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The Question
okay well school is almost back and I still have to get some outfits but I have to wear uniforms but I can have desighns on it but I dont know what is cute so if you have any ideas then will you please help me if you have a serious answer then I will give you a good rating
please please help me
p.s. I rate 5's for any answers
and I check EVERY day or maby every second
just please help me
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When I had to wear a uniform I used to add funky buttons to all my dress shirts or beads on the pockets. A few shirt I put eyelets into and laced them up with ribbon insteed of buttons. Also excersorize, cool braclets and earing go a long way.
Always bend the uniform code! Consider it a creative challage. Find loop holes in the silly rules and go for it!
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Okay, I consider myself kind of pretty. I have had guys admit to like me but I have never had a guy ask me out! Why will the openly tell me what they would like doing to me (sexually) but never have enough courage to ask me out?
The Answer
Because fantazing about having sex with a girl is not the same thing as wanting to date a girl. Don't aim to be the gal they want to sleep with, aim to be the girl they want to hang out with and talk to.
Also, ASK THEM OUT! You can't blame a guy for not having the courage to do something that you don't have the courage to do either.
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Okay so my boyfriend and I had sex. And now I am worried that I may be pregnant. I won't know for a few more weeks however. I thought i had pregnancy symptoms like I was really hungry, tired, and bitchy but then I was thinking about it and I get like that a week before I get my period. However I heard that even if you get your period that you could still be pregnant. I thought that was completely wrong but I am not sure. So can you be pregnant even if you get your period? I know you start spotting if your pregnant but your period and spotting are different. SO someone please help me out.
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Being really hungry, tired, and bitchy are not really signs of pregancy, that just sounds like bad mood. The best physical sign of pregancy is morning sickness, which can happen right away.
You can get your period if you are pregant although it not terribly likely.
My advice is relax, stress will also stop your period. Wait untill you are at least three days late, or even if you have your period and are still concerned, and take a home pregancy test.
But seriously, next time use protection and avoid this whole mess!
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The Question
How does anorexia harm you or your body? I know pukeing will stain your teeth but what else?? cuz if thats it, then whats the harm right?
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Well eventually you can die. Besides that, your body's immune system begins to break down, your teeth and gums lose thier protective barrier and your bones and muscles become weaker and weaker.
You will be sick more often, less able to normal things physical things like run or swim, your skin will loose its colour and mostuire, look pale and dry. Many women also loose thier ability to bear childern, those who are anerexic and do have children suffer from serious complications.
Anorexia is not attractive. It is creepy. It also messes with your body in terrible ways, especailly if you are young and still growing.
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I have had my girlfriend for 2 and a half years.... she recently had a crush on someone else who she had been spending quite alot of time with lately.... she didnt tell me about the crush, and he also happened to like her. Instead of telling me, she flirted with him, and she told him she liked him and he kissed her. She said she pushed him away and said that she couldnt kiss him because she loves me. She continued to hang around this guy hoping that situation would blow over. It didnt and he kissed her 2 more times(She kissed back a little bit before pushing him away these times) and continued to spend time with him. I didnt find this out until one of the guys friends told me about it. I confronted her and she told me the situation i had just described. She says she is really sorry and that she didnt want to hurt me and she loved me and didnt know why she kept up with this other guy. She then called him telling him that she cant ever speak with him again. I am very confused on whether or not i should break up with her because I love her so much. On the other hand im scared this could happen again. Should i break up and throw two and a half years down the drain or try and fix this up. She also seemed very sincere in her apology.....
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Obviously you are really hurt but it seems to me like this is something the two of you can overcome. The real question is what motivated her to do this. Was there something she wasn't getting in your relationship, did she just want to prove she was still desirable, or was it just the thrill of doing something she knew she shouldn't. Its normal to be attrached to other people, but it isn't right to act on those desires when you are in an exclusive relationship.
If you can't get an honest reason as to why she choose to be with this guy (and don't let anyone fool you, she did choose, it wasn't all his fault, she lead him on and let him) then its hard to believe it wont happen agian.
Trust your gut on this one, but don't hold on to something that isn't right for you, no matter how much time you have invested.
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i have many friends but they never call me or ask me to hang out. its always me talking to them or calling them or asking them to hang out. i have a boyfriend who ive been with for almost a year and they have kept in touch with me less and less since ive been with him. i really want my friends back and to make new friends. what can i do?
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I always say the best advice is to be the kinda friend you want to have. But if you are tired of always being the one doing the planning then you might be outta luck with this praticular group.
If you still feel close your friends you might just out right ask them if there is a problem, and listen seriously to what they say. Maybe they just don't like going out as much as you do.
Also try tagging alone insteed of always being the planner. Let someone else choose what they wanna do and go with it. Your friends might be just as bored with you always making the plans as you are.
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My Bat Mitzvah is oct 16 and I'm so not ready!!! My invitations just came in, I don't have a list of people, my kids party isn't booked, and my service is barely ready because my hebrew school teacher had a baby!!! The only things that are good is my luncheon after my service. How can I get organized fast and how can i mentally prepare myself?! My hebrew school teacher is so unorganized!!!!!
Help!!!
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Relax. Although I understand this is a huge day for you and one you want a big party for, you still have months of preparing!
Your teacher just had a baby!!!! No wonder she is busy. Chill. Do what you can. Like make up your list with the help of your family and send out those invitations. I doubt your hebrew teacher has forgotten you, but if you want to, gently remind her and tell her how nervous you are, I'm sure she'll be able to help you feel better.
Remember your Bat Mitzvah is about being an adult in the eyes of the eyes of your parents and elders and welcomed into your community of faith. Focus on being educated and spiritually prepared for this important day.
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so i was in a theatre once, and this guy comes in trying to sell a folex to people in the audience. i called the cops and they came, but it turns out he was just a part of a pre-show show kind of thing. now he and the show are suing me for false criminalization or something like that, and i think i should countersue for tricking me. my parents think that's stupid, but i think i should do it just so i have a chance of getting some money out of this.
what should i do?
(by the way i'm a 13/f lesbian)
The Answer
Neither suit will be successful as long as you didn't slander the theatre or the people afterwards. (That is, say bad things about them without proof of wrong doing.) You can't sue them for representing themselves as something other then they are, it has been tried before in the united states, Canada and Europe and has never been successful as it is generally understood that actors are not being who they are.
If you stopped the show, (therefore loosing money for the theatre) caused the actor to have a criminal record, or spoke publicly against them, they actually have a solid lawsuit against you in many states. Having said that though, chill out, it probably won’t be successful. Don't counter sue because it will only make you look more malicious and silly to a judge.
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i was wondering is there anyway u can get a size or 2 smaller in jeans in a week or sooner??
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No healthy way. I'm sorries but that goal is just unrealistic, not even the celeberties with personal trainers, and specialized doctors can drop sizes that quickly.
Whatever you do, don't starve yourself. You'll only gain wieght as your body goes into starvation mode. The better idea is to get lots of exercise, like 2 hours a day worth, eat only natural healthy foods, and drink lots of water. You probably wont shrink two sizes, but you will see a noticable difference in about 7 to 10 days.
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which out of all of these broadway shows are the best and which one should i get tickets to??
-avenue Q
-hairspray
-wicked
The Answer
Wicked! By far more worth it then Hairspray. Better story, better music, much more phenomenal specail effects. Hairspray is fun enough and silly, but given the choice I'd definately see Wicked.
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Hey there any one who is reading this, i used to like this guy quite badly, we hit it off rather well, unfortunatley i was young so i did not think to ask him out, as in out n about, he was always round the house, so it was impossible to get away from him, no to long and i ended up really enjoying his company, we used to make out with major flirting involved, he was always around my house because he was in my brothers band and could not get home so ended up stayn round, but when there wasn practise he stayed even then, thats when i thought, he had been home only to come back again the same day. about august we had this really romantic night, he had been on holdiay, and stayd round again when he got back, we never told any one. at gigs he would stare at me, for me to look and he would smile and look away, once he blew me a great big kiss, when people wer round but cudnt c. nothitng was ever confirmed, he had then got a gf, was in love with her, 5months l8r, they broke up cz she cheated on him, n we startd tlkn again, he may hav lost interest in me cz my family told him to basicaly go home for a while. bout may this yr, we ended up makin out again, this was accidental, and HE started the flirting cz i dint wnt to go down that road, we kissd, ther wer 3 othr people in the room, so i dint proceed, he askd if we cd go downstairs, i said no, so we remained kissing, we wer tlkn loads afta that, i met him again bout 2 months l8r, an was stuck at his house after a gig, 2 other people wer stayn, i ended up stayn on the floor, 2 lads on the couch, and he stayd on the floor with me, again HE started it, by meaningless poking, i wasn sure if i liked him that way any more at all, his m8s got the gist, as we made n accidentl loud kiss, we held hands, it was nice to have comfort, i no im looking for a guy hu will be there whenevr i call, for me to fall back on, i ended up havn sex with him, i wntd to tlk to him n stuff for the rest of the night, but his m8 shortly afta came bak in the room, i think i may be regretting what happened. i think i want more from him, or i may just be lonely. im quite worried, this has gone on too long...
The Answer
You seem to know in heart that this guy can't give you what you want, that he wont be there for you unconditionally or be around when you call.
You can tell him what you need from a relationship if you really want one with him, if not, then the best thing to do is apologise, tell him you think you made a mistake and don't want that to happen agian. Then stick to your guns and wait for someone you do want. Don't compromise yourself agian.
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The Question
What do you guys think is better shaving your you no what or no shaving it.
please tell me
The Answer
There are actually guys who prefere unshaven girls. I've meet some. But it seems like most like the clean shaven look. Personally I just feel a lot cleaner during my period if I am clean shaven so thats why I do it.
Anyways, use a good razor, never a dull one, lots of shaving cream and take your time, especailly when you are learning to shave down there. Trim the hair first if its long cause it will make it easier and don't expect to manage a perfectly close shave the first time. If you get any little red bumps or burning soak in a warm bath and you'll fell and look better.
Hope that helps :)
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I just recentely got out of a 10 month relationship, (Three weeks ago) but also just found somebody new. This new guy I'm pretty sure might ask me out soon, but the problem is he's a grade older than me. I know that's not much older at all, but my parents are very protective. I know that if he were to ask me out I'd say yes, but I don't know how to break it to my parents. I don't have the closest relationship with them when it comes to boys. Also, when my sister was a freshman like I am she dated a senior and they let her go out with him all the time. Don't you think it would be unfair if they didn't do the same for me? So how do you think I should break it to my parents?
The Answer
First off change the way you think about this, you are not 'breaking the news' to your parents like it is something to be ashamed off, you are informing them about a guy you met and would like to date.
If you talk them assuming they are gonna disaprove and try and stop you, then they are going to smell a rat and do just that. Do you think there is anything wrong with dating this guy? If not, act that way. Don't drag your sister into this cause every kid is different, just use your own confidence and maturity when dealing with your parents.
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Ok. Me and my friends are working on a movie and we only have 3 people including me. We each have a lot of parts. Should we get more people? O yah? Do you think making a movie and sending it to Hollywood would make people like have a career in acting like the famous people? Can you give me some tips?
The Answer
1.) No don't get more people, it will only complicate things and give you more egos and opinions to fight with. Stick to your many roles and have fun.
2.) No. Agents and producers in hollywood are already flooded with silly audition tapes and the such, they burn them to heat thier million dollar homes. Much more productive would be to send your movie into a teen film festival or competition and get some awards under your belt.
Find a your state film board or maybe a tv station or something that is running a film contest, you have a much better chance of being noticed that way.
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Can I still go to the gyno for my first check up if I have my period?
The Answer
You can go. but it wont be as productive for either of you and you will probably be really uncomfortable about it.
If I were you I'd reschedual unless there was something really important you needed.
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Hey. I am going out with my best friend. Before we were going out, he was so sweet and loving and everything. Now that we are going out, he doesn't act like that anymore. First he was really bad, he basically ignored me. (It wasn't because he was embarrassed)Now he has gotten better but still hasn't gone back to normal. I know he is trying, but how long is too long? (Its been 5 months!)
The Answer
Its been waaay too long. Forget about the way he feels for a minute and ask yourself if you are getting what you need from this relationship, it doesn't sound like you are. Give him one more chance if you want, but I think its time to decide that you make better friends then a couple.
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society tells us that having premarital sex is wrong, (risk of pregnancy, stds...) but also emotionally, that you cant handle a breakup after you lose your virginity to someone, it changes your life forever, etc. I know all of that, but is it true with EVERY SINGLE relationship that if you have premarital sex, it'll drive you two apart and you'll eventually break up. How wrong is it to have sex in highschool (only with 1 person of course and you keep it between yourself.) my boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and I want to have sex with him eventually but I'm afraid it'll make us break up... why does that happen? like think back in the 1940's, if you got pregnant both of you would drop out of highschool and GET MARRIED...why cant it be like that these days?
The Answer
Why can't it be the same way as the 40s?
Because we are smarter then that, the world has changed.
Now to answer your real question. Why don't people drop out of school and get married. Because its really really dumb. Highschool drop outs, at the age of 16 or 17 even, are not even legal adults in this age. They cannot possibly earn enough money to survive the way they once could but are still dependant on thier families for support.
Does premerital sex break-up relationships? Thats really a matter of opinion. I would say no, sex itself doesn't destroy a relationship but it brings all of the issues of trust and love to the forground. If there are any problems, they will only get more serious after having sex. Of course many people have premartial sex and still get married and live happily ever after.
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okay
my b/f says he cares
but he doesnt act like it AT ALL.
i dont know wuts going on but like, ill ask him if he "wants" anything and he says w/e u want, and i have been asking and asking him and he never tells me and he has even gotten really mad about it, i dont know what to do, please help..i mean, we do all this shit in teh movies not sex, but other stuff and it seems like he always has other thigns going on...please help me find out what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The Answer
Lay off the poor guy. No wonder he isn't egar to spend time with you if you are always bothering him about what he wants.
Lead by example, tell him what you want and what you like. Eventually he will start to share too. But don't put so much presure on him or yourself, relationships take time to develope and grow, if you try and force it you'll only ruin it.
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Hey all, i have a few quesions... So, me and my boyfriend want to have sex. Hes 15, and i am 14, and please, dont say we are too young. I am a gymnast and have gymnastics every wednesday. We are going to use a condom and even doing gymnastics, could I still get pregnant? I do every event plus conditioning. Is it possible? I am getting the condom. I dont want a box, just one or two. Where can i buy them and do you have to be a certain age? Where could I hide them so my mom would not fine them? Any help is GREATLY appreciated...
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Okay my person opinion. You are too young and you stand to get hurt. There, I've said it, now on to the advice.
Condoms are highly effective form of birth control, almost 100% effective when used correctly. Which means, learn to use them correctly. Maybe even get some and practice rolling them down a cucumber or some such. Rips and tears in condoms are often there because of improper use.
Although being very active physically, like a gymnastics, can reduce your periods flow and slow your cycle down, it doesn't actually stop you from ovulating, so you have just as much a chance of getting pregant as any other girl.
Get a box of condoms for two reason. One, you need some to practice with and you want to discard any that you might stretch or rip and two, condoms do have an expiry date and often the one or two you can pick up in dispensers or at doctors offices and the like are old and therefor not as effective. It is worth it to buy a good brand of lubricated condoms, they feel better and you are safer.
Good luck.
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My best friend, Lily, in the whole world just got in trouble with her parents because I was out later with her than I should've. Then her parents agreed that they didn't want me hanging out with her.
This really upsets me, but that's not all. She told her parents in the first place that my grandma was going to be there, but of course she wasn't going to be, but she had to say that in order to go. So the both of us had to walk home from this big thing my town was throwing on the 11th of this month, and now it's the 21st and I haven't talked to her since at all, not even online.
I'm really bothered by the fact that she told her parents all this stuff that got her out of trouble. Her parents hate me now, but they forgave her because she started this big scene and made herself cry... basically did the full drama thing.
Now I really have no desire to talk to her. Not because her parents don't like me, because she got herself out of trouble and didn't even attempt to make things work out between her parents and me. She used to be my best friend, and now I have no idea what to do. I'm really sad that she did this to me, and I really wanted to see her but she didn't even try to make things better.
I'm really sorry it's so long. Please help!
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Your friend acted really selfishly. She tired to save her own ass by making you out to be the bad guy but I'd like to try and break this down for you.
1.) Her parents are morons for blaming thier daughters bad behavoir on her friends, they are going to pay for that big time.
2.) She wasn't a very good friend when she let you take all the blame and she is not making this any better by refusing to talk to you or apologize.
If you really want to contact her I'd tell her that you are very hurt and would like an apology. If you want to see her agian with her parents permisson she will probably have to tell them the truth. If she isn't willing to do that then your friendship wasn't as important to her as it was to you. Thats terribly sad and painful but you can't fix it, just hope that your friend is capable of acting responsibly.
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