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All the popular girls in my school (yeah this is kinda mean but its true lol) they're all pretty ugly. yeahh some of them are pretty at times, they have nice clothes. but they're not like extremely gorgeous. some of them are even a little overweight. (not a lot, just like kinda chubby) even so, the boys are always all over them. and i really don't understand why. yeah, they're outgoing and flirty.. but still. i know i'm not the prettiest girl out there, but i'm not bad. i have nice clothes.. but the boys in my school hardly even notice me. the only thing is, is that i'm REALLY shy. but around my friends, family, and people i've known for a long time, i'm really talkative and outgoing. the people in my school don't seem to realize that however. so i'm known as some girl who never talks practically. and it pisses me off because i know i do talk, they just don't know anything about me. but like, the boy i like is popular, and is always flirting with and around those girls.. what they see in them, i don't know.. how can i get boys to notice me.. especially since i'm going to high school in september and there's gonna be new people. i've never had a real boyfriend before either =[ 14/f thnx.

don't worry about not having a boyfriend before, 14 is still a young age and you'll have plenty of time to find a boyfriend. but to get more attention from guys try to become more confident in yourself. guys like girls with confidence. so don't be heard complaining about your hair or your weight or anything, that can annoy guys. try raising your hand more in class and volunteering more. you don't neccisaraly need to be more outgoing (even though that might help), you just need to be more confident in yourself.

hope this helps =]

okay well this summer i decided im going to try and lose weight. so i decided if i eat right and jump on the trameline everyday i will lose some weight. (im babysitting this summer so ill be playing with little kids and obvisously be doing other exercises like running around with them and other things) my question is about how much weight do you think i could lose by september?

*please answer my question and ill rate 5's for at least trying and being honest too.

thanks! any other advice about losing weight is welcome too!

well on the average diet you can lose up to 3 pounds a week. but after dieting and exercising for a long time your body will start to get used to the diet and stop losing as much weight. just remember to be patient with the weight and don't go on an unhealthy diet. if you eat healthy and exercise daily you could probably lose up to 15 pounds this summer, but that is only if you are really dedicated to the diet routine.

remember to always drinks LOTS of water. i recomend drinking about 6-8 bottles of water A DAY. =]

GOOD LUCK!

ok well i dont think i have a problem but like i have become obseded about my stomach. i dont care about weight or anything but i just want my stomach to be so flat and stuff. i have heard that it really can get out of control and i am scared it will. i dont personally know anyone that has gone through this and i dont know if its normal. plz give ur opinion!

well as long as you keep eating and don't go overboard counting calories you'll be fine. there is nothing wrong with eating healthy and exercising to stay fit.

in my opinion it is normal to be worried about your stomach, especially in the summer for bathing suits. many girls worry about their stomachs, including me. just doing some extra crunches everyday, or eating a salad instead of french fries can really make a difference. and remember drink LOTS of water =]

i need help .. i need a new screen name .. im getting bored of my former one .. I have blonde hair .. blue eyes .. i like the beach and ocean .. and summer and tanning .. HELPP!

OCEANxDRIVE
shorelinexPARADISE
summerOHSIX
EYESxLIKExTHExOCEAN
MISSxBLUExEYES

x ocean drive
xo shoreline paradise
summer oh six ox
xeyes like the ocean
xo miss blue eyes

or any combination of those =D
hope i helped

I just got AcneFree for the first time. I wanted to know, am I not supposed to go outside when I'm using it, like I can't tan at the pool or anything? [ It says avoid sun exposure ] and it also says it may bleach, so do I have to keep it away from my eye brows and eye lashes? Thanksguys =]

I used to use Acne-Free and it is true that it does bleach. but i never noticed it bleaching my hair/eyebrows/eyelashes. it only ever bleached my clothing. so always wear old clothing when using it. =D

Does AcneFree help clear up blackheads too, or just pimples. Kthanks =]

i used to use AcneFree, but i stopped. first of all it took too long to do and second of all i didn't see any long term results. it helped clear up my skin in like 2 weeks, but then my acne started coming back even worse then before. i went back to useing just a regular acne cream that is 6% benzoyl peroxide.

but for your question...it is just pimples

im 14 and i wear a some makeup. just like a thin line of black eyeliner, soft eyeshadow colors, and black mascara. yeah, nothing out-of-this-world. anyway, i was wondering what you guys think is a good eyeshadow to match light blue eyes and light brown/long hair. oh yeah and a lot of freckles on the cheeks.

i usually do like a light brown or a light gray and i really like those. still, i wanted to try something new but i didnt want it to be like 'whoa, too much'

pink usually doesnt work for me. idk it just doesnt work with likee, the texture of my eyes.

ok thanks.

you could always try using a soft light purple eyeshadow to help make your blue eyes stand out =D or try any shade of orange.

I got two of my teeth pulled today, its been almost 2hours and my mouth is still completley numb. How long will it take for it to go away. How long will the pain last and how long will it be until the swelling goes down?

i've gotten teeth pulled before too. it normally takes longer than 2 hours to feel better. it might even take the whole day. for the numbness, it changes for everybody. when i got my teeth pulled my numbness went away within 2 hours, but some people's last longer. just be patient and don't eat anything sharp!

what are some good products for getting rid of acne quickly can be wash cream toner ive got a trip in a few days and want to get rid of these pimples on my forehead before i go

there is nothing you can do to completely eliminate acne in just a few days. but there are ways to reduce it and make it appear as if you have none. what i would do is go out to the store and buy ONE good acne cream. look at the active ingredients and find one that has about 5% Benzoyl Peroxide. DO NOT buy one that has 10% because that will dry out your skin and turn it red. then you should buy ONE good skin cleanser to use in the shower. do not buy a cleanser for acne, maybe just one to help clear out dirt and oil. here is a good daily routine for your face:

Morning: wash face with the cleanser and apply the acne cream to face.

Night: use the cleanser while in the shower then dry your face and apply the acne cream.

throughout the day if you notice an annoying pimple that seems to stand out just apply the acne cream to it. try to avoid picking at the pimple (which just irritates it) and not pick off scabs on pimples that you have popped (if you don't pop your pimples then that's OK, but if you do then just make sure not to pick the scabs)

just so you know i pop my pimples even though experts say not to. i just think it makes them heal quicker. REMEMBER: if your going to pop a pimple, WASH your hands first and only try popping it once! if it doesn't pop on the first try then it isn't ready to pop and continuing to squeeze it will only make it worse.

GOOD LUCK with your skin and have fun on your trip =D

what is a good amount of money per hour

if i dont really know the kids except that that they are a sister of a family friend

and that the daughter is 2 and the son is 7

i think it really depends on how well behaved your kids are. if they are well behaved then something around $5 an hour would be fine, but if they can get wild and out of control then i think something closer to $8 an hour is better.

So it's not so much a pickle of what to do, moreso this character needs a last name that isn't ordinary but not unheard of and unpronouncible.

Kathryn Jade

But I have the imagination for plot, not namesake.

umm what about:

-Hemsley
-McKinely
-Bortsman
-Macvey
-Bauer (pronounced like bower)
-Klennel

i hope they help =)

i was just wondering what would be an average weight for a 5'6 male middle weight athlete.

there are many sites that will calculate you BMI for you which will tell you the average weight for a certain gender and height. when i googled BMI here is a site that came up:

http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

try that site. but remember that it just shows you the AVERAGE weight.

how can i get a guys attention that i havent met before!? i am SOOO shy so i wouldnt just go up to him i want HIM to notice ME and be like wow..that girl is gorgeous. but i dont see myself as that and i always think ugh he is gonna go for that girl over there or he is gonna look at that girl and think that because they are all prettier than me! what do you think i should do. he is also always around these popular kids at his school.
i will rate 5 for anyone who helps
thanks so much!!!!

what guys like the most in a girl is confidence. even if you are shy try to be a little more confident around him. also think about it this way: since he doesn't know you, he doesn't know that you are shy or anything else about you, so be confident! also guys like girls that aren't afraid to talk to them. so if he talks to him try to keep the conversation flowing.

good luck

since i have naturally curly hair and i always straighten it..it NEVER stays straight and yes i have layers and i hate them i am trying so hard to grow them out but my hair grows soo slow. its a little past my shoulders or a little longer but my layers always flip in or out and it looks ugly! my hair doesnt scrunch or curl so i have to straighten it and it always seems to get greasy too by the end of the day. what do you think i could do?! is there anything? i dont really have much money to buy anything either...well thanks!
i will rate 5!

i understand EXACTALY what you are going through. even though my hair isn't naturally curly. it is naturally poofy bumpy and just plain UGLY! so what i do is i put a straightening serum in BEFORE i straighten it. they really aren't that expensive and can be bought at almost any drugstore (CVS, Walgreens...). what they do is reverse the effects of humidity and reduce frizziness and keep your hair straighter longer. try to buy one that specifically says that it reverses the effects of humidity. i use Aveeda, but that is expensive and i know that there are MILLIONS of products just like it out there but much cheaper. good luck!

I smoke but I want to stop. I dont want to buy the gum or patch I just want to do it naturly. I didnt need anything to help me start so I dont need anything to help me stop. The other day i went with out a cig for a day but then the next day I wanted one. If I am not around them I can deal with it better and dont think about them. The problem is my family and friends smoke so I am mostly around it how can I stop smoking

i think you should start off by throwing away all of the cigarettes that you keep in the house. next you should let your friends and family know that you want to stop smoking so they can respect that and not smoke around you.

i hope this helps =]
GOOD LUCK!

ok so here is the deal. there is this guy me and him are close friends and what you would call "friends with benefits", but i want more than that we have talked about having a realtionship and i know that he likes me and i like him. but it is the same old same old, he says i am not ready for that, you need to be with someone who deserves you. i told him i thought he meant i did not deserve him and he said that i had it all wrong. that all it was, was that he did not have the time and energy into making a relationship work. what the hell does that mean. he said darlin if it meant to be it will happen. can someone please help.

first off i think that this guy is very kind and caring because he likes you but won't go out with you because he feels like he won't be a good boyfriend. what you need to do is be patient with him and give him some time. maybe you could try dating him in the summer which would give him more time for you since there would be no school. also you should show him that you are low matinence and that he doesn't need to be around you 24/7 in order to be a good boyfriend.

GOOD LUCK

hey... well my boyfriend jordan and i have been going out for a month now. but my problem is that he invited me to go to the community pool with his family tomorrow. but, i don`t want to go. i am veerrryyy self-concious when my stomach is showing, because i`m quite chubby for my age. i don`t want to lie to him, but i also don`t want to be in a bathing suit around other people. so, i`m scared to go because i`m afraid he`ll be embarassed to be seen with me. what should i do??

well if you don't feel comfortable wearing a bathing suit i would try wearing a tankini in my opinion they are better then one pieces and bikinis because they are looser around the stomach area. and if your boyfriend really does like you then it wont matter if your not super thin. good luck tomorrow and remember to stay confident!

13 f weight: last time i checked i was around 125-130 ...... okay well im not fat but im not like really skinny either.. i hate my body though, i really really dont like my thighs because i think theyre huge and i told my friend and shes like no mine are huge, and shes like SOO much smaller than me and so that makess me feel even worse about them! i eat so much and try hard not to, what will help make me stop eating so much? helpp, ill rate 5s for good answers

whatever you do DO NOT try to just stop eating all together. what you need to do is drink LOTS of water and try to exercise more. i know that being only 13 with school and everything exercising is hard, and you might not have time or you might not want your parents to find out you want to diet. i went through the same thing. what you should try doing is instead of eating three big meals, you should eat very small meals more frequently. or if that is too hard when you start getting a craving for something when your not hungry but you know you'll end up eating anyway try chewing some sugarfree gum or popping a mint. they REALLY help you to forget about your craving. also try to occupy yourself while at home, because most people eat because they are bored and NOT because they are hungry. i hope this helps!

K so i have an oily T zone, inbetween my brows and along my nose and i was wondering if anybody can suggest some good skin cleansers that can get rid of oily skin cuz i usually get zits and what not around that area and its annoying to take care of, haha. thanks, ill rate high.

i have really oily skin too and i use olay claritys facial clensar. it is AMAZING it clears up blemishes and it reduces the oil in your skin. you should definitely try it =]

what color eye shadows look good for people with tan skin, brown eyes, and dark brown hair?

i would definitaly use green. green looks BEAUTIFUL with brown eyes and brown hair...TRUST me

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