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How can I be supportive?
Posted Saturday July 02 2005, 12:46 am
I have a small but confusing problem, to do with my friend.(I'll call him John)John's dad is a CEO and he has been out of the country for the past 10 months. He got back almost a week ago and saturday he sat down his family and confessed that he had been unfaithful to John's mother durring the 10 months. This really shook up John, he's scared, confused and really unsure of alot of things right now. And he came to me. And I don't know how to respond to this. I want to be supportive and I don't know what I would do if I were him. And he's alot more than a friend, and about 3 years older. What would you do if you were in our situation?
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Well what I would do is just sit down with him and talk to him about this and let him pour all his feelings out on you, so he'll feel better. And he's probably feeling like him and his family aren't very loved right now by his dad, so just be there for him and show him that you love and care about him, cause that's probably something he really needs right now. And maybe go on the internet and see if there are groups so he can go talk about this to other people in the same situation, cause that'll make him feel alot better. Hope everything works out for your friend! Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
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Sit him down in a place where no-one else is and ask him how he feels about this.Let him just pour out his feelings to you and take it from there.
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Just be nice to him and let him know that you do care and that you'll always be there for him. Ask him if wants to talk about anything and just go from there. Hope I helped. please rate!
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well i would sit down and talk to his father and ask him if the ceo is more impotant than familey and tell him that he needs to spend more time with his wive and get to no there needs and be there to comfirt them well thats all and i hope it works
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if you have not witnessed a situation like this..just let him pour his heart out to you and just try your best to answer his questions and listen to what he is saying. He just needs a friend to listen and talk to and a shoulder to cry on, and thats all you have to be
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Dakota
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There really isn't a lot you can do but be there for him. He's probably in a state of shock right now about the news.. he's probably mad at his father and upset too. It must be really difficult for him right now. Ask him if he wants to talk about and be sure to listen to what he has to say. He probably just needs someone to 'rant' to right now. If he doesn't want to talk about, then it's best to get his mind off it for now. You should take him out and have a good time.. see a movie or something. People deal with things in different ways - some bottle things up, others are very open with how they're feeling. Work around what he wants to do, and just try and be a friend to him. After the initial shock is over, I'm sure he'll be okay.
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Just being there with him and telling him you care about him will mean the world to him.
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juust being there to talk to him is support...let him know your always here to talk..
simply hangin out with him and cheering him up by taking him somewhere or going out is supporting him.
if i were you i would comfort him..lend him a shoulder to cry on..and when your not having these serious talks i would try and have fun with him by going out and getting his mind off family problems..it would mean a lot just doing simple things like that
-melissa-
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there is nothing that John -himself- can do in that situation, it's really painful for him to have to sit there and watch stuff like that happen and not be able to do anything, but thats how it goes like that...
All you can do is be there for him, comfort him, and do the best that you can.
Best wishes to you and 'John'
~Kitsune Tokkan
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