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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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I'm a 24 yr old girl...and I met this great guy at a bar a few weeks ago and since then everytime I'm out, no matter where I am, he seems to be there. (Like it's meant to be?) Well, I went over to his house after leaving the bars twice. The first time we just hung out, we didn't even kiss... and then the second time we went a lot farther then that. I think he's wonderful and I want him to like me for me even though everytime I see him I'm pretty wasted.. I want to keep talking to him and I don't want to ruin things because I feel wierd and don't know how to act because I went too far with someone new.. but I really like him, I think he's so perfect... what should I do?? How should I act???

At your age you should know by now that the best way to get to know someone is to be yourself. Otherwise what is the point. Try getting together somewhere other than a bar and see what he's like when you are both sober.

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I can never have a good day at school. I have alot of frieds but being that i have to get up in the morning i get cranky and when i get cranky i am just really quiet.. i know you'll tell me more sleep.. besides that what else could i do? because i sleep from 10:30-7:15

I don't think sleep is your problem. As others have said, eating breakfast is a great way to get energy in the morning. Your body needs fuel, and in the morning it is running on empty. Disregard what others have said about sugary foods. That is terrible, there is no fiber, you need subtance. All that sugar and caffine in the morning will give you headaches. Good foods on the go are bannanas, granola bars, or a cup of yogurt.

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my eyeliner is so annoying...it comes off after about 10 minutes, and it always makes a big clumpy thing in the corner of me eye...is there any way to stop it from doing this?

Don't buy cheap make-up.

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is it bad to be white and have a crush on someone who's black or darker skinned than you? im not racist but ive always wondered! thanks in advance!

If you are not racist, then you should know the answer.

*Thanks for the one! Well if you are not racist, then you would not worry about the color of peoples skin. Therefore your question should not even occur to you.

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~!~jen~!~ok ima 15 yr old female and i need sum relationship adivice..me and my exbf chris dated for 4months. i kno that its not a long time at all but we were totally in love. i was his first true love and i was his. we had a long distance relationship and didnt see eachother often but it was all ok bc we were totally in love and realli wanted to be together. well we broke up at the end of august and we talked up until like sept 10th...then sumthing changed and i dont even kno wut. i mean i will always love chris but i do not want to get back wif him bc i cant deal wif the long distance realtionshiop but i do NEED him as a part of my life. stuff has been goin down hill for me since we broke up and i keep gettin worse and worse and i dont kno wut to do anymore. chris was like my angel. without having him as a part of my life it seems kind of pointless. i dont kno wut to do i either have to forget about him and i dont kno how to do that when everything reminds me of him or i have to get him back in my life...and i dont think i have the guts to do that. i just dont kno wut to do anymore htis has been goin on since september and i hate the way i am...im a total emotional wreck and i cant take it anymore....~tankies~nichole ~

I was in a long distance relationship for a year, so I know how painful they are. At your age it would be very hard to maintain, so I agree seperating is probably for the best. Remind youself are only 15, so you and chris are both going to change a lot in the next five years. You may not be as know him as you think, 4 months is really not that long. Fill your time do things with other people so your mind is not dwelling on the past. This is you time to enjoy being young, don't spend it mopping about a boy! You can go on without him, you did before you knew him.

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Well..My ex boyfriend Daniel and I broke up about 3 months ago..we had dated for over a year. He broke up w/ me cause it was a 25 min. drive to come see me. Well I will always have feelings for him..but a month after we broke up after I could sob no longer.. I decided to move on to someone else cause I guess you could say A LOT of guys like me. So me and my new boyfriend Ben have been dating 2 months, and I`m happy with him. But now and then I still talk to Daniel at times. Like on Thanksgiving I called his house and wished his parents a happy thanksgiving and everything. The other night he called me out of no where just to talk about his day and how he still had feelings for me, but the story there is.. he is dating someone too. When I first found out I was so upset but I`m okay w/ it now. Its like everytime I talk to him I want to date him again even though I know that won`t happen. Should I just stay with my current boyfriend which I do care for a lot, or just break up and wait for him?

Forget about your ex, he dumped you because you lived only 25 min away! He is a lazy and selfish bum! I live further from work! Even if you broke up with your boyfriend, it doesn't mean you are getting back together with your ex. Don't wait around for some guy who can't give you his heart because it is inconvinent.

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this is mostly.. to people.. 18+ just because i believe yall may have more experience with things like this but all opinions are welcome.. okay i've been on birth control for about.. a month and a half.. and well me and my b/f recently started having sex.. with a condom as well.. we had sex tonight and the condom broke he had already ejaculated and was "pulling out".. and realized it was broken.. do u think i could possibly get preg... my BC pills say to use a back up method of birth control for the first 7 days but i've been on it like i said a month and a half.. so give me ur opinions.. should i be worried????

You should be absolutly fine. The pill is a fine bith control method by it self. It just won't protect you from STD's which a condom would. But there is not any form of protection that is 100% effective. So if you are sexualy active, you should always be prepared for the concequences.

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im 18 i have a son and im still with his dad but we fight alot the problem is i have a crush on this guy i grew up with he has a kid too and brings his son to my moms daycare i know he likes me but he has a girlfreind they fight sometimes , i want to tell him how i fell but i think that would be tottaly out of place and wrong what do u think ? thanks

Having a son makes you an adult now. I think you need to stop worring about what boys you like best, and figure out what you are going to do with you and your son's life.

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Back in August I missed the registration date to go back to school. (I should be a junior in high school.) I was pretty much just having a bad year and didn't care about going back so I've been out of school all this year. I was wondering if I could go back now or if I would have to wait until next year to go back. I could make up the work that I've missed instead of just waiting until next year and being a whole year behind.

What have you been doing all this time? Go to your school and ask them what your options are. Although after being a drop-out it may be harder then you think to get back into your school. You may find yourself at an adult education center to get you GED. But I agree, the sooner you do something about it, the better.

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I have no idea what to get my Dad for christmas. I'm a female and i'm 15. So my first question is does neone know any awesome tennis stuff that's like 20$ that I could get him? Or i was also thinking about making a picture frame for this picture i have of him, my brother and I. So Does neone know how to make an awesome picture frame that doesn't include to much construction paper and popsicle sticks? thanks!! Sorry for the lengthy..ness!

I am a big fan of Mozaic. Go to a dollar store and buy a frame. Then go to home depot and buy a few tiles. You will also need some tile glue and some grout, which you buy in a powder and mix. You can buy these things at a craft store, but it is cheaper at a home improvment stote. Then break up the tiles, make a design on the frame, and glue them down. Wait a day, and grout the tiles. Wahlal. You have a cool personalized frame. You can also use glass beads, you can get a bag of 20 at walmart for less than $2. You can mozaic mirrors, and tables, vases, whatever. They make great gifts. I go to garage sales in the summer and buy interesting dishes and break those up.

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i've known this guy named connor for 2 years i like him but i'm not that sure he likes me back.you see ever since he found out i liked him we've been avoiding each other.so i'm not sure he likes me can you help me?

Well if you want something to happen you have to make a move. Ask him out.

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I have been with my boyfriend for around 4 months and I really do love him alot. The problem is, one of my best friends is in all of his classes and I am in none of them. My friend happens to be his last ex girlfriend and now they are very good friends. I don't have a problem with that but they are always talking and laughing together and last night my friend said that she and him were very close. My boyfriend and I don't talk very much because we never know what to say to each other. He says it is because he hasn't got a very interesting life but whenever I see him, he his always with my friend. It's not that I don't trust my boyfriend because I do and I don't think there is anything going on between him and my friend, it just hurts me that he can't talk to me but he can talk to his ex. What shall I do? How can I talk to my boyfriend more?

He can talk to his ex because they have a history. You can become closer with your boyfriend by shared experiances. Get together after school or on the weekends and do somehting like mini golf, or visit a zoo or museum.

Just to warn you: if you have been dating this boy for 4 months and still can find nothing to talk about, then maybe you are not as compatible as you think. Even though he is a great guy, you guys are just not clicking.

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am 19 and my bf is 24, he hasnt called me in 5 days,we only been going out for a week but in the first two days we really hit it off, but i dont know why he is not calling me,he would call me faithfully but then it just stop,please help me what should i do.

Are you sure he even knows he is your boyfriend? You have only been going out for a week, but you haven't talked in 5 days. That sounds more like you went on a date or two. That does not make him your boyfriend. Nor is he required to call you everyday and check in. And besides, why does he have to call, why can't you?

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I've lost my voice, and I was wondering if anybody knew any useful remedies to help me to a speedy recovery, as I'm supposed to be singing in a carol concert on Sunday and in the coming week. I've heard honey and lemon is good for throats, and obviously not trying to strain my voice any more. Any additional ideas?

Tea with honey.
Warm drinks will relax your vocal cords.

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i'm a 17 yr old male that has a false reputation of being gay. i'm actually metrosexual and almost all the school assumes i'm gay. how can i show my peers that i'm straight without betraying who i am.

You really don't have to prove anything to them, but I understand it is hard in highschool to have people saying things about you that are not true. If someone says something to you, call them on it and state why it is not true. Maybe try talking about girls you like, or at least think are pretty. Don't go and get yourself a gilfriend like others are saying just to prove you are straight, that's just dumb. Be true to yourself.

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omg.. i just tried to respond to a question.. and it said.. "Chatspeak detected. Type in english please." and it wont let me answer it! and i did type in english? why?

If you say more than 2 two chatspeak words like "ur" or "luv" the question/answer will not be approved. So type in english.

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I've been going out with this guy for about 1 month and a half. He cusses me out every once in a while for stupid reasons. 3 of my friends say I should break up with him, but I love him a lot. Today, when school was out, he seen me and stayed like 50 feet from me and wouldn't even come over and talk to me. It's like he always trys to ignore me. What should I do? Should I listen to my friends? Or stay with him?? I really love this guy though!! 14/f/tn

You haven't mentioned one good thing about this boy. So why exactly do you love him? Maybe you should listen to your friends.

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My friend asked me to drive her 1995 Ford Taurus to NYC, her license was expired and not yet renewed. I got into an accident and hit a dumpster, neither of us were hurt, no toher cars were involved. She has limited liability and the car is "totaled" Blue book value trade-in for her car is $1,200. I spent $300 getting the car towed back to NJ. She is now driving my Mazda Protege, blue book value trade-in $900. I'm not sure what to do. 1) Let her keep my car 2) pay her half the value of the car and towing expenese 3) other options.

We're not the best of friends, probably see each other once a month. I really don’t have any extra money and neither does she. Looking for suggestions. Thanks.

You should not have to pay her for the car, that is what insurance is for. It's her car, it's her responsibility. She asked you to drive it, you were doing her a favor. I think paying for the tow truck is more than fair. I would ask for your car back, it was nice of you to lend it to her, but you do not have to give it to her.

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I've been waiting for this guy who says he likes me to ask me out for over 3 months now. At homecoming he kissed me twice and said he didnt want to go out with me bc he was afraid he'd cheat on me. I love him to death as a friend but he doesn't let me know whats going on ever and doesn't talk to me. I need to get him to at least talk to me, or tell me he doesn't like me, bc i'm going crazy waiting for him, and i cant wait ne longer. Also, my friend AX likes me and he kinda gets to me and i think its bc he's trying to make me break down and go to him as a bf and let him help me. He needs to back off but i dont know how to tell him bc he's one of my best friends and i dont want to hurt him, just get him to understand that i dont like him. I also have liked Matt since fourth or fifth grade and i want to help him get over my friend K but i think it might seem more like i was flirting with him and trying to get him to pay attention to me than helping him get over my friend, just because i like him so much. Plz help.

"he didnt want to go out with me bc he was afraid he'd cheat on me."

He is a jerk, he even told you. A relationship with him will only end badly, find someone worthy of your time, like this boy Matt. As for AX tell him the truth, he is your friend and deserves to know.

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Okay, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks. We have gone out for the same amount of time before, and I was the one that broke it off. I didn't feel it was right to go out with him when I just wanted to be friends. Well now, I am not happy in our relationship... AGAIN. He is not supportive at all, and I am the kind of girl that likes the single life. I don't like spending time with him, and I don't feel like there is butterflies in my stomach at all when I see him. But I will feel bad for breaking up with him AGAIN, and everybody will be mad at me and call me a whore. Should I break up with him anyway, or stick with him and make myself happy?

Yes, if you are not happy no matter how long you have been going out, it is not worth keeping the relationship going. Break it off, and move on to someone else.

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