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my friend is being stupid
ok so here is the thing, me and my best friend(both girls) can talk about anything...but her and her loser boyfriend have been on and off for the past year. She told me after the broke up the last time they were done for good, well they have been hanging out a lot, and she told me that they have been having sex. I really don't care that they have sex, but there not going out anymore. She told me that she doesn't want to do the whole friends with benfits thing, but everytime they start kissing it leads to sex. I've tried to tell her that if she doesn't wanna have sex then she shouldn't kiss him cuz she knows what it leads to. But she doesn't think when they have sex thats it's her fault, but it both o there fault. How can I make her underdtand that? Any help would be amazing!
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i hate to tell you this, but your friend has her own opinions, and yours probably wont faze her. if you've tried to warn her time & time before, then trying to get her to understand wont be any different. she's going to have to handle this by herself.
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It's sad, but your friend will just have to learn her lesson the hard way. There is no way to force people to understand these kind of things. All you can do is ask her to think about what you have said the next time she feels like giving him a kiss, and leave it at that. If it helps, I agree with you :-) too bad your friend doesn't.
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I Understand what you're going through. I have a friend who has a reputation of dating horrible guys. I recently found out that she got back together with her first bf who presured her into doing things she didnt want to do. I dont know whether or not she's still a virgin, but I always tell her that she's smart and can make her own dissicisions she doesnt need her bf or anyone else to make them for her. If your friend is denying that its her fault for having sex slap her in the face. It takes two to tango and when she gets pregnant and has to have his kid... she will be regretting it, and probably still be saying its his fault. I doubt anyone in custody court, her parents or anyone else will believe her. There are two things you can do. A) tell her in a super nice way that she is a strong person and that she should make the decisions in her sex life. Tell her that she has to make a choice date him or not date him. Its not healthy to be where she is. Tell her to tell him to make a commitment. Help her nicely to change what shes doing. OR B) As her BFF you can only do so much. Tell her you love her and that you support her (even if you dont) Ultimatly its your friends decision and no matter how much yelling and screaming you do she will just get mad and hate you and feel worse. If you choose a and she gets mad stop bugging her. If she's mature enough to have sex, shes mature enough to manage the consequences. Good Luck!!
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