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Hi you guys... i don't really know where to start. i'm head over heels for one of my best friends (my best guy friend). and i don't know what to do. sometimes, when we're talking and it's late at night, i come so close to telling him, just because i'd like to know if i have a chance. but then part of me is afraid. he has a girlfriend at the moment, and i don't want to ruin anything between them. i found out a few days ago that he used to think we had the potential to be soulmates, that's definitely how i feel. and have felt. i just don't know if he still feels like that and i'm really afraid to ask. so, all wise advice givers, what do i do?
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The best thing to do is just.. tell him.. Don't let it ALL out on him at once.. but just be like.. Hay (w.e. his name is) and then of course he'll be like.. what.. and tell him you need to talk to him about something.. Just be like.. (name) I've really been thinking about this loong and hard and I wasn't sure if it was true at first.. but now I know that it is.. I really have strong feelings for you but I'm afraid that if anything were to happen that it might ruin our friendship and I'm not sure if you feel the same way about me.. I just had to tell you bcuz I can't hold my feelings in for you anymore.. then be like.. I hope this didn't change the way you feel for me at all.. unless the feeling change is good.. and then just ask him what he thinks.. MAKE SURE u tell him NOT to say ONE word until u are ALL finished talking.. then when ur all done.. be like.. So.. What do you think? I hope I could help! Make sure n tell me how it goes!! My AIM sn is on my site!
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I think you should let him know if he has a girlfriend or not. Just bc he has a girlfriend does not mean you cant get your question anwsered. I think you should go for it!
good luck!!
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Like Buckems said... (Thats my boifriend)
If he really thinks yall are soulmates then he likes you deffinately. No doubt about it. Its obvious if he says that not everyday do guys say that. Just let him know how you feel! Most likely he feels the same thing about you. Just let him know take the chances. It doesnt hurt. You could still be friends. Its not a life or death situation. Just let em know. He would dump that chick for you. (In a heartbeat) You seem like a smart girl and knows what she wants. So he knows that. You got him, Just let him know and what you wish for will happen. Trust me. When it comes to things like this. It just hits me naturally if i know something will happen or not. Well i hope i gave you the best advice. Let me know if anything happens. <3Sammy Sam<3
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Just go ahead and ask him i have had girls ask me that before!Its not really a big deal if he really loves the other girl nothing will come of it but if your ment to be then maybe you will hook up with him.. NO GIRL WOULD EVER COME BETWWEN ME AND MY GIRL FREIND!! If he really doesnt like the girl then he shouldnt be wiht her an the first place and h will come to you.
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wat id do is just talk 2 him n be like if u didnt have a gf rite now wood u ever go out wth or be like do u like me as more than a friend n if so do u think there is any potential 2 take this further or not... good luck
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Dont be afraid to ask! You guys are best friends and you shouldnt hold anything away from him. Tell him how you feel about him and he will prob not think anything less of you. If you dont want to mess things up between him and his gf tell him that you dont want anything to happen until hes ready.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~
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YOU ARE IN MY EXACT SAME POSITION! As for me, I'm just going to wait it out for a while, because even though he has told me that he had liked me, I'm not sure how he feels about me right now.
For you, wait a little while. You don't want to mess anything up between him and his girlfriend. Ask some questions though, does he really like his current girlfriend? You don't even have to ask him... just someone you can trust. It sounds to me that you two have a connection, maybe he was afraid of rejection too. You can only wait and see how things progress. And if nothing happens soon, then muster up some courage and try to tell him how you feel.
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Wow, Im going through the same thing. Theres a lot of things to think about in situations like these. One thing to think about is how much your friend likes his girlfriend. If he is totally head over heals for HER, then most likely you dont have a really good chance. But I dunno I kinda have this feeling that he really likes you a lot. You really should tell him exactly how you feel. You just gotta prepare for the worst, which is him telling you that he doesnt feel the same. No matter what I would tell him how you feel since you 2 are really close. Its going to hurt you a lot if he doesnt feel the same way, but wouldnt if hurt even more if he did and it was too late? A girl and a guy cant be sooo close and not have any typa feelings for eachother, its not normal. If you need more help Im here..
love kristin
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That's really cute :) umm... well if I were you, I would just play it cool and just talk to him normally n' try to hang out and he'll see what a wonderful girl you are and that you're well worth his time. Just don't go breaking him n' his g/f up cuz he'd just dislike you... but yea.. things will turn out better, dont worry :)
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I think you should tell him. B/c what is the worst that could happen, other then getting the truth out of him. Which is what you want... right?? Might wanna think about that one before you do it. I still think you should though, or you will never get the truth out. Maybe he still feels the same way? Go for it!
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If you like this guy then go for him, or wait until he and his girlfriend break up, i know that it is probably killing you inside to wait but unless you want to tell him up-streight then that is the road i suggest you go on. BUT if you have another friend that is close to him then i suggest that you tell her to ask him if he still feels that way, and if he does then get her or if it is a he, him to tell your crush that you like him, and that you would love it if you went out. And if a guy ever says or admitts to any one that he thinks a girl might be his soul mate, well i think that is saying something, guys dont normally do that.
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i kno how u feel, i had some feelings for my guy frnd too. we would always talk about how we thot about eachother, and if u really like ur frnd, u should tell him how u feel. i kno u must here that everywhere, but just listen to urself wen ur around him. if ur heart is tellin u to tell him sumthing, do it. Believe me, u will feel alot better about yourself, if worst case scenario he doesnt like the fact that u told him, just tell him u had to and he will understand. if you need any more help, im here for u =) luv, here2helpyou
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when he dumps her ask him i like one of my best friends (she's a girl) but we hav been friends for ten yrs and she says it would be like goin out with her brother if u don't want to take my advice then use the advice in your heart
sign,
mob-boss
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OMG! that is exactaly how i feel i feel about my best friends jason! escept i told him last year. He always used to ask me who i liked and that time i told him that i wanted something that i couldn't have and he started guessing then i told him it was him. He said ok and we talked about but nothing happened between us. We still talk about it sometimes but now i don't really think anything is going to happen because of how close we are. He hasn't had a girlfriend for about a year but i had a boyfriend this summer at camp and he was the first person outside of camp that i called to tell. He seemed a little weird about it even when i got home and we had broken up so i thought there might have been a chance but there wasn't. My advice to you is to tell him one night while your talking to him. Just get it out in the open and see how he feels about it. If you are as close as you say than he shouldn't have a problem with it. Hope I helped (with like my life story lol).
~*~Naomi~*~
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he has a girlfriend so just hang low for a little bit..let things play out. they will get better soon! good luck!
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well all u need to do is wait the same thing happened to me i wasnt sure if i needed to talk to my bestfriend or to leave it he also had a girlfriend, then one day he and his girlfriend broke up and he came to talk to me and i couldnt keep it in any longer so i told him i liked him and he was like well ive alwasys liked u and we are still going out
~parker~
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i think that you should give it some time. i know you like him and all but ruining things for him and his girlfriend isnt fair for her. So just wait a little if its meant to be it will happen..trust me! and flirting never hurts anyone ;)
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I honestly wish I had a great answer for you, to make myself seem great for overcoming one of the hardest situations in relationships...but I can't. I can tell you what's happend to me, and I'm going to try to make it as quick as possible, because I know how much people hate to hear other people's stories...when all you really want is your own fixed. This has actually happend to me...3 times. As I sit here and say this, I know none of this is going to help you. But, don't screw up his relationship. It's not worth it. Because then you're destroying someone's happiness to gain your own. As much as it hurts, just let it take it's course. Yeah, don't deny your feelings, but also don't try and shove your tongue down his mouth. If it is meant to work out...then it eventually will, until then, you have to suffer with the ache that is in your heart. Sometimes, though, it wasn't meant to work out. And that's just life. And tommorow, it's still gonna be roate.
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I think you should wait until he doesn't have a girlfriend. This way you don't look bad and it will show your maturity to him. But when they break up, give him a week or two to get over her, then you should def. tell him! I know this may seem like it will take forever...but in the end it will probably be worth it ;)
Good Luck!
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