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i reeally sont know what to do?
i didnt know whether to put this in injuries or sex, but since it has to do with a certain part of my body, i guess sex?
anyway, i have a vaginal tearing.... it's not really my fault, but it's so embaressing, and i cant bare to tell anyone. i feel dirty and gross, and i dont want anyone to be near that part of my body. (and my gf keeps wanting to have sex, and i keep having to make shit up!)
also, it hurts, and everytime i touch my self down there i get little to no pleasure, i pretty much just feel irritated all over down there. please tell me what i can possibly do?? it's obviously not just going to magically go away, and i'm so sick of feeling this way. what in the heck should i do?
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you said you dont want no one near that part to have a look so ring your doctor and get advice over the phone it could get infected so do it asap sorry i cant be of more help
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Well, you already know that your going to have a Dr. because like you said it's not going to go "POOF" and magicially disapear. So I'm guessin' your needin' help with getting' over these feelings you have about a Dr. seeing your most intimate parts. Every woman has to go to the Dr for a pap-smear every year...I hate it every year...but I go through with it because it's my health at risk here and what could be more important than that. When I was 20 I went to a new Dr. and I guess I was more nervous than I thought because I kept trying to lock my knees together so he couldn't do the pap smear and it sucked feeling like there was a 100 watt light bulb down there making it so he could probably see things I didn't know I had! So finally he told me something...something I try to remember every year. "Kristen, If you don't open your legs I can't do this, What do you do for a living?" to which I responded " I work at a convience store" then he said, "ok, when a customer goes in the store do you pay attention to every minor detail of them?" I said, "Um no, I aint got time for that, I do my job and I go home!!" To which he replied "ME TOO." I hope maybe this story didn't bore you toooo much and maybe helped just a little. There no more concerned with what you got down there than a man in the moon so relax! Call the Dr. and get it over with! Good Luck
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Ouch honey! Go to your doc. I know you don't want to and you're going to be embarrassed but doctors deal with this sort of thing all the time. Most women, for example, tear when they give birth and if you think about the amount of women who have babies you'll see how often they deal with this sort of thing. Not to mention all the women who tear during sex.
Anyway the upshot of it is your doc might take a look (again, they see HUNDREDS of vaginas so will be unfazed. Ask for a female doc to make you more comfortable. It's more than likely the doctor examining you has been in your position more than once too!) and will probably tell you to just keep it clean and leave it alone until it heals. Or if it doesn't heal on its own or give you some cream to put on it. If you lived with it this long I doubt it's bad enough to require a stitch so no-one'll be messing about down there. Don't worry about it too much tho- it's built for childbirth and sex so it's pretty able to deal with wear and tear!
In the meantime, tell your girlfriend. It's not gross or dirty-it's just an injury! I bet she'd far rather know what's going on than feel confused and rejected by you avoiding sex for seemingly no reason. Although, obviously, yes avoid sex until you're healed. She'll understand that.x
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Go to a gynocologist. He/she can more than likely help you in some way. Pain is a sign of warning and you don't wanna ignore it.
Not everyone is perfect down there. Whenever it doesn't hurt anymore or your gf wants to have sex, just simply tell her. If she cares about you it won't matter to her at all. And if it does, find someone else!
=] Evy
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This is something that ought to be seen by a professional. They will have seen this many times before so you do not need to feel embarrassed about it.
They will be able to advise you on treatment and pain management whilst it is healing. Tell your partner the reason why you are unhappy at the moment and ask for their patience and support.
Please see someone very soon and you will then be able to get back to normal. All the best.
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