Question Posted Wednesday August 11 2004, 12:55 am
my friend who i was REALLY close to now has a bf so obviously they do "things" together and stuff and i know she's been drunk b4 and stuff like that and i haven't and it just feels to me that we aren't as close because it's not as fun for her to tell me things anymore since i can't relate and i don't kno how to make things the way they used to be
sportscutie13 answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 3:44 pm: first of all, drinking is NOT GOOD! And its NOT COOL! U need to tell her that if having a bf is pressuring her to drink, then she needs to lose him. He could really hurt her! And u don't know where this could lead to. It could end up terribly wrong. If u love ur friend, u would tell her to leave him! Hope i helped! [ sportscutie13's advice column | Ask sportscutie13 A Question ]
LiL_SaRaH_720 answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 3:04 pm: it seems like this guy is taking over her life..just go ur own way n hang out iwth other people then she will realize that she misses hanging out with u and will try n be friends with u again...hope that helped babe! LiL_SaRaH 720 [ LiL_SaRaH_720's advice column | Ask LiL_SaRaH_720 A Question ]
jeanine278972 answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 12:19 pm: I know what ur going through. Except im like ur friend in some ways. I have done more than most of my friends-- i've gotten High, i've drank alcohol (not been wasted) and i've had sex and stuff like that.
Since I told my best friend, our friendship has changed too. Just try to keep things as close as u can to the same. Tell her u don't like hearing about the stuff she tells u. That might make a small difference. Or just sit down and tell her that u feel like ur friendship has changed and u dont like those changes.
Just dont go out and do that stuff if ur not ready just so u and ur friend will have something to talk about. That would prolly be the worst thing to do.
HAYBABY104 answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 10:42 am: The best thing is probably to sit her down and have a talk with her. Tell her what you feel. tell her everything & dont hold back.. (if you think this is a friendship worth saving)
because.. this may have also happened by fate.. maybeyou and your "best friend" are different and shoudldnt be best friends .. maybe you have another friend that you should be hanging out with nd havin fun without drinking.. think about it!
hope i helped..<3. hAlEy [ HAYBABY104's advice column | Ask HAYBABY104 A Question ]
alisonmarie answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 7:38 am: This might not be what you want to hear, but your best friend has every right to keep her experiences with her boyfriend private.
As for the other things - her drinking, you not feeling as close - the best thing to do is sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Let her know how much you care about her, that you are worried you are drifting apart, and that you don't want to lose her.
Find some stuff you have in common and do those things together; you'll want to have best friend 'dates' to keep in touch. Talking about these feelings are the best thing to do - chances are when she hears how you feel, she'll go out of her way to help strengthen your friendship. [ alisonmarie's advice column | Ask alisonmarie A Question ]
berrybum324 answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 1:53 am: talk to your friend..the only way to hold a friendship together is both of the friends have to try..it takes two..and like just because you havent gone through it doesnt make it any less of fun to tell you because your still friends and you shouldnt have to get drunk or fuck guys to be able to talk to your best friend..tell her that you still want to talk to her and hear her stories and be close no matter what guy she is with...because eventaully they will break up and she is going to want to b bffl wit u agen . . . KaT * [ berrybum324's advice column | Ask berrybum324 A Question ]
LilMia811 answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 1:27 am: well see you're probably not gonna like what i have to say but its probably what is happening between you and your friend. alot of times when one friend gets a bf she tends to forget or leave out the other one. i know this sucks, believe me i do. and whats the worst thing is you really cant do anything about it. like if you try to talk to her about how you feel, she will probably get all defensice of her bf and get pissed, which will just make things worst. but dont feel bad that you cant relate to her when she talks to you about things. maybe it just means its your time to go and find somebody too. [ LilMia811's advice column | Ask LilMia811 A Question ]
xxoBriannax answered Wednesday August 11 2004, 1:21 am: i know it can be really hard.. thats how me and my BEST friend are.. well used to be my best friend.. talk to her and tell her how you feel and tell her you feel like you are drifting apart.. thers nothing you really can do besides that.. sorry and good luck!!
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