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what do i need to do
ok so here is the deal. there is this guy me and him are close friends and what you would call "friends with benefits", but i want more than that we have talked about having a realtionship and i know that he likes me and i like him. but it is the same old same old, he says i am not ready for that, you need to be with someone who deserves you. i told him i thought he meant i did not deserve him and he said that i had it all wrong. that all it was, was that he did not have the time and energy into making a relationship work. what the hell does that mean. he said darlin if it meant to be it will happen. can someone please help.
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well, if he doesnt have the time and energy to be in a reationship, then where is he getting all this spare time to mess around with you? this guy sounds like a jerk, and hes obviously wanting only one thing. honestly, i wouldnt be surprised if he was doing stuff with girls other than you. be careful, and trust your heart. good luck
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Last year, i was in just about the same situation. Except the fact that he had a girl friend, and the first time we made out, they broke up. Then we were still FWB (friends with benifits) for a while. Then, he said he didnt like me as a girl friend anymore, and i was still compeltely in love with him. You need to eaither A) Stay FWB, hope your feelings go away (Which, they probally wont) and just be that till one of you finds someone else or, B) just stop the fwb, still be friends, but trust me, making out with someone you like that much over and over, knowing its going no where, OUCH! both will hurt like hell, but option B will hurt a lot less in the long run...
Hope i helped, and that that made sense :)
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I'd stop being "friends with benefits" with him!! If he has the time and energy to kiss you and do other stuff then he should have the same energy for a relationship! I'd tell him if you want me you've got to respect me, not just use me to make out or w/e. If he truly likes you he'll repsect you and go out with you, but it sounds like he's using you. I'm sorry!! Talk to him about this! Good Luck!!
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first off i think that this guy is very kind and caring because he likes you but won't go out with you because he feels like he won't be a good boyfriend. what you need to do is be patient with him and give him some time. maybe you could try dating him in the summer which would give him more time for you since there would be no school. also you should show him that you are low matinence and that he doesn't need to be around you 24/7 in order to be a good boyfriend.
GOOD LUCK <3
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Hey,
Well if you really want a relaitonship for him then be patient and give him time to think about it from what it seems he's only after one thing from you and thats it i'm afraid however the decision is yours we can only advice you but be careful that you don't end up getting hurt
Goodluck
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Sounds like this guy is very unsure about what exactly he wants. He's basically making every excuse in the book to not get in a relationship with you, yet he wants to be more than just friends. What's with that?
Friends with benefits is generally a bad idea because almost always, one person ends up falling for the other, like in your case. It's difficult to seperate your feelings like that. Doing things with a friend with "no strings attached" is easier said than done. He says he's not willing to put all the time and effort in, which was a bad thing to say because that doesn't show someone you care about them very much. I'm not saying he doesn't care about you, but that's the message he's putting out.
I think that if you continue the way you're going, you're only going to get hurt. If you keep doing the whole "friends with benefits" your feelings for him will grow even more intense. This guy obviously wants the "benefits" of a relationship but without the committment and effort. Sorta like using someone up. I don't think you should let him do this to you anymore. Tell him that he needs to make a choice between being friends with you or being in a relationship with you.
I'm sorry if that seemed a little harsh. That's just what I think you should do. Good luck.
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