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Okay this may sound stupid to some...but here's my problem.
My husband and I have been married for three years. I love him very much. He's 26 now and I'm 23. I just graduated from Harvard.
My husband comes from a rather welathy family and once he graduated from Harvard he took over his father's company.
Recently he just expanded the company and I really have no clue what that means, but he's so busy now and always so stressed out.
I just found out I am around one month pregnant a few days ago, and I'm so happy, but the thing is I don't know if my husband will be... Landon and I have discussed having children, but we didn't plan for this. He suspects something is wrong...I can rarely hide my feelings from him.
It's just that he's so busy right now and it would break my heart if he wasn't happy about the baby. He told me things would be hectic for a while with his company, he's always gone before I wake up and he comes home around 2:00 AM and sometimes I wait up for him...even though he tells me not to.
Should I tell him now? I probably won't start showing for a few more months. Would it really hurt to wait until he isn't so busy and stressed out with running a whole company. I really don't want to be selfish, because I know that if I told him he would stay home with me and become so overprotective and want to be with me every second.
He already feels bad that we don't have that much time to spend together right now. He says he feels as if he's neglecting me...and being a bad husband. That makes me sad because he's not.
Anyway, should I tell him or not? I don't want him to hinder the whole company because of me, and I guess I'm also kind of scared he'll react badly towards the baby. What if he doesn't want it...
Anyone who can help, please do, and thank you so much.
-Gianna
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You really need to tell him now. I understand how you feel, and that he's very busy and such. However, how would you feel if he didn't tell you something extremely important, that involves you, because you were stressed out and busy? Not very good. And this is very important, because it's a baby and it's his. So he has a right to know and soon, even though he is busy.
I think he would feel better too, if he knows soon. Also, he may get mad at you for not telling him and waiting so long. So I believe it's best to tell him now, I'm sure things will work out great.
By the way, congratulations on the baby! I hope it's healthy! =)
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It's best to tell him now. It is his child too. I can almost guarentee that he will be more angry if you wait longer to tell him. He needs to know immediately. Yes, things are hetic and stressful, but this way he can start planning his schedule around the baby. He loves you. I highly doubt he would be resentful towards the baby.
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Tell him right now.
The child is his as well, and he deserves an equal share in all the information you have pertaining to it.
There is no garentuee that things will be less stressful in a few months. They very likely could be MORE stressful. Better he knows he has a child on the way right now, so that he can plan for it and make the time he wants to be able to have with his new baby.
Remember the two of you are in this togeather. He has a right to know. Give him a break if he responds a bit negatively at first, he sounds quite stressed out, but he should come around to it. If he doesn't, well, better you know he is a jerk now, then find it out three months from now.
Congratulations and best of luck!
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I think you should tell him. Now.
The more time he has to straighten out his job so he can spend time with his expanding family, the better. If you wait and wait to tell him, he may be resentful that you didn't say something sooner.
Since he is busy and stressed over his company, then news like this can make him feel happy and excited in his family life, possibly canceling out some of the anxiety he feels about work.
If he hinders the whole company, it will not be because of you. It will be because he feels family is far more important than work (a good thing).
If he reacts badly towards the baby and doesn't want it, then he is really not as good of a husband as you think he is. Surely he won't have that sort of reaction.
You do need to tell him right away. You don't want to hide things from your husband, especially something as big and exciting as this.
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I aksed most men I know, and they all replied that if something like that was going on, they would rather know.
Dont know if that helps.
My opinion is that, its a good time of your lifes, Harvard Graduation, Expanding company, settling down and starting a new chapter of your life...I d advice you to tell him.
Besides, the baby is also a part of him and it seems kind of wrong not to tell him.
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Well, I think that you should wait just a little longer. Just until things start beggining to calm down. I know that his job is really hectic. But plan something with him. Like a little picnic. You can go some where romantic. And you can break the news there. I m pretty sure he'd be happy. I mean, what person wouldn't be happy when they're hving a kid. But he doesn't seem too excited, give it time. Maybe when he sees you and you start showing he'll probably get more into it.
Hoped I helped. And best of luck to your family.
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