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i have been together with my boyfriend for over two years but lately when he sleeps over in week-ends his cell phone rings up late at night...very late at night and when i picked it up the person hangs up.he denied knowing who is the caller, But yesterday he confessed that he knew who was calling and admitted to have been flirting aroundwith his friend's girlfriend.He says that it is partly my fault since he started to flirt with this girl only at the begining of this year after i had a one night stand in December.What should i do?I need advice.I do not want to leave him. (Indeed)
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It seems like hes trying to get some revenge. You can't do that to someone if you love them. If he told you he forgave you for this, and then is now trying to get revenge - well then not only is he untrustworthy but he is also a liar.
Personally, I'd find the girl and kick the living crap out of her if I found out she had been calling my boyfriend. But we dont condone violence now do we. So dont do that.
Tell your boyfriend that you want to know whats going on and you want to know now. Be forceful and dont take excuses or 'I dont know's' because clearly, he knows something.
If he admits that hes got something going on with this girl on the side then you probably already know what I'm going to say - dump his ass.
It may be two years of your life that you've spent with him, but there is no reason that someone else should make you constantly feel like its your fault that they do bad things. Revenge is never ever the answer in a relationship, it only leaves people hurt and resentful - a perfect opportunity for more revenge. Its a nasty cycle.
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hi
im a 14 yr old female. ive got a boyfriend and hes recently aske me 2 give him a blowjob. im scared my parents will find out
wat shud i do???
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If you're afraid then don't do it.
Don't let him force you into anything you don't want to do. And if you're worried about your parents finding out it may be because your too young to be alone somewhere with this guy long enough to be doing things like this.
It seems like you're more afraid of the task itself than your parents so that tells me your aren't ready. If you dont think your ready and your scared, then dont do it.
Also, this doesnt happen in every relationship. Dont feel like its something you HAVE to do.
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I like this boy in 6th grade I'm in 5th how do I talk to him without brely being able to speak? (Indeed)
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Just keep reminding yourself that hes just a boy. Guys really like a girl who can be herself around them and act natural and not nervous. Try to talk to him like you would talk to a friend or someone that you dont like in that way.
Try to make casual conversation and don't make it seem like you are trying too hard to get him to talk to you.
Maybe at your recess break you can have a ball roll over towards him and you can go over and pick it up. When you go to get it say sorry casually if the ball hit him. That way you have casually talked to him once already. After that if you see him you can say hello and see if he says hello back.
Just make sure it seems like hes just a boy and you arent interested in him. Eventually, he might start to like you because guys are strange like that! :)
good luck!
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Hey guyz! this may sound desperate, but r there n e guyz that are single and are 12,13, or 14. In ny or somewhere near ny? pleez answer. (Indeed)
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Do not meet people over the internet.
Who you think is a nice 14 year old boy may be a 45 year old man.
Dont ever meet someone over the internet. You'll only end up getting hurt. Be careful.
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i hate to ask too many questions but, in addition to my other problem, my parents are arguing every day and whenever they go near each other they yell and get mad. Does this mean they are going to divorce or is it possible they will work things out? (Indeed)
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People that spend their lives together always together ALWAYS tend to fight. Its completely normal, in fact, I think it would be strange if a married couple didnt fight.
If they get mad ALL the time, there may be some problems that they need to work out. Divorce is the result of two people deciding that there is absolutely no way that they can be together anymore, this is an extreme. Parents won't just jump right into getting a divorce if they are having problems. They will try and work it out and no matter what happens - you should learn something from the experience.
Make sure you show your parents that you value their love because it may make their entire day better to hear that and if they are happier then they might not feel the need to fight so much.
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OKay. I'll try to keep this short. Can I getpregnant from not having sex or giving a guy a head? Like I have not done ANYTHING sexual and I for some reason feel like I'm pregnant. Like maybe this guy just touched his penis then he ate chips then he gave the rest of the chips to me. Could I get pregnant from that??? pLEASE tell me cause i'm 10 and I DO NOT want to be pregnant!!!!!!! (Indeed)
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Wow. Intriguing :)
Your stomach acid destroys the sperm if you were to give oral sex to a guy. But your 10 so dont do that.
Sperm die relatively quickly when exposed to the air (something around err 3 minutes I think). So even if you put the chips in your genitals (umm I grossed myself out there) you would have just about no chance of getting pregnant.
Lastly, you are only 10. Even if you have had your period already it doesn't necessarily mean you are ovulating and producing mature eggs. As well, a person as young as ten is still far too under developed to have the likelihood of carrying a baby to full term anyhow.
Don't have sex and you wont be pregnant :)
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my son's at home crying all alone on the bedroom floor, cuz he's lonely. and the only way to feed him is to sleep with a man for a little bit of money. and his daddy's gone, someone smoking rock now, in and out of lockdown. i ain't got a job now.
this is what i call life.
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Congratulations thats a song! :P
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i am a female and am in high school.i have a good friend. she hangs out with me at school and is really nice to me when we're alone or with the friends we both share. she ignores me in class though, when she is with her popular best friend. but, when we are alone she tells me how this friend has hurt her in the past and is still hurting her. i am always nice to her, but it seems like she doesn't want people to know she is that close with me. what should i do? (Indeed)
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I have had friends like this before and despite how much fun you might be having, if this girl pretends like she doesnt know you around certain people well then - she isnt a good friend at all. I think you should tell her about it first and be firm about what you are saying - dont allow her to think its okay for her to ignore you, because its not. Tell her that if she doesnt treat you like a friend in front of everyone that you dont think you can still be friends anymore. Also, if she talks badly about someone who is supposed to be a good friend of hers then she isnt really all that trustworthy and who knows what she says about other people, even you.
There are plenty of people who will treat you SO much better! Let her know that you arent going to take that kind of treatment!
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how do i talk to a boy if i don't know his name? (Indeed)
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Use that as an excuse to talk to him. Ask him his name and then you can strike up a conversation.
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i am 19. i am in a 5 year relationship and we have a one year old son together. i am going to college to be a nurse. lately there have been a lot of problems between my b/f and i. well i was going to move out, until i found out that i am pregnant. now i have cancelled my new apartment and am staying here for now. i know that we will not be together forever and i do not want to raise two kids alone. i am considering abortion and have an appointment scheduled for next friday. my b/f wants the baby and is excited. everyone in our family already knows that we are expecting again. i am too young to give up my life completely. i do not know what to do. if anyone has any advice i would really appreciate it. by the way, i am 8 weeks pregnant and due on christmas. PLEASE HELP (Indeed)
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This is a huge decision for you, clearly and a decision that has to be made with 3 people in mind. First and most important is yourself - will you be able to have (physically) another child? Is it going to kill you (stress wise, or even the labour itself), will you be able to go back into college later to become a nurse (good for you by the way)? Second is the baby's father. Will it really crush him to not have this baby? Is he taking your needs into account before deciding what he wants? Has he asked you if you have doubts about having the baby? Will he be willing to care for the baby a lot and take on the responsibility and support you greatly? Will he respect your wishes should you decide on abortion?
Next is your baby. This is very hard and I'm really sorry that I even have to mention this. Its hard enough as it is. But... would this baby be better off not coming into the world? (would it be neglected for time because of yours and your boyfriends responsibilities - and not really 'neglect' but would it really get the large amount of attention it really needs)
Should you choose to have the baby, there are always way to manage going to school. I hope that you decide this based on your own wishes and make sure you take into account the feelings of your boyfriend too. Dont worry about the feelings of your family really, because what is important now is your own health and the health of that new life.
If you find that you are leaning more towards having an abortion, then make damned sure you go over every reason as to why and be incredibly sure this is what you want because after its done well - then its done. It may be something you regret for a very long (I'm sorry I'm not trying to depress you or something, just honesty and all) and you may feel later that you should have had the baby.
Talk to your boyfriend and get his input BUT remember, having another little one might not be as bad as you forsee and one day it might be the best thing in your life. The truth is you never really know, so make sure you think about this and are very sure about what you'd like to do.
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i have been with my bf for 4 & a half years and we have a baby together. our whole relationship has been a lot of fighting. he gets so jealous and he will rip my clothes, sometimes hit, and he calls me a bitch and a slut when he is pissed off. i am 20 and he is 22. i feel i am too young to deal with all of this, even though we have our good times. i have attempted to leave him several times but am scared of change and i never go through with it. he will also put me down in front of our friends and family to make himself look good. should i finally just give up or should i stick with it for my son? and if i do decide to leave how do i do it? (Indeed)
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This is a tough decision that only you can make for yourself. Its a tough spot and theres a fine line between needing to work hard to make things work and where there is just no hope for the relationship.
From what you have told me - its not worth your anguish and upset to be with this guy. The fact that you are expressing such a question kinda gives me the indication that you've already made up your mind that you want out of the relationship, but would really like some assurance that its a good idea.
Your son should not grow up in a family where the mother is put down by the father constantly, or told she is not good enough. This will become second nature to your son and he may grow up with the idea that that sort of thing is okay because nothing was done about the situation.
You are clearly not happy. In my opinion you shouldnt stay with anyone who you dont feel safe to even be around.
Your son will be fine so long as he knows he is loved and sees both his father and mother.
You deserve much better. You dont have to put up with that in your life and no one should ever have to be put down. No one has the right to do that. That kind of behaviour makes me believe that this guy might have a negative effect on his son if he were living with him. He may do the same to your son or he may teach your son that its okay to do that to others.
Its not. So do the world a huge favour and instill in your son the idea that putting other people down and treating them like they arent worth anything is wrong and that he should never ever treat someone like that.
I hope that you will decide to leave for sure this time. Dont be afraid of change - think of what your life could be like without being told you arent good enough and imagine the men out there that could treat you right. Get out of there, you are worth so much more than that.
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i'm 14 and i've had sex 15 times with 16 different people(threesome) and 13 of them are members of my family(aunts, uncles, cousins, mom, dad, sister, brother, dog, etc.) and now i might be pregnant and i don't know who the father is(obviously not girls) what if it's like half dog? is that possible? HELP ASAP
thanx
write back asap (Indeed)
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If you've engaged in sexual activity between yourself and your immediate family then that is a crime. This is clearly a joke but hey why not get some input in.
First of all - you never had sex with a dog did you? What did you do roll it over? Thats disgusting and horribly mind-numbing.
I would watch that kid closely if you do have a child because its grandparents might try to have sex with it.
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Hi, right now I'm 14 and my boobs have stopped growing. I wear like an AA30 which is realy small and embarrasing. I was thinking about over the summer I could try some breats enlargement pills. I searched and the best place I could find is Small Breast Solutions.com Do you think I should try these. I'm sure I want to (for myself) so I can feel what it is like to be a girl. (I know I sound stupid.) I asked my mom and she is okay with it. I know the ingreadients and I know I know what I'm doing. I think it is better than plastic surgery (whith all the bad outcomes.) But I'm not sure about my friends and this guy who is my really close friend. (I told them I had stopped growing.) (Guys how would you feel if a girl you knew was using this?)I'm not going to tell anyone. Thank you so much for advice! (Indeed)
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This is definitely a see-the-doctor-situation. I know that you might not grow anymore, but there is still a good chance you will.
Ask your doctor and if your doctor says its not a good idea then there are most likely a great deal of health risks.
Hey maybe there will be no risks, or maybe there will be. The problem is that you can't trust the website selling the enlargement pills to tell you the risks to your health.
If your friends are really your friends and this is something you need to feel good about yourself well then - they'll support you.
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does anyone know a really good recipe for a dinner [preferably vegatarian, but if it's not that's OK] that could feed a family of 5 or 6? (Indeed)
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This one looks really yummy and serves 6
http://www.cooking.com/recipes/static/recipe235.htm
That website is great for recipes so you should browse around for some more ideas.
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ok theres thsi boy at school and i really like him i dont know him that well but he comes over to my house to swim and stuff cuz he lives by me.. ok wut i was gonna ask is what is something like cool to talk about iwht him im not a nerd so i dont talk about books movies crap like that,, he is popular and im kinda popular and i think he thinks im hott and stuff and he isw always pancing me but i need a good conversation to talk to about with him like soemthing horn or soemthign cuz we are both horny and i just dont know that to say when he comes over or when i seee him at school PLASE HELP!!! (Indeed)
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Can I just point out that you probably arent all that horny at 14.
And talking about movies and books does make you a nerd - it makes you an intelligent human being. Give it a try it might work.
Talk about what interests you - if he is right for you he will understand and join in the conversation or at least want to know more about what you are discussing.
If that doesnt work then ask him about himself and ask not overly personal questions like 'what are your hobbies?' 'do you play any sports?'
Questions like that so that he knows you are interested as well as you will get to know him a bit better.
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hi. im 13 years old and i weigh 185 pounds. pretty unhealthy,huh. don't mention how i look. in not fat, but i wiegh a lot. how can i eat healthy and excersise? what tips do you have for a girl like me that likes a boy like me?HELP!!!!! what exscersises should i do for my butt, abs, legs, arms, etc???
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Well, an important piece of information would be your height. We need that.
Since you are 13 - I'd say stay away from exercising yourself to feeling thin. You are only 13 and your body hasn't really got to make all the changes it needs to. You might grow a whole lot soon and you will need that weight to be healthy as you get taller.
If you really feel the need to exercise then try jogging. There is no harm in jogging as long as you go with someone else like a parent. Everyone should jog it gets you some fresh air and exercise and its very relaxing.
Try not to force your body to be something when your body hasnt had a chance to change and grow yet.
Eat healthy.
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IS a gigolo the same thing as a prostitute but it's a guy? (Indeed)
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I'd have to say yes.
And yes, thats my expert opinion.
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Let's say you are in a store or some other public place and you see a kid running around, maybe doing something dangerous, like climbing on something unstable. Is it ok to say something to the kid if you happen to be nearby? I would tell the kid "That is dangerous. Don't do that." And then, ask the child, "Where is your mommy or daddy?" Then find them, and tell them what their child was doing. Some parents get really pissed off and might tell me to mind my own business, but I can't in all good conciousness stand by and do nothing when there is a child at risk. My husband was in a situation like this when we were in a thrift store and he saw a bunch of kids running around unsupervised, taking all the toys out of some bins, and climbing on things. He said one child almost fell. I said he should have said something to her. He said that there was also a baby in a stroller sleeping that the mom was not watching. The baby was in a corner while the mom shopped in the middle of the store. That is so stupid. It makes me so angry to see this kind of thing. If my child was running around and doing something dangerous, I would not be in the least offended if another adult helped to make me aware of the situation as long as they were polite. But then again, I keep a good eye on my daughter because she is precious to me. I remember panicing when I couldn't find her for a few minutes at a park. A parent found her playing with another child. Does anyone have any insight on this, or have been involved in a situation like this? What would you do? (Indeed)
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This is a tough judgement call I'd say. The problem is that you don't *really* know the parents normal behaviour and they of course could have just lost sight of the kids and this was maybe a one time thing. However, the chance is still there that it isn't a one time thing, that maybe these kids are ignored.
The reality is that each kid you see wandering a store on its own could be a child of neglect, and has about the same chance of being a lost child or a child who ran off from their parents. There is really little way to tell the difference. I would say do whatever you think is right at the time, scold the kids if you have to for doing something wrong or tell a store manager that the kids are endangering themselves and causing havoc about the store. Even if you do this, the kids may just turn around and do it again because after all they are just kids right. The next option is to find their parents. You never ever want to scold a parent or tell them that they're not doing their job as a parent well. That won't solve anything. Just let them know extremely politely that you found someone they might want back galavanting around the store and gauge their reaction to what you have said. If they are grateful for your effort then you will know that the kids are fine. If the parents tell you its rude for you to act that way - well then you should just remind yourself that they are clearly rude and that you shouldnt be turned away from helping by a few rude parents. If they react in a way that shows they couldnt care less well then - this is a problem. However, the most you could do is find out their name and if you can manage to find out their name AND think that the situation is very bad for the children - then call children's services. There isn't much more you can do. The parents are certainly not going to change their attitude or parenting style just because one person tells them to but you certainly cant allow a child to live in danger. So dont just let that one go.
I dont see how, if done in a polite tasteful way, that this wouldnt be a good idea. If you get snapped at by some grumpy parents - remind yourself that eventually it is going to make a difference, especially to parents who dont want to deal with a stranger again - they might keep the kids closer.
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My husband and I work tough, long shifts at separate jobs. We come home around the same time and are both exhausted. We were thinking about children but I cant imagine how we could even see eachother at all if that were a reality. I'd love to have time together. I've talked to my supervisor and she has informed me that I can switch to morning shifts but I am afraid my husband no longer cares enough to switch to morning shifts as well so we can have the evening together.
I usually start at 2 and he starts at about 12-2 depending on the day. We always seem to sleep in the mornings. (Indeed)
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Talk to your husband. He may be feeling the exact same way as you are. Dont be afraid to ask whether he wants to make the effort because he should be willing 100%
Dont let this go or it will be too late.
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My husband and I live in Southern California and it's so expensive to live here. I don't want to move to another state because I would miss my family. We live in a small noisy city that is not so great but not terrible either. We would like to move to a better neighborhood. Our 2-bedroom is fine for us and our daughter who is almost 5 but we are thinking about having another child, and would like our kids to have separate rooms. Also, this street is very noisy. We went last night to look at a mobile home. It was nice and it even came with beautiful furniture. It wasn't as small as my husband thought it would be, but the bedrooms were kind of small. But after talking to the realtor, he found out that the rent on the space plus the loan payments would be too much for us. He is a mail carrier and I work part-time at a restauraunt. We were really dissapointed and depressed. I was kind of mad at him too, because he acted all enthusiastic to the realtor and then told me it was too much. I didn't hear what was said about the space fee, so I had no idea until we got back in the car to leave. Do you have any suggestions? Would a forclosure be better? My husband says we can't afford that either but I think he is just being negative. (Indeed)
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There are always options. Talk to a bank manager or loan specialist at the bank. If they honestly believe that there are no options for you then I suggest you start scrimping and saving and wait on the idea of another child.
The reason I say wait on the child idea is that you wont be able to save money if you are having a new baby and you will be taking time off work as well. All these things mean less money and I realize money isnt everything but in reality- it means a lot. So you need to save and consider a new budget for the family and make sure you talk to the bank personnel and see what they have to say about the situation. There are some really beneficial loan payment plans out there that might help you.
If the baby doesnt want to wait (things happen! :D) then there shouldnt be an enormous issue if the kids have to stay in the same room for a short period of time or until you save up to get the space fees for the mobile home.
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