i'm 15 years old & i haven't gotten my period for about two months. i've been having it since september 2004 & it's been sort of normal for about 8 months. i'm a virgin & i know this is going to sound extrememly juvenile but is there some way that i could be pregnant without having sex? as i said, i don't mean to sound juvenile but i've heard people say things like, "it's in the water" & is it actually possible? i'm just really nervous, & i'm racking my brain for an answer. could it just be that my period isn't on time? i haven't really been eating any differently. please don't treat me like an idiot, i'm just scared.
Don't worry about it. Missing your period for one to three months, especially in the first few years, is completely normal. If you undergo a lot of stress or you start exercising a lot, or even just hormonal changes, can trigger that. You cannot get pregnant if you haven't had sex, unless you've been fooling around and the guy cums really close to the opening, in which case there is a miniscule chance. Semen need bodily fluids to live in, they cannot just stay alive in water, on skin, or anywhere else. If you miss your period more than one more time, I'd see a doctor.
Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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okay so there is this guy..and i really like him but he flirts with like EVERY GIRL in my grade! like he will put his arm around me but then go and put his arm around some1 else! he is rarley serious.. but a few weeks ago he told me he liked me.. then my friend talked to him and he said that he did like me to her..but then the next day he said he was.."trying to get over me.." okay so now there is this other girl that i have hated for a LONG time because she is like more slutty then anyone in the world..and she always puts her arm around him and he does it back. i` m really confused and i want him to like me..but how do i be more flirty..should i?
PLEASE respond back!!
My advice -- this guy isn't looking for any kind of serious relationship. He likes playing the field, he's a major flirt, and he enjoys that freedom to do what he wants as far as girls are concerned.
If you really like him (and not just because you thought he liked you), then just go up and talk to him, flirt, flip your hair and giggle a lot :). I'd say beware if you're going this route because it doesn't seem like he can stay focused on one person for very long.
Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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i really like this guy. and i know he likes me. The thing is he is black and some are my friends are acting weird about that. i mean i don't see anything wrong with it. Is there something wrong with a white female dating a black male??
There's nothing wrong with that at all. As for your friends, I'm sure they're not racist. It's simply been proven that there's certain brain reactions that attract a person to a person of their same race. If you like him and he likes you, then you don't need to worry about anything, and your friends will get over it.
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Nevaeh
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(15/f) Okay well I'm an alto and I'm singing a solo in Italian and my highest note is a high F but I can't reach it without struggling. I do voice warm-ups but I can't reach it.
Does anyone know how I can get my voice higher without making it crack or sound horrible?
thanks in advance!
How long is the note held out for, and are you singing it for solo & ensemble? I have the same problem just about every year.
Try a bit of lemon juice in water, it seems to do the trick. Practice breathing from your diaphragm (don't let your shoulders rise up at all) and make sure you have the right embuture (sp?) ask your vocal instructor to monitor the way that you're breathing and your vowel placement when you go up to the F. Even if it doesn't seem like it, its your breathing that almost completely controls your range.
If you play a musical instrument, one that requires air to be forced through it, play it for 20 mns before you sing your solo. Seriously. I can normally hit an E without trouble, I can hit an A after playing my clarinet for a bit.
Drink tea. Preferably something minty.
If none of that works, go falsetto (your head voice). It sounds a bit airy but it's better than not hitting the note.
Hope this helps, good luck.
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Nevaeh
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Something really bad happened to me when I was a senior in highschool with a guy. I thought that I had put it behind me and had moved on, but the thing is my tenth year reunion is coming up next summer and I'm terrified of running into him again.
I still get nightmares of what happened. Well he was really popular and I was a nerd. He found out I liked him and basically made sure I would be either humiliated or uncomfortable around him. He never once talked to me but he would wait for me to walk down the hall and then make out with his beautiful and popular girlfriend just to see my reaction. He would laugh whenever he caught me blushing, and would come right up to one of his friends whose locker was next to mine just to see me skirm. At my prom he walked right up to my best friend and hit on her and ignored me. He also treated me like this my first year of university because his girlfriend went to the same school as me. The last time I saw him was at the bar when I was 19. I walked up to him to tell him it was my birthday and he just ignored me and walked away.
Well the reunion is coming up and if he's going to be there I know I'm not going to have a good time, it will just drag up all these memories. The worst part is that I never told any of my highschool friends about this because they all liked him and thought he was a great guy, and I didnt want it to get out. It would just make me look bad and he would deny it anyways.
How should I act at the reuinion if he is there?
High School is a time full of tumult. This guy may have acted like a jerk then, but if it's your ten year reunion, he's most likely secure in a job, possibly married, and secure with himself -- that last one is what most high schoolers are lacking. I doubt he's still going to hate you or try to humiliate you, and if you go up and talk to him and tell him what that did to you I bet he'd apologize. Trust me, people mature in unbelievable ways once they're out of high school. He'd be about 28 now? Think of when you were 18. Were you ashamed of some of the things you did at 8, or even in the infamous freshman year? Do you feel stupid when you look back on different moments of your senior year? Good luck at the reunion. If you decide not to talk to him, he'll probably leave you alone, but if you decide to, I wish you courage.
Hope this helps.
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Nevaeh
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Here goes my story I already know this girl for almost two years now and lately she is quite acting really wierd for the past three months now.. It goes like this I usually hear my name with one of her friends. Whenever I get close to her,her friends kinda laugh and they do some signallings with her. I usually catch her staring at me or doing eye contact.. And one thing she really cares for me like always keeps on telling me what things to do, What to wear and etc...At one time we have this contest about a play in English class.. At the back stage she suddenly said that she wants to put her hankerchief inside my pocket oh for pete's sake she could just put it inside her own pocket.. Im quite sure her pockets is empty.. And sometimes whenever I tease her she get's really mad Im mean not that Mad like in joking manner..and to top it all off when me and my classmates went on a practice at her house I notice something's wrong I noticed that all her relatives (ie, uncle,cousins,her mom) kinda smile at me and stared at me for a few seconds maybe she told her relatives about me. Well that's about it well I could put more examples but it's gonna be quite too long for just an advice hope this helps..
Uh, YES she likes you. It couldn't be any clearer. Now what you have to do is figure out whether you like her back or if you want to talk to her about it and get to know her better. If you don't, just tell her nicely so she can spend her time doting on someone else, but it seems like she really likes you, so I emphasize /nicely/ tell her. But if you do like her or could, go for it.
Hope this helps.
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Nevaeh
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Ok i am 16 female and i got to high school and my boyfriend (getting married) is like 20. Well the other day he seen me hugging my Step-Brother and he was like this that you boyfriend and what are you doing with him anyways. Well told him that it is my Step-Brother and he is going back home and i dont know when the next time i get to see him. But my Boyfriend just said bulls**t. And he is always with other girls. but he don't know thhat i know about it. But then i just said that if you are going to keep on saying that i am cheating we are though so he said fine then i said ok we are over. but i still love him. Was it wrong for me saying we are over or did i do the right thing?
You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. No matter how sweet he may seem when you are together, and how you may love that side of him, his jealousy could possibly have turned into an extremely controlling and emotionally/physically abusive relationship. The fact that he wouldn't accept that the guy you hugged is your step-brother (and not to mention got jealous over a simple HUG) is classic preliminary behavior for someone who may turn extremely jealous and possessive. You can do SO much better, especially if he's such a hyprocrite that he's with other girls all the time. I know it can be difficult for you, but don't stress to much and try to do things for yourself or meet guys who will have a trusting and loving relationship with you.
Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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on tuesday me and my bf were foolin around and he ended up giving em a hickey..normally its okay but this time its like really dark and noticeable..its one the side of my neck and kinda towards the back..like right under my ear and back like a cm.well i been wearing me hair down since so you cant see it at all. but if my hairs not down its veryy and i mean VERY noticable. its like very dark. i can wear my hair down the rest of the weekend and to school on monday. but for cheerleading i have to wear my hair up so idk how im going to do that without my whole squad seeing it cuz trust em they will. can anyone help mee!?
5's for any bit of help
Depends on what color the hickey is. If it's darker red, apply a light green base for cover up makeup and then put a skin-tone cover up on it. If it's more of a purple color, a yellowish base should do it. What the base does is neutralize the color before you apply the normal coverup, because you are applying the color opposite of the mark. On the other hand, if you're tight with your chearleading team, just say its a hickey ;). Hope this helps.
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Nevaeh
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I'll rate 5's... Alright well Monday i was sick with a stuffy nose and a sore throat. I was still sick Tuesday but I went to school. I felt fine Wednesday and Thursday. But Friday night my throat hurt everytime I swallowed. I woke up Saturday morning at 5AM and I felt so sick; I still do ; I have a wicked headache, My throat hurts, my nose is stuffy, and my stomach hurts. Do you know what this is ?? How can I get better ??
My first advice is to go see a doctor immediately. While it's probably just something minor like seasonal cold or flu, you should take precautions in case it's not. Mononucleosis (Mono, i.e. "The Kissing Disease") has symptoms like that. A few different types of more serious fevers do as well as Meningitis, which you should get tested for. If you have a strong aversion to light, a sensitivity to noise, and you can't touch your chin to you chest you really need to go see the doctor, because it's probably Meningitis.
I don't mean to scare you at all, it sounds to me like you just have a nasty cold, but you can never be too careful.
Hope this helps.
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Nevaeh
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Ok.
So, tonight I was going out to eat with some friends. While getting in the car, one of them managed to slam the door on my right thumb. Hard. Impacted on the nail and sides of my thumb.
Now, I have a purple finger about 1.5 times its normal size, blood somewhat congealing under the nail, and at the cuticle on top of my thumb it hasnt stopped bleeding (it bleeds VERY slowly, about a drop every 20 min) in the last 6 hours. Its also quite stiff. Sorry for the vivid description.
Im not much for first aid, so any ideas on how I can get the swelling down and the thumb back to normal by sunday? Im going visit my girl, and I forsee this damn thumb betting in the way. (Dont ask)
Ive done ice and bandage wrapping, but anyone have any other ideas?
Now, on sunday at about 5 am Im going to be arriving in town, so it has to be quick and effective remedies. 5s to anyone who gives an idea that improves the situation.
That happened to me, it's called smashing your finger. (Very technical term there ;).) It hurt a lot, but there's a very simple procedure. Go into the walk-in clinic or your doctor's office, won't cost you much at all, maybe like $10-15 depending on where you live. The doctor will melt a hole through your nail to relieve the blood and the pressure underneath, and the swelling should go down by Sunday. It doesn't hurt, I promise, your nail has no nerves and they don't have to melt through far enough to touch the skin underneath.
Oh yeah, and just to warn you, your fingernail is going to fall off. Not to be blunt. It will grow back, but it feels kinda funny having no nail there ;).
Good luck.
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Nevaeh
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Alright well I'm going to get my hair cut soon and i want an "emo" hair cut. I don't like calling it that but thats the only way I can figure out how to explain it! So if anyone knows how I can explain the "emo/scene" hair to my stylist that would be GREAT! And also if you have any pictures I can go by that would be awsome too. I've looked everywhere but can't find anything.
I'm a girl by the way! Thanks so much.
And please no shit if you don't like emo hair get over it I do.
Get it cut like in layers going from your chin in the front and then like up, framing your face and neck, then in the back cut it to about an inch and a half so you can spike it out. It's a popular emo look, you should be able to find it if you don't know what I'm talking about.
Takes a bit of work to style, like using the gel/mousse to spike it, possibly blow-drying it, but this style works really well as long as you don't have super-thin hair.
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Nevaeh
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theres two guys who like me...
my ex-boyfriend and my neighbor i'm not sure which one to ask out becuase with my ex-bf i would only see him once every two weeks or something but i really like him but then my neighbor is 2 houses down and i really like him too but he stayed back and it would seem like i'm going out with someone whos not my age.
So which guy do i chose?
Go with your heart. I can't tell you which one would be better for you, because I don't know you or either of them, but I can tell you to examine your feelings closely. Which one do you find yourself thinking about more often? Why did you break up with your ex, and is it something that could be forgotten if you went out with him again? Does an age difference really matter so much? Just ask yourself which one you truly want to be with, and don't worry about what people will think. Hope this helps.
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Nevaeh
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My eyes are a grayish blue and I have very long and dark eye lashes. My eyes are about medium sized. What color eyeliner should I wear? My mom told me like a charcoal gray because If i wear blue it would be competeing with my eye color. What do you think?
A brown with a hint of gold will set off your natural eye color very well...it brings out the blue and makes your eyes look very bright. Try a shimmery gold color if you're looking for eyeshadow.
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Nevaeh
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i'm a straight A student. but my grades are always in the mid 90 range. wat are some ways to help me get 100 instead of just 95s. there always seem to be a small detail or something that causes me to lose a few points and be second.
Don't make perfection your focus. Greatness is far better than perfection, and if you know that you're giving it your all, then you've made yourself great. Seriously, the percentage isn't what's important, it's what you're learning. If you're truly passionate about finding out new information, just do all you can to do that very thing. If it's history, read some extra books or articles related to what you're studying. If it's English, keep a journal of what you've read and the impact it has on your life. Focus on learning, growing, and you might just boost your percentage grades in the process. Grades matter very little in the whole scheme of things, if you're already getting As, you're involved in extracurriculars, and you're a strong writer, you're going to get into a good college, and when you go to college, you're going to learn to specialize in one area that you're really interested in. Spend more time developing those interests than double and triple checking your answers. I'm rambling, but I guess what I'm trying to say is this: I don't remember what I got on my last Physics test, but it certainly wasn't a perfect score. But what I remember most is that I learned so much that I apply in every day life, I understand so much more than I did before, and I can make connections between things that I couldn't before. That's worth more than any percentage point.
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Nevaeh
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I've met this really great guy. We have so much in common and we became really good friends right off the bat, and we've been partying together ever since then. I'd totally date him, but he's 4 inches shorter than me!!! Do you guys think that he's still worth my time, or just dump the idea of hooking up with a shorty? (I'm 16 and he's 18, so he's not growing anymore either)
Aww, don't worry about the height. The other day I saw this guy with a girl who was /literally/ a foot and a half taller than him...that's a little extreme, but if you like him a lot and it's not going to drive you crazy, then don't worry about 4 inches. If you're already good friends, you could be passing up a really good opportunity, I'd say go for it! Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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I am in love with my best friend's ex-boyfriend. I have been for quite sometime. We flirt a lot and everything,but I guess he sees me as just a really good friend. I have helped him through so many problems throughout his relationship my w/ my best friend. Now they have broken up, and I want him. But I can't. He is still in love with her, and two of my other good friends have a crush on him. One claims she loves him, but she doesn't know him like me, she doesn't look at him like I do, she doesn't see what I see. I want him so bad, its like un bearable. But for the longest time, I've been just a friend.I want that to change, but it can't. Unless I want to loose 3 of my friends. (It is a rule of ours that no one can date and ex unless its been many years). I have one more problem, I just recently got a boyfriend, I like him A LOT, and I think about him more than any other guy (besides the one we are talking about), but I guess I just can't get the other one out of my head. I gues you could say, that I love them both, but I want the other one. =/ how to I get him??
If you have this strong of feelings about your friend's ex, you shouldn't stay with your boyfriend now. It's dishonest and leading him on, and if he gets too attached but you're still in love with the other guy, it's going to be an emotional wreck for both of you. Trust me, I had this situation very recently. Once you figure that out, talk to your friend's ex, just a one-on-one conversation. Tell him that you have feelings for him, but you don't want to ruin a friendship if the feelings aren't mutual. Tell him that you also don't want to ruin your relationship with your friends, but you really have feelings for him. If he has feelings back, then you need to talk to your friends. Potential real love isn't worth giving up simply because of a rule about ex's, and if your friend is over him, and he has feelings for you and not the other two, they'll get over it. Seriously, I felt the same way about a boy, and I would have regretted it forever if I didn't at least take a chance. Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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I got less than a week before tryouts. How do I let my team-mates know that I'm not doing my sports in the fall season. I don't want to get made fun of or yelled at or anything by them. Is there anything I can do other than just not showing up. Everyone keeps asking me to go and work out with them, but I always come up with excuses. What should I do
15/m
You could just not show up at tryouts, but it's maybe not the best thing to do if you've been very involved with sports in the past. If some of the people on the team are your closer friends, just tell them that you're not doing fall sports, and tell them your reasons for it (if they're not too personal). I'm sure they won't make fun of you, they might be disappointed because I'm sure they're losing a valuable member of their team, but just tell them that you'll cheer them on. Hope this helps, good luck!
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Nevaeh
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my daughter(19) has a abusive boyfriend (16).
He is at this point only verbally abusive, but i fear it could turn physical . Tonight they went out with her brother (who is twice the boyfriends size) and her cousin and friends. My son came home very angry telling me how this boy was rude, mean , and hateful to his sister. My daughter begged her brother not to say or do anything. His comment(my sons) to me and my husband was "If the boy behaved this way in front or her 6' 5" 230 lb brother, how did he treat her when they were alone? " This is a great point and scarey thought. My husband is ready to step in . What should we do? I discussed this with her and she admitted he is verbally abusive. I am afraid it will turn into physical abuse. Remember she is 19. She is of age to do what she wants, but has never exercised (or even spoke) of that right. She has always been a good easy child. How can we get her away from this boy? Should we demand she not see him. I have a parental gut feeling he could hurt her. We are also friends of his parents . They are very nice people who would never think their son did any wrong.
My husband wants to talk to them and
end it. What should we do? HELP!!!!!
the relationship is 9 months old and I am positive they are not sexually active. If it turns into a sexual relationship, it could REALLY get bad, and since they are both virgins he will never want to let her go. We Must Act Now!
You're absolutely right, you need to act immediately. First of all, talk again to your daughter, and tell her the dangers associated with a verbally abusive relationship. Even though this boy may say that he 'loves' her and is only protecting her, she needs to know that what he is doing is controlling and hurtful. Besides ruining her self-esteem if it goes on for too long, it can turn into physical abuse. Although the age difference between them may not seem to be an issue, he is still struggling with self-esteem and self-identity, and he is obviously very insecure. Tell her that you would prefer if she got out of the relationship, and that you will support her if she is afraid to break it off, but of course it is still her decision. Just let her know that you are scared for her and have her best interests at heart. When you talk to your daughter, you may or may not want to invite the boy's parents along. It could help them to hear it from your daughter first hand, but I have no idea what kind of people they are. You and your husband should definitely talk to them about their son, and hope and pray that they will listen and maybe offer him some guidance. I hope all goes well for you, and your daughter can get out of this situation.
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Nevaeh
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I just moved here from a different state & I'm starting school on Monday next week. I'm extremely nervous, I've never moved schools before & I'm 15. Pretty much, my question is: At lunch, I'll probably be sitting by myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on some things I could do to interest me, while sitting at lunch by myself. I don't want to look stupid and just sit there and stare around at people. I want to be able to do something. I'm not going up to people and asking them to sit with them because, I'm not that type of person. Thanks for your help.
If you're not going to go up to them and ask to sit with them, then go to lunch a little late, and find a table with a few people, and sit down. No asking involved. Just say, "Hey, I'm new, I'm ________." If you really don't want to do that, you could always just bring some homework or something to the table. I always use lunchtime to get my math homework done...or at least copy it ;). You could bring a book or magazine to read too. Don't sweat it, at my school there's not exactly any tables completely empty, so you CAN'T sit alone, and you might end up having to meet someone new, but who knows, you could end up with a great friend!
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Nevaeh
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My friend was forced to take a drug test by his mom and it he failed now shes callin his friends and tellin their parents to drug test their kids shes gonna call my dad soon and have my dad test me i want to know if its true that if you dont do marijuana often that it will clear out of your system faster than if you do it constantly?
The THC from Marijuana stays in your blood for 30 days. So if you do it often, there will be more THC in your blood and it will take longer to clear out. There are all sorts of health risks associated with marijuana as well, it can ruin your liver, kidneys, heart, lungs, brain...and it screws up your reproductive system. It's not worth it, at any rate. Hope this helps!
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Nevaeh
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