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well im 14/f and i think i cuss alot.you know when you cuss axcedently and you say "it slipped right out of my mouth"!-well mine slip out of my mouth a flippn lot!!!! i meen its not like every word out of my mouth is a cussing word but its almost like at the worst moments to curse, i accedently curse!i find myself etheir cacthing myself about to curse or accually cursing when im around adults alot which is bad!i meen its not like i disrespectvly cuss, i just kinda add cussing words in some of my sentences.like today i was talking to some of my friends and we were waching j/v try-outs and there was this 1st grader sittn like 7 feet away from us and i was talking and i said"what the hell are you talking about" to one of my friends and she had to point out to me that there was a little kid like right near me-then like 10 min. later my friend called me stupid for some reason and i said"well your a dumb ass"! and i forgot the lil kid was still there!even though i know he prob didnt hear me i think i really need to control myself because i have one friend whos very religious and i axccedently said god danmet in front of her and she kinda got a lil mad and told me not to say it anymore and my other friends dont like that word etheir even though their not that religious.im not religious at all but i would like to try not to say it around my friends cause i dont want them to get upset with me or think that i am a bad person because i used the lords name in vain! i just would really like some tips on how to control my cussing. i meen i know prob every teenager cusses but i just cuss at the wrong times! i meen i got caught cussing infront of my mom and dad! my mom didnt realy care that much but my dad made me wash my mouth out with sope!sooo any tips would help! thanx!!

Keep a curse jar. Everytime you curse you have to put a dollar in there. You'll lose so much money you'll have to stop to save money. When you're completely finished with your cursing problem use the money to buy yourself something nice.

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why do i find myself being mean or not as caring about my home life/family members/friends and "nice" to strangers/aquantinces/people that dont matter as much? its not about reputation or anything. is it just easier to be mean to them because they know youre just tired or something

I think it's because you know they usually will forgive you and acceot you back. People you don't know won't be as forgiving.

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What does "milf" stand for?

Mother I Love to Fuck. Stupid phrase.

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Recently ive been thinking alot about death, and its nearly at a point where its uncontrollable.
i dont know why but im really afraid of whats going to happen in the afterlife, if there is one. ive made alot of mistakes in my life before, and i keep on thinking that will affect what will happen.
at night i often think about it and start crying.
i used to want to die because of personal issues, but now i want to keep on living forever.
someone please help me :( i feel really paranoid!!

1 John 1:9-10 (NRSV) "If we confess our sins, he who is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us."

Actions are not what counts in the Father's eyes. Repentance does. As long as you are sorry for your sins you will be excepted into the kingdom of Heaven.

Furthermore, Heaven has to exist. Why you might ask? Because energy can never be created, nor destroyed. Therefore, our energy as humans wouldn't be able to be destroyed after death. At least this is what I believe.

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I had sex two weeks ago yesterday. My period starts on the 21...it's the 25th and I haven't had it..

It's possible you are. There are things that could cause your period to be late like stress, excessive excersise, and malnutrition. However, you should take a pregnancy test to be safe.

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14/f

My boyfriend wants to have sex, he's BEEN ready actually. And I've been together with him for about 4 months. The thing is, I want to, but yet I don't. I don't want to end up regretting it. It's kind of hard for me to explain why I don't want to do it with him too. I mean, I don't just want to get loose my virginity like it's nothing, seriously. -_____-" I don't want to end up regretting it, it might change my life in some what way, I think I'm too young, and it's also too early, well I just don't really want to. He bought condoms just in case also, and he says that if I'm not ready, he'll wait until I am.

But should I? My decisions go Yes & No now and then. >.

If you're not sure, you're not ready. Don't do it.

Aside from the fact that you aren't sure and that should automatically sound an alarm, you're too young. You are 14 years old and have your whole life ahead of you. What if the condom breaks and you get pregnant? I guarentee your parents will not be happy, and you won't be either.

Furthermore, at 14 you aren't mentally ready for sex. Yes, puberty means your body is, but your brain isn't. Sex is a huge step in a relationship. Also, be honest with yourself. How many relationship REALLY last at 14? Not many. So wait for the one who will wait for you. It will be worth it.

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okay so my boyfriend is only a year older but a year is a lot with us because im going into seventh grade and he is going into eighth. He always tells me about how his best friend got to third in a cemetery and stuff and well i know that he wants to go farther too. and if he tries to touch my boobs or take off my shirt i always tell him no because i dont want him to see the stretch marks on my boobs. what should i do.

thanks xox

First off, everyone gets stretch marks. It's part of life. He should be mature enough to understand that.

However, if you are still self-concious, you tell him no and expect him to live with that answer. If he doesn't, then he doesn't respect you and you should really break up with him.

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think of your DREAM house.
and tell me something about it.
something special.
dont tell me "it has a living room"
tell me something different about it.
like how the hall, is a hall of mirrors.
or how the fifth floor is a paintball range or something.
or even somthing about the outside.
how all the windows are shaped like bongs.
or your secret garden right before the bar on the beach.
:)
things like that.
thankk yoouuu

It would have a nice grand piano in the forier. Just like BAM! right when you walk in.

Outside it would have beautiful gardens that seem endless. Kinda like Versailles (a chateau in France that the King and Queen used to live in). If you searched hard enough you'd find weird things in it like waterfalls, paintings, and random animals.

It would actually just be a replica of Versailles. Except with the piano in the forier and a recording studio in the basement.

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What kind of colours can make someone look thinner?

Black. Basically any dark color.

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what does everyone think are good baby names for a boy and a girl. give as many as u want. thanks to all!!

Girls:
Margueritte
Antionette
Tiffany
Jennifer
Loreli
Theresa
Chiara (pronounced key-r-ah)

Boys:
Ryder
Kyle
Troy
Chad
Talan

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okay so the other night, i met up with my new boyfriend at this elementary school thats close to our house to just hang out. my younger sis came, and two of his friends and mine that i knew from 7th grade ( we're all in 11th now) were there too. now its been since june that ive seen him because he was in nc with his sister, staying with his dad for a large portion of the summer since his parents are divorced.
so my sis and i were there and my boyfriend is in the middle of giving me a hug when we see my dads car pull up. he gets out and its soo obvious he was mad.
so my sister and i get home, and my dad lectures me telling me that i should call and tell him who i hang out with. and he was also bugged about how my boyfriend "had his paws on me"
My mom gets home from work that night and the first thing she did was come in my room and ask for my cell phone. i give it to her because i knew she would look at it to see if there were any from him.
later that night, she was saying how she doesnt want me hanging out with scum like him. she assumes that since his friend isnt big into education like we are that my boyfriend is the same.
she is finding every possible reason for herself to not like him. since im going into a better private school that costs well over 10 grand, she believes he's going to "distract" me from getting good grades.
yesterday she was mentioning how i should date people who have money and are close with their family. this really made me angry because back when my mom and dad were dating, my dad couldnt afford much and he was not close with his family.
shes basicaly told me she doesnt want me to see him. my boyfriend and i have known each other since 7th grade but we've been talking for about a year and before he left for NC we were quite close and we have strong feelings for each other. we've both decided to fight through all this.
I justt need help with how i can convince my mom to allow me to hang out with him?
has this happened to you before? what did you do?
thanks very much.

Talk to your mom. Tell her you really like this guy and you want her to give him a chance. Say that if he does distract you from school she can forbid you from seeing him. Tell her she doesn't know him and that she would probably like him once she did. Also remember to mention this- she needs to trust you. You know who to hang out with and who not to.

After this, she may agree or she may scream and yell. If she screams and yells write it in a note and give it to her once she calms down.

As for your second question, no, I've never been in this situation. However, I know how to deal with parents.

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so im throwing this huge party tonight for the primere of high school musical 2. its gonna be great [duh zac is such a cutie!] but i need some suggestions on what to do at the party. what food should i serve, what decorations, what to do at commercials,and DUH...what size posters of zacky wacky should I hang on every inch of the movie room!!!!!!!!!.... etc. i really need it to be quick because its gonna be tonight so pleaseeeee reply ASAP!!!
thanks!!! :]

Well, first off you need to invite me. Just kidding.

For food try:
-Pizza
-Hamburgers
-Hot Dogs
-Chicken
-Popcorn during the movie
-Candy during the movie
-CAKE (maybe with a nice picture of Zac on it)
-Ice cream
-Chips (personally, I hate chips, but everyone else likes them)
-Carrots (because there are health freaks in the world =])
-Celery

For decorations hang pictures of the cast up. Maybe make signs with lyrics from the songs on it. Streamers too.

During commercials have a sing a long! Do you have the music from the first one? If not download in from iTunes. I believe you can buy the soundtrack from the second one already off of iTunes too.

Any size posters will do.

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Okay this may sound stupid to some...but here's my problem.

My husband and I have been married for three years. I love him very much. He's 26 now and I'm 23. I just graduated from Harvard.

My husband comes from a rather welathy family and once he graduated from Harvard he took over his father's company.

Recently he just expanded the company and I really have no clue what that means, but he's so busy now and always so stressed out.

I just found out I am around one month pregnant a few days ago, and I'm so happy, but the thing is I don't know if my husband will be... Landon and I have discussed having children, but we didn't plan for this. He suspects something is wrong...I can rarely hide my feelings from him.

It's just that he's so busy right now and it would break my heart if he wasn't happy about the baby. He told me things would be hectic for a while with his company, he's always gone before I wake up and he comes home around 2:00 AM and sometimes I wait up for him...even though he tells me not to.

Should I tell him now? I probably won't start showing for a few more months. Would it really hurt to wait until he isn't so busy and stressed out with running a whole company. I really don't want to be selfish, because I know that if I told him he would stay home with me and become so overprotective and want to be with me every second.

He already feels bad that we don't have that much time to spend together right now. He says he feels as if he's neglecting me...and being a bad husband. That makes me sad because he's not.

Anyway, should I tell him or not? I don't want him to hinder the whole company because of me, and I guess I'm also kind of scared he'll react badly towards the baby. What if he doesn't want it...


Anyone who can help, please do, and thank you so much.

-Gianna

It's best to tell him now. It is his child too. I can almost guarentee that he will be more angry if you wait longer to tell him. He needs to know immediately. Yes, things are hetic and stressful, but this way he can start planning his schedule around the baby. He loves you. I highly doubt he would be resentful towards the baby.

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ok im a 14 year old girl and i havent started my peroid yet. i ride horses does that effect any thing ??

If you ride horses everyday for hours without end then yes. Excessive excersise delays your period. However, I highly doubt your ride horses that much so you are probably fine. Your body is programmed to know when to start you period.

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I just got snakebites and like them,but now would like some feedback as to what type of object should i use and which would look nicer?

1)silver rings

2)silver studs

3)black studs

now i'm having black studs,but i'm open to any suggestions,is black or silver better?

Silver rings. The rings look better, in my opinon.

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i just started my period what do i do?

Put a pad in your panties. If you don't know how to use a pad ask your mom or another adult female you trust. Other than that, act normally and do what you would usually do. If you have any pain take either Mydol, Tylenol, or Ibeprofein. (Sorry for my lack of spelling ability for the medicine).

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Yeah! So the title means what is going on in your life. Often times it makes me feel better when I read that other people have problems and that I'm not the only one who is going through a dark and lonely stage. Okay so what are you going through? I would really love to know how life's been treating you even if you're happy. I really want to know. Please don't get offened by my question.

Nothing is wrong with me.

I'm happier than I can ever remembering being. This summer I learned of a movie called "The Secret." It will change your life! It's about how you are in total control of everything in your life. The happier your thoughts are the happier you will be!

Really, my life is good right now. I have good friends and had a great summer. I'm actually really looking foward to school. Yes, I've had bad times in the past and I used to be so caught up in making everyone happy. Then a quote from Little Miss Sunshine made it all better- "You do what you love, and fuck the rest."

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So i am 15 and i am going to my friend birthday party in 2 days. At the party there is not going to be alcohol or smoking or anything. But afterwards I am spending the night at her house with a whole bunch of people and there is gonna be drinking and smoking and i already know i don't want to smoke but I am iffy on the drinking. My friend told me I didn't have to but I would feel kind of left out so I kinda want to. Do you think its a bad idea? or should I enjoy my youth?

Enjoy your youth!

But doesn't use alcohol.

Really it is your decision to drink or not. None of your friends or anyone on this site can decide for you. Yes, I said don't drink, but that is my opinon. You have your own. When making your decision keep these things in mind:

-underage drinking kills brain cells
-teens generally don't feel it when they start getting a little drunk, therefore, they drink more and end up totally wasted
-alcohol effects judgement
-if you do something really stupid your parents are bound to find out

So do you think you should do it?

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Me and my BFF(rachel) both like the same guy(Zach). I know she is angry that i flirt w/ him. I get angry when she flirts w/ him. Yes, i have talked to her about what would happen if one of us went out w/ him. She says shes fine w/ it. But it was so obvious that she wasn't a few days ago(when we had a "party" and he was there). I feel really bad about flirting w/ him and i have nightmares about me going out with him and kissing and she gets angry and runs away and never speaks to me again.

I am going to ask him if he likes one of us this weekend. Is there any way that IF he likes me that i can go out w/ him and still make my friend happy???? I know it's complicated buyt please help. Any advice is GREATLY appreciated!!!

You both should agree to not go out with him. Even if he likes the other way. There is no way for her not to get hurt if you go out with him. She will be angry at you and it can potientally ruin the friendship. If she starts to like someone else more then you can go out with him.

However, until then you and her should make an agreement that neither of you will go out with him so no one can get hurt. In the long run, it's much better. Honestly, neither of your relationships with this boy would last very long because in middle school and high school they typically do not. So why let a boy that you'll go out with for a month or two ruin your friendship?

I was in a situation like this once and it was good that my friend and I agreed not to go with him.

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me and my friend are trying to think of nicknames
like one of us could be mac and one could be cheese, but we dont wana use that, like what could work? like peanut butter & jelly

Chich and Chong

Lucy and Ethel

Pack and Age. Like Package because you come together! Hah, I'm lame

Salt and Pepper

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