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opening up
I have a problem with opening up to my friends. I've been a big flirt for like my whole life! I even won biggest flirt at my middle school. But I havent really DONE anything if you know what I mean. Like I kissed but didnt make out. ANYWAYS i have two best friends and they havent done that either! But I have a secret. I actually have gone farther than that a couple times... I'm not comfortable telling them about it because they asked me what happened when "john" came over to my house and I told them NOTHING! so then they would know I lied to them. I dont want any answers saying something like "be honest cuz thats the best" blah blah blah!
I just dont know what to do....
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you don't have to tell anyone what you do with guys. it's really none of their business .. it's your own "sex life" .. not their's. you're right to just tell them that you did nothing - and if they don't believe you then ask them why they don't - and if they're true friends they would =)
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Well its your buisness and if you dont want to tell them then you shouldnt. But if you ever to decide to tell them or it "accidently" comes up and they figure out that you have been holding back/lying to them just tell them that its your buisness and that you didnt have to tell them if you didnt want to and they should understand. Also if its still your beliefe that they havent gone farther you never know they could b doing the same thing that you are. So just keep it to yourself if you dont want them to know.
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If ya don't feel comfortable tellin em, just say that, just say that u don't wanna talk about it, yea they might know u got farther but HEY!! u didn't say u did so they don't know that for sure!!
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dont tell them .. its perfectly fine.. they wont figure it out and you dont need to tell the whole world about something you would like to keep to yourself.
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do you always have to be honest with people with your personal business?
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You answered your own question - you're not comfortable telling your friends about you kissing people, so why tell them?
As you get older and closer with people you date, you'll soon realize that some things are not for sharing with friends. It's perfectly normal, and HEALTHY, to keep experiences to yourself if you don't feel like sharing them.
You don't need to feel any guilt about wanting to keep things private. If you feel bad about lying, the next time they ask just say that you don't really want to talk about it & explain why.
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Ok. If you dont want to go to your friends to talk about it then go to your Counsler. He/she will talk to you about it. Just let somebody know, but make sure it isnt someone who would go around telling everyone. It will feel good to let someone know. Someone that can confort you, and talk to you about it.
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its your business. if you dont trust them enough to know it, then dont tell them. everything is not always for everyone. its okay to keep certain personal shit to yourself. if your friends cant handle that the oh well, but im sure they do it too. no one really tells everything.
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You dont have to tell anyone anything u dont want to... & u shouldnt tell anyone all of ur secrets... cuz when people get mad at eachother the usually blow up and blab their secrets... if u ever feel like tellin them than tell them... but i think its best not too... they may be ur friends but what you've done is ur business...
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Well, it's really your own business what you do with any boy. It's between you and himn, really, and nothing more, unless you want to let your friends know. Really, it's all up to you. Keep in mind that they may be there for you for support if you ever need it, and opening up to them could help them comfort you when the time comes... but it's only their business if you want it to be.
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im not gonna tellu 2 b honest i think u and only u shud decide if u wanna tell them or not and if u dint want 2 then tell them that. if they r good friends then theyll understand
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Haha. Who said you HAD to tell your best friends what happend. And if you're considering these people your "best friends" then you should be comfortable talking about it with them. I mean, if you really want them to know tell them straight up [like the other chick said] and if you don't then just keep it to yourself. Even if they know or think you're lying; it's your buisness. Good luck, babe.
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well what the hell else could you do besides keeping it to your self or just telling them straight up!
-xXoBrianna
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