Hey everyone, my name is Kristin, there's a picture of me on my advice column.. I'm a senior in high school and im 18 years olds.. I know I'm pretty young, but I've been through more than anyone would imagine and I've been through things most teenage girls haven't experienced yet in life. Here's a few things about myself, I've gone through a very serious one year relationship that ended a long long time ago, my parents have been divored for about 6 years, I cheerlead for my high school, I do ballet and have been playing the piano since I was seven, I work at a nearby UPS Store, and I am a dedicated Greek-Orthodox Christian. I hope to get accepted into Cal Poly San Louis Obispo and major in Nutrition..I love to hear about other peoples issues and problems so I could help them deal with it by relating them to my own experiences. So if you wanna talk, I'm here =]
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well ok..i understand that they might not like me..but why would they like totally act like it.and talk to me..and always point out to me.. for something corny..or refer to me?.i just dont understand guys..ya know..i know there are more important better things to think about and not guys..
but this happend also before in 7th grade..and this kid was like WHOA!..i danced with him at the dance..and kinda talked to him..on a slow song..and that was sweet. and he would always look at me..and tell my friends he liked me..but then ..since we didnt talk to each other..( we were both shy?) we never went out..and he went out with this other girl..but he knew me and my mom..and talked to my mom alot..and stuff like that..
so i mean..even if they look at me in a certain way?..sry if i'm asking ya questions..but i just gotta get it straight...yea..i guess that would make me a confused person..with horrible love life at the moment cuz i moved..
but i talk to one of the guys..and hes really nice..and he looks at me..but i mean why is it like on and off..mayube he likes somebody else ?..or not even me..just sometimes?. should i just ask him?..i dont know..
thanks..for advice..
tkd_shorty (link)
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I know how u feel trust me.. Okay theres this book out there called, "He's just not that into you."... I dunno who its by but I had read it a while ago, and girl it helped me so much. Ive never read a book that helped me that much. Basically, it explains that if a guy is REALLY into you, or atleast SOMEWHAT into you, he will DEFINITELY make the effort to ask you out on a date, or talk to you even more, etc.. They could totally think your a cutie that has a nice body, etcetc, but just not be that into you. Guys are TOTALLLYYYY strange i know. They will look, smile, etc but when it comes around to it, they will never initiate anything! I hate it... Keep talking to the guy who tries to talk to you.. BUT you gotta let him ask you out, etc..And if he doesnt, it really just wasnt meant to be.. You could go through your whole teenage life not having a bf, but u know what that means? It only means that you are gunna receive the most loving husband on Earth.. Youll get him because you have had patience through out your teen life.. With these guys, i really dont think they are, quote that into you..atleast from what you are saying.. In the book I told you about, it also says how we girls always make up excuses for the guys who wont call us, etc, to make ourselves feel better.. For ex, you go out on a date with a guy and he says hell call u the next day, but a week passes and he never does..what do we girls always say? ''oh he prolly got sick.." or " hes really busy!" u know what I mean.. Even if a guy is really busy or is too shy, etc, if he is interested he WILL make a big effort, even if he is shy.. i really hope this helped somewhat..
love kristin
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well heres the thing..(sry it might be a little long)
ok so there are these two guys at school..and i can't tell if they like me or not..because one day they are like all flirting and stuff..and looking at me..and that sort of stuff but the next day there like..do i know you??..ya know..and thats kind of bothering..me..
how do you know if a guy likes you or not? because i guess they might be shy..but then why would they even talk to me..i really like them both.but this guy friend that i have asked one of the guys to see if he liked me and he said he didnt..but why would he look at me so much..and he looks at me in this way that is just showing that he would like me..but i'm not sure..and then the other guy looks at me alot..well i guess he does..and i talk to him..and my friend says we would make a good couple..but i wouldnt know if he would like me..and if we would go out ..ya know??..well i know its kinda confusing..but please give some advice..thanks..
tkd_shorty
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Hey! Okay, I think that they are looking at you because they think that you're hott or something.. They like your looks. But I dont think that they are interested in you like that.. Like I dont think they like you that much to do something about it.. Looking is such a little thing to tell if a guy likEs you or n0t.. I really wOuldnt think tOo muCh intO thO bcause when a guy is interested in some1, they WILL make an effort to get their attention, more than just making eye contaCt..so maybe you could try to forget about them..Like when they lOok at you, just rOll your eyes and look away.. go0d luCk
love kristin
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hey i went out wit this kid tom and we went out for almost 2 months and i really liked him but i broke up wit him twice and we havent gne out since n now wen i think about it i didnt realy like him like that i didnt even make out wit him it felt wrong because i saw him making out wit my friends for no reason before at parties bu that was before we went out and anyways i went out wit this kid matt after him for 3 weeks and i really eally like him like i think it might even be love i cant stop thinking about him i broke up wit him though because i had no time to see him and he understands and we still hang out and he messages me on his phone calls me flirts wit me in school anything u kno i never seen him wit a girl an maybe thats why i htink mor of him i dunno i need ur help i didnt make out wit him yet either well our tongues touched but it was for a sec he was wasted so i didnt want to do anything so help me if u can thanks i rate really good but i wanna know do i feel this way about him cause i didnt se him wit a girl b4 or becuase i really like him and should i make a move on him and if yes then wat???
thanks for reading i rate good xoxo toodles (link)
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I think you really like him, and I think you should because he seems like a totally awesoem and loyal guy. If i were you Id try and get back with him bEcause hE sOunds like hE would be worth it..
love kristin
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hey im asking this question for my friend val
my friend n her bf have been together for a year and 4 months and she lost her virginity to him wen they were together for 8 months and he lost his to her and they just broke up a month ago and he makes out wit other girls in front of her and makes her feel stupid he tells everyone hes a pimp and that he can play anyone so he went out wit like 4 girls aleady my friend still isnt over him because she loves him and loved him or atleast she thoguht she did shes a junior and hes a sophomore shes going out wit this other kid for 2 weeks already but i think shes wit him to make her ex jealous im not sure because she said hes just ok looking and he has an ok personality so i dont think she really likes him i dont feel sorry for her ex tho but people say she used her ex wen they werre goin out beause hes rich but i think it was love well anyways i dont have anything else to tel her and ifeel bad for her that she has to face him everyday if u have any advice please write back i rate good thanx toodles (link)
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I HATE THAT EXACT SAME PROBLEM. And I learned the very very very hard way to get over some1.. This is what she needs to do: PLAY IT OFF AND ACT LIKE SHE DOESNT CARE!!!!! Tell her NEVER EVER to look at him, call him etc [which im sure she never dOes], get alottttt of new guys friends but dont like flaunt it when hes around just like in general get alota new guy friends and kinda flirt with them when hes around because trust me he will be paying attention, ..do that kinda stuff, just make sure itseems like she doesnt care. when some1 asks if she still likes him, tell her to say HELL NO. because that will get around to him that she said that then he will be like what the hell i thought she was obsessded with me..andt hen he will miss her and try to get back with her..
i really hope this somewhat helped..im sorry for what she has to be going thru..
love kristin
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i have this HUGE dance coming up on friday and i have this really big zit and its really red!! does anyone know a way to get rid of it by tonight because i dont want people at school to see it and my mom won't lemme buy cover up!
signed,
sad zit face sorry for the lameness (link)
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go to the store and buy cover up and just hide it from her..like go early to school and put it on in the morning.
love kristin
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I care a lot about what my friends think of me. I was preppy, and I want to go punk. I got some cloths liek element shirt and volcom and stuff. But when my friends get mad at me they call me poser, even before I got this new stuff. They also say I hav real bitchy attitude. And this past summer a lot of family issues happened, and my friends know that and still call me a bitch. Do they really mean it when they call me a bitch and a poser? Or are they saying that just because there mad? I told them how when they say that it hurts and they dont seem to care. And me and one of my best friends just got into this big fight! She has been ignoring me and calling me bitch and poser. But were friends again.... Do you think she styll thinks that? Or was she talking out of anger? PLease dont sey get new freinds cas i dont want new ones! wat do i do? (link)
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Hey..I know that must really hurt being in that kind of situation.. Im going to be nothin but real wit u, and I do think that they really feel that way, about how youre a poser, etc.. I think that they just like using the word, 'bitch', so i dont think they truely mean that, but about being a poser Im sure they mean that.. When you are trying to be something you just arent, thats whut a poser is. Im sure you know that.. I think that it really annoys them that youre trying to be something u arent, and ur 'following' what their doing even if its not you. I would go back to the way you TRUELY are, and i bet you anything they will stop thinking that of you. when u guys fight Im sure they will resort back to calling u a poser, but whEn they do be like, "look at me, do i look like a 'punk' to you? I dont think so. I was stupid be4 by trying to be something im not, but this is really me and u guys dont like it then screw u." once they see that u are standing up for ur self and who u really are, they will start respecting you. good luck and i hope this helped.!!
love kristin
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Ok, the guy i like is like 5 feet. give or take a few inches. And i'm like 5 8. It's a HUGE height difference, and idc about looks, but i dont want ppl making fun of him b/c he's going out with a giant or make fun of me for going out with a midget. We're both in 7th grade. I think i should just continue liking him. I think i have a good chance with him. What do u think? (link)
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Oh jeez..that must be really hard..I think that you should definitely keep liking him, but just prepare for people to tease and make fun..It sucks, but there really isnt anything else I could say tO add tO that..
love kriSTin
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hey does neone kno a good best friend song. . .that like new or jus came out? (link)
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A REALLY cute one is by Brandi and its called Best friend..I have no idea when it came out,etc but it goes like this:
Whenever I'm down I call on you my friend
A helping hand you lend in my time of need
So I'm calling you now just to make it through
What else can I do won't you hear my plea
Friends may come and friends may go but you should know that
That I've got your back it's automatic
So never hesitate to call
Cos I'm your sista and always for ya and
Chorus:
I don't know what I ever do without you from the beginning 'til the end
You've always been here right beside me so I call you my best friend
Through the good times and the bad ones whether I lose or if I win
I know one thing that never changes and that's you as my best friend
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Hey Guys,
Last weekend i went to the movies with my boyfriend. We planned to kiss and make out and all that good stuff. When that moment came up i panicked because it was my first time. After that day i could think of nothing but him and that moment. Now all i want to do is make out with him or at least talk to him about it. I am also afraid that i dont know exactly how to make out with some one. Plz give me tips and should i talk to him?????
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Awww girl! Every single girl out there [not counting the hOeish girls] always feel like that for the first time kisSing!!! What I did when my first kiSs came around, was I made like a big joke outta it and was like, "'jon' i really suCk as kiSsing because .. okay fine ive never kiSsed bEfore.. will you teach me...? =] " and say it in a cutesy way to make him giggle...who knows maybe its his first time kissing too. If it is both of your first kisses, then im sorry to say this but itll SUCK ASS!!! lol, trust me itll suck but like after u 2 practice together for along time u both will like know how to kiss hecka good! but im sure its not his first time, so yaeh just say in a cutesy way whut i said..hope it works out!!
love kristin
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Agh... I'm so agitated and confused and depressed at the same time I can barely type this...! Anyways... my gf and I have been going out for about 10 days. My friends and I and her hang out all the time. Well it started last night. My friend was just joking around and he said "I'm like a star in the sky!" (Yeah we're pretty weird sometimes.) And my gf said "If you are then I will love you haha" and this kind of got me down, even though she said she was just kidding. Also, the same day, my friend was just like "My butt hurts." Then she says "Haha let me check that out for you then", and she touched it lightly... In a joking way, but it still didn't feel right.Another thing is, today, when my friend and I were walking towards her, she was like "Hey (friends name)!" And I was thinking to myself... "Eh? :( She didn't even say hi to me..." But... my gf said that she is crazy about me and she really loves me and everything like that, and she said that like the 7th night we were going out... but on msn. =\ Anyways, my question is, does she still like me? Or could she be liking my friend, and not me? I mean, she says she's worried that I will like another girl and dump her in the near future, and she also says that she's afraid to get hurt again, so maybe she will hurt me, and everything will be fine for her? I don't know, but we still held hands and hugged and all the normal stuff we do like that, but it still made me sad... please help... and thanks for reading... (link)
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TRUST ME, the guys alllllwaysss make the first moves..After awhile she will start being the one to make the moves, etc. If shes still with you and acting the exact same way as she was in the beginning, she still really likes you. Like if she is still sayin to this day, "i like you so muich and im scared ur going to dump me for another girl", etcetc then she still REALLY likes you!!! I would talk to your guy friend about it though and be like dude i think my girl likes you..and like hint it alot to him that ur uncomfortable bouT the situation and if hes a go0d friend he'lL baCk oFf. also hint it to your gf cause shes being way too big of a flirt..
love kristin
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Hi you guys... i don't really know where to start. i'm head over heels for one of my best friends (my best guy friend). and i don't know what to do. sometimes, when we're talking and it's late at night, i come so close to telling him, just because i'd like to know if i have a chance. but then part of me is afraid. he has a girlfriend at the moment, and i don't want to ruin anything between them. i found out a few days ago that he used to think we had the potential to be soulmates, that's definitely how i feel. and have felt. i just don't know if he still feels like that and i'm really afraid to ask. so, all wise advice givers, what do i do? (link)
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Wow, Im going through the same thing. Theres a lot of things to think about in situations like these. One thing to think about is how much your friend likes his girlfriend. If he is totally head over heals for HER, then most likely you dont have a really good chance. But I dunno I kinda have this feeling that he really likes you a lot. You really should tell him exactly how you feel. You just gotta prepare for the worst, which is him telling you that he doesnt feel the same. No matter what I would tell him how you feel since you 2 are really close. Its going to hurt you a lot if he doesnt feel the same way, but wouldnt if hurt even more if he did and it was too late? A girl and a guy cant be sooo close and not have any typa feelings for eachother, its not normal. If you need more help Im here..
love kristin
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written by friend :
Hey im 14 and this guy is 16 .. Soo we hang out all the time but my BEST friend hates him and thinks hes bad and stuff.. but whenever his around me hes really sweet my friend just says .. Oh he just wants a piece of ass and all this other stuff.. and i think my friends parents are itimated that he can drive ( because he drives me places). Were not going out by the way but everyone thinks we are becuz we act like it. hes a drinker too =/ liike he has this rep that he always goes to parties and gets drunk and throws up everywhere ! .. so yea =/ what should i do? should i stick with him.. i mean i like him but my friends hate him =/ PLEASE HELP (link)
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Sometimes when you become really interested in a person, you fail to see his flaws..But the people around you who love you, like your friends, seem to ALWAYS catch that persons flaws..which is such a great thing because they are only looking out for you and only want the best. If your friend/s thought this guy was a pretty decent guy to date who had flaws, obviously, because no1 is perfect, then they would encourage you to date him and to try something new. But in this case, they really dont like him at all,which says a lot. You really gotta think about the ups and downs in this guy. If he drinks and parties and even has a rep, then smoking and taking drugs Im sure are something else that he has probably tried also. I would think about it again if this guy is really for you. Remember, the people you love only want the best for you. And since they dont like him, he is obviously not the best and may even be a bad addition to your life..:-/
love kristin
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Okay, There's This Kid Named Jacob That I Really Really Like. Problem Is, I Live In Pennsylvania And He Lives In Florida! I Didn't Meet Him In A Chat Or Anything, My Friend From School Moved From Florida And Knew Him. He Visits Pennsylvania A Couple Times A Year To Visit His Friend!! And He Said He Really Likes Me And He's Just All Confused Cuz He Really Wants To Date Me And Stuff! I Like Him Alot.. And I'd Be Able To Meet Him Eventually. And I Don't Mind Long Distance Relationships, Do You Think This Is Okay?? (link)
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Honestly, I dont think its worth it!!! I dunno though, thats just my opinion. BUT if you two REALLY, i mean REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY like eachother, then ofcourse, GO FOR IT! But, I would give yourself like a month without talking to him, and see if you still like him. Cause that way you can see if it was just a little crush or if its a real thing..
Love kristin
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Okay well like guy..and he has a girlfriend..but he flirts with me..but when hes with his friends..hell like barely talk to me..or when hes with his girlfriend..he like say hey but then he just ignore me! i mean EVERYONE in my class that knos that i like him..thinks he likes me..but i dont think so..because sometimes he can be mean..but other times he so sweet. i could tell him anything..and i really like him..but i dont think he likes me! do you kno why flirts with me when its just us..and then when hes with his friends hell ignore me?! thanks!
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OMG GIRL I had that SAME PROBLEM RECENTLY!! You REALLY need to try and get over him. What he's doing right now is using you as a kinda toy. When he isnt with his friends or his girlfriend, he uses you to have some fun with. BUt when he is occupied [with his gf or friends], he doesn't need you to be there or he may not even care if you are there because he is already having fun, etc with the people he really cares about. Im really sorry I dont mean to sound rude..I mean I wish someone told me these things when i was in that situation. The way to get over him is to slowly not flirt with him nemore. If he flirts with you, act as if you dont really know him that well and like kinda laugh at what he says but DONT say nething back to him..if he pushes in flirtasiously, DONT push him back, etc..try to avoid him..
love kristin
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when im w. my boyfriend i am like on top of the world and i luv him alot..but then when i go home at night i have second thoughts and i get really confused on if i really do love him and if we should break up or not...what should i do because i dont wanna break up w. him when im w. him ...but i get so confused when were apart! (link)
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Hey! I no exactly how you feel!!! It's a totally normal thing, and it really means that you are not necessarily "inlove" with him. I wouldn't break up with him if I were you because if you do, Im almost positive that youre going to get really hurt and think that you made the wrong decision about breaking up. I think that you should stay with him, but the get thought of love out of your mind because I truely think that you arent inlove. If you stop thinking about if you 2 are inlove and just go with the flow and think of it as just a casual bf/gf thing, then I think you would feel alot better and less stressed out about it. If you 2 say you love eachother to eachother, then I would stop. If he asks you whats wrong explain it to him. I hope I helped and good luck to you
love kristin
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i get depressed like really easly.. like today at school i was really hyper and happy and all that but now im really up set and want to cry over nothing. i just randomly melt down.. is there anyway to stop this or is there a reason im like this? (link)
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Hey..Im really sorry for that. I know how that feels and it SUCKS..But the thing is, I dunno if you ever read alot of other ppls questions on here, but ALOT of them have to do with the exact same thing your going through. EVERYONE gets depressed sometime in their life, especially teenagers..Its kinda not normal if a teenager never expiriences getting depresed..Im sure you know all that. If this has been happening for ALONG TIME, then I think that maybe you should talk to a school councilor cause they really help.atleast they helped me when i needed some1 to help me figure out why i was depresed for no reason..if u havent been feeling like this for a long time, then i really think its like a lil stage thing thatll last maybe like 2 weeks..i hope this helped good luck
love kristin
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there is this girl in school who i am in love with..she is really hot and everything but i like her for who she is not the way she looks. she knows about how i feel obviously since i told her..and she used to like me a lot. we have made out and everything several times. she told me not to tell anyone because the first time, she was still going out with her boyfriend but she liked me not him and the 2nd time, it was the night she dumped him for me..it seems like after she dumped him she stopped liking me..she comes over almost every weekend but she was mad at me for a while because i told my best friend that me and her had made out...heres what happened..my friend knows how to annoy the shit out of me and he did just that...she took my arm and put it behind my back and pushed it up and it hurts sooooo damn bad and he wouldnt let go until i told him :(...please dont tell me i need to get new friends, theyre the only ones i have. so anyways, now she likes another guy, hes a sophomore, a pothead, and i think hes using her. i found out on halloween that her and him have hooked up and shit and it kills me to think about it. she acts like nothing happened and she constantly makes me mad by telling me about him and everything, she knows it pisses me off and that i love her. i cant move on, i have tried. i have told her how i feel.
*If you must choose between someone you love and someone who loves you, always choose the one who loves you... because you can always learn to love someone, but you can hardly ever make someone else love you* - have you ever heard that? i wish she could do that..i just want her back so bad so things could be like they used to be, she said she doesnt know why she suddenly stopped liking me but one of the reasons is she cant picture me as her boyfriend because of my personality...she pictures me as a bestfriend not a boyfriend AND I HATE IT!!! i dont want to be her bestfriend, i want to be her boyfriend...it hurts to think about it all and i dont know what to do i am soo confused. i think about her all day..i asked her out at homecoming during the last slow dance and she said no..i went home and cried, she hadnt told me she didnt like me anymore and everyone told me it was so sweet and romantic and w/e and she would surely say yes...i love her so much! i need her...
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it sounds like ur really inlove..:-/. im really sorry that ur going thru that. but number 1- u needa start playing HARD TO GET!! i know she doesnt like u that way, but since she knows how much u love her, shes useto the attention and is taking it for granit..if u stop giving her that attention and pretend that u dont care nemore and that u dont like her, i can almost garauntee that she will come back to u..im like 60% sure she would come back..thast just how it is..when u know that some1 is like totally inlove with u, u take it for granit and not care but when the attention isnt there nemore u want it back and start talking to that person more and give THEM attention so u can get attentiOn baCk, etCetC...just try that..dOnt wait for hEr after class, dOnt lOok at hEr, dOnt call her, pick up her calls but 5 minutes into it be like hey i really gotta go but it was nice talking ttul bye!, dont text her, dont tell her u love her, if she asks u if u still like her be like i dunno my feelings kinda changed, etcetc..and take it from there..if she starts comin back to u then ull know what to do..
love kristin
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ok, i have been going out with this guy for maybe 2 and a half weeks. then i keep seeing him talking to this other girl that already has a bf. so i didn't think about it but now he is writing stuff on his hand saing stuff like i love then someones name but he won't let me or my friends c. then his friend said he wrote i love then then the girls name who he was talking 2, but he said he wrote my name....who do i believe and how do i know if i am going to get dumped? HELP ASAP! (link)
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Honestly, Ive been in that position about three times. But I was the girl that the guy was talking to who already had a gf and he started liking me and flirting with me, calling me, writing stuff on my hands, etc..It always happens. Right when the guy gets a girlfriend, he starts liking another girl. he'll tell you that its you and he only likes you, etc but then youll see him all the time with that girl, etc...If it was ur name then why wouldnt he just let you see his hand..? thats a big clue..If you 2 are messing around alot like you giving him head, etc etc that may be one of the reasons why he is still with you.. If i were you, If u 2 are doing that stuff, i would stop IMMEDIATELY, see if he still stays with you..Orelse, i dont know maybe you should keep an even closer eye on him and if u think its right, dump him, u should be getting all the attention no1 else.
lvoe kristin
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I have a problem...i like this guy justin. I have liked him for like 3 years and recently my REALLY good friend Shilah started liking him and he liked her too...they went out for like 1 week and she thinks she loves him but i like him alot and recently we started "talking" like b/f g/f... and i told my friend about it and now she is mad at me... but i liked him first what do i do? Do i go for him and say forget her or do i forget him?
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Amanda (link)
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That sounds extremely cute about what you and justin have. BUT..theres always a but :-/..but you cant do that..Thats so bad karma. Plus u are hurting your friend a ton. You dont wanna do that .. right? I hope not..I would back off definitely, if he asks whats wrong explain it to him... tell your friend that you like him too but you love her way more and your going to back off because of the situation...Youre going to loose a friend if you dont..:-/
love kristin
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ok i been with my boyfriend for a while n we have alot of ups and downs...i really love him...and i no i do...but he is confusing me with this whole "i love u thing" i really wanna say ti to him soooo bad! and he sed it to me first....but it was n my voicemail...he left a mssg for me and he was like i love u..bye and like when we talk on the fone he wont say it....only on mssgs! and in person he dont say it either....its really confusing me! what can i do? do i say it first? helllpp wat does this mean (link)
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Aww i think thats so cute!! hehe, hes prolly just really shy and scared about what youre going to say back..if i were you, id leave HIM a message and say u love him on it..then in person, say it to him be4 u are gunna leave to go somewhere..give him like a couple seconds to say it back though..i really do think its only cause he is shy! hehe but definitely tell him
love kristin
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