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guy rejected me in the worst way....
Something really bad happened to me when I was a senior in highschool with a guy. I thought that I had put it behind me and had moved on, but the thing is my tenth year reunion is coming up next summer and I'm terrified of running into him again.
I still get nightmares of what happened. Well he was really popular and I was a nerd. He found out I liked him and basically made sure I would be either humiliated or uncomfortable around him. He never once talked to me but he would wait for me to walk down the hall and then make out with his beautiful and popular girlfriend just to see my reaction. He would laugh whenever he caught me blushing, and would come right up to one of his friends whose locker was next to mine just to see me skirm. At my prom he walked right up to my best friend and hit on her and ignored me. He also treated me like this my first year of university because his girlfriend went to the same school as me. The last time I saw him was at the bar when I was 19. I walked up to him to tell him it was my birthday and he just ignored me and walked away.
Well the reunion is coming up and if he's going to be there I know I'm not going to have a good time, it will just drag up all these memories. The worst part is that I never told any of my highschool friends about this because they all liked him and thought he was a great guy, and I didnt want it to get out. It would just make me look bad and he would deny it anyways.
How should I act at the reuinion if he is there?
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High School is a time full of tumult. This guy may have acted like a jerk then, but if it's your ten year reunion, he's most likely secure in a job, possibly married, and secure with himself -- that last one is what most high schoolers are lacking. I doubt he's still going to hate you or try to humiliate you, and if you go up and talk to him and tell him what that did to you I bet he'd apologize. Trust me, people mature in unbelievable ways once they're out of high school. He'd be about 28 now? Think of when you were 18. Were you ashamed of some of the things you did at 8, or even in the infamous freshman year? Do you feel stupid when you look back on different moments of your senior year? Good luck at the reunion. If you decide not to talk to him, he'll probably leave you alone, but if you decide to, I wish you courage.
Hope this helps.
Love,
Nevaeh
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Act cool calm and collected, and no matter how much you squirm on the inside try to appear oblivious to him. Look like your having fun (Have fun, for that matter!) with out him. Don't let him phase you, it's obviously what he wants. If you HAVE to see him, wait a bit and try to get him to come to you.
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I would go, you can't let him control you. He might have changed, you never know and by not going, you'll never find out. You can't hide because of him. Make sure you look REALLY good when you go. And don't make it seem weird, try not to talk to him..Let him approach you.
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He was unnecessarily nasty. But that was 10 years ago. People do grow up and change, and it is possible that he has matured. I would go anyway, you should not let one person rule your life. Go and see old friends and don't even try to talk to him. Letting him know how much you are still thinking about it may give him satisfaction if he hasn't changed. Go for you, go to see old friends. He wasn't worth it back then and he isn't worth it now.
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How typical. He sounds like a real loser to be honest. People who treat others like dirt for no apparent reason are doing it just to make themselves feel better.
I think that if you do decide to go you should just ignore him. Have a good time and see some people you were friends with and just remember the good times.
Many people have gone through tramatic events and have learned to move past it all and cherish the good times. I think you should try that yourself. Its hard to njoy the time you have in this life if all you do is think about the bad things that have happened in the past.
Just because this guy was so popular in high school doesnt mean hes just as cool now. You need to go there and focus on yourself and how you have bettered your life after high school.
Your life is much to important to focus on omebody else that is nothing but a piece of crap.
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hes probably fat and balding now
don't worry.
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first off.... he sounds like he was a real asshole! personbally i wouldnt give a rats ass how he is and i would go and have the time of my life. ya see.... peopel like that like to make others feel insecure because they themselves are insecure. look at it like this... he may have gained 90 lbs of lard in his gut over 10 years so you may be suprised. so honey dont waste your precious minutes of your life that you cant get back worrying about the punk asshole in highschool that probaly deserved your rejestion. all i advise you to do is go there with a shit eating grin on your face and pay him back with a huge smile and show him you won by being happy. ya see, im sure that he mustve known you liked him in school or he wouldnt have made such an effort to hurt you the way he did. he was a hurtful creep then and hopefully hes changed over the years, but always remember that people can change thier ways but not thier nature.good luck hun and realize that its not your problem its his.
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