Question Posted Tuesday December 14 2004, 10:01 pm
Well..My ex boyfriend Daniel and I broke up about 3 months ago..we had dated for over a year. He broke up w/ me cause it was a 25 min. drive to come see me. Well I will always have feelings for him..but a month after we broke up after I could sob no longer.. I decided to move on to someone else cause I guess you could say A LOT of guys like me. So me and my new boyfriend Ben have been dating 2 months, and I`m happy with him. But now and then I still talk to Daniel at times. Like on Thanksgiving I called his house and wished his parents a happy thanksgiving and everything. The other night he called me out of no where just to talk about his day and how he still had feelings for me, but the story there is.. he is dating someone too. When I first found out I was so upset but I`m okay w/ it now. Its like everytime I talk to him I want to date him again even though I know that won`t happen. Should I just stay with my current boyfriend which I do care for a lot, or just break up and wait for him?
jbdreamer answered Wednesday December 15 2004, 1:36 pm: Forget about your ex, he dumped you because you lived only 25 min away! He is a lazy and selfish bum! I live further from work! Even if you broke up with your boyfriend, it doesn't mean you are getting back together with your ex. Don't wait around for some guy who can't give you his heart because it is inconvinent. [ jbdreamer's advice column | Ask jbdreamer A Question ]
mysticpixie05 answered Wednesday December 15 2004, 9:40 am: no stay with your current boyfriend. dont wait around for something that may never happen. live you life to its fullest. it is perfectly fine for you two to be firends with each other. it is good that you can still talk to each other.
a girl i know had a boyfriend of about 2 years and they broke up. she was extremely upset. it took her a while to get over it. but since then she has had a couple of boyfriends. and she still talks to her ex and his family. for instance, she actually was suppose to get together with his mom and go christmas shopping with her right after christmas. They are both currently dating other people. both of which have really good connection to each of their significant others.
so it is fine for you to still want to communicate with each oter. there is no harm in just being friends. yea a part of you will always have feelings for him as more than just a friend but you will be able to over come those feeling with time. trust me. you have done the right thing by moving on with your life. [ mysticpixie05's advice column | Ask mysticpixie05 A Question ]
Gealach answered Wednesday December 15 2004, 6:53 am: Right...I say you should date whomever you like most. And i'd say you're probably confusing friendly feelings toward your ex as a wish to get back together. If it were me, i'd stay with the one i've got. However, keep in mind you DO NOT NEED A BOYFRIEND. That is all. [ Gealach's advice column | Ask Gealach A Question ]
NikNik answered Wednesday December 15 2004, 2:11 am: if i were you then i would stay with the current boyfriend because if Daniel broke up with you once because of the 25 min ride to go see you then he might do it again.....if you really care about Ben then stay with him...thats the best advice i can give is to just stay with Ben. [ NikNik's advice column | Ask NikNik A Question ]
koolaidsmilegurl answered Wednesday December 15 2004, 12:26 am: i say listen to your heart to but be honest with your self is he relly going to change or is he going to break up with you again for another stupid reason dont set your self up for heart ach [ koolaidsmilegurl's advice column | Ask koolaidsmilegurl A Question ]
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