My sexually abusive boyfriend ripped me while trying to fist me. I told him it wouldn't fit, he doesn't listen to me protest. He did say he was sorry and that he didn't intentionally mean to hurt me. It ripped a good 2 inches long, between my labia and my clitoris. It was bleeding like crazy last night, and this morning when I went to the bathroom it is still bleeding. Should I seek medical attention? how will I explain something like this without telling them my boyfriend is sexually abusive?
If it's STILL bleeding I'd say you should see a gynocologist. It could get infected or rip more if you don't have it treated. You really don't have to tell them anything you don't want to, but I think you should. Read what you said, "he doesn't listen to me protest." Why risk it being worse next time, you don't wanttt there to be a next time. You should tell whoever you see what he did and they can get you help if you like. If not, like I said, you don't have to tell them anything you don't want. Just simply say it happened during sex or something. Don't go into detail. But I think it would be stupid not to tell. Why be with someone who hurts you? Good luck!
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Before anyone gets upset, I only want to boost my metabolism and thats all I expect out of diet pills. I excersize regularly and eat all day long (healthy, whole foods) and keep it down! My only problem is I have a slow metabolism and I'm looking for the healthiest and most effective way to speed it up. I'm curious about things like Stackers and Farenheit, I know they can be addictive, but, if used properly, could they honestly help? If even just a little? If not, what can?
Honestly, in the long run diet pills hurt you more then they can help. If you take them, they're going to work for everything they're supposed to work for. Meaning not just speeding up your metabolism, but it'll make you lose weight, and in a bad way that isn't good for you. It's not like a program that you can tell what you want it to do. Kinda like you can't lose weight im just one spot, it all works together. If I were you I'd stick to doing it the safe way and keep eating healthy and excersizing. That's your best bet over anything if you wanna stay healthy.
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If your finished Ovulating, and you have sex, can you still get pregnant.
My period started on August 17 2006, And I finishen ovulating on September 2 Is it possible to get pregnant.
Well there's always a chance to get pregnant no matter if you're on your period or not obviously. But if you use protection or birth control it's just as rare as any other time.
When you're on your period you can't get pregnant unless you're ovulating. After that you can anytime..
If you DON'T wanna get pregnant, make sure not to have sex when you ARE ovulating.. that being the best time to get pregnant.
Go here if you want more info!
http://www.accuratepregnancytests.com/ovulating_ovulation.html
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Okay I personally am a dark person. I love vampires and reading musty books and listening to goth music and I like wearing the color black. Now heres the problem my mom won't let me buy black clothes and I don't know what to do. She won't let me get black nail polish or let me wear eyeliner but I really want to. What should I do? Also my room is really disgusting. In the morning I have very very very very light pink walls and in the evening it looks coffee with creme curtains how do I make it look more gothic or punk. I really want to show my mom that I'm not a normal kid and that she can't change it.
You can always go against what she says and buy your clothes on your own with your own money [if you can afford it]. Or 'rebel', keep bugging her until she gives in, annoy her about it. The silent treatment works no matter how old you are, even though it may seem silly.
Paint your room yourself. Once again buy it yourself if you can afford it. Take the curtains down, hang a sheet up or something. Maybe none at all if you don't want.
As far as your nails, use a black sharpie. It fades fast though and it's kind of annoying. Otherwise it isn't that expensive you could get it on your own too.
If you can show her how bad you wanna be this 'dark person' the maybe she'll see it and give in.
Good luckk
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For my science research project I wanted to work with animals that live completly or partically in water (like fish, snails & maybe small crabs) because I love working with living things. I want to create an expirement by using them as the subects. Thing is, I have no idea what I want to do. I don't want to test water pollution because it's been done hundreds of times & it's somewhat cruel. Any idea's would be appericiated. Thanks :)
http://www.rossarts.org/naples/ideas.htm
Hope that helps a bit!
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sorry this might be long. i dont really know if im lookin for advice or if i need a place to help me get my heat out so someone can listen..
well my friends party is tomorrow and shes totally copyin me because shes doin the same things as i did at my party and its right next door to where i had my party. for her party she needs to know the exact people that are going because thats how the place is and it was the same for my party. well anyways i guess i have to go and first she said its gonna be at 6pm but now she says come at like after 6:30pm so i was like should i come at like 7pm and she was like yea sure. then i asked her when its gonna end and she tells me i can leave whenever and that people are gonna stay after 1:00am. oh yeah and shes only turnin 15 and i had a big party because it was my SWEET SIXTEEN..someone told me that shes only havin a party because i had such cool party.
today me n my best friend went to the mall to go get her a present and we couldn't find anything nice. so we went into aeropostal and i saw this really hott lookin sweatshirt and i had to try it one and i ended buyin it. i brought the gray one and my best friend brought the brown one which was a little different from mine for our friend as her present. im just so freakin pissed because i saw it first and that other girl cant rock it like me. now we are gonna have similar clothes. i tried tell my best friend that i didnt really want her to buy it. come on i thought my best friend is suppose to understand how i feel about stuff and really listen and care. the girl thats havin the party is always freakin copyin me and i just cant take it and im not tryin to be a selfish or jealous bi-tch. now i really dont feel like going and i really dont want to talk to any of them...
thank you so much for those who really read this and sorta understands me.. please just leave anything like your advice or comments..
Yeah I know how you feel. I used to get pissed when girls would steal what I put in my AIM profile haha. Now I'm just like whatever, it's not even worth my time. Just think of it as them looking up to you. Whenever someone copies what you do/say/have etc, just think that they're trying really hard to be like you. In a way they admire you. I know it's kinda hard at the time but you'll realize later that it's the right thing to do, rather then get in a big fuss with your friends about it and possibly losing a friend.
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i didnt know whether to put this in injuries or sex, but since it has to do with a certain part of my body, i guess sex?
anyway, i have a vaginal tearing.... it's not really my fault, but it's so embaressing, and i cant bare to tell anyone. i feel dirty and gross, and i dont want anyone to be near that part of my body. (and my gf keeps wanting to have sex, and i keep having to make shit up!)
also, it hurts, and everytime i touch my self down there i get little to no pleasure, i pretty much just feel irritated all over down there. please tell me what i can possibly do?? it's obviously not just going to magically go away, and i'm so sick of feeling this way. what in the heck should i do?
Go to a gynocologist. He/she can more than likely help you in some way. Pain is a sign of warning and you don't wanna ignore it.
Not everyone is perfect down there. Whenever it doesn't hurt anymore or your gf wants to have sex, just simply tell her. If she cares about you it won't matter to her at all. And if it does, find someone else!
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I'm almost 19 and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend. The thing is, I'm someone who always thinks of the worst that can happen in every situation I am. In this case, my hugest fear is getting pregnant. I've been on birth control for a year and plan to use that AND a condom for protection. But for some reason, I'm still worried. It's not that I'm not ready. Unlike most people, I'm educated, cautious, and responsible. But how can I quit worrying about the things that don't need to be? (This goes along with other situations besides this one.) Thank you.
The safest way to stop worrying is to not do it. You seem nervous, and if you're nervous you def aren't ready. If you question it or have any doubts, wait.
There's always a chance you can get pregnant. Even if its 1 out of 493058390458903485, or even 0.1 There's still that chance.
If you use both I doubt you'd rarely have a chance of it happening. I've NEVER heard/seem that happen before, but you never know. However, if you still want to and you're worried, I think if you use both everytime, you should be safe.
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I'm not allowed 2 date [period] and I was wondering if you could help me convince her 2 let me date @ 13 like reasons ideas 4 dates etc. Like she had some issues with her dating xpieriences so yea but like what is a bf @ 13 yrs old what's the difference between a 13 yr old dating and a 16-18 yr old? Like dates what you do when you date (at 13) and what I should tell her.. I know I'm asking a lot but I really need a LOT of advice so if you would PRETTY please
Best wishes, B
The difference is the maturity level. The older you get the more serious things can get. There's more peer pressure, drugs, sex, etc. A 16-18 year old can take care of themselves better than at 13 year old [most of the time]. At 13 years old you aren't gonna be able to take your date out some where great and expensive or drive around etc. At 13 you shouldn't even try to date, it'll only start problems sooner. Boys at 13 aren't very experienced with alot of things [that have to do with dating atleast]. Just live life and don't worry about boys. Trust me it's not that great, and when the time comes, at times you'll probably wish it didn't!
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everyday after school i come home & pretty much pig out.. & normally its after not having any lunch at school.. somedays i do.. ether way its still the same when i come home. i dont want to do this anymore because its affecting everything else i do when i get home. sometimes i feel so full i just get lazy i guess.. i dont know. how can i stop this? i know not watching any tv, not walking into the kitchen & stuff like that can help.. but i need like a full proof plan! im having to be paraniod about it when i come home.. if not then i pig out. even when i do.. i still pig out most of the time.
If you eat lunch it'll speed your metabolism up and won't make you eat so much. That's why when people go on diets, they say it's best not to skip meals. Even if you don't wanna eat lunch, take a snack or something.
When you get home, get a snack then do something to keep yourself busy until say, dinner time. Then eat dinner and later have another snack or two. Try different routine's until you find something that works!
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16/f ahh im bloating really bad. its never been this bad.
and also,, is it possible to get your period or bleed when you are pregnant?
thanks
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Sometimes it's worse than others.. even advil [or any other pain relievers can help obviously]. I take them every four-six hours when I'm on my period so that they stay away.
It's possible in the beginning of pregnancy, but if it's past the 1st trimester and bleeding occurs, it's normaly very bad and doesn't have a good outcome, which results in probably losing the baby.
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Where can I get some jeans without pockets on the butt? haha.
I love those but I dont know where to go to get them.
-Rave
-Lola's
-The Body Shop
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Latley I have been bruising easily and bleeding a lot. i just BARELY bumped into a round bedpost and i now have a bruise, a bump, and an abraision. last night, i took of a peice of hanging skin on my foot that was about a sixth of an inch. it bles so much i had to soak my foot for fifteen minutes. after that, it continued to bleed and i had to dress it rather than use a band-aid. today a similar thing happened with my cuticle. i barely moved it up, which on most people wouldnt do a thing, but for me it bled a ton! Lastly a half an hour ago, i barely hit my leg and i already have a bruise and a bump! help!
I've had the same problem with bruising. My doctor told me that it could be possible I'm not getting enough iron. So try eating/drinking things that have more of that in it like bananas, ect. As far as the bleeding, I'm not sure but that may help it also!
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okay well this will be an outcome of two total situations in which i need help of.
firstoff: i have a boyfriend of 9 months, and he is completely utterly in deep love with me. [ im 14 hes going on 16.] he always calls me and wants to be with me, and he always tells me how he cant live without me, and would never want us to break up. how we're perfect for eachother, and how we are the ideal couple. how perfect i am [which im seriously not]and even how he wants to marry me soon, and live together forever. well, my dilema is that he like is obsessed, and he gets mad / jealous and stuff when another guy talks to me because he is so insecure about himself. i feel like ihave no space at all, and im trapped with him, and stuck with him forever. idk what to do, please help. also, its not like idont love him, because dont get me wrong ido, but he puts me through so much useless things; i mean like SO MUCH, and idk if i can take much anymore. now, i dont wanna tell him that because then he'll start interrogating me. Please Help Me With This.
Secondly: i know his best friend, and ive always been fond of him. fond meaning hes attractive, we've been cool. well i talk to him online and stuff. and i know he is / he was looking for a girlfriend. and i kinda set him up with my friend. my good friend. and they like give each other "
Firstt problem.. I know what that situation is like, I dated a guy for two years and he got extremely clingy. I can understand him getting upset when other guys talk to you, that part is pretty much normal. Some people can deal with that better than others, but I know it gets old. If you want him to back off a little, I agree, don't just tell him, it could hurt the whole relationship and he'll probably make more of it than what has to be. Try hinting it first. I know some guys aren't that great at catching on, but it's worth a shot. Try not to spend alot of time with him, sure stil do things with him and talk to him, but everytime he wants to do something or go somewhere, just don't. It may seem crazy, but if he realizes that you do have other things in your life, he'll be like 'ok she has things to do I'll give her some space'. If that doesn't work for you, just sit down with him and explain how you feel. Still, don't straight up tell him you feel trapped, just tell him you don't like relationships that are going like this one and you want to fix it before things are too late, and to do that you need a little breathing room.
2nd prob.. You probably hear/have heard the saying 'You always want what you can't have'. The whole time I was reading what you said that's what went through my head. Let's start with your boyfriend. You need to decide on your feelings for sure with him, because if you don't like him like you think or say to him, it's pretty much leading him on and you're only gonna hurt him. You said you wanna be with him 'sometimes' and you would probably want him back.. Maybe you like him only because he's the kind of guy you have to just say you have a boyfriend. Now for his friend, did you even notice these things [[ him looking at you etc.]] before he was with your friend? cus again that's where the wanting what you can't have comes in. Maybe your mind just thinks you like this boy because he's your boyfriend's friend, and pretty much your friends boyfriend. He's just there. Honestly if I were you, I would decide if I wanted to be with my boyfriend or not first. If you decide not to, move on. Don't date his friend, it's too wrong in alot of ways. For one it's usually not okay to date your ex's friends, or YOUR friend's ex, and just so happens that guy's both. Sorry if any of that was confusing or anything..If you need anything else you know where to find me!
Good luck with both probs!
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ok, i'm not sure exactly what ocd is but dosn't it just mean your obssesed with something??? anyways, i am always playing this game on the computer. its based off of a show on disney channel and i don't even like the show. the first thing i do when i get on the computer is do play this game. sometimes i'll even stop what i'm doing on the computer to go to disney channel website to play this game. what is wrong with me??? am i just stupid? or do i have a problem? thanks!
I think it's just a phase of something you like. You know how when you buy something that you love, like a t-shirt or something, then later you don't even know why you liked it.. your situation kinda seems like that to me, you probably won't even like it in a couple weeks if you don't get tired of it before then. You're def not stupid.
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I am 16 years old and my sister is 19. I hang out with her, her boyfriend, and her boyfriends friends all the time. Her boyfriends 20 and his friends are like mostly around his age. I always flirt with them and do anything i can too get close too them, because there very hot, and they seem too be doing and acting the same way i act around them. There is one boy that i have a crush on for some reason, and i want too hook up with him soo bad, i kno he would hook up with me too, its just that im sixteen and hes 19! He has a girlfirend that hes on and off with all the time.Right now hes with that girl! should i just back off??? but i want him soo bad!! and i want to win him over his girlfriend! but i kno thats wrong if he has a girlfriend, what should i do??????
Well if he's with the girl right now, honestly I'd say just wait. How would you feel if you were the other girl you know? But then again, you could always ask him what he thinks about it. Since they're on and off alot, maybe he doesn't take their relationship very serious. Or you could wait until they're at an off point and then make your move, then hopefully he'll stay with you and she'll be out of the picture. That's probably what I would do. I don't think it would hurt either of the ways, if you wanna get him, I say follow your heart and go for it!
Good luck!
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I really want to decorate my room in an hawian kinda theme. I don't live in hawaii or anything, I just like the look of palm trees and stuff. Well, I was wondring where I can get some cheep things. Eaither on the internet or at a store. I have a few things from Claire's and Icing. But I barly have anything from there. Thanks!!!!!
IKEA has some really awesome furniture and accessories and some of them aren't that expensive. Idk if they have all the same things they have online that are in the store, but here's their website http://www.ikea.com/
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I'm 14 and I'm really really really terrified of cancer.
I get sick a lot.
Sometimes I just can't feel some parts of my body. Sometimes I can barely move.
Is there any way to tell if you can possibly have cancer? other than bumps? are their symptoms? and there's no cure for cancer, right?
ah, scary scary stuff
There are ways to 'cure' cancer, or atleast treat it and or shrink it down.
I know there's radiation, chemotherapy, and even surgery depending on the kind of cancer you have.
Go to this website, it should help you with your questions http://www.nci.nih.gov/cancertopics/
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16/f
ok so everytime im with a guy and he fingers me it doesnt feel good at all and sometimes it hurts...that cant be good lol and its not like the first few times i mean ive gotten fingered alot so idk whats going on with that and also when i had sex for the first and only time i was like dying cause it hurt so bad haha im hoping it was just the first time but what if its not...i saw no pleasure in it and im in no hurry to go do it all over again you know? so i need some advice
Are the guys you are with experienced? If not that could be a start. If they don't know what they're doing or do it too rough, it's bound to hurt at least a little. If it hurts you just tell them. Show them how to do it like you like, they can't read minds.
As far as sex, it's normal for the first time to be painful and for some girls it could be the 3rd or 4th time, etc. before they feel pleasure over pain.
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my boyfriend nd I had sex with a condom on june 22nd while I had my period (it was my first time having sex) then I got my period again when I was visiting brazil around july 25. we tried to have sex again last week with a condom but I asked him to stop because it hurt.. last night we had sex again with a condom and we went all the way. this morning I noticed that my period is a few days late. is there any way that I could be pregnant? or what's wrong? oo yea.. nd I am 16 nd imy period has been pretty regular for about 2 years now.
There's always a chance that you could be, but sometimes being sexually active makes it irregular for a while or until your body is used to it. So I'd say most likely you aren't, very little chance if any.
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