To fall for someone, you just "fall inlove". It means the same exact thing. To fall for someone, you know everything about that person, or want to get to know him/her.
I hope I gave you a better idea of what it means!

♥ Kayla

Friends are people you can trust and if you can't trust any of them because you know that your deepest darkest secrets will get out to everyone, they shouldn't be your friends. Y\First of all, you shouldn't be talking about any of your friends, especially if you're in a clique. You know that the person you're talking about is going to know so just don't do it. Now, if you and your best friend are mad at someone else, yes, you can but be careful because girls these days are backstabbers. It's O.K to still be their friends but just be careful what you say because one way or another, the word WILL get out.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Oh my gosh!
To stop from cutting, you have to tell yourself to stop. Only you are in control of you. No one can make you make you not cut yourself. If you cut yourself, no one can stop it but you. I'm sorry that you are stressed but you have to stop... and FAST. Cutting yourself is a huge deal. If you keep it going, you will just end up hurting you and that's NOT something you want to do. This is more important than anyone ever thinks. Everyone just thinks that it's "no big deal" but it is. There is a major vein in your wrist that leads to your heart and the smallest slit in that vein and you'll bleed eternally but even cutting your shoulders, legs, ankles, or even hands can be very dangerous. And I know that no matter how much stress you go through, you don't want to hurt yourself. You want to relieve. You can go to counselling for ideas on how to do that. A school counselor is great to talk to. I'm really glad you chose me to go to about this. I feel like you trust me enough to tell me this. Fortunately, I know just what to do in this situation. You need to talk to someone... ANYONE YOU CAN TRUST! Your mom, dad, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandmas, grandpas, teachers, counselors, friends, and even neighbors. Talk to anyone. Since I don't know what you're so stressed about, I cannot tell you what to do to solve your problems. I do know, however, that you cannot hurt YOU in spite of all of your stress. I go through so much and I live with it and calm myself down. Maybe that could help you. If you want to tell me what is making yuou do this, email me. If you don't that's O.K. I don't care whatever one you choose. If you feel like you can trust me (and you can) just email me but if you're a little unsure about trusting someone you've never met, that's O.K. My email address is here if ya need it: x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

I really hope you choose to email me. I would love to help you but I can't unless I know what all is MAKING you do this. I hope I helped you anyways!

I want you to know I'm here for you and you should always know that some people care about the people who think that no one is there to listen to you. I'm here to listen to you. I will listen to anything you have to say and if you need help, I can give it. Just ask me! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Thank you.
I always could use a compliment once in a while. :-) Thank you!

♥ Kayla

O.K
It sounds like Kathy doesn't know at all what she's in for. She needs to know a few things and you are JUST the person to tell her. You need to tell her that TJ and his little "friend" are bad news. They lie, they cheat, and they're not good people at all. Maybe she might want to be their friends but she doesn't know what she's in for and it's your job to tell her. You have to tell her that she's making a huge mistake. Say, "Kathy, who are you going to believe? Me that you've known for three years or this jerk and his friend?" she should choose you. Tell her that you should mean a lot more to her than those two jerks! Tell her she doesn't even know and you do. Also, this might hurt but tell her that if she can't be your friend, so be it. Tell her either she starts acting like your best friend or she gets out of your life. Because whether you like it or not, people like that will seriously hurt you in the end if you don't tell her right there that she needs to be your friend or she doesn't. BUT... tell her that you want her to be her friend but if she is too caught up in TJ's life, she doesn't need you and you don't her. I know in the end it'll work out and you and Kathy will go back to being best friends again. I just have that 6th sense that you and her will work out your problems and talk about whatever needs to be talked about. Talk to her about how you feel. If she was EVER your friend, she'll know and understand. I hope to God that you'll be fine with all this in your head. I pray that you'll be friends with the one that you care about the most! I give you the best of luck and if you want, you can even email me tell how it went. Then, I can help more. I'm sorry if this doesn't help but I really hope it does! Bye, sweetie! :-)

Good luck!

~~~Kayla~~~

Hey!

There is nothing to worry about. I am the EXACT same size as you and I am 13 years old as well. I was a little concerned too. I asked my mom about it and she said that it's all genetics. It's inherited by someone in your family, most of the time. So, is anyone in your family short too? If so, that's probably who you inherited it from, even if it's not the person who gave birth to you. Sometimes, you may look JUST LIKE a cousin. I look EXACTLY like my cousin, Malissa. She's 19 and I'm 13 but if you put her childhood pictures by mine, you couldn't tell them apart. She's my cousin and I inherit HER size and her facial features. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It's good that we are short. I'm proud and you should be too. I'm also 5'0 and 13, like I said, and I don't care. All my boyfriends are taller than, which is good because tall girls always go out with REALLY short guys and they look like giant freaks. Just think: We'll look so good next to taller guys. It's better to look UP at someone rather than looking DOWN. Right?

Don't worry about it! I'm going through the same thing.
P.S. If no one in your family is short, that means you're going to [soon[ have a growth spirt and grow a few inches in a month. That way, you'll be a little taller! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla
You can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you want to keep in touch. I would love to hear from you on the side.

Hey! Don't worry girl, I know how ya feel!

It could be that you are just starting to lose interest in him. This isn't a good thing for a relationship and you should end it soon. This means that you don't really want to be with him anymore. It means your relationship is getting old and you just... lose interest.

It's O.K. You may not WANT to break up with him but if you don't want to see him, you should break up with him. It could hurt you later on or worse... it could hurt him. Tell him the relationship really isn't working and you and him would better as friends. Email me if you need anything! My email is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or you could drop one in my inbox!

Don't be afraid to ask me ANYTHING!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped! **

♥ Kayla

Hey!

Sorry I didn't get to your question sooner! I never reject my questions in my inbox, even I don't know them.

I really think you should go out with the guy who cares the most about you and who likes you the most and stuff. Tell the OTHER guy that you DON'T go out with that you are SO sorry and you still want to be his BEST friend. Tell him you can still hang out with him on the weekends or whatever. You can still be his friend.

It's normal for a guy to get jealous. You HAVE to choose quick because normally, the guy that likes you fights with the other guy that likes you because they both like you and they don't want each other to like you!
**Does this make sense**?

:-P

You know I'm always here for you if you need anything. I really hope I helped. I'm sorry if I didn't but that is probably the best thing you can do right now is to choose a guy. Which one is nicer? If they're both cute and nice, that's a rare combination in a guy. LOL. You know... MEN! **♥**

Email me anytime at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you need to talk about your problems or anything else!

Or you can drop one in my inbox!

Don't worry about this. You'll be JUST FINE!
:-)

:-P

♥ Kayla

Hey! I'm glad you like my advice! :-) Yes, I am 13 and yes, I have been in this situation before... many, many times. I always like guys that I don't even know! Really, how I went out with the guy I didn't know but I got to know him was because of my friends. They're all crazy and they wanted me to go out with him so they pushed me into him and I dropped my stuff and he helped me pick it up and he introduced himself and I introduced myself. He started liking me and we started talking more and finally we hooked up!

This might not seem like a very "real" story like it's a "fairy tale" or something! But it CAN happen. Run into this guy and just start talking to him. Say things like "Oh my gosh, I am SO sorry! Really, I wasn't watching where I was going. I'm so-and-so, by the way." and you won't look like an idiot.

As for the OTHER guy that you liked LAST year... I think you should really go for HIM because he talks to you a lot and stuff. You just have more chance with HIM than you do a guy you barely even know. I think you have a really good chance with him and you should NOT be shy because that proves that you care if someone knows that you like him and really, guys don't like that! You have to be up front, laugh at EVERYTHING that he says (ONLY IF IT'S FUNNY) The reason why I say that is because I had a friend and I told her the same thing, only I left out the "ONLY IF IT'S FUNNY" part so everything he said, she laughed and she STILL hasn't gone out with him. LOL

O.K, well I would DEFINITLY love to hear how it goes. If it doesn't work, email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com and I will give you some more "tips" or "ideas" on what to do further. You can also just email to say "HI" or to just talk about anything!It's kinda kool that we are both thirteen and I want to keep in touch so email me... ALSO, I need to know your name and email address so I can add you to my email address book, if that's O.K.

Email me ANYTIME!

♥ Ya!

Best of luck!*

Hope I helped!**

♥ Kayla

Hey!

It is normal to feel like your boyfriend is COMPLETELY rejecting you by maybe talking/flirting with another girl. Lets face it... boys are flirts and there's NOTHING we can do about it.

What I do when MY boyfriend flirts with other girls is I ASK those girls if they think he WAS flirting, then I confront my boyfriend aboyfriend about the issue.

Your boyfriend still loves you but he justs likes to flirt. Sometimes, guys AND MOSTLY GIRLS flirt only to be nice. That's sometimes what I do, if a REALLY cute guy is hitting on me, even though I already have a girlfriend.

This may seem like it doesn't help much but that is what I do and USUALLY it works. I can't guarentee that it works but usually, it does. I know you're kind of suspicious about this... DON'T BE! Men are pigs... they have to get what they want (which is usually sex, if you're older) or they aren't satisfied with what they have.

Here is what your boyfriend is most likely thinking: He wants to flirt and give signs that he likes that girl and if she gives signs BACK, he knows she likes him. Therefore, if he breaks up with you, he'll have another girlfriend soon after.

I know this kind of sucks but that's the way men think. Women are more into LOVE and ROMANCE but guys aren't. Now, I'm not being stereotype because there are A LOT of guys who would KILL THEMSELVES for their girlfriends. They are the kind of guys that don't even LOOK at other women, except you. My point is not all guys are interested in looks or a great body. Some are more interested in you as a person.

You might be thinking this has nothing to do with your boyfriend but it does. Your boyfriend is not like the one who cares about only love and who plans to stay with you for as long as he can. He is, unfortunately, the kind of guy who moves from girl to girl. He has to get backup for if he breaks up with you.

Talk to him about this again and tell him that you love him and you want to be with him and he doesn't want to be with you, speak up because you are sick of him flirting with other girls and not with you. Tell him that if he really wants to be with you, he has to love you and care for you, and you will do the same for him. Tell him that you love him and you want this relationship to work but if he can't respect you and love you (like you are supposed to in an intimate relationship) than he needs to get himself together and realize that he doesn't know what he's missin' out on.

Just because those girls have their nails done and their done or whatever doesn't mean that they're prettier than you. You are prettier than them on the outside and on the inside. I bet if YOU saw someone elses boyfriend flirting with you, you wouldn't flirt back. That's because you don't want to hurt his girlfriend and YOU KNOW how it feels to feel like she would, right? You are better than those girls, no matter what they say or how they look!

I want you to know that you can email me anytime at all at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or drop one in my inbox anytime at all!

Best of luck! *

Hope I helped! **

♥ Kayla

O.K. I know! "LOL"

Yeah,
you have to get used to them for a while. They may feel weird but that's only because your prescription has changed and you're not used to it.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Hey!

I kind of know how you feel. I've never kissed a guy either and ALL my friends have. NOT FAIR!

Trust me... you're not being left behind. The moment will come when it's meant to. You can't EXPECT it because then, there's no fun in doing it! Your friend may have but that doesn't mean you have to follow what she does. What she does is her business and what you is yours. You don't have to kiss a guy to be "popular" or "cool" around your friends. Be yourself.

You seem like a smart girl because I know you won't go TOO far with a guy when you're TOO young. Just because your firneds lost "it" doesn't mean you have to. That special time will come to you when it's supposed to. You're smart because you know right from wrong. Kissing IS normal at your age but sex isn't. You're not going to be "dumb" or "uncool" if you don't kiss a boy at the age of 14. You may be 35 before you have your first kiss! WHO CARES?!?! You do it when you're ready, not when everyone else is ready for you to.

I hope this advice helps. Email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you need advice or want to talk about ANYTHING or talk about nothing! LOL Just email me if you want!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

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Double LOVE~!~! ♥♥

This is sexual harassment, but not NECCESARILY abuse. You should talk to a family member. This is the sickest thing I think anyone has ever done! UGH!

Tell him if he ever does this again, you will tell your mom or dad or guardian what he did! You won't sound like a "tattle tale". You'll be DOING THE RIGHT THING! This is gross and he deserves to be... not around you.

You can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you want to talk about ANYTHING you have on your mind.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Double love~!~! ♥♥

Oh my gosh!

Awww~~~

I'm really sorry!

You need to stop cutting yourself, though. There are major veins in your body that can burst while you're cutting yourself and you can die from it! Never say you want to die. Life is too short for anyone to be killing themselves. I'm your age, 13, and I know how it feels to think no one cares about you but there are people who do. You may not think there are, but there are!

You need to talk to an aunt, uncle, older sibling, ANYONE who you can talk to and maybe even stay with to be away from everyone. Your life is not falling apart. It might seems like it but there are ways to fix it. Change everything you're doing. Talk to your mom and dad. Tell them how you feel about them doing this to you. They should ship you off to another country because that's depressing you even more and you SERIOUSLY do not need that in your life!

You have to tell them whatever you feel like telling them. You have WAY too much bottled up anger inside you and that is not a good thing. You have to let it out! Scream, kick, throw things, cry, yell, just LET IT OUT! It'll help you get out your feelings and it'll make you feel better. Don't HURT someone but let it out by yelling and crying and who cares if you act like a 2 year old? You have the RIGHT to after all the shit that's been going on in your life.

People who bottle up anger inside them are usually killers, rapists, and drug users and you don't want to become that. You have to let your anger out, this once. This once, let something trigger you to where you let this anger out. It's not good. Let your feelings out. Sometimes, being calm doesn't help you. Sometimes, screaming and yelling does!

I'm always going to be on your side. I may not know you but this is the most interesting question I've answered all day and for all the months that I have been into Advicenators. It's good that you look to us for help! That's a DEFINITE plus!

You need to stop cutting yourself. Some people do it because they THINK it's the only pain they can control but it's not. You control your own life and you have to change it, become tougher. Don't become addicted to pills. It can damage your health badly and you may ruin your entire life. It may seem like it's already ruined but there is still someone out there who can change it. Trust me... 5 more years to go... then, you can get the hell out of there, go wherever the hell you want, and DO whatever the hell you want to. Enjoy being a kid. I'm sure you have friends who will stay by your side and if not, I'm by your side at all times. Email me ANYTIME you want to just talk or need to ask a question. My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com and I check it everyday.

I want you to know Advicenators cares for you and we want you to be happy, not depressed. Try to stop cutting yourself. I want to change your life by telling you to STOP CUTTING YOURSELF AND STOP DOING PILLS. They will ruin your life and make you want more and more until you die. You do not want to die from over dose on pills and you do NOT want die from slit wrists/neck/legs or whatever you cut. Don't kill yourself because of the pain in your life. Try yo change it instead. I want you alive, not dead. You seem like a really nice girl. I'm your age and yes, I have gone through some hard times (NOTHING like this, might I add) and there, honestly, have been times where I just wanted to die. Either from embarassment or because I was grounded for a year and didn't see the world until my next birthday!

Do NOT worry! You need to shake this off and get on with this life that you are living! You may not WANT to live it but you have to. You were put on this earth to do something and you have to live, at leats until you find out what it is. Maybe you could do something that would change the world of tomorrow. You need to think positive instead of thinking about all the crap in the past. Think of happy times you may have had with a best friend. I know it may be hard. You're a fighter, I can tell by your question. Fighters ALWAYS win. They always figh through whatever hardship they're going through and they FIGHT! You can do this! You may not WANT to but I want you to and I KNOW you can.

This is a SERIOUSLY long answer, the longest answer I've ever given, but I'm serious. You can do this, you NEED to do this. It's not for your mom or dad or whoever else, it's for you. It's for your own good. And if I were you and MY parents wanted to ship ME off to another country, I wouldn't care WHAT they said. I would go anyways.

If this gets TOO serious to where you can't SEROUSLY handle it, you should get the cops involved. They can do something like make you stay with one of your closest relatives for however long. That can help too.

I want you to know that I'm always here for you if you need ANYTHING in the world. If I could, I would give a million dollars so you could live your own life but unfortunately I don't have that kind of money. :-)

Please listen to what I have to say and I hope you took the time to read what I had to say! I had to say a lot but still...
you should still know everything I have to say like I'm always here for you when you need it.

I want you to know that, I NEED you to know that. Email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com The only reason why I put it again so you would see it twice andbe reminded that we care about you.I mean this whole website cares, no matter who they are, unless they SERIOUSLY have no heart and they have mental issues. I CARE ABOUT YOU and I don't want you going down! I want you to succeed in life and do whatever you're supposed to while you're on this earth. Just be yourself, and know that people care!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

TRIPLE LOVE~!~!~! ♥♥&hearts

I'm REALLY sorry! Email me if you like... you have my email!

I'm REALLY sorry to say this but there is no way to stop this by yourself. Maybe if you had help of a school board member, prinicpal, etc. it could work.

People take the terms "whore" and "slut" as a compliment because they know they are one and they are PROUD to be it, even though it's never a GOOD thing to be one. They WANT to be one and if people say they are, it doesn't mean any harm to them because they WANT to be known as a whore.

I really hope I helped!

Ask me a question ANYTIME! You can also talk to me or ask me questions in my seperate email. It's x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you have anymore questions, just ask Advicenators because we always know the answers! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Double LOVE~ ♥♥ :-)

Hey!

Your ex always means a lot to you, even after you break up with him. You should see how things go with your ex and if he doesn't want you back or if he is already hooked up with some other girl, go for the other guy. It's always good to have a back-up choice. I DEFINITLY want to know how this goes so email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com and you will definitly get a reply!

Go with your heart on your problems. Only YOU know what guy you like better and only YOU know what guy you think would be better to you. Go with your instincts. Whatever your heart tells you, do it because your heart leads you most of the time through life.

Don't worry!

I really hope I helped!

I had to think on this question about what I would do in your situation and that's mainly what helps me every day when I get on Advicenators to answer some questions.

Just relax and let your heart take you wherever you're supposed to be! :-)

Best of luck! *

Hope I helped! **

♥ Kayla

Double LOVE~! ♥♥

O.K...

Guys ARE shy sometimes. If the guy you are talking to is shy around you, you have to be outgoing with him. This helps him know that you are confortable with talking to him and he should be comfortable talking with you. Try that...

Also, about you aproaching him about liking him, you should IM him, call him, write him a note/letter, ANYTHING, and say, "I like to be your friend but I think I'm staring to have feelings for you..." This might seems weird and stupid but you have to be straight up and honest with him.He won't do anything, trust me. From the way you make it sound, he really likes you too. I mean, come ON! You guys slept on the couch together! That's sweet! I don't he would've just done that to any other girl! NO! Out of ALL the girls in the world, he picked YOU and you should feel special. I think he likes you. I think you can trust him with your true feelings. If you keep this in, it's going to EXPLODE and TRUST ME, that is NOT pretty! You need to tell him. You'll feel better and you MIGHT JUST GET A BOYFRIEND! YAY~! :-P

You have the potential. You are obviously very pretty, sweet, and a GUY MAGNET so you should have no problem with this.

Don't worry! You'll do fine...
I believe in you and if you do the same thing, you can do anything, even asking a guy to be your boyfriend!

I really hope I helped!

I'm sorry if I didn't. I tried my best to answer your question and I HAVE been in this situation before. This "strategy" helped me get a boyfriend! I just told him I liked him and he said he liked me too.

Don't be scared to do this...
Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥Kayla♣♠

P.S. ♥♥♥ you can email me ANYTIME YOU WANT! Don't be afraid to ask me ABOUT ANYTHING! My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com for you to email me at. You can ask me about any topic. You can also email me in my advicenators inbox if you like. Really, you can ask ANYONE here at advicenators, they're all great!

I really hope I helped!


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LOL
This is kind of confusing with all the numbers but I think I got it after reading it 3 or 4 times. LOL.

I think you should tell "99" that you WANT to be her friend but you are STILL trying to build up your trust for her. Tell her she always lied to you and you want to KNOW that she won't do that to you and your friends again! Tell her she made you feel bad because you are not her friend and she made you go back on your word, which isn't fair to you. It isn't fair that she did that. Personally, I don't think you should even be friends with 99. You should keep your other friends and leave her alone by herself. You have lots of friends and you should just stick with friends. 99 is not a friend because friends don't lie.

If she does, than she is not a very good friend, after all. It may seem like I don't know what I'm talking about but trust me... this advice will help you. I will try my best to satisfy you in answering this question as wisely and truthfully as I can.

I think you and 87 should have with 99 and tell her she lied to you NUMEROUS times and you KNOW for a fact she will do this again and you don't want that to happen. Tell her to lose your number and get on with her life! She shouldn't lie to friends. That's wrong! Friends don't do that to friends!

Tell 45 that you are still her friend BUT she needs to know what 99 did and know that this is not O.K and she can never believe anything 99 says because there is no telling what she will do next!

I really hope I helped you somehow...

I tried to put myself in your shoes the most. I want to help you and if you have ANY questions, please email me here or I have a seperate email address that is CURRENTLY not working but will be up soon. Anyways, it is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com You can still send me stuff there but I cannot get into it right now because my computer is doing some kind of freakish thing and I have no idea what so email me if you like! Give me your email address and I will surely email you!

About your situation, don't worry! It'll all work out fine...
just tell them that they need to get it straight!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥♥ Double love!

♥ Kayla

Hey,
thanks!

In my opinion, you shouldn't. I'm not saying he WILL FOR SURE kick you to the curb but he COULD and that's what worries me. I think you should wait until after marriage. After marriage is the BEST time anyone can do it so if you get pregnant, you can have your child and your child will have a father. If you are not married and you STILL have a child, basically, your child doesn't have a father. Your child only has someone who helped make him. Not someone to help him grow as a FATHER. I really think you shouldn't RIGHT NOW. He MAY be the person you DO do it with the first time but I think you should tell him that you think you should wait with him for a couple years. But if it comes to the point where you love this person SO MUCH that you think you are READY, not willing, it should be O.K if you are careful. You know that NO TYPE of protection is 100% so BE CAREFUL. It's GOOD to be willing but you should be MORE ready and you should know that you can handle it.

I want you to email me ANYTIME you need to talk. Or if you just want to say "Thanks" or "Hey." you can write to me too. I'm always here for you! Just know that I am always your friend and I can answer ANY question.

Best of luck! *

Hope I helped! **

♥ Kayla ♥

P.S. My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com for you to email me there is you want! :-) Have a great day and make ALL the right choices!

I'm Kayla.
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