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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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What other p2p progarms are there besides Limewire and DC++.
I believe that both of them suck I never ever found a song on them.

I use MP3 Rocket, but I think my brother deleted it because it was taking up space on our computer. Anyways, it was really good.

ok two of my "friends" have been calling me a whore to my face and behind my back because i kissed a guy at a dance who was my date and we were not going out because he is not ready for commitment(and i did not know that at the time) and also because i have guy friends who are kinda touchy feelly but are just my friends please someone tell me what to do.

I'd punch them in the face. Or just stop being friends with them. Nobody's perfect, and I'm sure they're not either, so remind them of that since they obviously think that they're better than you.

i died my hair to day and my best friend thinks i look kinda of ugly what should i do??????
helppp

Who cares what she thinks? As long as you like it, then it doesn't matter.

ok well im Sam and im 13 yrs old and ihave a little problem. recently i started liking a guy named jesse. Hes really nice, funny, and just great to be with. ive known him for a yr or so but weve only recently become close. i told him i like him and it didnt really change anything. he makes it seem like he likes me all the time, he hugs me and flirts, ect. but then wen i asked him he said he doesnt like me..so i thought he just wanted to be friends and was ok with it. but now some of his friends r telling me that he is not sure if he like me or not. but ive asked him if he likes someone and he said he doesnt rite now. so im confused because im not gonna ask him out or anything like that. because i was already hurt once before by him wen he said he didnt like me. i knew i should stop liking him because it wouldnt work out but now im not so sure bout it. and if he is just afraid of commitment or too shy then i dont know wat to do... any suggestions? thanx

It sounds like he's starting to regret telling you that he didn't like you. Maybe he does but doesn't know how to tell you. Or maybe he's shy & afraid to get into a relationship. But he could be just messing around with your head & making you think things that aren't true at all. I would talk to him about it. You can't rely on what other people are saying. Ask for yourself, because he's truthfully the only one who can tell you.

My best guy friend lead me on for about 2 months, and I fell for him. Now he's completely ditched me, and it hurts. I've been dealing for about a month and a half with the grieving process. Usually I'm fine, but some nights everything comes to me and I'll just breakdown. How long do you think this will keep going on? I'm dying here.

Do things that take your mind off of him. It'll help.

19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?

If Blake is perfect for you, why would you ruin that? You said not to rant, and I'm not, but you're right. You're being a skank & honestly, you really don't deserve either guy. You've cheated on Blake a lot, and time after time he's been giving you more chances. Well, what's gonna happen when Nate gets tired of you? And what's gonna happen when Blake sees through your "Babe, I'm so freaking sorry."'s? Then what? You're not gonna have either them & the only one to blame will be yourself. If you love Blake like you say you do, you'll stop tramping around like a stupid bimbo & ignore Nate.

Basically, just get some counseling, because you obviously need it.

SHORT VERSION: the best friend likes me, how do i let him off without breaking his heart.

so me and my best guy friend (imma girl duh) have been tight since 8th grade and now were in 10th and last night on the way home from the fair he gave me a note saying he likes me and knows its not gunna happen tho and how it sucks so bad etc...well yeah, hes right its not gunna happen because i dont like him like that...how do i let him off without hurting him and still keeping my buddy around..

Well, you could tell him how you feel, that you'd like it better if you guys were just friends. Or, you could try & see how it was that way you didn't know what you were missing out on. Because you might just actually grow to like him, and then you're gonna regret saying no.

has anybody sold their game cube at game stop or eb games and if you have how much did they give you for:
~the system
~the controller
~the memory card
~and the games

It depends on what shape the system & controllers are in, and how much space your memory card holds. If the games are scratched, you won't get much for them. Make sure everything is in good condition. If it is, you'll probably get 50 bucks or more.

13/f~sum say i am sum say im not~i not sure if im depressed or goth or watever~i can never eat~but i am a unique girl brunette on the head blonde at heart~but im always either sad or mad always staring or staring at the ground exept for when im with either of my bffs an abused girl who in 2nd grade got drugs forced by her mom and lived on the streets for a week cause she mom got high and left her and a unique guy that we now love eachother~most of my clothes are black~i love rock and rap~i always wear a choker necklace~and im just confused im always mad or deppressed i guess~i cant see a phyciatrist im just confused.

I always look mad/sad or whatever too. But I'm not depressed. I stare at the floor too, and I stare off into space all the time. I'm not depressed. Usually I'm just thinking about something. I honestly don't think you are.

i'm 13 but I have wrinkes under my eyes (and i have good sleep but its been 3 months and it won't go away) and on the forhead! help!

Use coverup.

What do guys expect girls to do/act like
while they're fingering them? If they aren't
making out while they do it.

Usually, you just lay there. But you can makeout while he's fingering you too.

i kind of like this guy and he liked me too , we have kissed and madeout already, we barely get to see eachother though, but the other day he didnt want to hang out and he didnt IM me like he usually does, and we really havent talked for a while. do you think he just got sick of me and needs some space? should i give it time or just move on? im not really the type who likes to wait around so idk

I'd give it time. He probably needs his space.

i am way way way to jealous i dont trust my boyfriend at all and yes we have had some issues in the past but i need to get over them and just start to trust him .. if i even see a new girl on his myspace i question him and then if he leaves her a comment or a picture comment i get mad like how come he will leave her one but not me and i check his phone his email and i did check his myspace then he finally got sick of it and changed the password and wont give it to me which makes me furious that he would keep something from me because obviously he must be hiding something if he wants privacy .. please help me i dont know how to calm my jealousy

You really need to work on that. Everyone has problems with their boyfriend, but to the fact where you check his phone, his email, & his myspace? You're letting your jealousy get the best of you, and it's a good thing you've realized it. Your boyfriend has nothing to hide, he just doesn't want you invading his privacy. I'm sure you'd be pretty pissed off if your boyfriend did this to you. Just tell yourself that he's with you, and not with those other girls. Besides, if he wanted to be with them, don't you think he'd have dumped you by now?

the chocoloate phone is a v-cast phone, and i know with v cast you have to buy the songs. is there any way to put songs off my computer onto my chocolate phone?

thanks!

Yeah. Since it's an MP3 player, there's a special cord you'd have to buy to be able to synchronize the songs from your computer to your phone. I'd check the Verizon site for the accessories so you can see how much it is.

I have A's in English, History, and Art. My problem is in Pre-Calculus and Physics. I'm in 10th grade.

I feel really RETARDED when it comes to doing work in those classes.

I'm taking all Honors too, and I would drop out and take easier classes but unfortunately it's too late for that now.

I have gotten F's and D's on all my Pre-Cal tests, and we've only had one test in Physics and on that I got a 28%!! I couldn't believe myself and I had stayed awake ALL NIGHT studying. I don't know if cramming is the problem but sometimes cramming is the only solution as I'm busy with the other classes. I don't know...

Basically:
- I don't understand what the frick any of my teachers are talking about in Physics & Pre-Cal, it's gotten to the point where I've given up trying to figure it out and pay attention.
-I've been tutored a LOT - but still no help.
-Every math type of problem I do, I get stuck on it and need someone to guide me through. I think my main problem is self-learning and becoming an independent thinker
-Because I'm often busy I only get to study for tests a night or do before them.
-Teachers love to give pop quizzes, and since I always end up studying night before the test, I fail these too!

I need help and to prove to myself that I'm not stupid.....and that I just need to work harder. I tell myself this but HOW MUCH HARDER CAN I WORK?

Something must be wrong. I even talked to the teachers and they're just like, "Oh just practice more," - that's all I friggen do!

My report looks like this (although, it's 3/4 towards the end, midterm grades can bring you up one grade point)

English: A
Art: A
History: A
Pre-Cal: D
Physics: C

I'm just pissed and need some genuine advice and tips to help me get A's on math & science tests so I can bring up my grades.

Thanks so much guys!!

Love,
the effing retarded one =/

Aww, you're not retarded. Trust me, there is always gonna be something in school, work or life that you're just NOT gonna understand. I don't understand a lot either, but then again, I'm not booksmart. I've never studied a day in my life, but I've gotten good grades. I don't know why.

Anyways, prevent from cramming. Find a special time everyday to try & study for physics & pre-calc. Study for about an hour of those each. The more you study & practice, the more you'll get better at it. To tell you the truth, your physics grade isn't too bad. I'd be happy if I got a C. It's not an A or B, but it's definitely better than a D or an F. You're right in the middle. Just work harder, study harder & practice more & you should be able to get those two subjects down like the others.

I'm a 23 year old girl

This is important ,...I love my bf with all my heart but it seems like I completley lost interest in sex .
To be honest I never was interested to have sex with any one ,....I do love him but I just don't want people to get close to me ..I DON'T LIKE THAT.When he is on top of me I get sick and very uncomfortable and sometimes want even to cry ....But I never told him nothing

I hate the fact that I can't satisfy him ,since I always has an excuse or come home very late just to escape from the occassion....

I want to stop feeling this way ,.....The problem is me not him

Tell me what to do ....,

Talk to him about it. Tell him that you don't really like sex. It's completely normal not to like it, and to feel that you HAVE to do it to please your partner, but if it makes you uncomfortable & you don't like it, then don't do it. If your boyfriend really loves you, he'll respect your decision.

13/f.i just turned 13 this month.i go to a death trap of a school.i used to be really quiet till i was like 12.now im the freaky kind of person that scares people and i like freaky stuff like disecting brains and hearts in science classes. and i give people nightmares a lot. i do like that kind of stuff but im not a freak.and now aduldts are sayin im gothic to my parents.ok im not tryin to be.yes most of my clothes are black yes my jewelery is mainly chokers and big rings yes i love rock and metal and screamo and yes most of the people who dont hate me are goths emo or freaks but my best 2 friends are a preppy pink girl and a guy who is prep to. my parents took it all away all my stuff like that and wont let me see my goth emo and freak friends everything gone. but if i would tell my mom that thats just how i am shed freak out and get a therapist and hate me forever. I HATE MY LIFE im not gettin help like phsyciatrists or watever. i cant tell my mom im goth which i dont really think i am but if id write out my life ya i guess i am.my bff said its because i was a goody goody bitch all my life. he doesnt say it in a mean way but ya.even he says it!what do i tell my mom and i cant just sit down and talk to her...we dont get along since ive changed. what do i do she hates me now and took away everything.

If you're depressed because of the way things are going for you, I'd see a counselor & get your life back. I realize your parents are freaking out because you're "gothic" but if that's just how you are, you need to explain that to them. Tell them that they should love you for you, and not judge you by the clothes you wear or the things you like. Or if you show them that you don't care what they think, they'll probably just stop.

okay me & my boyfriend have made out & hes felt me up b4 but i want some really fun & enjoyable things to do.i dont mind is if they involve like touching & stuff just not past 2nd base.games & stuff would b fun too.
thanks a ton.

Play strip poker with him. Or let him finger you. I'm pretty sure that's not past second base.

how many miles do you have left when your gas light comes on? i have an '02 dodge neon, by the way.

I'd say 5, but I'm not sure.

ya.so sadies is coming up in a couple of weeks, and i want to ask this guy to it.but the thing is that ive only talked to him a couple of times, and not really for a long time..so what should i do?? how should i ask him? please and thanks!
o yeah, 15/f

Just ask him. Be like "You know the Sadies dance coming up? Well...I was just wondering if you wanted to go with me." Just bring it up during a conversation. The two worst things he can say is: "No." or "I'm already going with somebody else."

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