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Should I Dump Her?!?!?!
I have had my girlfriend for 2 and a half years.... she recently had a crush on someone else who she had been spending quite alot of time with lately.... she didnt tell me about the crush, and he also happened to like her. Instead of telling me, she flirted with him, and she told him she liked him and he kissed her. She said she pushed him away and said that she couldnt kiss him because she loves me. She continued to hang around this guy hoping that situation would blow over. It didnt and he kissed her 2 more times(She kissed back a little bit before pushing him away these times) and continued to spend time with him. I didnt find this out until one of the guys friends told me about it. I confronted her and she told me the situation i had just described. She says she is really sorry and that she didnt want to hurt me and she loved me and didnt know why she kept up with this other guy. She then called him telling him that she cant ever speak with him again. I am very confused on whether or not i should break up with her because I love her so much. On the other hand im scared this could happen again. Should i break up and throw two and a half years down the drain or try and fix this up. She also seemed very sincere in her apology.....
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dump the b i t c h!!! man shes not worth it. and i hate to see friend like this. Cheer up, lets goto the bar and get someone else for you!!
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the problem with your partner going with someone else once means that they are prone to do it again. once they "cheat" even for the lamest reason they can do it again. the whole mindset behind it is that they went looking for someone different. they actually hung out with someone different.
im not saying that you shouldnt give her another chance. but you should strongly think about this. she kissed another guy... remember. do you think you could continue to be her b/f knowing that she did?!? if you can then more power to you. if you cant ..well you kno wut to do
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A two year relationship should be tried for another chance. Your girlfriend needs to stay away from him, and if she doesn't, then you'll have to give her your strong warning and explain how serious you are about this. And if that doesn't do it, give her up for a few days and then she'll get it. She obviously likes this guy a lot if she has the nerve to keep hanging around him. You need to sit down with her and say, "I am really glad that you've admitted to this, but for me, its going to take a lot of time to build things back the way they were. I am still hurt and I need you to stand by me instead of this other guy" Make sure she understands. I want you to work this out with her, and you both need to help each other out in this.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well,
just in your tone, I can tell you don't want to dump her and personally, I don't think you should. A kiss is a kiss but I mean... she said sorry and sometimes that's all can do.
I really think you should give her one more chance and take another chance to trust her like you did before. She loves you, obviously and I KNOW you love HER. I don't think you should throw away 2 AND A HALF YEARS of memories down the drain over a stupid, meaningless kiss. That would be dumb.
You would feel terrible and so would she. You would still have feelings for HER, and she would still have feelings for YOU.
You know in your heart what's right and what you want to do with this. Don't let people on this website confuse you with a bunch of different oppinions. You need to have your OWN thoughts and feelings.
You love her so don't throw away 2 and half great years on something this little. It won't happen again, or so she says but I say... if it DOES happen again, dump her because there's a little saying that goes, "Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me."
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Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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Just know this, your relationship will fall apart. Teen relationships barely even last a year. You should be very happy its lasted this long. Your girlfriend is bored of you though.
Break up. You can't really think this will go on much longer do you? She was dumb enough to pal around with this guy after all of those happenings, who knows, maybe she'd never have told you.
She is bored of you, move on, except its over.
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I think maybe try to stay with her and see how it goes over.I mean two and a half years is along time to throw away,and if she really loves you like she says she wont want things to end..that or hurt you in anyway
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stay with her! it'll work out for the best!! good luck!
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WoW, I'm sorry man. But since you have been dating this girl for 2 and a half years i think that you should at least give it another try. Because if you break up with her now you might be throwing something good away. I think you should let yourself heal from this situation and move on. And if she does this again just kindly break up with her. You shouldnt have to go through all of that again. Well good luck to you.
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my advise to you is dump her if this keeps happening if shes doing nothing to prevent him from kissing her then you need to tell her its the guy or you
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Obviously you are really hurt but it seems to me like this is something the two of you can overcome. The real question is what motivated her to do this. Was there something she wasn't getting in your relationship, did she just want to prove she was still desirable, or was it just the thrill of doing something she knew she shouldn't. Its normal to be attrached to other people, but it isn't right to act on those desires when you are in an exclusive relationship.
If you can't get an honest reason as to why she choose to be with this guy (and don't let anyone fool you, she did choose, it wasn't all his fault, she lead him on and let him) then its hard to believe it wont happen agian.
Trust your gut on this one, but don't hold on to something that isn't right for you, no matter how much time you have invested.
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