned, 2, 3 and 6 with number 6 worrying me the most. The best thing you can do is to talk to a trusted teach or your school principal just as you have to us. If they see you are being abuse, in danger or in a dysfunctional home they are legally obligated to take specific action as outline by the school board and the laws of the state you live in.
So, every year my school does a thing for the seniors called senior retreat. For a couple of days we go out of town together and stay at a convent.. and just really get to know each other. We pick out roommates, have little activities, and get letters pre-written by our parents for the event. But one night, everything gets really heavy.
I've heard from every class of seniors before me that people usually cry on the second night. There is a sharing session where you bring something from your past that means something a lot to you- maybe it represents personal growth or a fond memory. I thought I would bring something with a sad memory and something with a happy memory, depending on the mood of the night and what people seem to be sharing most.
So here is my question: If the mood is depressing I want to share my story about my dad being verbally abusive. Trouble is, I don't want to trash him... yet I want to share this part of myself with people to show hope if they struggle with something similar, or know someone who does. I also want a certain teacher to notice, who has always really stood out to me- but I'd never tell him my home situation like that.
I am not currently abused or anything- and I was never physically abused. Nothing illegal or anything. But I used to struggle a lot... So I was wondering if it would be appropriate to share. I'll do it if it feels right.
Things people have shared in the past that is SUPPOSED to remain confidential:
Abortions
Drug addictions
Etc. Gloomy stuff... so I think my story fits in quite nicely. Do you think I'd be sharing it for the wrong reason?
Thanks for bearing with me through the long story. God bless, all advise = appreciated greatly!
I see nothing wrong with your sharing this part of your life for the reasons you have given. Mental abuse is just as bad and terrifying as physical abuse, maybe worse.
One thing you must be aware of; even though this is suppose to be confidential. Teachers are leagally obligated to report abuse when they see or hear about it. Many states require teachers to report mental abuse as well as physical abuse if they become aware of it.
I realize that you don't want to trash your dad and probably don't want to cause any trouble either. The problem with abuse of any type is the victim, in this case you, generally deals with it in there own way. This is not a good idea as most just try to bury what has happened and years down the road the consequences of the abuse manifest itself in different ways. Sometimes it is a depressive episode requiring long term help.
I myself am a victim of childhood mental abuse. A horrible car accident triggered something in me that brought out the problems of my past abuse. It has taken 5 years of therapy to resolve many of the issues that I should have resolved early in life, instead I neatly boxed them in my subconscious. The accident somehow broke the lock and they all came tumbeling out.
Telling your story in this manner to thank this teacher for standing by you is may be a nice way to say thank you. He or she may still be obligated to take appropriate action as they have no legal right to keep your privacy and are lawfully required to report such things.
I would also like you to make a phone call to talk with some people that are experts in abuse. The organization is RAINN which stands for: Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 hotline for victims to call and get help. You do not truly see yourself as a victim but I believe you are, just as I was.
I would like you to call and talk with them and let them help you find someone in your home town to talk with who can help you deal with this now so it does not come out later as it did with me and does with so many other victims. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE(4673).
I am a biology major in college. My grades are usually A's and B's but this semester is really hard for me. It's almost over and I havent had any A's on any exams. Im taking Chemistry and Physics 2, along with Ecology, with a few others. My main concern are my science classes. I might get C's in these courses and I am really worried about my future, medical school wise. I am very stressed all the time and am almost in constant worry. I barely sleep and I don't have any time to myself. What should I do to relieve some stress?
If you are finding school stressful now medical school is going to be a killer. The stress levels particularly in the 3rd year of school and 1st year of internship/residency are high. Yes, you need to find some ways to relax and reduce your stress levels.
Everyone finds different ways to relax. Many people find running or jogging a good way to relax. Running not only relieves your stress but it is a healthy exercise and works to put you in a place so that you can get the rest you need as well.
Exercise is the best stress reliever we know of. Not into running, try swimming, shooting some baskets or going to a batting cage and hitting some baseballs. Tennis is a good healthy game so is handball any game that helps you work up a sweet and work off energy will relieve tension.
As to your science classes; there is no shame in asking for help or joining a study group to better under stand these clauses. If you cannot find a study group or form one , then go to the tutoring center and get some help with that you don't understand. If you want to get into medical school you need a good undergraduate GPA and high MSET scores. The schools are not interested in how you got to your GPA just that you get them.
If you get help in understanding what you are finding hard to understand. Then a lot of the stress you are finding yourself under will disappear.
I hope I have offered helpful information.
Good luck future Doc.
I am 14 and I have a 6.5 inch penis and I've been reading and have seen that most girls don't like real big dicks.i know my gf is a virgin so she is tight. So basically do you think 6.5 inches it too big for her too have pleasure?
According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.
Keep in mind that this is the average, the middle between the largest and the smallest, above the micro-penis (below 2 inches in length). The survey states that size varies based on age, time of day, level of excitement and ambient temperature.
What you are born with is what you have. There is no way to enhance, or enlarge a penis even with surgery. Penile surgery is usually done to assist those with erectile dysfunction when there is no other medical solution that will help.
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.
I hope this information answers your question. My own more direct answer is you fine. You have nothing to worry about.
sooo, the other day my Algebra 2 teacher gave us all a test, we all bombed it... soo we had a make up test, but we all had to do a review in order to do the make up test.... I had things going on as in taking care of a fake baby for my family living class so i didn't do it, plus i don't understand math, i learn at a slower pace... but i walked in to retake the test and she wouldn't let me.... just because i wasn't able to do the review... I try a lot in that class but i still have trouble every time i need help i dont go up and ask because she always makes me feel stupid... what should i do?
Under new federal guidelines under review you may need to pass Algebra 2 to graduate. So lets see if we can find away to figure out how to do that.
First off I don't like the word stupid. I can tell from your writing your not stupid, far from it from what I see in your writing. You message to us is concise, well formed and informative. This was not written by a stupid person or someone who feels they are stupid for any reason.
Was your teacher wrong in not allowing you to take the make up test? Probably not, every teacher has the right to run their class as they see fit. Was they teacher wrong for not making an allowance for your other classes possible interference with the review work and make up test? possibly. Can you challenge her on this? I doubt it, not directly in any case.
What is wrong in my view is making herself, in your eyes unapproachable. What I mean by this is in a parent teacher conference she will deny that she is unapproachable and or unwilling to help you. The fact that you feel this way about her is something that must be discussed with her and make her aware of it. For if you perceive it therefore it is real. This is something your parents must discuss with her and possibly the school principal.
Now what do you need to do. First you need to talk with your parents. You must do so calm and just a concisely as how you wrote to us. Explain your feelings about this teacher, that you are not understanding the material. Explain how you feel you cannot approach this teacher for help and ask mom & dad to arrange or ask for tutoring assistance.
The other things you wrote of concerning this teacher... unfortunately she is with n her rights to run her class as she sees fit. Could she have been more accommodating? If she wanted to be, there is nothing say she has to be. This is something to be discussed with you, your parents and your principal. If you go this route just make sure you can substantiate that theses are the only problems you have in that class. That the teacher can't come back with a dozen other substantiated reasons for your problems in her class. An example would be failure to do homework, or failure to turn in things on time.
My teacher is 27 and Im 18 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing that's important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him because they think hes joking. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me a lot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something. One time he looked up my schedule and took me out of PE class because I was mad at him and someone told him that I didnt like him, he took me out of class just to ask me if I didnt like him and he looked seriously hurt.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Sometimes I just can't tell if hes joking because he knows I have a crush on him or if hes being serious. He has been doing this before I turned 18. Please answer, thanks
This is extremely in appropriate behavior on the part of your teacher. Yes, you are legally an adult at 18 but as your teacher he is in a position of authority over you. This make what he is doing with not just flirting but sexual harassment. It is also against every schools policy for a teacher to have any type of love interest with a student.
Yes you are legally an adult but I doubt the school system will see you as an adult or treat you as one while you are a student. My advice is that you tell your parents what is happening and let them go to the school authorities about this. The teacher should be immediately removed from teaching while they investigate.
What matters the most here is that you MUST speak to your parents and tell them what is happening between you and this teacher. You are not overreacting and I do not believe this is some figment of your imagination. Together you must take action to remove this teacher from your school. If necessary file a complaint with the police.
What you are experiencing from this teacher is not only morally wrong and against every school policy I know of. The sexual harassment of someone that a person has authority over, such as you a student and teacher, is wrong as well under EEOC policy, and possibly criminal action can be taken.