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Added on to another question i deleted.
Me and my BFF(rachel) both like the same guy(Zach). I know she is angry that i flirt w/ him. I get angry when she flirts w/ him. Yes, i have talked to her about what would happen if one of us went out w/ him. She says shes fine w/ it. But it was so obvious that she wasn't a few days ago(when we had a "party" and he was there). I feel really bad about flirting w/ him and i have nightmares about me going out with him and kissing and she gets angry and runs away and never speaks to me again.
I am going to ask him if he likes one of us this weekend. Is there any way that IF he likes me that i can go out w/ him and still make my friend happy???? I know it's complicated buyt please help. Any advice is GREATLY appreciated!!!
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You both should agree to not go out with him. Even if he likes the other way. There is no way for her not to get hurt if you go out with him. She will be angry at you and it can potientally ruin the friendship. If she starts to like someone else more then you can go out with him.
However, until then you and her should make an agreement that neither of you will go out with him so no one can get hurt. In the long run, it's much better. Honestly, neither of your relationships with this boy would last very long because in middle school and high school they typically do not. So why let a boy that you'll go out with for a month or two ruin your friendship?
I was in a situation like this once and it was good that my friend and I agreed not to go with him.
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Well answer to your feedback is, that truthfully, there's isn't really a way to change your friend's mind. I mean we all wish we can do that but sadly that won't happen until she sees that you are her true friend and she should respect that. I know trying to talk is hard because you tried but next time she gets mad, ask her and tell her, "why are you always getting upset when I flirt? I dont get mad at you for flirting. It's a fair game you know." So I think the best way to do is, just figure out who HE likes so you guys can settle for sure. If he likes you then she should leave it as that. No question asked. hope this helped :)
and oh yeah about being alone, here's a great idea to find out if he likes you and get him alone. Ask him to hang out. If he wants to invite other usual people, simply say, "i was hoping that it would be just you and me" and if he seems eager then he likes you. And there, you can pop the question about who he likes. Of course tell him you like him first though.
I know what you mean, guy coming between two best friends. I was in that situations a lot actually. My friends and I always seem to have same taste in guys. Personally i have never lost a friend over that whether the guy chose my best friend or when a guy chose me. I mean it might make her very jealous but if she is your friend she would be happy for you and not try to ruin what you have with the guy. I mean there was a time when me and my best friend really liked this guy and we both agreed that if one of us gets it, we should be happy for each other and be thankful that at least its one of us getting the guy. The guy chose my best friend, I was jealous i must admit but soon I saw i shouldn;t feel jealous. I mean it was agreed on and I was beginning to feel very happy for her. Hope this helped :)
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i think that if she was a true friend she would not care if you went out with him and understood that he likes you more than he does her and if you ask him this weekend and he says he likes your friend you shood consider the same she wood have to you cant do anything bout it dont try to conflict the relashonship becuz it would break u to up over a silly boy hope i helped :P leave a comment
♥ lesha
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