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Does anybody cut themselves? Anyone used to cut? If so why?
help... how do i keep myself from not cutting..?
One of my friends used to cut. I'm not sure if this would help you, but what she used to do in order to stop was wear a rubber band around her wrist as a bracelet. Whenever she felt like cutting she'd just snap the rubber band. It would be painful of course, but wouldn't have any long term effects like cutting does. It worked for awhile, but not for long because she said she needed to see the blood. If it's that bad, you should really seek help for your problem. At that point, it has become a horrible addiction. It's really hard to stop cutting on your own. It's good that you want to. Be an adult about this and get the help that you need. Short term awkwardness or embarassment is better than the long term effects that your addiction can have. Good luck.
I heard sex makes your breasts grow if you do it enough (not by getting pregnant). Is this true?
I've heard that too. I thought it was true for awhile, but it's definitely not. Nothing can make your boobs grow other than of course natural growth, or pregnancy.
how do i masturbate by myself? i finger myself but is there anything else? thanks for answering
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation_howto.htm
Don't worry, the site isn't graphic at all, it's purely educational. It should help. Good luck. :)
what is a reasonable curfew for a responsible sixteen year old?
I would say 10 or 11:00. More important than curfew is knowing who they are with, where they are going, and what they are doing. Wanting to see a midnight movie with a friend or two of the same sex that you know and wanting to go to a party being held by someone's parents that you don't know are two very different things. A curfew is a good place to start, but decisions should ultimately be based on their plans, not just how late they'll be out. Use the curfew if you don't feel like explaining to them why you really don't want them to go. If you are a 16 year old and not a parent like I assumed, just do what your parents say. If you want to negotiate a curfew, using the "everyone thinks you should let me out later" isn't going to work. If you want to get your curfew moved later, show your parents that you are responsible. Do some chores around the house or something. Getting a later curfew is hard work and talking to your parents about it isn't going to get you anywhere if it hasn't already. Good luck. :)
yeah, do you know how long it takes for it to go away, or will it go away at all? its like right on the tip of my breast.. thanks for everything:)
It should be gone by the time your period is done. If it's not, wait a few days and if it's still not gone by then, get it checked out as a precaution. :)
Thank you for the advice that you gave me, i just got these pains last night. Im really scared as to what other people are saying that i can get breast cancer because im only 14. If there is anything else you need to tell me, please do. thank you
No problem. I think it's silly to jump to conclusions like that. Here's a website for you that's definitely reliable. Since you are only 14, your boobs are still growing and your menstrual cycle can make them lumpy too. Don't quote me on this, but I believe that most breast cancer develops in women in their 40's or so. You can probably find that someplace on the website I gave you. Try not to worry about this. Chances are it's nothing. :)
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/understanding-breast-changes/page4
how come my left boob is killing me and my right is just fine? my left has a little ball in the front and it hurts bad.
Don't go running to get it checked out if it hasn't been there for very long. The week before your period and during your period, your boobs can get very achy and lumpy. Mine do all the time. It sucks, but it doesn't mean that I have cancer. Cancer doesn't just show up overnight. If it has been there for more than 3 weeks or doesn't go away a few days after your period, then you should get it checked out. Good luck.
IM BOREDDDD.
what should i do?
Get off of the computer and go outside. If it's raining or somthing play RuneScape. That game can keep you occupied for hours. :)
http://www.runescape.com
Do you think it's wrong to take a picture of your boobs for a guy you're not dating?
p.s. I like him. He says he likes me. If that helps.
Do you want him to like you or do you want him to just want to have sex with you? If you want to have a relationship with him, sending the pictures is a bad idea. It's not a good way to lure him into having a relationship. NOT showing him the pictures is a better way. If you send him the pictures he'll have seen all he needs to see and you'll have left nothing for his imagination. If you don't send him anything and he is interested in seeing something, he'll work hard to get into a relationship with you so he can. Then you'll have the relationship and you'll feel good about him liking your pics. It's easy to sit there and send things over the Internet, but for the future, try to imagine everything you do on the Internet as actually doing it in real life. Would you show him your boobs in real life? Probably not, so don't do it on the Internet. Just because it feels safe and good over the Internet doesn't mean that it really is or that it's a good idea at all. It can get you into a lot of trouble. I wish you the best of luck and remember to keep this guy dreaming, not looking until you're in a relationship. Sending th pics is a good way to ruin your chances with him. Good luck. :)
so a close freind of mine got raped
(police were notified everything is under control)
by the way 13/f
i heard my freinds saying that least she never got her period before and her cherry was poped that she wont be able to have kids.
is this true??
No it's not true. You should end this rumor as soon as you can because if it gets back to your friend it can really hurt her feelings. She needs everyone to be supportive of her right now, not talking about her genitals. The "cherry" is not a bubble that bursts. Every girl has what's called a hymen, which is a flap of skin that partly closes off the vagina. Most girls break it early in their childhood. It can break from things other than sex, such as riding a bike or stretching. Your vagina isn't very big and the first time you have sex, it gets streched out and sometimes bleeds. If your hymen hasn't been broken yet, it will tear. Nothing actually pops or bursts. The bleeding is just referred to as the popping of the cherry. It really makes no sense and I wish that people would stop using the term. Your vagina just streches out and/or tears, nothing pops. Your period is something completely different. It's blood being released from your uterus, which is separated from your vagina by your cervix. The cervix is about 4 inches inside your vagina, while your hymen is not actually in your vagina at all, it's just on the outside. When you have sex, the penis stops at the cervix and can't get into the uterus. Thus, sex before you get your period can't affect whether or not you can have kids. You can't pop your cervix. The bleeding from your period is totally different from the bleeding caused by having sex. When you have your period, your body releases blood that it has built up to prepare for reproduction, while when you "pop your cherry", the blood is from cuts, tears, and streching.
http://www.fccj.org/campuses/north/lac/reproductive_system/female_cross_section.jpg
14/f
so naturally light brown hair, dyed black, grew out, dyed blck again, tried to go back brown- my roots didnt change color. ive done this "back to brown" thing many times but its just stayed black with brown roots. i just died it again and ive been in tears because it doesnt change no matter what i do. im not spending alot of money to get it stripped or professionally done. ive been waiting for a logn time for it to grow out. im tired of wating, what can i do?
Dye it brown. Then you won't have to worry how fast it grows back out. You probably won't even notice. Having your hair stripped of color, even though it might not cost that much, is really bad for your hair. Dying it brown over the black, if it'll work, is probably much better. Good luck! :)
i hvae been in a lot of fights at my new school becasue people say im mean and insulting. I dont really know what it is that i am doing. My old school wasnt a public school, but everyone was mean and snooty and i had public school friends, not saying that public schools are bad, but my frends were just mean people.
The people at my new school have always been in perfect litttle catilian rich people everyone is secretly mean to eachother enviornments, where i have been raised[[incluiding mine and my old friends familes]] in mean bitchy enviornments. The girls at my new school are used to being treated like princesses everyone being nice to them, no one even saying sumthing mean as a joke. they just DONT get it.
ive been trying my hardest to not be mean, but people even still tell me that im mean, and i dnt understand, ill say the stupid, meaningless thing, that i say in a VERY sarcastic way, that anyone would be able to tell that i was joking, even if i was sorta serious, but not letting anyone know. BUt everyone takes it WAY too personally, and they dont understand the fulmeaning thats its a JOKE!
like i said try to be nicer, but i cant seem to get that meaness out of me. I have frends, but i dnt want to loose them because im mean, so what should i do OTHER than trying, because everytime i try it doesnt work.
There's no reason for you to change. If people want to take everything you say the wrong way, that's their perogative. It's kind of refreshing sometimes when people joke around and insult each other. I think that because you are new, that you're doing it a little too much too soon though. You had established relationships with your friends from your other school already and they knew you really well. The kids at your new school don't know you and it's probably not a good idea to make fun of them so much until you've developed a good close bond with a few of them first. You really are starting all over again. It's hard to do, that's why being the new kid can be so difficult. You can gain acceptance though, it's not impossible. For now, don't stop joking with them completely, but make sure you say nice things too every once in awhile. The only thing that can really help you in your situation though is time. It takes time to develop friendships. Just be patient. They'll come around. Good luck! :)
I am experiencing mild cramping in my lower back and abdomen, headaches, fatigue, stuffy nose (something terrible with no signs of cold/flu to accompany it), a larger than usual appetite, and sore breasts.
My cycles usually run between 28 to 31 days. The past 2 months they have been 30 days exactly. I am 2 days from testing right now but the not knowing is just killing me.
I have never been on birth control. My husband and I had unprotected sex on the 8th - 14th of April, each night. The 18th and again on the 22 - 23 of April, each night.
The first day of my last period was April 1, the last day, April 7.
Is there a possibility that I could be pregnant?
OF COURSE! Anytime you have sex, especially unprotected sex, pregnancy is always a possibility. The signs you are experiencing aren't necessarily associated with pregnancy, but they could be. You know all of that. I realize that you're asking this question because you are dying to know whether you are pregnant or not, but honestly, what can we really tell you that you don't already know? Reassure yourself, you don't need us! Just try to relax :) My guess is that you're trying to get pregnant since you had sex so much so many days in a row. If that's the case, great job, you really did everything by the books and have a very high chance of being pregnant. If you end up not being, don't worry, if you keep doing what you're doing, you should be pregnant within a few months. If you're not trying to get pregnant though, no offense, but you deserve to get pregnant for being so foolish. Anyways, good luck, and I hope that you get the results that you want!
ok i dont know why but im always attracted to pervy guys! haha well the crush i had in 6th grade turns out to be pretty pervy, and now the guy i like my friend says is pretty pervy too. well they're also pretty cute and funny.. why do i keep falling for these guys and not like.. un-pervy guys? or maybe pervy guys like turn me on or something? ohgod that sounded weird hahaha
It's actually very natural to be attracted to pervs haha. Umm, what I mean is that it feels good to talk about sex with guys. "Pervs" usually are really good at their craft and are good at luring girls in so that they will give them what they want. Not only are they usually really cute and funny, but when they get to the point and want you to do something sexual for them, you feel like you owe it to them because they were so nice to you and made you feel so good about yourself. It's always a turn on to be pervy (to an extent of course). I mean, thinking and talking about sex is what being turned on is all about in the first place. It's not a bad thing to be attracted to pervy guys. What's bad is actually giving them what they want. As long as you're not giving in to any of their sexual advances you're absolutely fine. Good luck! :)
I`m only 13 and my parents treat me like I`m 18 and they won't buy me ANYTHING! They make me pay for my clothes, my food when I go out to eat, staying at hotels for a family vacation, and basically everything. They won't even buy me a pack of gum! I'm only 13 and I can't really have a well-paying job and I already walk dogs but that can't pay for everything.. I can't even shop anymore because I don't have enough money for more then 2 shirts and as soon as I buy 2 shirts I have to save up for another 3 months until I have any money again.
It really annoys me because my friends always brag about how their mom took them to the mall and bought them 9 bags of clothes and they didn't have to pay. My parents haven't bought me any clothes since I was 11. My mom never takes me to the mall because she says "I don't like to drive and it's too far away." Yeah, the mall is literally 10 minutes away. I still have all winter clothes to survive in this summer because I have NO money to buy anything and my birthday has already passed.
Don't you think it's harsh to make a 13 year old pay for EVERYTHING including like gum and stuff?! The most I can do is walk dogs and it's not like they are punishing me for being a bad kid because I get straight A's and I'm never in trouble so it's not a punishment.. I think they are so harsh because clothes are a necessity and all of my friends sit on their butts and get everything handed to them and I`m trying to pay for everything and it's not going to work out.. I've already tried telling them that it's impossible to pay for my own wardrobe and food and stuff when my only way of getting money is walking dogs because my parents don't pay me for helping out around the house and stuff.. so how can I get them to lighten up and at least pay for SOME of my clothes and other stuff? because it would be helpful if they pitched in a little bit.
P.S if you think I should start babysitting to make money how do I bring this up with my parents?? and I ONLY want to babysit for my neighbors so should I tell them straight out I want to babysit or should my mom tell them?
Even though what your parents are doing is a good thing, they are going really overboard with it. They're trying to teach you that in real life you can't just go out and buy 9 bags of clothes. When you become an adult everything isn't just handed to you. You should just buy what you need and nothing more. It's a good life lesson and your friends will learn it the hard way. When they're out on their own they will still have their spending habits, won't know how to budget money, and will have a really hard time when they realize that all their money is gone and they can't pay for what they actually need. Have you even thought that maybe your parents don't have a lot of money themselves? Maybe they can't really afford to spoil you like your friends parents do. Unless you know exactly how much money they have, you really can't know whether they can afford it or not. A lot of people appear to be wealthy when in reality they are really struggling to make ends meet. Like I said before though, they are going overboard with it. I agree with everything you said. You are only 13 years old and they shouldn't be doing this to you to this level until you are 16. My advice for you is to talk to them about doing jobs for them around the house. For example, if you mow the lawn, take care of all the dishes, dust, vacuum, clean the bathroom, do the laundry, etc., they will either give you money for these chores or buy you a few things. I would also suggest that you ask them about the family's financial situation. At least then, if they were having a hard time you'd know why they were treating you like crap. It would be a little easier to take if there was a valid reason for it. I know it's tough now, but if you can't get them to budge, just know that in the future you will really be thankful that they did this to you. Good luck.
okay ive been with this guy for a year and half- we're from 2 different religions and my mom would like kill me and i know we have no future if we got married or anything in the future. but recently i met this guy who is sooooooooo hot and he wants me and i realy wanna kiss him and stuff like that...and the reason for that is cus the guy i am with doesnt statisfy me sexually i mean he is not attractive and doesnt turn me on.
im really confused i just wanna cheat but i dont know if i should. is it that wrong to satisfy your feelings somewhere else?
You definitely should not cheat. Ever. If you know you don't have a future with the guy that you are with currently, why are you dragging him along? That's not fair to either of you. Break up with him if that's really how you feel. As for the other guy, you should form a relationship with him before having sex. People are throwing their bodies around way too much these days. You could have a much more satisfying relationship with him if you took the time to get to know him and love him on an emotional level before starting to be sexually active with him right away. My advice for you is to break up with your current boyfriend and pursue a RELATIONSHIP with the guy that you think is hot. Sex is way overreated and the consequences are too big on a physical and emotional level to have sex without a solid relationship. I know you're probably young and full of hormones, but you need to learn to control it a little bit. You'll have a lot to regret in the future if you don't. Good luck.
hi im 14 6ft tall and weigh 300 pounds ish arg no judgement please i really want to loose weight but i cant move because i have a shattered hip and pelvis after beign attacked. can anyone give me any advice ??? please thanks
If you have a shattered hip I'm sure you've seen a doctor and probably a therapist too. If not, why haven't you! That's a really serious injury, see a doctor as soon as possible! Okay, so this is a question that you should ask a professional. I don't think many people have had experience with your situation and without knowing you and your exact condition we can't give you useful advice on this site. So, just call your doctor, or better yet your therapist if you have one. They will know exactly what you should do. For the time being though, even if you can't move that much you shouldn't weigh 300 pounds if you are eating healthily. Start eating the correct amount of calories every day of healthy foods and you should see a big difference. Good luck! :)
Okay, this is for any math junkies out there. In the function sin(x), how do you find sin(x) when you know theta? And how are you supposed to adjust the rule for each quadrant (or quarter) of the graph? I would appreciate any help I can get, and no, this problem is not on hotmath.com.
I'm desparate!
Sine of theta is equal to the length of the side opposite of theta divided by the length of the hypotenuse.
sin A = opposite/hypotenuse
cos A = adjacent(not hypotenuse)/hypotenuse
tan A = opposite/adjacent
The hypotenuse is always the longest side and it is always across from the right angle.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sine#Right_triangle_definitions
You can use these equations to find the lengths of sides of the triangle that you don't have and missing angles too! Remember that the two angles that aren't the marked right angle will add up to be 90 degrees together because in a triangle, all angles must add up to 180 degrees. So, if you have one of the angles, you can just subtract that angle from 90 to get the other angle. Good luck :)
I'm looking for a little black or white dress to wear to this party. I prefer either black or white but if not pink or navy would be fine too. Price range really doesn't matter I just don't want to go over 150. I found this really pretty dress on nordstroms but I want the dress to go above the knees and not be as expensive but here's the link
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2928476/0~2378467~2378483~2379598~2381736?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=2381736&P=3.
If you do give me advice, I'd appreciate it if you didn't tell me something like forever21.com jessicamcclintok.com davidsbridal.com macys.com lol I tried a lot of sites including those and deb, gojane, jcpennys, etc.
Thank You!!
Deb has great dresses. They don't have a lot on their website so if there's a store in your area you'll probably find exactly what you want there. http://www.debshops.com/StoreLocator/. Good luck!
turned 13 recently. my mom and i do not get along at all anymore. she hates my friends music clothes me and just how i act. my friends are all i love not my family not my mom not my cousins nothing and nobody else. so my mom makes fun of my friends and says everything she thinks is wrong with them and how they dress and all about them. then i try to get her to stop she talks over me so i cant say anything then i yell then she yells then im grounded. then she says 'o i dont care what you do do whatever you want' then i do then a little while later she get even madder about it. everything i wear that is red purple black brown she gets mad and yells till i change. my jewelry she tells me to take it off then the next day after school its gone she takes my stuff. she tells me to burn things that I like and I wear. im screaming and crying more than ever. but when im around my friends im fine. their gothic their parents let them wear what they want. i cant even get the side bangs. my friend had them and died her hair redish brown it even mainly looks brown its not bad at all. her parents let her. shes having confirmation soon even. i told my mom then she starts saying thats stupid her parents are wrong for letting her do that thats just sick. WTF! why does it matter! now its to the point i have to hide my music i add songs i hate in a folder like glamorous and stuff like that then a folder for the music i like like evanescence and the used and stuff like that and i erased the names on all of them their just numbered. last time she heard it she freaked out yelling at me. then i hide my jewelry in a locked box saying pictures and when id go somewhere i would put some in my purse then wear it on later. my friends say me cry for the first time yesterday. they know about my mom so they came over wearing preppy junk and tried acting different for me so my mom would leave me and them alone. my mom said clothes doesnt make a person. so they said ya so why does it matter its just clothes. my mom said but MY clothes do matter. so all the yelling in my life is for nothing because clothes dont matter. but its who i am its what i like its my body not hers. gothic is another stereotype just like preppy is. my brother is preppy so he gets all he wants. my mom is trying to change me she wants me to dress like a slut all the clothes she gets for me. my Best friend is a guy which can never ever comeover hes even a prep. everyone makes fun of me family cousins strangers and people at school. i can cut my hair it wouldnt help i could cut my wrists just might again deep id be quicker. but im guessing my moms rule is NO friends fun or freedom. ive been going trough this for about 2 years she will not budge i will not either. i will never give up. i tell her all this like one thing everyday till im sent to my room then refuse then get grounded. if she yells ill yell i even told her that. i act calm she yells then i do. i say how prep and goth are both just stereotypes how their just names and how she gives him everything because its a different name. i go through too much for anyone to go through. i only act tough because id be dead 2 years ago if i didnt. i cant get a therepist or even talk to my mom or write what else is there to do before i die and shell never even care. there is no way of ''kindly'' doing anything to her she just wont let me.
"everyone makes fun of me family cousins strangers and people at school"
Then why do you do it? You say that you know that what you wear and what music you listen to does not define who you are. I don't think that you really believe it though. If you did, you would understand what was going on here and you would do what made you happy. Life is about being happy. You are clearly not happy as a goth. You would be if you were the only person in the world, but you're not. Other people define who you are even more than you do yourself. Everything you are has been picked up from someone, somewhere, at some time in your childhood. You are who you make yourself. It's a choice. If everyone is making fun of you for how you are acting, why act that way if it doesn't define who you are anyway? You are choosing to put yourself in this situation. Goth isn't who you are. You are who you are. Nobody, not one single person in the world, can really fit into a category. Your friends will still be your friends if you dress differently. That's because you are still you. You don't have to go around in a pink jumpsuit or dress "preppy". Just dress like a normal person. Don't restrict yourself to goth. Expressing who you are isn't about limiting yourself to one specific idea. It's about being bold and new and doing whatever you want. I think that if you do, you will find that you are so much happier. All of this pain you are feeling right now is self inflicted. Stop hurting yourself and start making better decisions for your life. Get rid of all of these ridiculous categories and just do what makes you happy!