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BAD GIRLFRIEND!
14/f. ok, well i have a boyfriend, but i dont really know him. its like, i know him but i never really talked to him a lot. and its weird, because when he calls its just like, "yeaaa" akward silences! im deffinatly scared i'll be uninteresting,i mean i like him a lot,i havent had a boyfriend befor, i dont know what to do! and cant think of anything to say, help, please?!=/
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No offence to amy21 but that has to be the worst answer I've ever seen!
She's right most guys just think about sex and that's it and if he's with you just for that then you can obviously do better and he's not worth being with. If that's not the case though (and the only way you'll really find out is if you talk and get to know him).
I'm not sure at what circumstances you both decided to date but there must have been something there? So talk to him about him, get to find out who your boyfriend is. It's the only way you can really progress in a relationship otherwise, until you do, you're pretty much going out with a stranger you don't even know. Ask him how his day was, ask him what he likes doing, what kindamovies he likes - see what you both have in common and just go from there. The idea of dating is generally to get to know the other person and see if you're both compatible and if you both 'click'. If that's not there then obviously you're not meant to be but if it is then you can work on the relationship. Obviously the first thing you need to do as well is to see that he feels about you how you feel about him. If you like him so much and all he's after is sex then you're obviously with the wrong guy. The thing to remember is that although this is your first boyfriend it's not going to be your last - so don't feel you have to do everything he says or wants just because it's the only way to keep him. In a relationship like that things never work out. It takes more than that for a relationship to develop into something.
Feel free to message if you have any more questions and such and good luck with him. :]
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Do you really think he would find you disintersting? He must find you interesting or he would not be dating you. You just have to let yourself go here and toss fear out the window.
All he's looking for you to be is the girl that first caught his eye in the first place. He saw something there obviously that he liked.
Just be yourself. Start talking to him like you would your very best friend. It's really not that different at all. Find out about his interests, favotite movies, passions, goals, family, bands etc etc.
Also, confess to him that you have always been shy especially around guys you liked and ask him to be patient with you until you become more comfortable with the relationship.
Let him know you like, him and want to date him. He will help you come out of your shell more if he knows this.
Just remember you are no less interesting than anyone else. Believe in who you are and in your head always remember that he must have found you attractive, apealing and interesting or he wouldn't want to be with you period.
All you need to do is tell yourself in your head that A) he's interested in me for a reason B)He cares what I have to say C) if I treat talking to him like I do anyone else I'll succeed.
Also, he's just as terrified of you as you are of him and talking to you and looking bad. Once you tell him about your fear he'll probably confess he feels the same way you do.
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some guys arent gonna say whats on their minds, which is sex ofcourse, so awkward silences n stuf r him thinkin of tht. n if u dnt do summat wit him hes gna b disapointed. not sure if youve done anythin sexual before but try giving him a blowjob. boys like it and he will be interested. hell call you more and youll have something to talk aobut!
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Have some of your friends and his friends hang out together in a group so that conversation will come easier. You shouldn't feel uncomforable talking with YOUR OWN boyfriend because if you do, then your relationship will be hard to keep. Hope I helped!
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