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why cant they understand and stop copying me?!?!?
sorry this might be long. i dont really know if im lookin for advice or if i need a place to help me get my heat out so someone can listen..
well my friends party is tomorrow and shes totally copyin me because shes doin the same things as i did at my party and its right next door to where i had my party. for her party she needs to know the exact people that are going because thats how the place is and it was the same for my party. well anyways i guess i have to go and first she said its gonna be at 6pm but now she says come at like after 6:30pm so i was like should i come at like 7pm and she was like yea sure. then i asked her when its gonna end and she tells me i can leave whenever and that people are gonna stay after 1:00am. oh yeah and shes only turnin 15 and i had a big party because it was my SWEET SIXTEEN..someone told me that shes only havin a party because i had such cool party.
today me n my best friend went to the mall to go get her a present and we couldn't find anything nice. so we went into aeropostal and i saw this really hott lookin sweatshirt and i had to try it one and i ended buyin it. i brought the gray one and my best friend brought the brown one which was a little different from mine for our friend as her present. im just so freakin pissed because i saw it first and that other girl cant rock it like me. now we are gonna have similar clothes. i tried tell my best friend that i didnt really want her to buy it. come on i thought my best friend is suppose to understand how i feel about stuff and really listen and care. the girl thats havin the party is always freakin copyin me and i just cant take it and im not tryin to be a selfish or jealous bi-tch. now i really dont feel like going and i really dont want to talk to any of them...
thank you so much for those who really read this and sorta understands me.. please just leave anything like your advice or comments..
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This is a really stupid problem.
If it really bugs you that much, don't go to her party.
Obviously if it's such a problem ya'll aren't that great of friends to begin with.
As for the sweatshirts?
BIG DEAL.
They're mass produced anyway.
Everyone and their mother already had them.
In a week they'll be just as out as sequin purses and Ugg boots.
--edit.
Dear, this was not a personal shot at you. And I don't care if I can "rock" anything the way you can or not.
So let's stop being immature. I was simply giving you my personal opinion.
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well there isnt anything that you can do. Go to the party if you want, be nice, who care if shes copying you? shes younger than you and she thinks of you as a role modle maybe. Your friend only bought the sweater because she dosnt know what to buy for this girl. who cares if you have the same sweater. it looks way better on you. right? my friend had this girl copying her so she just ignored it the girl was a year younger then her too. she just made her own style nad if she saw people copying it she took it as a complement. she says that she feels like a rockstar. lol good luck. hope you feel better.
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You should seriously be really flattered. These girls are trying their best to be you while knowing that they'll never actually be able to do it. You're a trendsetter, the best you can do is a drop a look and adopt a new one when everyone starts copying you. To some degree, you can think of yourself as a celebutante who can't fend away all the fans.
But there's no reason to be jealous because everyone else knows that you're the original.
Your friend probably enjoyed your party a lot and didn't want it to end, so she wants to recreate another one. Even if your friend has the exact same party as you with all the same people, all those people are going to know that the party is a copy of yours.
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Your friend probably thinks you have really good style and you are cool. So she looks up to you.
Next time, maybe you can help her plan something different for a party. If it really bothers you, I bet she will like that.
And when you go out shopping, maybe help her out by telling her what's good on her and try to get her to buy it. And you leave the store with nothing.
You can also try doing something you know she wouldn't do. Make yourself seem horrible so she wouldn't want to copy you.
You can also try the direct apporach.
Just go to the party and try to have fun. Dont try to let it bother you. Sometimes people want a reaction out of it.
You can always do what you want and ignore who copies you. If you know you did it first, then they must really like it to try it again.
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Yeah I know how you feel. I used to get pissed when girls would steal what I put in my AIM profile haha. Now I'm just like whatever, it's not even worth my time. Just think of it as them looking up to you. Whenever someone copies what you do/say/have etc, just think that they're trying really hard to be like you. In a way they admire you. I know it's kinda hard at the time but you'll realize later that it's the right thing to do, rather then get in a big fuss with your friends about it and possibly losing a friend.
=] Evy
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