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little sister walking in on us
f/16
My boyfriend came over last night to watch a movie(we werent planning on doing anything).
During the movie, we started to make out.
Then it came to me giving him a bj.
After that he told me how much he loved me & he asked if we wanted to have sex.
i said yes, and as soon as he was taking my undies off, my little sister (10 years) walked in on us. I didnt even know she was home!
She just kinda stood there, and i yelled at her to get out.
Right after that my bf had to go home.
i dont know what to do because shes probably going to tell my parents & i dont want them to know!
help please?
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If i were you i would go sit down and talk to yours sister. that kind of happened to me. my brother heard me and my boyfriend and told my mom and she walked in on us. but thats beside the point. talk to her and ask her if you two can keep a sister sister secret and if it makes her feel better than you can tell her to tell you something secret and you can keep each others secrets.
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You never mentioned whether or not she has had sex education at school or from you folks. That's a HUGE factor here. If she hasn't you'll have to talk to her about everything and answer her questions honestly.
Tell her that when two people really love one another that they have sex and explain the machanics and ask her if she has any questions at all about what she saw? If so answer her honestly.
Then tell her that this is a secret and confidential that she can ask about this topic and get answers and nothing about that or what happened ever leaves the room.
Yelling at her may have given her a mixed signal that what she saw was wrong or dirty or frightened her. Tell her you yelled because you were surprised and didn't want her to see something she wasn't ready or old enough to know about or fully understand.
She is not likely to go to your parents as she's going to be very embarrassed by it. If she goes to anyone it will be you. She may not even have any desire to approach you as a lot of kids are either curious or unphased by it thinking it gross and don't want to bring it up again.
Others need to talk. She won't likely go to your parents because a lot of kids who have walked in on someone don't want to be scolded for seeing what they saw.
Go approach her now about it and be open and honest as you can. You might even want to get her a book on the subject and growing up etc. Talk to her and then leave her alone until she comes to you.
If she ever did tell your parents (which she won't) just be honest that yes something happened, you spoke to her about it and she's okay and that you use protection and will only do this behind closed doors to avoid further problem.
Your parents are not apt to be angry once they realize you were being safe and she walked in by accident. It could have as easily happened to themselves so they ought to understand.
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All I can really suggest is if you really want to, that you talk to your sister. At the end of the day she obviously didn't know you were there either doing what you was doing so her getting yelled at for doing nothing wrong wouldn't really be fair and it may save your skin as far as your parents finding out too. If she's already told your parents than at least you'd be able to find out that much and can act accordingly.
Were you and your boyfriend going to use protection? If not then you can probably consider your sister walkin in a blessing in some ways. At this moment instead of worrying about your parents finding out you could very well be worrying that you might be pregnant or maybe even something worse.
If your parents do know then it'll really be up to you what you want to tell your parents because I don't like to encourage anyone to lie (since it's just wrong and parents eventually find out anyway). Last thing you need is to just lie to their face when they know it's true - that would be all the trust they have for you out the window. If they know (and your sister tells you that she told them) firstly, don't be mad at her. Just tell her you're sorry for shouting at her but you were embaressed in her seeing you that way. Secondly, it might be a good idea to approach your mom and talk to her about it. Better you going to them than them coming to you and just... tell the truth. That it wasn't planned and just happen and your little sister walked in which your sorry about (and mention you did tell her you're sorry for yelling at her).
sorry I can't be more help than that.
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