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ok why the hec are the MAJORITY of these questions about sex related topics????? theres nothing about babysitting, school, sports, pets, gardening, home decortating, theater, etc. i refuse to answer any sex related questions because you dont ask advicenators.com how to get someone in bed w/ u, etc! you ask them "hey im babysitting two 3 year old twins tomorrow. i really dont like them, not that theyre bad kids, i just dont like em! what can i do?" i understand that people need advice on these things and this is an anonymous way to get it! but people, mayb you could ask your friends or something! i dont know. i just want to know why so many people talk about that on here! its kinda of gross! every other question. . .! yick. ok so please answer ill rate VERY high cause u actually continued to read this! :-P

Well most people feel uncomfortable talking to their friends about having sex and stuff.. I know I would. So it just makes people feel better to ask someone they don't know, because we're not gonna have the possibility of telling everyone in their school, and we're not gonna laugh at them and stuff, because we don't even know who they are! And them asking is really good too because people who go to my site read them and it helps them if they are in the same situation or were wondering the same thing. And with WHY they're always asking sex questions and not other ones is because they CAN talk to their friends about babysitting and theater with their parents and stuff...or they can solve those problems themselves.





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okay ive been friends with this guy for a little over a year. i dont like him like that this isnt about that. well we got into a fight bcuz his girlfriend told him i said all these bad things about him. thats not true. he wont take my messages he wont even talk to me. his girlfriend totally ruined our friendship. i wanna no how i can get into his head that i didnt say those things and his girlfriend just said that.

PLEEEEEEEEEEEZ help!! ill rate 5s for good help

I would just try going to his house and explain it to him. Just be like," I never said those things! I mean come on, we've been friends for almost like, a little over a year! Why would I say stuff like that about you? I know your girlfriend hates me, so maybe she told you that stuff so I would be out of the way, but I'm not trying to blame anyone, I just want to be friends with you again, and I want you to understand I did't say anything about you.." because then you won't be exactly blaming his girlfriend ( like you will, but not in a rude way, ya know? ) Because that shows you're not trying to get him to break up with her.. which shows you're trying to be a good friend also...hope I helped!!






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MELii

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i have a pimple and it is bugging me like it bugs most people but is there any way i can make it go away or get smaller by tomorrow? would putting toothpaste on it overnight help?

Well what I do is I take two q-tips and I squeeze them both against the pimple, and that makes the icky stuff come out, which will make the pimple get smaller or just go away...or just try using cover up and stuff. And ...I've never heard of putting toothpaste on it overnight, but if you've heard of that, maybe give that a try too.. hope I helped!!





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MELii

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this is for class,is this good?

On October 22 at 7:48 p.m., Mrs. Johnson heard a loud band from her neighbors’ house. She gasped when she heard the terrible scream of Mr. Johnson emerge from across the street and immediately dialed 911. “I heard a gunshot in the Cathaways’ house. Please..hurry,”she answered, trembling with fright. She looked towards the sound of the shotgun and saw through a gap in the curtains-someone in a black cloak.
A few minutes later, she heard the police siren speeding towards the Cathaways’ home. Several policemen entered the red-brick house. One officer went to Mrs. Johnson for questioning. Later, Mrs. Johnson saw Sam Cathaway being pulled out. His red face was blotchy and his cheeks were tearstained. She wondered what had happened; why were they taking Sam away? What did Sam do to his father? And most of all, what happened to Mr. Cathaway?

Sam Cathaway- He is accused for the murder of his father. He was found holding a gun, sobbing, on the night of the murder next to his father’s dead body. He keeps saying that he is innocent and would never have done such a dreadful thing. He loved his father very much, despite their horrible relationship, and would’ve never killed him.Unfortunately, Sam is also known to be in a gang and has been caught committing minor crimes before, such as vandalizing the city. Sam actually owns a black cloak from a Halloween costume many years ago.

Mrs. Cathaway- She accuses Sam, her own son, of shooting Mr. Cathaway, since nobody else was in the house. She got home from the supermarket after the murder to find Sam and Mr. Cathaway both on the ground, in a puddle of blood. She says that she has never trusted her son, but always loved her husband. Nevertheless, she didn’t get along very well with either of them. She, on the other hand, also owns a black cloak of her own.

Mr. Cathaway- He was shot to death 2 times; once in the heart and once in the head. His murderer is unknown at the moment. The suspects at the moment are Sam and Mrs. Cathaway. He didn’t have a good relationship with any of his family members though.

Mrs. Johnson- She is a witness of the crime and suspects it was Mrs. Cathaway since the person in the black cloak looked as if it had a more womanly figure. She is not absolutely positive though, and the black cloak can be found nowhere.

Mr. Supply- He will be defending Samuel, accuse Mrs. Cathaway of murdering Mr. Cathaway.

Mr. D. Emand- He will be prosecuting Sam


However, the black cloak was found, buried alongside an apple tree in the backyard of an abandoned house by dogs. There was a strand of hair on it, and it belonged to Mrs. Cathaway.



IS THAT GOOD!!!

Ooh that's REALLY GOOD!! =) That will be a really good thing for class!! =)

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O.K. This is really gross. There are like a TON of roaches in my garage but I only SEE them at night and it's REALLY gross. I bought spray and it works but after I kill one, there's another one! I don't where they come from but it's really disgusting. They crawl inside the house and one was under my dresser but I killed it, one was in my bathrom and the other was in my hallway. I don't know what I can do to kill these DISGUSTING creatures! Please help!
I rate high!
Thanks!

I would call an exterminator...hope I helped!!





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MELii

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14/f -- my friends in I call ourselfs "the crew". Mainly, it's me & my boyfriend, his best friend & his girlfriend [my best friend], and occasionally a few others. We all have open relationships were we tell each other everything. Except we don't tell our b/f&g/fs everything so we kinda share secrets and give advice and such. The other day my bf's best friend [he just happens to be my ex] told me that he still has feelings for me and thinks about me more than his girl. now, he keeps talking to me about this and trying to get me to cheat on my boyfriend with him.. i'm not gonna, but what should i say to him to make him back off??

I'd just be like," Okay... I know you still have feeling for me and stuff.. but I'm sorry, I don't. I've moved on...and it's with your best friend! And you're dating mine..so even if there was a chance, it wouldn't happen, cause I could never do that! So I'm sorry.. can we just forget this ever happened, and just remains friends?" And if he doesn't continue to back off, I might wanna tell your boyfriend about it... so he knows what his "Best friend" is doing, and then you might wanna let your best friend know too, I think she deserves too. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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My X-botfriend dumped me about a few months after he asked me out. I had liked him for a whole two years, and was really excited when he did. After he dumped me I was devistated, and we decided to stay friends. I saw him at a get together with all of our friends and some of the new ones. I don't know if it is just him, but he acted like we were still together. He huged me alot, and lied on my stumache, tickled me, and chased me. My friends acted afended, and kind of stand-offish when we acted like that. My friend says that he told her that he doesn't like me anymore, but to me, he acted like he still does. So here is my quwstion: How do I find out if he still likes me or not, so that I can move on in life?
P.S.
(I already tried asking, and my friends tried asking also!)
Can you help me?

Well what I think is that he might have just been flirting with you..because some guys are just like that, they just have flirty personalities, just like some girls do. Because if he liked you again, don't you think he would have asked you out because you were flirting back which would send some signals of you liking him? And you said you DID ask, so then wouldn't that give him the opportunity to tell you he does?..So my suggestion is to just leave it alone, unless he does come up to you or IM you or something and ask you out again, cause then maybe you should, cause I mean theres no harm...=).. hope I helped!!





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MELii

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Hi, I really want to get a Yorkie, maybe a teacup yorkie, or a mini yourkie. Does anybody know about how much they cost, not including the pet supplys. and if anyone has one are they good pets? And does anyone have any names for dogs? Thank you!!

Awseome, cause I wanna get a Yorkie too!! =) Aren't they so cute?! Anyways, Yorkies run anywhere from $400.00 on up to like, $3,500.00. It just depends on their background and also if the parents were show dogs. You can get a very nice one for 4 to 5 hundred dollars by just looking in your local newspaper. And yeah, they're athletic and playful and make very good pets. Some names could be ( I got some of these off a site..):


Theo
Snickers
Tootsie
Ruffles
Wiggles
Misha
Traci
Yipper
Leah
Princess
Pepper
Killer
Janie
Wheezer
Harley
Saydie
Pebbles
Mugsie
Hannah
Bailey
Chelsea
Rufus
Maddie
Murphy
Lucy
Moose
Petey
Biscuit
Tiffy
Lucky
Maizy
Sammie
Ozzie
Tinkerbell
Lulu
Peanut
Toto
Winston
Ralphie
Max


.. if you don't like any of those.. try looking some more up..they got a bunch!! =) Hope I helped!!







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MELii



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I need help breaking up with my boyfriend. I still like him and everything its just that its summer and i dont think im gonna see him that much. What should i say to him? I still wanna be friends cause he is really nice.
Thanks Alot

If it helps we have been going out for about 2 1/2 months. And the reason is becuz i wont see him much.

Well I would just call him up and be like," I have to talk to you.. I don't think we should date anymore. I mean I still like you and everything it's just that it's summer, and everyone's gonna be going on vacations and stuff and I don't think I'm gonna see you that much.. but I still wanna be friends cause you're really nice, and I don't want this to ruin everything.." =) Basically... everything you just told me.. because what you said shows him you still care for him ; but you just can't date him anymore.. so maybe he'll understand. =) Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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My hair is dry && damaged. How do I get it to have that soft sorta oily coating on it to make it smooth. I've tried Treseme, Garnier, Herbal Essance, and Pantene and I still have hair that feels like straw!!

Well my hair used to be the same exact way and it might be that way because if you use a straightener and you use it alot, then all the heat is drying up your hair and giving you that straw like look.. but after I got V05, my hair's been fine.. but a few days ago, I got this shampoo stuff that's only for blonde's.. I think it's called " Sheer Blonde " ( they have it for brunettes and redheads too..) and my hair is REALLY soft and stuff. =) So try the stuff I use.. and Thermasilk is really good to because it's also heat-activated so whenever you dry your hair or stragihten it works. Hoep I helped!!







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MELii

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13/f i'm not really like a schoolgirl or anything, but let's just say "rocker" is not my label. still, i like the look. what are some ways to get the not-outrageaous but not-TOO-subtle ways to get a slight rockerish look without looking like a total poser? thankz

BTW my 'rents aren't too into the whole rocker thing so if you suggest any clothes or accesories, plz make them something my mom would actually BUY me or i would actually be allowed to wear...and no make-up.

thankz everyone!

Well what I would do is try the Ashlee Simpson thing. She's has that slight rockerish side.. but then whenever you see her in magazines sometimes.. she has on pretty dresses and stuff, but she adds her own rockish flare to it. So just try taking some clothes and maybe cutting them up a bit, or adding some really cool jewlery likes some long necklaces and maybe rubber braclets and stuff. And have some black nail polish on. Just be creative. =) So the next time you're out shopping or something, go the magazines and buy some that have Ashlee Simpson on them and just look for all the little knick knacks ( haha ) that she adds and do similiar things. Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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Are there any songs I can start practicing singing that are easy, but a bit challenging? I have a pretty good voice, but not as good as Kelly Clarkson's. Does anyone know any of those types of songs?

I love to sing to.. and I think it's really easy to Ashlee Simpson, Hilary Duff, and Vanessa Carlton songs, so you might wanna try those. And oh yes I've tried singing Kelly Clarkson's songs.. and she goes soo high! Haha.. pop and rock are pretty good to sing to.. and if there are some high notes, they help you practice those too.. because they don't go too high.. Kelly Clarkson sometimes goes like..HIGH HIGH. Haha. I love how she sings though.. it's really pretty..=) ANYWAYS.. just try looking at songs in the pop and rock area. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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I am a dancer and when im home alone... i dance lol.. what are some good fast pace songs that are good to dance to?

I'm a dancer too!! =) Here's some good ones I use to dance too:


"Yeah" by Usher
"Hollaback Girl" by Gwen Stefani
"Lose Mah Breath" by Destiny's Child
"Soldier" by Destiny's Child
"Oh" by Ciara
"1,2 Step" by Ciara
"Goodies" by Ciara
"Lose Control" by Missy Elliot
"Pass That Dutch" by Missy Elliot
"Get Low" by Ying Yang Twins
"Switch" by Will Smith
"Car Wash" by Missy Elliot and Christina Aguleria ( I don't know how to spell her last name )
"Dip It Low" by Christina Millian
"Maniac" ( I don't know who sings it, but it's from a movie.. and it's really fast =)..)
"The Six Flags Theme Song" sorry haha I have NO CLUE who sings it, or what it's called.. alls I know is that that is where I heard it haha..
"Sugar (Gimme Gimme Some )" by Trick Daddy


hope I helped!!




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MELii

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Posted Saturday July 02 2005, 12:46 am
I have a small but confusing problem, to do with my friend.(I'll call him John)John's dad is a CEO and he has been out of the country for the past 10 months. He got back almost a week ago and saturday he sat down his family and confessed that he had been unfaithful to John's mother durring the 10 months. This really shook up John, he's scared, confused and really unsure of alot of things right now. And he came to me. And I don't know how to respond to this. I want to be supportive and I don't know what I would do if I were him. And he's alot more than a friend, and about 3 years older. What would you do if you were in our situation?

Well what I would do is just sit down with him and talk to him about this and let him pour all his feelings out on you, so he'll feel better. And he's probably feeling like him and his family aren't very loved right now by his dad, so just be there for him and show him that you love and care about him, cause that's probably something he really needs right now. And maybe go on the internet and see if there are groups so he can go talk about this to other people in the same situation, cause that'll make him feel alot better. Hope everything works out for your friend! Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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Okay, so friendship questions are rare for me. This is gonna be long. If you have a problem with that, stop reading right now.
I'm really kind of scared. My best friend, short of sister, I think, is addicted to this guy.
Problem is, they never dated. She liked him, but he didn't like her. Then she got over him, and he liked her.
Then she decided to unget over him.
He's a possessive asshole. He's basically "claimed" her and talks about their married future, and she goes with it, considering him hers as he considers her his.
The worst thing is, though, all her life, her family has considered her the "screwup", so all she's known is displacement and pain. She's longed for real love her whole life, even the "parent" kind of love. Not just the husband/wife love.
I don't even know how to explain this. She thinks he unconditionally loves her.
I have unconditional love. My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage, and he loves everything about me, even my flaws, and wouldn't change me.
This guy, however, he's used her, emotionally abused her, hurt her more than anything, and he's even like, haunting her dreams. He tried to change her. Get her to dye her hair blonde, change her clothing style, criticized everything...
I'm just afraid she's going to end up with him and cause herself more pain.
She's created an idea of him for herself. Things he does, she's given examples...I can see that he's only doing these things because he gets something out of it. He gets a person to possess. Someone to own. I hate him for what he's doing to her, but she won't let me talk sense into her.
I can't talk to him because he doesn't like me anyway.
I don't know what to do about this. This girl is seriously like my little sister. I want to protect her from him. Not from all guys, just from him because I know he's bad news.
He tried to convince me to cheat on my boyfriend with him, and to tell me that if he "really" wanted me, I could be his in a heartbeat, because he's just that good with women, which sickened me from the start. I don't understand what she sees in him. Fine. Whatever, I can deal with that.
I can't deal with him hurting her and making her think he's the last person out there for her (she's had bad luck in relationships).
On top of it all, she's afraid her parents are going to make her move, and they're not sending her to college next year, which is where she should be.
What do you think I should do? I mean, I can't really DO anything. What can I say?
-Siren =(

Ok, this guy seriously sounds like the biggest asshole ever.. and if I were you, I'd seriously try to get your friend away from him. Because if he's making her change herself for him, that's not love at all.. and this is starting to kind of sounds like an abusing relationship..which she should get out of right away! Just explain to her all the things he's doing to her... cause she's probably pushing it out of her mind and believes he's doing it out of love. He's really doing it because he thinks he has power of her..=/...so I'd seriously talk to her about this, and if she doesn't listen, I'd talk to her parents about this. And that's a really good thing if she moves, because she can't see him anymore. And I would talk to her parents about the college thing. It's really hard to get a job these days without a college diploma..=/...because if they're worried about the money, then they could just do loans over the years..=/..but about this guy ; just try to get her away from him.. because you shouldn't have to change yourself, and even though it's not ( hopefully theres none ) PYSHICAL abuse, emotional abuse is still bad. And if he's telling you to get with him cause he's..."so good with the women" or w.e then I'd seriously tell her that too.. maybe that'll show her what a huge asshole he is and she'll leave him. And give her examples from your boyfriend...be like," ___ loves me for all my flaws and doesn't try to change me.. does yours? " and just show her that he's not the perfect boyfriend. And it's good that you found love =) And explain to her also about how she THINKS she has unconditional love.. but it's not him that's giving it to her.. it's you by wanting her to be safe and happy. Well I hope everything works out for your friend, and she leaves that guy.. I hope I helped!!





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MELii

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whats a prude? is it a bad thing?

A prude is someone who doesn't really know anything about sexual stuff..like you don't know really anything...and I guess it's considered a baf thing ; probably especially to your peers and stuff..because they probably all know everything.. so if you are a prude, maybe you should have your friends..uh...update you on some stuff?....hope I helped..





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i need help!!! i am 14 and i am having a baby and my mom is really strict...should i tell her about it? hide it from her? what do i do!!! help me! i rate high!!!

Well obviously you should tell her.. cause after awhile it's gonna kinda be hard to hide a big stomach, don't ya think? =/ But DON'T CONSIDER ABORTION!! I mean at the most, consider adoption, because if he can't live with you, then let him live with a family that can support him and love him. You should have waited until you were older.. I mean I know it's your body ; your choice and such.. but this baby needs taken care of. So hopefully, your mom might help out too. And you definetly need to tell the father if you haven't cause he needs to help out too somehow..maybe get his parents too help too. Because you two aren't old enough to get jobs yet =/...and maybe you should go to that " Planned Parenthood " thing and see what they say or tell you to do...but DEFENITELY tell your mom!! Hope everything works out for you and your baby and the father and you have a healthy, nice life ahead for you three =) Hope I helped!!






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MELii

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okay well i have a bf and hes like perfect. i love him so much. but the other day i was at my best friends house, and her older brother who'd going into 11th had some friends over. one of them, this boy Jason, i used to have the biggest crush on. and he kept like flirting with me and like staring at me. he knows i have a bf though. but then like i was laying on the couch and he went and layed on it behind me and put his arms around me. then after that he'd go upstairs with my best friends brother and then keep coming down and talking to me. and then he kept asking me to make out and stuff. and i didnt wanna cause i have a bf, and i didnt wanna screw things up with him. so i said no to making out. and then hes like can't i just have a kiss? so i did. and we kept kissing. and then we were like sitting on the couch and he had his arm around me and was holding my hand. oh my god it was so awesome. and he kept telling me to dump my bf and stuff. and he kept like saying god why do you have to have a bf. and hes like 3 years older than me. he's going into 11th grade and im going into 8th. and hes gorgeous and like every girl in the school likes him!! hah. but my friend was sleeping so she doesnt know about this at all. no one does but me and him. and my best friends older brother kept telling me Jason liked me and wanted to hook up and stuff. idk if they were drunk or something? but now im really confused. cause i love my bf, but now i think i might have a little something for Jason.. can you please help. thanks. ugh plus i cant talk to any of my friends about this cause they'd probably say something to my bf. please help im so confused..

I would think about each of them. How they make you feel, does your boyfriend kiss you and cuddle with you and stuff like this Jason guy did? Because if your boyfriend doesn't do that, then maybe I'd start leaning towards Jason, because come on. Every girl wants to be hugged and kissed and hold hands and stuff =P But then again, another though kinda comes to mind. He's three years older, so you guys won't even see eachotehr in school... which means he could talk to other girls and ya know.. get with them and stuff...and then the fact that EVERY girl likes him makes that kinda even worse, because then he knows he can get almost like ANY GIRL. Well what I would do is maybe just stick with your boyfriend for awhile and just kinda talk to him, hang out with him, and see how you feel when you're around him... if Jason makes you feel better than your boyfriend does than maybe you should dump him =/ but I'd seriously think about the him getting almost any girl thing.. cause I mean, you would never know =/... hope I helped!!






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MELii

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ok well me and my boyfriend, who i love tons, is moving to another town at the end of summer [[its 30 mins away from where we live now]]. we've been going out for 5 months and were very very close and we really care a lot about each other and i know that he doesn't want to move because i'd still be hear .. i hope that doesn't sound stuck up because it's like his words lol.everyone is giving me weird advice and a bunch of people say dump him, or they tell me he really loves and cares about you. i really don't want to dump him but i'm really scared he might cheat on me or find someone better then me. am i just being paraniod or am i acting normal? what should i do, do i stay with him and hope it works out .. or do i dump him and break mine and his heart? thanx a bunch doll


PLeASe NOT ANOTHeR HeART

Well I would say to still go out with him.. because if you two are so close, then I'm sure he loves you enough and won't cheat on you. And long distance relationships CAN work. My one friend's girlfriend lives 55 minutes away from him, but they've been going out for like 6 months now.. they just try to see eachother almost every weekend or every few. So they can work out, if you try hard enough =) So I'd just continue to go out with him...but mainly ; just follow your heart ( that sounds corny haha ) but seriously.. just listen to it. If your hearts telling you to stay with him more than to dump him ; stay with him. But if it's saying dump him.. then.. maye you should =/ But I think you two can work this out and continue to date..hope I helped!!





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MELii

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I've had terrible luck in love lately. I haven't found any guy who meets my standards (which aren't extreme, just funny, sweet, smart, etc.) I've been thinking a lot about my former crushes and boyfriends, and I thought of this guy, "Josh". Josh and I were friends & hung out a lot last summer. We sort-of dated for probably a month, but then after school started, we drifted apart because we were at 2 different schools (he's a year younger than me). Thing is, I really miss him and I think I'm in love with him. He's been on my mind so much lately, and it's driving me crazy because I never see him anymore! What am I supposed to do?

Okay I have to ask something: are you sure you really miss this "Josh" guy? Because since you haven't been having luck in the love department lately and you were reminising ( sorry idk how to spell it ) on past crushes and boyfriends, maybe you were just missing the feeling have having a special someone and whenever he came to mind, you liked him again.. I'm just saying rethink it for a moment, and if you do seriously still like him.. then call him!! I don't see why you shouldn't! =) But since you two go to different schools, he might have a girlfriend you don't know about, so I'd find that out first.. but if that's true, then just try hanging out with him.. cause if the relationship doesn't last.. then you can snag him =P because if you do think you love him, don't you think it would be best if you were some part of his life, than none at all? =/ So just call him, IM him and talk to him, and if he's single, ask him to go somewhere with you or something!! Hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii



p.s. I have a friend whose dating someone that lives about..55 minutes away, and they've been dating for about.. 5 months now I think. They just see eachother every weekend, or like every other one. So see? Long-distance relationships can work out if you try hard enough and want to see eachother enough. =)

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