I dont know how to put this. But i guess i never feel good enough, or pretty enough. I dont have like any confidence in myself. I just feel like a retard. And for some wierd reason , i find the more i talk to guys the more my self esteem lowers. I just feel like not good enough or pretty. What do i do?
Don't worry about what people think about you at all. I know its easy to say than do but its really not worth it - if theydon't like you or think your ugly or whatever then to hell with them. People like that are not worth bothering with or worth wasting your time on. :] I've never known anyone to be ugly or anything of that sort. To me there's girls who I like and girls who I don't feel attracted to. There's no such thing as ugly.
Allow me to demonstrate... if you asked every person in the world what their ideal world would be like they will ALL have a different version. Because of this free will and the freedom for people to be able to choose everyone can never have the same perfect world (as dark as it sounds it's why there can never in essence be a perfect world). One persons perfect world could very well be another persons hell. In the same way one persons attractive person is anothers not so attractive person. These guys who put you down and make you feel bad - to hell with them. You don't need to talk or know people like that. I don't care what anyone says I think everyone is pretty (you included).
I'd be willing to bet your an awesome person but it's just a bit of bad luck that you've only had jerks to talk to up until now. Just be patient, there are some decent guys out there who are not like that. In the meantime be happy with the friends you have and above all be happy and enjoy life. Don't worry yourself about what people or guys think about you. They really ain't worth the stress. :]
If you need to chat more feel free to write.
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i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and i am really in love with him. but the thing is that i got offered a modeling job in california. and i dont know what willhappen to us. he doesnt want me to go but i really want to. i dont want to give it up and i dont know if he is just tesing me or what i dont want to lose him or this oppertunity what should i do he is also going to college on the east coast next year and i will only be a junior
I'm not sure I can actualy advise what either of you should do but I will say that some opportunities don't come around very often so you need to take the chances to grab them.
Regardless whether you take this job or not in a years time your boyfriend will be going away to college anyway won't he? In essence leaving you behind while he's away at college? I think at the end of the day it seems you are both being dragged into opposite directions so it might be something you both need to decide.
I don't think it's fair for him to ask you to give up your dreams anymore than it is for you to ask him to give up going to college. I'd say talk about it but if this is what you really want to do than all I can say is to go for it. Talking it through with your boyfriend you might be able to both come to some kind of compromise. I mean you'll both be far from each other but it won't mean you love each other any less at all. You'd have holidays and such to visit each other. I know that sometimes long distance relationships just don't work out but I think they can if both people really love each other and want it to work out.
Sorry that I can't really provide you with much help on this. :[ It may even come to you both having to break things off so you can both go your own ways and as bad as that sounds sometimes it does happen but it doesn't mean your paths won't ever cross again. Destiny has a weird way of making that happen if it's meant to be. I'm sorry I can't offer you anything else that you might be able to do which will allow everyone concerned to get what they want.
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I used to have a myspace, but somehow my parents found it(im not really sure how...i'll bet they looked me up, they are psychos like that) and made me either A. delete it or B. let them look at it whenever they want. They were afraid I was gunna get like raped or something because all of this hype about it in the news. At the time I just decided to delete it. But, now I want to get it back again. So, im wondering, is there a way that I can have a myspace where my parents wont be able to find it? Thanks alot!
Eventually your parents will find it so my best advice to you... tell them. Unless you really do have something to hide you've no reason not to tell them.
You're parents have every right to be concerned because that stuff is no hype - it's a reality. You'd be surprised how often it does happen but it's never reported or no one ever finds out about it.
I've done extensive research on MySpace as part of the place where I work which incidently deals with young kids and the Internet - we're basicly the ones who tell your parents what you're up to online and who you talk to and all that jazz.
Parents are never as stupid as they may seem or make out to be - they'll find out eventually. Better theyfind out from you than someone else or by themselves - last thing you need is to be a second time liar, right?
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i have had a boyfriend for about two years now and during the time have cheated on him several times. I think I love him but am not completely sure since I keep doing this. btw I think he is catching on and I dont know what to do. Any suggestions on how to cover my a#@???
No one can tell you if you love him or not - that's a question only you can answer. Generally, I've always found that if you need to ask yourself if you love them or not then you probably don't. When you love someone you just do - you don't need someone to tell you.
I really don't understand why people cheat. If you can't hold a relationship then simply don't get into a relatonship because that way at least you're not hurting anyone else. Sorry, but I'm not going to offer any tips on how you can cover up your mistakes (I've been cheated on before andit's not a nice feeling). Truth of the matter is that you did something that was wrong and as much as you may hate facing the fact - he may find out eventually anyway. The best you can do now is to try and be more faithful and prevent it happening again.
I've found the reason it happens a lot (at least to girls over here) is because they get drunk or go out with friends who they assume will watch out for them. If alcohol is the problem thenjust don't drink or at theveryleast make sure you limit yourself. If it's something else then try to not put yourself in a position where you may end up cheating.
That's really the best I can advise.
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well i need some help, see me and this guy Kory have had this "thing" i guess you can call it since like November/December. and he would you know always flirt with me and sing to me and stuff, then one night i was on the computer and he imd me and was like um.. i have a question. and i was like yeah? and he goes would you ever makeout with me? and i was like well i dont know..[even though i totally knew i would] and.. he was SO obsessed with it. then he got all shy around me .. and stufff, and then on the computer he would tell me how much he liked me and stuff. and always call me baby,honey,sweetie,sexy,beautiful & ectt. but then people told me he still liked his ex girlfriend.. kristin and i was like wtf? .. cause he was telling me how much he would love to go out with me and stuff. and then.. one day he imd me and was like i always think about you im thinking about you now..and i was like kor, you know what just knock it off cause i was so mad..and he got real mad and was like whatever, you ruined the chances with the girl i love so thanks a lot? i was like i did what? wtf.. cause, HE started this whole thing with me and him..then he made me cry at the dance cause he said i ruined his life..then one day he finally apologized and told me he wanted me to relax around him and get to know eachother and he really did like me..and how he could agian and stufff. but he still liked kristin? and i dont get it honestly. and he goes like bipolar on me sometimes..and the other day i accidently brung up my ex boyfriend to him .. and for the past 6 days he hasn't even spoken to me..and we were just making progress!! and once before i had my ex in an awya message and kor flipped out and was like oh so whos jason? trying to get me jealous..you wanna play that game i was like what game? cause at that time he was going out with Kristin. and ughh.. i just dont know whats going on in this kids mind..he ALWAYS stares at me but he cant say like anything to my face he makes everything so awkward and i really do like him.. and i want him back, do you think he still thinks about me.. and do you think he ever liked me..and like what is going on with him? ahh i need help PLEASEE! [=
This kid just sounds like he is very confused as well as having jealousy issues. The thing with a relationship is that you both need to trust each other and be able to talk things out if there's a problem. If he is going torun off crying everytime something goes wrong then you're setting yourself up for one very tough relationship.
It may even be that he hasn't totally gotten over his ex. I think what you need to do is talk to him when he decides to start talking to you again and sort things outonce and for all so you know where you stand. As well as sorting things out as far as his attitude goes too. As I said, if he's just going to get into a stress at every little thing that comes up and ignore you for days on end then the relationship won't get very far at all.
Sorry I can't really be much more help than this. I know he is probably young but he is acting very childish as well as having some issues he needs to sort out.
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if i run , not like sprint more like jogging, like 30 minutes a day and like jump around on the trampoline and eat no more than 1500 calories a day could i lose 40 pounds by sept.
&how do you get rid of the flab like under your arm, like would jogging help and like get rid of it.
if not tell me how.
and like i have to eat 5 small meals a day so i already do that.
kthanks.
Any kind of rigorous exercise for 30mins a day every day is very good for you. Since you already eat healthy that together with the exercise should have a big impact but... and this is a very big but... everyone is different and thus; everyones body reacts to exercise and such in different ways when it comes to how soon results are evident. It could take months or it may be noticable after a few weeks. It really depends on your body so it's hard to say if you can lose your target amount by that time but just ensure that the target you have set yourself is a realistic target. Having a target that is beyond reach will just stress you out and cause you to push yourself unnecessarily.
Weights are good to help the flab under the arm but the exact exercises I am unsure of. I would advise speaking to someone who knows their exercises to advise you on this part. One thing I can advise though is swimming. Swimming works every muscle in your body and therefore is one of the best exercises you can do so I would highly recommend this.
Good luck and I hope you manage to reach your target. :]
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Okay so my story is; Steven and I had been dating for a year and a Month. We then broke up an decided to go on a break due to him wanting to expierence stuff that I normally wouldn't approve of, For Instance Club and Drinking. Well it had been 5monthes on April 7. He called me around April 14th right after I went to prom and everything with a guy who I had been talking to for 2 Monthes. He told me he wanted another chance, Wanted to prove to me he was sorry an he told my parents his break was over an stuff. So I pretty much risked my entire friendship with the other guy I had been talking to and believed everything Steven told me. Everything was fine we talked everyday an we went out to eat few times. Then this past saturday came and he basically ditched me for his guy friend an stood me up. So I called him an was pretty pissed off, Who wouldnt be. So he said sorry an then yesterday we talked an I was like so is everything over, He was like I dont know its just like some stuff isn't going to change. I guess by me wanting to hang out with him. Then he told me something while we were together one day about moving in once I graduate out of highschool in another yr an I brought it up to him an he said it was just all talk he didn't know what he was saying like he was just b/shittn with me. So I decided I am not gonna call him so I don't make it so hard on him an then maybe when he is ready he will call, He told his parents he want's to work on stuff but he doesn't want me hanging with the guy I went to prom with. So I pretty much feel if everything doesn't workout with Steven I pretty much lost both guy's an it will suck. But I am in love with Steven and would do anything in this world to be with him. And he told me last night like he wants so bad to just say Mackenzie lets just get back together but he can't an he doesn't know why, But he did say in previous monthes he has tried dating an it never worked because he compared everyone to me; Thats a plus! An he has been telling people like his best friend that we might get back together but it's not 100%. So what should I do; What do you all think of this! Your Advice is Greatly Appreciated it. So Thanks for Reading and Answering!!
From the sounds of things what you both had wasn't a 'break' it was a 'break-up'. There's a difference between the two, at least with me anyway. To me the idea of a break is when two couple are in the need of a time out, to have their own space. In essence - to take a 'break' and just relax and chill fora little while to get their thoughts together but during that time to still be taken and with their partner. So it doesn't mean you candate someone else and such. When you want to take a break from the relationship so you can go out and date others that's a break up.
From everything you've said the only conclusion I've some up with is this guy has no idea what he wants and having you waiting on him is unfair to you and selfish. As for him not wanting you to see this other guy while he decides what he wants - he is in no position to ask you to wait on him to decide what HE wants while you sit around. I know you love him and such and I'm not saying stop because you just can't but I will say don't let him tie you down by the ankles so he can haul you around with him and then come crawling back when (if ever) he decides he knows what he finally wants. You have your own life to live and your own future to think of as well. I think you should carry on with your life and see where it leads. Waiting on this guy might turn out to be a total waste of time.
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ok so my boyfriend didnt call me for 2 days and
he didnt give me any explination. he just said that he was busy but that he really loves me. also, he started telling me something about his friend and he said wow see i have nothing to talk about with you so i have to talk about my friend. that got me really angry, any input on this? also, he said i have so many things to say but no one to talk to. so i got really hurt like how can he tell me this? how can i get him to open up to me like what should i say to him. i already told him if he needed anything that he can always count on me becase i love him but i dont know what to say im just so mad and i just need advice what should i do? break up with him? help
Hello.
I can see how that would really make you angry actually - I'd probably feel the same to say the least.
For starters I will say though (about somehting else you mentioned) there are some things that a guy/girl need friends to talk to things about which they just can't with a boyfriend or girlfriend. It took a while for my last girlfriend to accept this but alas she had to accept it because that's really just the way it was. So it may not be that he can't open up to you but just it's things he needs or prefers to talk to another friend about. You can't really force someone open to make them open up to you it comes with time like many things do. All I can suggest is you let him know that you're there for him if he ever needs to talk about anything and such. As long as he knows this it should be okay then at last he knows you're there if he never needs you.
As for the thing he said to you on the phone when he was talking about his friend. I'd have found that quite offensive I think. To me that would come across as he/she's bored talking to me. Have you both been together long? It might even be time you do need to decide if this is the person you want to be with. If he finds he has nothing to talk to you about or gets bored and is a closed book itmay just feel that the relationship is going nowhere. This might be someting you will need to tell him so you canboth try and deal with it. I know I said sometimes everyone jus needs a friend to talk to and not a partner but a partner still does have the right to know where they stand.
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This is kind of a weird question, but the only time I ever sang seriously infront of someone is when i auditioned in a musical for my school, and I guess I was really nervous and I sang horribly! I had practiced the song and I thought I sounded decent, but when I got up there it sounded bad! I want to know if you are truly a good singer, then you never sound bad or if good singers sounded bad at first. Because that was the first time I ever sung infront of someone and I hadnt taken singing lessons. Also, how do I know if I sing good? I recorded myself once, but I couldn't really tell cause I am singing quietly so no one can hear.
There's a lot to singers than meets the eye to be honest. For example I'm sure you've heard of Sean Paul and a lot of his tracks and I like alot of them but when I had seen him live he was the worst act I had EVER seen. He really cannot sing to save his life! My cousin who's only 16 has started singing and she's really,really good and has won various awards as well as tried out for some singing cometition.
Most singers sound so good because of the help of technology (Sean Paul is a major example). I thought he sounded terrible on stage whereas the same tracks in an album were amazing - this is because technology is used (recording studio and such) to alter and change things. On a stage or a performance you can't do that.
I suggest if you really want to get into singing, that you start taking lessons and practice as much as you can. You will need to get more confidencein yourself as well so you can sing infront of crouds. If it's any concillation I will say that no one can say you sing bad because it takes a lot of courage and guts to get infront of people to sing. Usually the ones who complain are the ones who have NEVER done that. Until they do that they are in so position to complain about you being bad. SO you just keep at it and practice and you'lldo it. Also, the same way a lot of people think they look ugly or sound bad - it's the same with singers. They think they sound really bad when they actually don't at all. So it may be nothing but just your own insecurity.
All I can say is keep at it and start lessons if it'ssomething you really want to do. You have the drive becauseyou had the courage ot get infront of people to do it once. You can do it again. :)
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One night I was taking a bubble bath and as soon as I got out of the tub I got all dizy and almost fell over. Then as I was drying off I looked into the mirror and noticed I was really pale. I went to my bedroom and just sat on my bed since I wasn't feeling good. I started to not be able to breathe and my throat started to close up. I went to go look for my inhaler but couldn't find it. Luckily, my brother's girlfriend brought over hers so I could use it. Was this an asthma attack?
My Mom said to keep an eye on if it happens again, like maybe if I had a allergic reaction to something?
Please help, thanks! :]
It sounds like it might have been an asthma attack butthen again I'm no professional in this so I can't say one way or the other. I would suggest speaking to your family doctor about this to be totally certain because if it was then you may need someone to keep a close eye on you in the future or at least keep your inhaler with you at all times just incase.
From what you describe though it might have been and maybe the cause was that you was in a relaxed state in the bath then the sudden getting out of the bath may have been the cause (like some people feel difft when they sit for ages and then suddenly get up to walk somewhere). As I said though the best thing to do is speak to your family doctor as he can advise you in a more professional manner as to what it was and what the possible cause may have been.
Glad that you was okay though. :)
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I recently started taking singulair for my allergies. I know that with some medications you're not supposed to drink, but can drinking while on singulair really do anything to harm your body?
You should have a leaflet with the medicine that says if it's safe to drink alcohol with it or not.
Generally medicine doesn't react well with alcohol and some medicine can react in a very bad way to it. I would strongly suggest if it says on the leaflet not to drink while on the medication then to avoid alcohol.
If you really can't totally avoid it then the person you need to speak to would be your family doctor or the pharmacy where you collect the prescription/medicine. Just let them know you drink every so often and if it will have any bad effects while you are on the medicine. They may suggest that you miss a dose out for the day that you are drinking if it's safe to miss it but I think this question is best answeredby someone qualified to. Meds react different with different people and mixing them with alcohol makes them that much more unpredictable with different people so what might be okay for some may on the other hand be having a very negative effect on you. It's why I suggest you seek advice on the matter from a professional. :]
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I’m a woman who is in love or long term crush with my best friend Iris.
We were friends for 8 years and I liked her for 6 years till now.
She is a touchy person and I don’t know if its me but what do you think these mean: sometimes she walks close to me when we walk, leans on my shoulder, once she garb my arm and held it like a hug and hold my hand.
I told her how I felt about her and she responded: It’s a shock but I’m find with it, not saying I feel the same way I don’t know what gender I like. I’m not looking for a relationship at the moment.
I don’t want a relationship either but does she like me? Or am I over my head here?
I would wait for her but I don’t know having a same sex relationship with a friend of mind is hard to picture it. I do think of it but as for real I don’t think I be ready for that either. What is with the touchiness, can people be that friendly?
(this question be ask before,but with edit)
The thing is with some friends really can be that friendly. A couple of my male friends are and to be honest if some people saw us who never knew us they would probably thing he and/or I are gay/bisexual but in actual fact we're both straight. We both like having a laugh I guess.
I think what she meant by her answer was exactly what she had said - that she's not ready to get into anything at the moment. She may be at a point where she is wanting to experience things and learn things and then decide where she stands regarding what sexuality she is. I had a friend who I really liked but when I pictured me and her in a relationship it just didn't seem right because she was a friend. That can happen but I think the best thing to do is just to go alone with what your friend said. She also did say she doesn't feel the same way so although that may have hurt at least she was straight with you and honest.
I'd say not to wait on her. She is still wanting to try and decide what sex she prefers and experiment so to try and push her into liking you or anything of that kind will just push her away from you as a friend. I won't say stop liking her because no one can do that but I will say move on because you never know, you may meet someone else who's better and who you feel you can connect with when it comes to having a relationship with.
Overall, I'd say she likes you, yes. But only as a friend as she said. I think best thing to do is leave it at that. She knows how you now feel about her so if her feelings do change then she will more than likely just let you know but I think you shuld move on instead of waiting for her. Would be unfair to her as well as to you.
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Can someone please supply me with some defending tips? None with Videos please just some websites with defending tips and yerr... THNX!!!
Hi.
I don't really trust websites that teach you how to defend because that's information that can't really be learned from a web site (been doing martial arts myself for a little under 10 years now I think).
The best thing to do, although might be more expensive, is to seek out self defence classes in your area or at least somewhere near by. Trust me you will learn a lot more there than ANY web site and provided you ensure the person teaching is qualified and insured, you will be getting hands on experience that you can only learn from that kind of an environment.
A small number of tips though that might help you:
-Don't let yourself get backed into a corner. Keep ways for you to be able to run away within easy reach because the best defence is to run away. ;]
-If you are taken off your feet guard your head. One fatal blow to the head could cause some serious if not fatal damage so that's the one area you'd need to protect. Curling up into the fetal position (into a ball) will protect your stomach and your chest as well as throat and face as well as groin area.
-When walking if you think someone approaching you might be suspicious cross over and walk on the other side of the road.
-In the US I believe you're able to legally carry pepper spray so that might be worth investing in (or a rape alarm if you're a female) but check your local laws becaue I think some states don't allow pepper spray to be carried for self defence. If you're in the UK pepper spray is illegal so I suggest an alternative which is a spray very similar to pepper spray only without the peppers. It's a chemical substance that will foam up extremely quickly leaving the attacker very confused and disorientated (sp) as well as leaving a dye marker on them for easy police capture.
That's really the best I can do as far as self defence goes I'm afraid. I don't want to be showing you how to fight off attackers and such because, as someone once said, "a little knoewlegde can be a dangerous thing." It's for this reason I think the best thing you can do is seek a professional class to attend for defnsive lessons.
Sorry if this wasn't much help.
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ok, i have a few awkward questions about sex and getting pregnant and no-no juice, and etc.
first of all, is it possible to get pregnant without the man ejaculating inside the woman? meaning, if a man is inside a woman, but pulls out way before he comes, is it possible to get pregnant from the precome?
also, can you get pregnant from semen getting on your vagina, when the man is not inside you?
thank you.
As Sabine said, never trust a guy to pull out no matter how much they assure you they will or how much you love them etc, etc, etc. It really isn't worth the risk. Not only are you opening the way to STD's (lets face it you never know where or what a guy may havebeen up to before he was with you) but not only can guys just not have the will power to pull out in time. I've known it to happen to a lot of my female friends a large number of which ended up pregnant because of it. Also, there is pre-cum as well which, although not common, can also get you pregnant. It really isn't worth taking the risk especially since you'll be the one ending up pregnant.
As for someone cuming on you (on the outside) I've not heard of any cases of anyone becoming pregnant in this way but it may still be best avoided regardless - just to be on the safe side.
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f/16
My boyfriend came over last night to watch a movie(we werent planning on doing anything).
During the movie, we started to make out.
Then it came to me giving him a bj.
After that he told me how much he loved me & he asked if we wanted to have sex.
i said yes, and as soon as he was taking my undies off, my little sister (10 years) walked in on us. I didnt even know she was home!
She just kinda stood there, and i yelled at her to get out.
Right after that my bf had to go home.
i dont know what to do because shes probably going to tell my parents & i dont want them to know!
help please?
All I can really suggest is if you really want to, that you talk to your sister. At the end of the day she obviously didn't know you were there either doing what you was doing so her getting yelled at for doing nothing wrong wouldn't really be fair and it may save your skin as far as your parents finding out too. If she's already told your parents than at least you'd be able to find out that much and can act accordingly.
Were you and your boyfriend going to use protection? If not then you can probably consider your sister walkin in a blessing in some ways. At this moment instead of worrying about your parents finding out you could very well be worrying that you might be pregnant or maybe even something worse.
If your parents do know then it'll really be up to you what you want to tell your parents because I don't like to encourage anyone to lie (since it's just wrong and parents eventually find out anyway). Last thing you need is to just lie to their face when they know it's true - that would be all the trust they have for you out the window. If they know (and your sister tells you that she told them) firstly, don't be mad at her. Just tell her you're sorry for shouting at her but you were embaressed in her seeing you that way. Secondly, it might be a good idea to approach your mom and talk to her about it. Better you going to them than them coming to you and just... tell the truth. That it wasn't planned and just happen and your little sister walked in which your sorry about (and mention you did tell her you're sorry for yelling at her).
sorry I can't be more help than that.
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hi!
16/f.. my friend gave me her old phone cus she just got a new one, but she just moved away and i don't have any way of onctacting her. the phone needs a pin number and it's locked so i can't do anything without th enumber. it's a t-mobile dash phone. does anyone know if theres any way i can just like restart the whole phone?
There'sa number of things you can try...
The first is to take it into a shop where they can unlock phones for you. They might be able to use a data cable to bypass the phone and get it reset (am not sure of this is even possible).
Another alternative is to take it into a T-Mobile store to see if they can assist you in bypassing the pin.
However, in both instances you must be aware - since mobile phone theft is a serious problem almost all networks are very cautious about this kind of request especially since your friend gave you the phone, moved away and has never been heard from again (strange friend - moved and then never bothered to keep in touch ever again). This is not what I am saying but this is what they may say and ask you. Also, taking it into a shop to ask them to unlock/remove the pin may also result in the same kind of questioning (the phone could very well be a stolen phone for all they know).
Those are really the only options you have unless you buy a data cable yourself (£10-15 generally) and see if you can find software to bypass and reset the PIN. As I said though, even this I am not sure as to how sucessful it will be since I've not tried with any of the more newer phones.
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14/f. ok, well i have a boyfriend, but i dont really know him. its like, i know him but i never really talked to him a lot. and its weird, because when he calls its just like, "yeaaa" akward silences! im deffinatly scared i'll be uninteresting,i mean i like him a lot,i havent had a boyfriend befor, i dont know what to do! and cant think of anything to say, help, please?!=/
No offence to amy21 but that has to be the worst answer I've ever seen!
She's right most guys just think about sex and that's it and if he's with you just for that then you can obviously do better and he's not worth being with. If that's not the case though (and the only way you'll really find out is if you talk and get to know him).
I'm not sure at what circumstances you both decided to date but there must have been something there? So talk to him about him, get to find out who your boyfriend is. It's the only way you can really progress in a relationship otherwise, until you do, you're pretty much going out with a stranger you don't even know. Ask him how his day was, ask him what he likes doing, what kindamovies he likes - see what you both have in common and just go from there. The idea of dating is generally to get to know the other person and see if you're both compatible and if you both 'click'. If that's not there then obviously you're not meant to be but if it is then you can work on the relationship. Obviously the first thing you need to do as well is to see that he feels about you how you feel about him. If you like him so much and all he's after is sex then you're obviously with the wrong guy. The thing to remember is that although this is your first boyfriend it's not going to be your last - so don't feel you have to do everything he says or wants just because it's the only way to keep him. In a relationship like that things never work out. It takes more than that for a relationship to develop into something.
Feel free to message if you have any more questions and such and good luck with him. :]
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Well I have a friend we will call her Brittany and I have a boyfriend we will call him John well John was msging Brittany on myspace and I was having Brittany ask him if he really did like me and if he was starting to fall inlove with me. Well John said he did like me and yes he was starting to fall inlove with me. Well then he told her that she was hott and she said well i've got a boyfriend and your dating my best friend he goes oh well im just playing and then he said but i'd do anything with you but don't tell my girlfriend (which is me). Brittany said ugh excuse me thats something to say to her BEST FRIEND... Well he knows I have his myspace name and password. My friend Shell told me about him saying that to Brittany. And I got on his myspace in Class and checked it. and he did say all of that to her.
Now wouldn't you think if he really did like me, that he wouldn't be flirting with my BEST FRIEND. what should i say to him. I mean I just want to talk to him about it. If it leads to breaking up then it does. but yeah
I need some help!
I'd have to agree with you - that's not the smartest thing to be saying especially to your girlfriends best friend. I can imagine if her boyfriend found out he would also want words with him about what he had said.
It might have just been some innocent flirting but the thing that's nagging is the 'i'd do anything with you but don't tell my girlfriend' part. It simply suggests to me he would happily do things with her behind your back and keep it a secret from you. I'll say this much - at least your friend told him to get lost (although not in so many words).
I think you should just talk to him about it and ask him what his game is. At the end of the day you've a right to know what's going on because if he's willing to cheat on you (that's basicly what he was saying as far as I can see it) then there might be a big problem as far as your relationship goes with him because you need to know you can trust him.
Hope everything works out okay either way and good luck in talking to him.
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my boyfriend and his friends always make fun of me because i dotn have any on top. and they always tease him about it. im a very open minded person so i always ask him why he does that it hurts my feelings and he just laughs and says its true but he loves me? whatever. but im afraid hes gonna dump me. what should i do. please help. thanks
I think there's more to a girl than just what they have on top. :/
So you shouldn't think any less of yourself either. You know there's more to you than that and to be quite frank about it - if he's going to dump you because of that or because of what his friends say or any of that then I think you're better off because you can do SO much better than someone like him.
There's more to you than just that and if he or his friends don't see that then they obviously have a lot to learn as well as a lot of growing up to do.
Also, it might be an idea to talk to him about it again. Personally if someone was saying that about my girlfriend (be it a friend or not) I'd tell them to stfu and keep their opinion to themselves. Maybe you should let him know that yes it might be true but that doesn't mean his friends and him can go around teasing you about it especially since it hurts your feelings.
You may even need to put things into perspective for him in which case maybe ask him how he would like it if you and your friends were to discuss his 'shortness' down below. I doubt he would find that very funny and even if it might be a fact doesn't mean it's ok to talk about. So in the same way I see no reason why it's ok the other way around.
Hope you manage to sort this out with him and please rmember what I said. If hes going to dump you just because of this then about you then you're better off. You deserve someone whos going to appreciate you for who you are and not just how big you are ore on top. Anyone who can be so trivial is a very sad and pathetic person in my opinion. x
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hi you just answerd a question for me - 15/f 125 depressed-
yeah well its not easy to stick to eating right cuz i turn to food when im depressed which is all the time. also ive been dignosed as sucidal and its really hard to exersise when youre sad you know how can i start to exersise?
Hi.
I'm sorry to hear about your depression. That's not good at all. :[
I know how hard exercising can be especially if you're just starting out. Just start slow and small like sit ups and taking a small run (if you have a dog then go on a small run with your dog) orpop in your ipod and listen to some music at the same time.
It doesn't even have to strictly be exercise. If you like dancing pop in some good music you love dancing to and dance away for 30 mins a day. Just that will make a big difference. You won't need to do a full 30 mins to start with either, as I said start off slow and move up to 30 mins gradually and at your own pace.
If you have a friend you hang out with try and get them in on it as well. If you've a friend helping you it really does make it all that much easier. I used to hate going to the gym (wasted a lot of money by paying and then just not going because I didn't have the motivation to go). I now found out that one my friends goes there too and it's the exact same thing with him - no motivation to go (he hasn't gone in months). So after I renew my membership next week I aim togo as often as I can without making my back worse and take my mate along with me for that extraa support and motivation.
The turning to food when depressed is something I understand all too well too. When you're depressed why not turn to some friends instead to talk to them about what's bringing you down? Or just to talk and try get them to help cheer you up a little? I know it may not work but it's sure worth a try.
The best way to try would be to start off slow and make your way up from there. As I said, you can do it you just have to believe in yourself. I know you can do it. :] If you ever do need to talk then feel free to message me anytime whether it just be to talk if your depressed or just to get more tips and such.
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