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I am 13 and at school there is this guy who I like ALOT!!!!! But the problem is he is VERY popular with the girls and all girls like him! how can i get him to ask me out?

you can go up to him and tell him you are interested in him and ask him what hes doing this weekend, and if hes like to hang out one of these days.

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me and my sister fight all the time. shes a teenager. and i am three years younger than her. will she grow out of it? how should i act towards her? beacause right now i feel like i really need a sister, not an enemy :.(

well you just keep being a good sister to her. eventualyl she will appreciate it and see that her being mean to you isnt fair cuz you're not that way to her. she is just going thorugh a stupid phase where she thinks shes the shit and you're just a little kid who doesnt know anything. she probably thinks its cool to be mean to you. i think every teenager acts this way at one poit or another. but dont worry. she will grow out of it. it'll be okay.

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I'm going to my boyfriend's house sometime before summer ends..we're both 13..my parents don't know I have a boyfriend because I'm not aloud to..but I'm nervous about going over there..I've never even gone over to a guys house when were just friends with just the two of us! Does anyone have any advice for me, what can make me less nervous? I mean hes never done anything besides hug a girl..which of course was me and I was his first girlfriend, we dated before this. So I don't have to worry about him doing anything I wouldn't want him to do. I mean..im sure we're gonna kiss bcuz he said he wanted to and he said he wanted me to be his first for everything since I already was for the girlfriend and the hug..but any advice? I'll be online for a while on secretAsquirrel..thats not my normal sn but its the one im gonna be using for the time im at my friends house.

okay well its great and so cute that he wants you to be his first eevrything cuz you are his first girl friend. but just remember that you are only 13 so you shouldnt be doing too much stuff, especially having sex. but as far as you being nervous, yeah thats normal, once you are sitting down and make your self comfortable that nervousness will go away.

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I am 13 and Bi should i tell my parents??? cause i don't want them to hate me so i need to know

well since you're only 13, i think you should hold out and wait to tell them until you are older. just becasue you may just be going through a phase, and you may nt feel the same way when you get older. give it some time, and see how you turn out.

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anybody have good quotes dealing with community??

the community can suck my communified dick... how that?

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hey, okay hes the scoop,
My friend brittany likes this guy, and then my other " friend " is a slut, they have been hangin out alot and she had sex with this guy that brittany likes,then they stopped hanging out and everything, i don't balme her, brittany came to me and started saying shit about her, this girl ( the slut ) before she had sex with him didn't like this guy now she says she has feelings for him, and my firend brittany, shes always been betrayed by the slut, and the guy lieks the slut, how do i drive this guy away from the slut, and try to get him intested in brittany,

wow.. its so funny how you keep refering to her as "the slut" lol. but yeah... if this guys like the slut then there is really nothing you or your friend brittany can do about it. it sucks that the slut had to go and be a slut anf fuck the guy brittany likes, but what can you say? shes a slut... thats what sluts do. and if that guy is seriously interested in a slut like that, then your friedns shouldnt want him anyway, he's obviously low class. find a guy who wants a good girl.

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It's Kevin1986 here with a problem and a couple of questions. I'm friends with two guys,let's say D and J. J used to go out with a girl that I'm very close with,but not dating,although I'd like to. He's pretty obessive,talking about her all the time. Anyway,D used to like her too and they almost went out,but they had a falling out. About a year ago,a new guy,M,goes out with her. I don't care about M and neither do they. J and D want me to tell M that the girl he's going out with is a headtrip because their relationships with her didn't work. I say,it's his bed and it's job to determine whether his girl is crazy or not. I say D and J want me out of the way so they can get her,because I know she'd hate me forever if I tried to break up her relationship. Since I care about her,I want her to be happy even if it's not with me. Your thoughts on this issue? P.S I never really considered telling M this,but I want your opinions on what the real story is.

Well it is great that you want her to be happy, reguardless if she is with you or not. That shows that you have maturoty. I'm sure you have considered telling this M guy about the girl, but I think you should stick with sataying out of it. Be the bigger person and just mind your business. like you said, its his bed, let him lay in it.

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I have a problem with opening up to my friends. I've been a big flirt for like my whole life! I even won biggest flirt at my middle school. But I havent really DONE anything if you know what I mean. Like I kissed but didnt make out. ANYWAYS i have two best friends and they havent done that either! But I have a secret. I actually have gone farther than that a couple times... I'm not comfortable telling them about it because they asked me what happened when "john" came over to my house and I told them NOTHING! so then they would know I lied to them. I dont want any answers saying something like "be honest cuz thats the best" blah blah blah!
I just dont know what to do....

its your business. if you dont trust them enough to know it, then dont tell them. everything is not always for everyone. its okay to keep certain personal shit to yourself. if your friends cant handle that the oh well, but im sure they do it too. no one really tells everything.

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ok im im a guy and im 14 and im close 2 my first kiss. i wanna do it but ifi do it it will b at amovie and i on want people 2 c me weni kiss cuz i ge real shy and then i get nervous and then i start 2 stutter:( wat can i do 2 make myself more comfortable?

just close your eyes and act like no one is there and do it. dont think about what you are doing, if you do you are gonna chicken out, so just do it anddont think about. once you do it once, you will want to againa and again and become more and more comfortable.

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My mom and dad argue a lot but now some family issues have come up on my dad's side of the family and his brother needs money because his wife died in a car accident recently and he is in need. Anyways he is asking our family for a lot of money and my dad really cares about him and so he gave it to him without my mom knowing- and he tried to tell my mom but she was busy and had to leave. So now my mom knows that he gave the money to him without telling. And she is upset because we can't afford that kind of money to just loan out. And she is arguing cuz he is being dishonest. And my dad is angry because he loves his bro and he gave the money cuz he knew he needed it bad- and he trid to tell my mom, but my mom. Then this afternoon she said, "I don't care what u spend that money on, but i want u to ask me first" and now my dad thinks my mom doesn't care about his family at all, and so he screamed at my mom to just get out and go! Then he pushed her and that's when i went to my room and started crying my eyes out beecuz they have fought before but never physically and so i cried my eyes out and i left with my mom to pick up my brothers from practice and when we got back my dad was gone- I dunno where he went. I really hope our family is okay, i especially hope my dad is alright too. What is going on here?¿? How come they are both losing it?¿? Can i do anything? Or can i only pray for them? I'm really scared!!!

If i were you i wouldnt worry. your dad will be back. sometimes fights escalate to too high of an extent, im sure your dad juts left to cool off. and your parents will make up, so dont worry.

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I just started giving advice TODAY. And already I've given like tons of advice! Am I addicted? Lol! xDD

YUP! you're addicted :) isnt it wonderful?!?!

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hey well @ my "BEST FRIENDS" house thers alot of drama with me and this one gurl bc her bf likes me so the gurl hates me!! shes HUGE and threatens to beat my ass if she sees me around ther nemore...my best friend was scared and told me not to come over anymore bc this gurl can fight and would prolly hurt me alot....so i was scared....and so my best friend is even intiminated by this gurl..so the gurl tells my best friend to call me and ask me tocome over so she kan beat tha shit outta me!! so my friend told me to make ^ an excuse that i cant come over...wel my best friend has been not talking to me or anything lately....on aol she doesnt IM me or nothin...but she kalls all the time n will b like O HEY WHEN R U COMING OVER?? but i no the drill and say o no im grounded!! i cant come over!! and shes like ooo ok bye!! she kalls bc the gurl tells her to call....but shes been doin it alot lately im feeling so down about this bc she only calls me for that reason..she doesnt ever wanna talk or nothing....everyone has been saying how she has changed lately...wat shoul.d i do? do i just let her go? or do i try to keep our friendship?

Okay well the fact that your friend wont defend you is pretty fucked. and how do you know she isnt calling you to set you up. something just dont seem right. if you really think this girl will hurt you then maybe you should stay away. but there shouldnt be any reason why she couldnt come around to your place. and why is this girl always around your friend? if shes scared of her hwy would she be hanging with her. you need to talk to your friend and ask her what is going on cuz something dont seem right.

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I have this friend and I have been friends with her for like 5 years, and recently I met this guy and I like him a lot, and I told her that. And this guy told me that he liked me too. Well now she is going out with him. He still calls me and say that he loves me and wishes he was with me. I don't know if I should talk to the girl or if I should stay a way from her since she stabbed me in the back. What should I do?

Okay well 1st off this guy is a fuckin dick. he is playing head games with both you and your girl. yeah it was messed up that she got with him cuz she knew you liked him. but, hey be glad that you didnt get with him and you are not the one he is doing this to. even though i have a feeling that even if he was with you, he would still probably be doing the same shit, the tables would just be turned. if i were you i would tell your friend that he is telling you those things, and the both of you can kick him to the curb. he is definitelt not worth it, playing ping pong between 2 freinds.

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Hi.. My name's amy! Ohh I'm female lol.. And I've kind of had a problem my whole life, and it's the whole ideal of being shy. I'm 14 years old, and I have yet to make out with a boy or any of that sweet stuff. I've hugged and pecked guys. But its just.. Everytime I would kiss my boyfriend, the next day I'd come into school slapping my head and saying, Why would I do something like that, I feel so stupid, and then my face turns red. Also, the other night, I was hanging out with my boyfriend, and he hugged me like we were watching fireworks, and he just put his arm around my neck.. and I just stood there motionless. I had no idea what to do! I just started laughing. Many guys have broke up with me for the reason that I am shy. Is there a way I can change? Because all boys think I start laughing or being shy because I'm using them, or that I don't like them. What would you did in my situation..? Thanks alot!

okay well you need to get some confidence. but you know some guys think a shy girl is cute. if you are not ready to do stuff yet, that is fine, you are still very young and have plenty of time to get to know yourself better and feel more comfortable around guys. and im sure if you stay with the guy you are with now, you will beocme more and more used ot him with time. all of this "grown up" stuff takes time. be happy you are not growing up too fast. to me you are right on track.

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Okay Herez My Deal:
My friend and I have gotten into lotz of fights before well one time she gave me this girls p/w so i went on her s/n real quick to get this boyz s/n and then i signed off and never went on it again well my "friend" told the girl and she called me a female dog in her profile and said never go on my s/n again and its mostly emmie! and then she got mad at them because they went up to her house carlee,gabby(the one's who p/w i had),and mallory and carlee said to emmie why r u leaving mallory out and emmie said cuz i don't like her! and then gabby said im on emmies side then carlee started saying funny stuff and gabby said im on carlee's side now and well emmie told me this on the phone and hung up! but i have had lotz of good times w/ emmie but shes really fat and no one likes her!what should i do? Please HELP!

i dont what to tell you cuz you confused the hell out ome with all these emmies and carleys and who ever else.... maybe you should restate the question. cuz i dont understand what happened.

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ok theres this boy i datedd 2 yers ago for 8 months nad recently we started talking agian and i just moved to las vegas and he lives in georgia and we recently got in a fight and i heard rumors that hes telling everyone that the reason hes pissed at me is because i said i wouldnt sleep with him but i neve said that adn the person that told me doenst lie what do i do or think

okay well... if your friends are really your friends, then they will believe you when you say taht that is not the truth. as for the guy. he is a fuckin loser. hes probably just mad cuz he cant have you. you shouldnt have even gave him a 2nd second chance cuz look what he went and di when he couldnt have his way. going around like a fuckin baby telling rumors juts cuz you guys got in a fight. if i were you the next time i seen him, i would spit in his face. and about him telling people you wouldnt sleep with him, dont stress that, be proud that you didnt give it up to an ass like him.

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Can anydoby explain to me how to remove earrings? I can't seem to get them out, they're just regular studs. Thx.

jump up and down and bark like a dog

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my friend who i was REALLY close to now has a bf so obviously they do "things" together and stuff and i know she's been drunk b4 and stuff like that and i haven't and it just feels to me that we aren't as close because it's not as fun for her to tell me things anymore since i can't relate and i don't kno how to make things the way they used to be

well see you're probably not gonna like what i have to say but its probably what is happening between you and your friend. alot of times when one friend gets a bf she tends to forget or leave out the other one. i know this sucks, believe me i do. and whats the worst thing is you really cant do anything about it. like if you try to talk to her about how you feel, she will probably get all defensice of her bf and get pissed, which will just make things worst. but dont feel bad that you cant relate to her when she talks to you about things. maybe it just means its your time to go and find somebody too.

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hey i moved and b4 i moved me and this guy are talking and we kinda have a long distance relationsjip but it's nothing official. he's leaving for the airforce in 5 days and will be stationed 3 hours from me rather than the 14 it has been. should we go ahead and make it official or w/e or see other people. it tears me apart that i cant see him..cuz i like him SO much..lol im sucha dork

if you guys really care about eachother, then you can make it work. you should talk to him about taking a step up in the relationship.

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