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I just can't study or get anything into my head when there's music on. I listen to music a lot but not when I'm studying. My sister always cranks the music up and it drives me nuts because she says it helps her study. but sometimes she gets low marks so I kind of doubt it.

Does music help you study?

I could never study with music on. I'd just start singing the song! I know a lot of people do like to study with music on, but I really don't know how they can do it. They must be able to block it out somehow, but I've never been able to do that. But it's weird... when i'm driving, I can barely focus unless I DO have the radio cranked up! Go figure!

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Mid-term reports came home and I'm in the 90s for all my classes but for gym which is 56%! I don't get how I could have gotten so low. I'm very bad at gym and sports but I gave it my 100% in every class and tried my best. He told us that you get 4 marks a day: 2 for wearing proper clothes and 2 for participation.

It's not low marks for the clothes because we have gym uniforms and I wear mine every day. And as I mentioned before, I always give my 100% effort and of course participate so I don't get why it's so low. This sucks, I liked the teacher a lot and I thought that I did a really good job but it seems that he doesn’t see it at all.

Is there anything I can do or should I stick with moping around? I don't think talking to him will change anything will it? Because if we go over it, I think I might burst into tears.

I think you should definitely talk to him about it! And if you start crying... all the better! That will show him that you really do care about doing well in his class.

But first, here's a tip about gym teachers. Most gym teachers were pretty athletic themselves back in the day. Sports came easy for them because they had a natural ability. When they see someone who's on the lower end of the athletic scale, they assume it's from lack of effort. They think if you'd just try harder, you could do better. But of course that's not always true... some people can work their butt off and still not be good at that certain things. But people with a natural ability sometimes can't understand how something that was so easy for them could be so difficult for someone else. So they think "She's not trying, she doesn't care."

You need to convince him that you DO care, and that you ARE trying. And that's why you should talk to him.

But when I say talk to him, I don't mean challenge your grade or accuse him of being unfair. That won't help at all. What I mean is, tell him that you're really disappointed with your grade, and you want to try to do better; but you're not really sure why your grade is so low, so you need his help. Ask him what you've been doing wrong, and how you could do it better. Remember, aside from being an athletic dude, he also chose to be a teacher because he wants to help students. Just asking for his help will make him more sympathetic toward you. And if he thinks that you're taking his advice, it's going to make him feel like he's doing his job... and that will likely make him give you higher grades next time!

Good luck!

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Hello I just turned 26 (female) My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. Without a doubt he's the love of my life. I love him more than words can describe and the best thing is that he feels the same way about me :)

He landed a amazing gig where he will be recording in Shanghai for a month. It's been a few weeks now and we are both missing each other like crazy.

During these weeks in his absence I've been having these disturbing recurring dreams were I cheat on him. I have sex and fool around with random guys that I don't know. In my dreams while I'm doing this I feel guilty during and after the sex we have. Every dream ends with my boyfriend finding out and being furious that I broke his heart. I wake up feeling absolutely awful and guilty. I can't understand why I'm dreaming of these things that I would never do in my waking life!

Does anyone know why my mind would come up with such a dream and how to stop having them?
Thank you

Here's how dreams work. During the day when you're awake and concious, millions of thoughts and ideas and feelings go through your mind without you even realizing it. But most of those things get pushed aside, because you don't have the time, or the desire, to sit down and contemplate each one. So they get buried deep in your subconcious. But they're still there, and your mind needs to deal with them... so it deals with them while you sleep. That's why dreams are often so wacky... they're just all these random thoughts being processed one after the other.

Somewhere in your mind, you've wondered what it would be like, or what would happen, if you cheated on your boyfriend. That doesn't mean you want to, it just means you've wondered about it. And who hasn't? It's a normal thing to think about. But since you have no intention of doing it, and feel guilty even thinking about it, you've pushed those thoughts to the back of your mind. You might not even realize they were ever there.

Now that your boyfriend is away, the opportunity to cheat is greater than usual. And maybe you've worried that your boyfriend is concerned about your faithfulness. That's made those thoughts rise closer to the surface, which is why you've been dreaming about it right now. But dreaming about it doesn't mean you secretly want to do it... it just means your mind is examining the idea and working out your feelings about it.

So try not to worry about it or read too much into it. The fact that you feel guilty, even in your dream, shows that your mind has worked it out and confirmed what you already know: that you love your boyfriend and would never do anything to hurt him. And I bet the dreams will stop pretty soon.

Hope this makes you feel better!

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& I want like a table/stand for it.
Not anything big, I remember seeing something like a tv tray, but taller & its for a laptop.
Can someone please give me a website to look at.

Ive already look at bedbathandbeyond
& office depot.

I got one at office max like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Laptop-Reading-Stand-Overbed-Table/dp/B000EI3ZRS

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My parents are sooooo retarded theyve blocked almost every site known to man, im surprised this site aint blocked, but anyways the block is a
Library Web Filter by DansGuardian, this message pops up:

"B L O C K E D
Access to
WHATEVER SITE
has been denied.

You are seeing this error because the web site or file you attempted to access contains material, links, or language that has been deemed to be inappropriate for viewing at the library.

Block Reason: Weighted phrase limit exceeded OR
Banned Regular Expression URL found

Please contact a librarian if you think there has been an error."

DOES NE ONE HAVE NE IDEAS OF HOW TO DELETE OR UNBLOCK WATEVER IS DOING THIS TO MY COMPUTER.

As you can see from the error message you're getting, the program your parents used blocks websites that have certain "inappropriate" content. But since those programs are just programs, and not people, they sometimes block things that aren't really bad after all. For instance, if it's programed to block any site that has the word "sex"... then it will also block a website that says "How to tell what sex your bird is." And of course that's not bad at all, but the program doesn't know that.

Sooo... talk to your parents. If there are certain sites you want to visit, ask them to take a look at them. There's probably a feature that allows them to unblock specific sites. That still won't give you total freedom, but at least it's better than nothing. And keep in mind that your parents really aren't trying to make your life miserable... they're just doing what they think will keep you safe.

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15/f

I sometimes get cat calls, or get honked at or looked at. i was wondering, what is the best way to react to it? I always just keep walking, pretending i didn't hear it. I don't get flattered by any of this because i know guys would do this to any girl they see pass by...right? how do you usually react when this happens to you? am i reacting the way they want me to?

I think it depends on the situation, and what you're comfortable with. As for me, if it seems kind of creepy at all, I'll just ignore it. But if seems innocent (and if the guy's kinda cute!), I might smile or laugh or even wave. But either way, I think you *should* feel flattered by it. Guys don't usually honk at just anyone... they honk at girls they think are cute. So however you choose to react, go ahead and enjoy it! =]

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I am 13 if that helps any and I never wear tank tops well only to layer under my t-shirts. And I kinda want to try wearing them like with layering them with t-shirts. I am kinda average on the weight scale. But I'm kind of afraid of what people think. I know that is wrong to think but its hard not to. And I'm shy and unpopular. I know I shouldn't care what people think of me but its really hard. So please help me gain some confidence and let me know if you think it would be ok for me to wear them. Thanks so much!

Well, first let me say that it's no crime to care what people think of you. Everyone cares what others think of them, whether they admit it or not. It's totally normal! But in this case, I think you're worrying unnecessarily. If you were wanting to wear a clown suit or a toga, then yeah, people might talk. But tank tops are really popular; everyone wears them! So I doubt anyone will take much notice at all. But to make yourself more comfortable, here's a few ideas:

Shop carefully. Tank tops come in a lot of different styles and fabrics, and some will look better on you than others. Try on a bunch and see which kind looks best on you. When you find some that you're comfortable with, start by wearing them around the house, or when you go out with just your family; then when you're with your close friends. Eventually you'll become more and more comfortable with it.

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ohkayy.so i really really like this guy but he treats me like crap and has cheated on mee.well.i cant brake up with him.!!!!!!!!bc i wud brake down and cry in front of him....and i REFUSE 2 do that.!!!!!soo.i need some way 2 get him 2 brake up with me and i will not cheat on him...!!!!but i cant figure out ne other wayy.!!!HELP....

Hmmm... well, when you start going out with someone, it's sort of like making a contract that you're going to be faithful to one another. If your boyfriend has cheated on you, then technically, he's already broken up with you... because he broke that contract. So go ahead and tell him that. You can tell him, "When you made the choice to be with that other girl, you were also choosing not to be with me. So it looks like it's over between us." And if he asks, "Are you breaking up with me?", you can say, "No, you already broke up with me when you cheated on me. I just didn't realize it until now, but you made the choice, and it's over."

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Ohkayy.This boy ive been dating for 3 months has been lying 2 me a lot here lately but Im totaly in love with me.He tried 2 cheat on me a couple of timess.Well this boy I dated fer over a year cheated on me with sumbody and then just broke up with me.wel I never got over him I still love this boy more than ever.and he just called me last nightt.and told me he really liked me and wants 2 get back 2 gether.!Well i have no clue what 2 do I love them both very much.Do I stay with who Im with or this other boyy.?Im so confusedd......

You obviously have a lot of love to give. So why not give it to someone who is going to love you back? Someone who is so crazy about you that he would never do anything to risk losing you? That's the kind of guy you want, right?

In order for a guy to feel that way about you, he has to value and respect you. But if you don't value and respect yourself, no guy is going to, either. If you let a guy lie and cheat on you, the message you're sending is: "I'm not good enough to be treated right, so I'll accept someone who treats me badly." And if a guy thinks that YOU feel that way about your own worth, then he'll feel that way, too.

So my advice is: ditch the lying boyfriend; tell your ex that he had his chance, but he blew it; and look for someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. That will show everyone that you know you deserve of an honest, faithful boyfriend and that you won't settle for anything less. If guys see that YOU feel you're worthy of the best, they will feel that way about you, too.



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16/f
alright so, ive been dating this guy for 2 1/2 months, and i dont love him is that normal? like.. if i dont love him by now should i brake up with him.. what would other people do? everyone around me is saying to brake up with him.. i do like him a lot i just dont love him..


thanks.

Well, if you were thinking of marrying this guy, but didn't love him, then yeah... I'd say you might want to call it off. But at 16, I'm guessing that you're not planning any long term future together. You're dating. So what if you're not madly in love with him? If you like him and enjoy being with him, then why not continue having fun with him as long as you want to? That's what dating is all about.

On the other hand, if it starts to become apparent that his feelings for you are a lot stronger than yours are for him, and he wants things to get more serious than you want to, then it would be best to call things off. That way he can move on to someone who will return his feelings... and you can move on as well.

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What does morning sickness feel like? Is it actually a stomach ache or what?
Or does the throat feel constantly gaggy...

I know, strange question.

But thanks to anyone who answers

Morning sickness is feeling nauseous, like you're gonna throw up. Sometimes you do throw up, and sometimes you just feel like you're going to. As someone already said, it doesn't always happen in the morning. It's caused from having an empty stomach (weird, I know), and that's why it often does happen in the morning, after you've gone all night without eating. Not all women get morning sickness when they're pregnant; for those who do, it usually starts in the first couple weeks of pregnancy, but mostly goes away by around 3 months.

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I dont know how to break up with this guy! My friend dared me to date him, but it got out of hand... and i dont know what to do!
Should i tell him it was just a dare?
HELP!!!!!!
HELP!!!!!! he is driving me nuts and i dont know what to do about it
I dont want to hurt him
but i dont really like him...at all.in fact i hate him! i dont no how to break up!
i am leaving on may 20 so should i just stick it out until i leave?
once agian, HELP!!!!

No, you shouldn't tell him it was a dare... that would really hurt his feelings. Just tell him that you've realized that you don't have the same feelings for him that he has for you, and that you think it'd be better if you were just friends. I know you hate to hurt him, but it's better to do it now instead of waiting. The longer you drag it out, the more attached he might become... and then it will hurt him even more. So do him a favor... break up with him now, and let him start getting over you so he can move on.

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me and me boyfriend just had sex.since he couldnt stay up,we didnt have sex for very long.i was wondering is there a certain amount of days someone should wait to have sex again?
15/f

No, you don't have to wait any certain time... you can have sex 700 times a day if you want to. It's just whatever you're comfortable with, and whatever you and your boyfriend's bodies can handle. Some guys might need a little time before they can get an erection again; depending on the guy, it could be a few minutes, a few hours, or even a day (the time usually increases with age). But if your boyfriend is up for it (haha), you can have sex as often as you want.

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My auntie's brownies group is going away on a trip and she asked me to help out. Their having a happy potter themed fancy dress party on the first night and I've been told I have to dress up lol but I dont know who to go as.
I want a female character, I was thinking about Moaning Myrtle or Professor McGonagall but Im not sure.

If you could give me some ideas that would be great

Thankyouu
x

Professor McGonagall could be a fun one, and pretty easy! You could get some big thick glasses; wear your hair in braids the night before, so it's all fluffy and frizzy (or get a wig); wear lots of beads and big rings and earrings; and carry a crystal ball or a teacup with a "grim" painted inside.

Have fun! =]

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is it all that bad? i have MANY MANY friends who are teenage parents and they just say oh i love my baby and i dont regret having it. and blah blah blah. they make it seem like its the best thing. i want to know what its really like. but i dont dare ask them because i know they wont tell me the bad things. so what did you go through or going through? do you honestly regret keeping it and all that? I DONT MEAN DO YOU REGRET YOUR BABY! because i know that its your child and you love it so you wouldnt regret that but if you could go back in time would you change things?

I'm not a teenage mother, but I know a few. And I think you're right... most teenage mothers won't tell you how tough it is, or that they regret it. That's because (1) They love their babies and would feel terribly guilty saying (or even thining) that they regret having them; and (2) They're trying to keep positive and make the best of their situation. Dwelling on the negative will to make it harder, so they focus on the good things to get themselves through motherhood (which isn't easy at any age).

But yes, it is tough. A baby changes your entire life. Once that baby is born, you no longer live for yourself; it's all about your child, and it will be for the rest of your life. This is true for all mothers, no matter what age they are. But when you're older, you can look back and say, "I spent my part of my life doing what I wanted, pursuing my goals, experiencing life as an independant person, and making choices based on what I wanted". So the sacrifices you now make for your children don't seem so bad, because you've already lived some of your life just for yourself. But when you have a baby as a teenager, you don't get the chance to be your own person. You never get a chance to be "you" you could've become; you're now, and forever will be, somebody's mother. If a teenage mother has any regrets, it's that... that they never had a chance to experience life as an independant person.

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does pee come out of your vagina?if no then what hole is it?

No, urine comes out of your uretha, which is a tiny hole above your vagina. The uretha is connected to your bladder, while your vagina is connected to your uterus. The two holes aren't connected at all.

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How old about should a baby be when his/her parents stop having sex in front of him/her in your opinion?

Hmmm... I think about 12 months, or about the time they're really becoming aware of what's going on around them. A baby that age won't know what's going on, but it might be scary to them ("Daddy's hurting mommy!").

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I need a job. I want to be able to buy my own clothes, and not have to get it off my parents, I feel bad when I do. I have put applications in at fast food places, even rite aid, but no where has called me =[
My boyfriend said putting men as my "people to call" looks better then women. True? I always put my moms friend, who is an owner of a company, I thought that always looked good. I don't understand why I get can't a job. I'm pretty, in sports, I just want a job. My mom knows the owner of Our DQ, should I try there? Any help?

You're not doing anything wrong... it's just that times are tough right now. Many businesses are cutting back on employees, rather than hiring more. And companies that ARE hiring have a lot of applicants to choose from right now... stay-at-home moms who are looking for some extra income; people who've been laid off from other jobs; college graduates who haven't found a job in their chosen career yet. If they have a choice between a teenager and an older person who has more experience, they'll often pick the older person.

I'm not telling you this to discourage you... I'm telling you so you'll know why you might not be getting any calls back. It's nothing you're doing wrong, it's just the times. But don't give up! If you keep looking, sooner or later you'll find something! Don't be afraid to re-apply at businesses that you've already tried... they might not have needed someone then, but they may now. That will also show them that you're serious about wanting to work there.

Good luck!

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so my boyfriend had longish hair .. and without telling me he got dreads.. and im not trying to sound like a bitch but it looks really really bad... and i like him a lot and we have been going out for 2 1/2 months almost 3 and like im trying to look past it but hes just the kind of person that cant pull of the dreads look.. what should i do? should i tell him .. i feel bad for saying this but everyone makes fun of him and sometimes its embarrassing to be seen with him.. what should i do?

I understand how you feel, but I think it's probably best not to say anything. Unless he asks... then you could say something like, "I really liked your hair the way it was before." But otherwise, it's probably better if you don't criticize it. If you do, it would not only hurt his feelings, it might give him the impression that you care more about his looks than about him. Hopefully this is just a phase and he'll get rid of the dreads pretty soon. But if it's gonna take someone actually telling him that it looks bad, it'd be better coming from one of his buddies than from his girlfriend. In the meantime, try to stick it out! Once he's back to "normal", you'll be glad you did. =]

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alot of my friends are dropping out and getting their diplomas. one of my friends is going to go to a community college for 2 years and then go to a university..and she dropped out last year. and one of my friends who worked her butt off in high school for 4 years didnt is going to go to a community college for 2 years and then a university. it seems like my friend who dropped out didnt have to finish school but my other friend does and is still doing the thing drop outs are doing. so im not seeing any consquences of dropping out of highschool. it looks like if i work hard in school im still going to be equal to the people who havent. also my dad complains how i wont be able to afford anything in this economy in america even if i go to college. so whats the point of finishing school? im just going to be poor anyways.

Well, first let's talk about what your dad said. Yes, it's true that the economy right now isn't in the best of shape. Even people with college degrees and well-paying jobs are having to watch their budgets right now. But they're still far better off than most people with no college education. Think about it: if someone who makes $75,000 a year is struggling, then someone who makes $30,000 is gonna have it a lot tougher. So yeah, a college education won't guarantee you a life of luxury, but it will certainly put you at advantage over those without one.

Also... times may be tough right now, but it won't always be like this. If you look at history, you'll see that the economy has always fluctuated from bad times to good times. 20 years ago, things were bad; 10 years ago, they were great; in another 10 years, things will likely be looking a lot better than they are today. So it doesn't make much sense to base a major life decision on a temporary economic phase.

Now, as for dropping out: It's great that your friends are planning to go on to a University, and I hope they do it. However, if your goal is to get a degree from a 4-year University, it's a lot easier to do it when you go straight there from High School. Taking a detour through a Community College can sometimes make it harder to stick to your plans. For one thing, not everyone at a Community College has plans to continue their education; and when you're hanging out with people who don't share your goals, it can be easy to get sidetracked. Also, taking classes at a Community College is a very different experience from the University life, especially if you're also working and enjoying a little income, living at home, and socializing with old friends. It can be hard to go from that lifestyle to being a full-time University student whose main focus is on school... and many people decide not to do it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a Community College, but if you have the choice, it's just a lot easier to accomplish your goal if you go straight to a University.

And finally... the video thing. Well, I'm really sorry that happened, and I know it's gotta be embarrassing and frustrating when people talk about it. But just like everything, it will eventually pass. It may be the talk of the school right now, but people will forget about it soon enough. Something else will happen for them to gossip about, and your incident will be old news. Not that that makes it easier right now, but it's true. But don't let your past mistakes, or other people's cruel remarks, effect what you do for yourself. Keep looking to the future and imagine where you want to be, and don't let anything get in your way.

Good luck! =]

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