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why do we always hurt the ones we love?
why do i find myself being mean or not as caring about my home life/family members/friends and "nice" to strangers/aquantinces/people that dont matter as much? its not about reputation or anything. is it just easier to be mean to them because they know youre just tired or something
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You are very very right. Its easier to be mean to them because you feel that they should know your tired, or stressed out, or upset. And you feel that they will always forgive you and accept you back, because they already know you and whats going on. Where as being mean to a stranger makes you feel weird because they will automatically judge you off of that, and maybe hate you, or be mean to you, and assume things about you, that you generally wouldnt want someone to assume. We all do it, but that doesnt make it okay. Its really good that you realized that on your own. Now the next time you find yourself doing this, stop. Say "I'm sorry, I'm very tired and I dont mean to take it out on you." And there is your start. Apologize, let them know that you recognize your own problem and that you do love them and you are trying to better yourself, because of that. Family and friends are way more important than any ol' stranger, let them know that you know that. Good luck :]
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You are totally right, if you hurt someone you love you know that they won't hink bad of you and will forgive you. Its why we all do it, if you go upto a stranger and tell them to shut up they would probably be really offended but if you said the same thing to a friend or family member they wouldn't really mind.
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I think it's because you know they usually will forgive you and acceot you back. People you don't know won't be as forgiving.
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